Hey I have a question about youtube. I really want to upload videos and stuff but Im kind of scared... everyone says that you should be so careful not to show what you look like and everything (btw im a girl so thats why we have to be careful) but on the other hand hundreds of teen girls have videos of themselves on youtube.. so basically, do you think it would be safe or not? like I wouldnt say where i live or anything but... ??
I think the only real problem withuploading videos is that people could steal them (even from youtube) and say it's them. It doesn't happen extremely often but it can happen. I've uploaded a lot of videos on various places as well as tons of videos on my own personal site (they were taken down a while ago because I went over my disk space quota)and I've had no real problems other than the DivX website supposedly using one of my videos on their site to demonstrate what divx codec can do. Wasn't so bad though since it was a video I had added special effects to so it looked kool. :]
People wouldn't really be able to know where you're from unless you advertise it in your video or anyting like that. Other than that I think it should be safe. If you want to upload something you only want select people to see I think you are able to make the videos private or set so only your friends can view them.
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I thought i had a miscarage a couple months ago. My period has been really messed up and ive been getting it every two weeks and this time ive had it for over a week. recently someone told me yu can be pregnant and have yur period threw yur pregnancy. is this true should i go to the doctors and see if i am?
Yes it's true you can get your period through your pregnancy (I've known a couple of people this has happen to) but I'm not sure as to whether or not it really means you are. If you feel you need to know for certain then I don't think there's anything wrong with getting it checked up on by your doctor since it couldn't hurt to be on the safe side. :]
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15/f
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I am not such an openminded girl. But ive been living with this cruel load on my shoulder for the past 10 years. That load would be my father. Hes amazing person and i love him but hes not th e best father and husband. he never hurt me GOSH NO! but hes never home, never drives me anywhere never does the father stuff and my parnets rarley talk. my mom tries to get my dad to go out to dinner he wont. this has been going on for a really long time. like i wont care to speak back to my mom but to my dad im petrified! i dont know why! i do everythign with my mom and i feel really bad for her. until i found out recently that my mom finally did somehting about it. she started (without telling any of her 5 kids, well she told my 19 year old sister) fialing. i, not being stupid, realaized. so once i asked my mom and she was liek acting dumb she slike whta do u think i should do so she told my sister that i asked and my sister told me the truth. then the other day she was drving me somewhere and she yelled in the phone so i said MOM YOU YELLED--OWW!!!. and she went phyco. yelling at me fo rbeng direcpectble (which is undertsandable-- i was) but hten came the break down. she brought up all about my father and crazy things about money and thing i should nto know about! i really got scard. once hs eused the quote "im sorry this happned to our family" i knw it was bad. but sh ewasnt telling me she was YELING and making it as if it was my foult. i ried and had a breakdown as well. then the rest fo the ride she apoligized and i ignored and wtvr. the next day she called me evry second. i ignored all calls. fiannly my cousin made me answer it and i was very emoitonless. i answered everything I DONT KNOW. she asked me if i purposly didnt asnwer the phone i said yes. she apoligized admitted to crying the night, when she has no idea whta i went torugh the ngiht she yelled at me!! i called my friend histerical crying !! omg my firne never saw me like that. but aanyways she feels really bad and i want to forgive her but for somereason i cant. i just cant. liek my body wont let me on th ephone say anyting. liek i just dotn understand this.
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but that car ride was serously hell. i thought i was in a movie. she was screamimgn at me like crazy things that i shouldnt not be worrying about that right now i am. MONEY-CAMP-LOVE- etc.
please anyone?
It sounds to me like your mom is under a lot of stress and may also be suffering depression with everything that's going on. With your dad not being around and such and not wanting to get more actively involved it would certainly not be helping her at all. You just seemed like a convenient escape - someone to let all her stress out on because she couldn't to your father (maybe she is also just as scared of him as you are).
