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romance is gone?
i have been with my girlfriend for 4 months our sex life was amazing we took showers together slept naked but its all stopped its like i have to beg to bbe romantic to her whats happening or how can i make the good times come back?
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I really feel you on this one because my boyfriend of over two years was the same. I suggest you tell your girlfriend how you feel. You have to let her know how much you loved the romance you used to have and that you will like to rekindle it. Ask her if there is anything that was bothering her that made her stop wanting since you have to beg her. Also ask her if there is something that you are doing or not doing that has made her change her mind. Keep in mind that there maybe something deep than just the actual sex. Maybe there is a lack of communication all together in the relationship and that is why she is kinda distant.
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The fact it's faded out in only 4 months may suggest you rushed things at the beginning.
Stop worrying about it for a while and get out of the same old routine. Give it a few days of perhaps not doing anything sexual, then doing something you haven't done before. Maybe even go out for a romantic meal and take the romance back home with you. Share any fantasies you both have or maybe make up some fun games.
Remember, it's the little things which count, too.. Make a bit of effort with each other and get out of the comfortable stage - dress to impress, even wearing perfume/cologne helps. Plant random kisses and leave little notes, her favourite flowers/sweets/treats every now and then - anything to show her you care.
If it's possible, have a weekend away and focus on just yourselves.
If you haven't already, you need to talk to her and make sure everything's okay. Make sure she's not stressed etc, as sometimes, this can affect the sexual side of things.
If you want any more help, feel free to inbox me.
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did you try something different maybe flowers candy or do you just make it seem like you want sex because lets face it most of the time men and women veiw romance differently, but also keep in mind that if shes not happy or is acting different maybe somethings wrong so i would see whats up i know it easier said than done but you two need to be on the same page you know ask her whts up you have so many questions and need answers better 2 find outnow good luck let me knows how it goes for you
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For some, romance exists in the first initial moments - where everything is new and crazy. Perhaps you can bring some of that new and crazy back in - we often fall into a routine after a few months of being in a relationship - there might be something that she is looking for that you are not providing - in that case, ask her how you can please her better - you can ask her questions about fantasies, play games (21 q'n) - it is all about mixing things up and not becoming too comfortable that you fall into a routine.
Sometimes, a little space actually makes things better! Try to understand your girlfriend's needs as well =)
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