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problem with friend who lives across the street of the opposite sex
I have a friend and neighbor. I am 36. She is 32.several months ago I was going through mid-life crisis and she has a life time medical disorder. I also have diabetes. I did something her family did not like without consciously knowing I did it. Her parents live on the other side of town and 60 days ago told me to refrain from having contact with her. I abided and 10 days later sent the three of them an apology letter explaining what I was going through. did not hear anything. about 10 days ago I ran into her parents at the local Walmart and asked if we could talk for a few. Her mom's boyfriend said NO(in a tone meaning Drop Dead I think). While the girl and I friends I kind of told her how I felt and let her know I was going to ask her out, but decided to just remain friends. Since that day she was pushing me away everytime I asked her if she wanted to do something. I believe she was hiding behind her medical problem using it as a excuse. We would make plans and then she would keep me hanging for days. I would like to have her back as only a friend but do not want any legal trouble. Her family told me that if I did have contact with her they would charge me with stalking. I don't believe I have done anything seriously wrong. can any one help? I should also mention that the girl is going through painkiller withdraw and having problems. thank you.
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"Since that day she was pushing me away everytime I asked her if she wanted to do something. I believe she was hiding behind her medical problem using it as a excuse. We would make plans and then she would keep me hanging for days."
Hun, it sounds like she's trying to let you down gently without any trouble starting up.
If you want to be the good guy in this, like you say you are, then leave her and her family be. If she wants your friendship, trust, she will come back to you - but for now, it's obvious she and her family don't want much to do with you right now, so leave them to it.
Remember, within time, most things sort themselves out, so there could be hope in the future to remain a friendship. but for now, just let it go.
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From what you've said you haven't done anything seriously wrong, yet.
But it's now been made VERY clear to you where you stand.
Just give up. Leave her alone.
From this point on, you would be definately be haressing her. So leave her completely alone.
Give up trying to make them think you are an okay guy. They aren't going too.
Give up on having contact with her.
She doesn't want it, at all.
She doesn't want to be your friend.
It's clear you make her uncomfortable, uncomfortable enough that her family is freaking out.
Whatever her reasons are for that, are none of your bussiness. You'll have to accept not knowing.
No excuses. No justifications. No reason at all for contact. Leaveing her alone is the only respectful, decent thing to do.
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