I think you should forgive her but I know you can't just do that unless you really want to deep down. But put yourself in her shoes as well - she has a lot on her shoulders and she probably feels like she's doing it all by herself becuase her husband isn't being as supportive. It could all just be getting to her and unless it's dealt with it will get worse. Depression is not a good thing at all. Talk to her, ask her to maybe consider family counselling. It will hopefully help. Let her know you want to be there for her but what she did hurt you as well. If she knows your there for her maybe she won't feel so alone or abandoned.
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14 1/2 /f
So my best guy friend (not bf) sort of hooked me up with this other guy (who's 13 and a rising 7th grader, but i'm a rising freshman) and we talk online sometimes and I think I would like to date him, because he thinks I'm pretty and everything and he likes me. (even though we haven't met in person)
oh but i do know that he's real because he goes to my best guy friend's school and they're good friends you know so this isn't just a random online hookup. so please don't say anything like "oh it's unsafe to do that".
Oh, but my best friend said that the guy said that I had to ask him out, not the other way around because he's shy i guess... should i do it?
he's mexican and I'm white... does that matter?
I just want to know what everyone thinks of the age difference. (i'm super mature for 14, and I look like i'm 16 or 17)
oh he is taller than i am though.
any advice greatly appreciated. i just want to know what everyone thinks of this whole situation.
I read the comments of the last 2 people and I have to say I agree with them.
Asking someone out over the net without having met face to face could just be a mistake. A person can be great talking to them online but you won't really know what he's like until you've met him in person AND got to know him (everyone can pretend to be a great guy on the first few dates).
A lot of points were made and although they may have offended you I can see some truth in them as well. All I'll say though (and I'm not one to bother about the age difference and such) is if you like him then by all means pursue it but don't rush into it head first. If he REALLY likes you he won't be in any hurry so it will give you a chance to get to know him better first and ge tto meet him in person and see what he's like. If after that you want to go ahead with it and feel he is genuine about how he feels then go for it and I'll wish you good luck. :]
P.S. I also find it very odd that you have to do the asking out. :/
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Well I developed a company called www.yourstarstore.com but it seems to not be working I have did alot of adverising so it has become a falirue. So what kind of online jobs do you think can help me right now I'm in det I need money badly. I tried those survey companys,egold I got scammed so please tell me if you can help me.
I'll be very honest with you here. Online stores are difficult (very difficult) to get off the ground mostly because of how cautious consumers and internet users are of getting scammed and such. It will take a lot of time as well as money to be able to make a name for yourself anbd gain the trust of people for them to use your site. ANY business, no matter what it is, will require money to fund it. All these survey sites and such you get saying you can make $$$ amount from them but all they need is $40 from you - all scams and all pointless. If it was that easy, seriously, everyone would be doing them, me included. They are either just a scam or they make very little amount of money - more like loose change really.
If you have debts you need to pay off you are looking in the wrong place for answers. Finding or even starting up a business on the internet (although easier in terms of not needing an office and such) you need to have a lot of patience as well as start up money to advertise BIG! The internet is a very large place and in a big place you need big advertising to get noticed. You have to remember as well who your in competition with. Target, Wal-Mart, Amizon, Ebay - between all of them you can almost get anything you need and they are well known - most customers will go directly to them. You need a way to get them to stop and look at you and get them to come to you instead and to do that you need to be able to offer something the others cant. Not an easy task at all.
I would strongly suggest if you need a job urgently to pay off debts that you consider getting a job locally. It might not be a job you like and it might not be something as comfortable as working from home but it will bring in guaranteed money that you can use to pay off your debts. Also, once your debts are clear you have that extra bit of money which you can perhaps save aside for your business or even come up with an action plan for a new type of business. The best thing to do either way will be to stick with the job you have until your business starts to take off. This way you have guaranteed money coming in.
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i just got a meningitis shot (14/f). i also just saw a commercial for it-like teens can get it through swapping any kind of bacteria and sexual contact, etc. will the shot i just got protect me from this? thank youu
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That's quite alright. :] Stay safe. :D
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Meningitis (and Septicaemia) are both very dangerous and extremely serious. Meningitis is the swelling of the lining around the brain and spinal cord and Septicaemia is blood poisoning caused by the same germ. Both can occure together or separately.
The meningitis vaccine you had will provide your body with excellent protection but it will NOT protect you from all forms. The idea is to just be careful and know the symptoms and what to look for so you can be careful. This is also a prime example why when engaging in any kind of sexual activity you know who you are with and know enough about them to know you're safe. That said, protection should always be used. Getting pregnant would be the last problem to worry about if that person was also a carrier of something like Meningitis.
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I am a 17 year old female who is dating over the internet a 14 year old male who lives in Texas. I live in Canada. We have been dating for over a year now. I was wondering. Because we can't have sex and the law in Texas were as it is legal if there is a 3 year age differance. Is it legal? And could criminal laws get in the way? We are very much in love.
Thankies
As far as I know of the law through a friend in Texas it is illegal. He is a minor and presently you are too. if you waited until you are 18 you'd be legally allowed to have sex but he will still be a minor and I would imagine, like in the UK, you can be charged for it even if he had given permission. The best thing to do is to try and check up on the laws in your relevant places and compare the two (since I don't live in either Texas or Canada I can't do this for you). Allowing sex between two minors because the age difference is only 2 years (or less) seems a rather stupid law to have in place when someone who's 18 is still commiting an offence when they sleep with someone who is 17 (because the 17 year old is underage and the 18 year old is an adult). Also, you have to bare in mind what this kids parents stand on this relationship. If you decide to go see him at some point when you're 18 he will still only be 15, a minor. So his parents might be in a position to press charges against you. Again, this all depends on the laws of said place since they all seem to vary greatly from country to country as well as contradict each other. :/
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15 f
i really want to make a bamnd. me and my 4 other girl friends are really excited. we want to audition, write our own music and make it to the top. any advice? like i really want to do this. and now that its summer break in school i think we can really do it. michelle can play the drums, lily plays the guitar and lauri plays the piano so its like we got it all set up. we will write our own music. but what advice and what can you tell me about my idea and the music buisness. please dont tell me we wont make it becasue we are really excites that we will. also, where can we go audition and where can we get the auditions to get started. thanks!
::EDIT:: Thank you. :] It was a pleasure and I'm glad it helped. how about sending me a signed copy of your first ever CD and we'll call it even, lol. :D Good luck and by all means let me know how things go and how the band progresses, it'd be good to hear about it and see your progress. Also, if you and your band ever need any more help as such just let me know. My family has been very music orientated - an uncle was in a band, one cousin is an MC (Dark MC - he jus completed his new album and video a few weeks back and should be showing up on MTV at some point), another is going into singing, another's a DJ and another is a producer (he produced Dark MC's album). So I always have sources of information available should you guys need any. :]
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I'll be painfully honest with you - there are practically hundreds if not thousands of bands like you out there that want exactly the same thing you want; to make it to the top, or at the least be recognised. Getting there is not an easy ride at all but it's NOT impossible.
You have to be dedicated, it's the key word. If you're looking to get signed up by a label they want people who are dedicated and will stick to it (they don't want to invest money into a band that just falls apart).
Before you even consider auditions you need to organise your band. Do you all have music you've already written that you want to play? If not try doing a cover of something already out there so you can all get a feel for it as well as a feel for each others style of playing. Will there be lyrics and if so who is going to cover vocals? Will it be the whole band (all of you) or just one of you leading and others backup? Regardless as to who is covering vocals - how good are you at it? Do you think you need practice? Professional lessons in singing are a very good idea as your vocals will be just as important as the music (unless you're doing something like Slipknot who just scream lyrics). :D
If you are all enthusiastic about this and want to see it through then go for it. :] It's a tough ride to the top but then so is anything if you want to be at the top (and if it wasn't tough it wouldn't really be worth doing would it?). You may face dissapointment along the way so you have to be aware of this but DON'T let it slow you down, all you can do is pick yourselves up and carry on reaching for the top. Before you think about any kind of auditions you need to focus on the music you guys want to do and practice being a band. Once you have this and are all confident then you could try and find out about competitions out there that you guys can enter as well as try playing for events (be it paid events, events for your friends or school or even charity events). All these things will get you noticed and get people talking about your group.
Again, the thing to do is plan. There's more to it than just wanting to start a band and then getting a few friends together to form that band. There's a lot of bases you all as a group will need to cover before you can all start making your way up the ladder to getting noticed and making it to the top. Everyone starts small and everyone makes mistakes along the way, don't be afraid of these. And don't let them hold you back or stop you. The only reason we make mistakes is so we can learn from them and avoid them the next time around. You're all young as well so this will work to your advantage too. :D
By the way, just to add regarding playing events and such, you will have to bare in mind when doing things like these you may need to provide your own equipment (sound equipment and such). This can get VERY costly so before beginning to spread the word that your band will play events and birthdays and such you need to have this all planned out in advance. The last thing you need is having been booked to play at a friends party and then not be able to do it because you don't have all the equipment that you needed. :(
Good luck to you all, I really hope you make it. :D I'll be sure to keep an eye on MTV in the near future, hehe. :D Good luck! :D
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how big is a usuall 15 year old dick size like length and width?
Not sure on width but length wise the average 15 year olds penis size is about 6.2" (lowest being 5" and the highest being 7").
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I'm getting a physical soon, and i need a blood test. Do they stich the needle into the vein? If they do, don't they hurt?
Hi.
Generally the only place to get blood is via a blood vessel or vein and no, they don't really hurt at all. The needle they use is very fine so you probably won't even realise they're done till they tell you they are done. :] However, some people are extremely sensitive to needles and would feel a bit of discomfort, it really depends on the person. Generally though it doesn't hurt, it's more like a little pinch.
No, your vein wouldn't burst. :] I've never known this to ever happen to anyone before at all and these people who will be conducting your physical will have done this exact same thing countless times over, they will know exactly what they are doing so you've nothing to worry about there.
The impression I get is that you seem nervous about the blood test. Seriously, there is nothing at all to worry about. When you go for your physical feel free to ask whoever it is that's going to take the blood test about it and exactly what they will do and what will happen. If you feel nervous about it just tell them you feel nervous about it and just want to be assured it's perfectly safe. They will explain it all to you. :] Generally blood samples are taken with newer updated methods and not the common syringes. Again, when you walk into there feel free to question them and ask them about it. It's their job to inform you on exactly what they are doing and what will happen. :]
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Me and my ex dated for a month and like 6 days and then he broke up with me. I made mistakes that pushed him away but I truly love him soo much and havent cryed so much in my lifetime. I need him and he hates me now and wont even talk to me and I cant stand it. Its killing me. I dont know what to do. I need him to talk to me and be part of my life. I cant move on I love him and it sucks
Please help me Im sick of crying
Hi. I'm sorry to hear about what happen, I've been there myself too and it hurts so much. All I can really say is give him time. If it was things you did to push him away the best you can do is say your sorry and that you still want him to be a part of your life. After that it will be for him to decide what he wants to do and if he wants the same or not but you may need to just give him time to gather his thoughts and such. I'm guessing he must have felt strongly about you also so this whole thing is probably ot so easy on him either so just give him some space and time to sort things through in his head. All you really can do is let it all out. :( It's painful to go through what you are going through, more so when you realise it was you who pushed the other person away so you blame yourself for everything. We all make mistakes though, it's what makes us human. You'll need to try and forgive yourself and also give yourself time as well to heal and pick yourself up. I know you may feel at the moment how much you need him but believe me after a while you will realise that you didn't need him half as much as you thought you did.
All I can really do is say how sorry I am that you are so upset and to give yourself time. I know it's not something you probably want to hear but believe me given some time you'll feel a lot better. Write if you need to just write and let things out, it might help and I will also try help any way I can. :(
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I was having sex and the condom broke. I felt something weird and I pulled back and the condom was broken. I took the morning after pill just a couple hours after having sex. I really dont want to be pregnant or get an STD. I'm suppossed to get my period in about two weeks. I really hope I get it. should I be worried that I am pregnant. I am really scared and I cant tell anyone because I am so embaressed that this happened to me. After taking the morning after pill I felt a little nauseas all day but it was gone by the next day but I still dont feel my self maybe its because im nervous . What should I do. Thanks
The morning after pill is generally quite effective (don't remember the exact percentage) so you should be okay. The best thing to do is to get a home pregnancy test done and I think they are generally good to use after 2 weeks or so after sex. However, since you are expecting your period at about the same time this might not even be necessary. All you really can do is wait and see if you get your period but do bare in mind that if you start stressing yourself out and such it will effect your period anyway so it might get late just because of that. It won't mean you are pregnant for certain.
As for the worry about STD's was the guy not someone you knew well? I think the best thing to do either way though I would suggest paying a visit to your family doctor (or a family planning clinic) and have a test done there to check if you are all in the clear. If you do opt to go to your doctor don't worry or be scared. This thing (the condom breaking) is very common, believe me it happens to a lot of people and your doctor will sympathize. Just let him/her know that you'd like to get tested for STD's just as a precaution and they will let you know what you need to do or make the arrangements for you.
Good luck and seriously, try not to worry. If you took the morning after pill you should be just fine.
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ok well theres this guy steve who has gone to my school for a few years. but i'd never even seen him or noticed him before, because he was hardly ever there (he has cystic fibrosis so he spends a lot of time in the hospital). anyway, this year he started talking to me on myspace and texting me all the time. but he's really shy in person, and when i see him at school he wont even look at me. he invited me to his bday party (i was the only girl there) and he barely looked at me the whole time. but afterwards he texted me and said how beautiful i looked, and if i was single he'd ask me out. (btw i have a bf that ive been going out with for 2 years). then he asked me if i would ever go out with him if my bf and i broke up. i told him i like him as a friend, but that i dont really know him that well. but really, i dont think i'd ever like him as a boyfriend. anyway, now he keeps asking me to go on bike rides with him, and i keep making excuses why i cant go. i kinda want to, cuz i do like him as a friend. but i dont know if it would be wrong to go somewhere with another guy while i have a bf. plus it might make him think i like him. so my questions are: (1) should i go on a bike ride with him, or would that be wrong? (2) how can i tell him that ill only ever like him as a friend, without hurting his feelings?
Hi.
I don't think there's anything wrong with going anywhere or just hanging out with a friend if you have a bf if that's all it is. The situation with you is a little more complicated though.
Firstly you are right in your assumption. Going with him may actually make him think that you do like him in some way or another which is the last thing you needat the moment. If you want to go on a bike ride with him and such then by all means do so BUT before agreeing to you need to make sure he knows EXACTLY where he stands with you. To be totally honest there isn't anything anyone can say that will make it hurt less (unless you lie but I strongly don't advise that). The truth will hurt but it will be the truth and unfortunently when it comes to things like these you have to be prepared to get hurt. There's no way to prevent his feelings from getting hurt so all you really can do is just be honest with him. Just explain to him (in text or on the phone, however you see fit) that you only see him as a friend and you don't plan on ever breaking up with your bf. If that ever did happen you're sorry but you'd still only ever see him as a friend. If you can find a better way to word it by all means do so but you have to remember to keep it simple and to the point. You don't want to give him any false hope because that will only make things worse. He might get hurt a little or he might not but either way I can assure you he WILL get over it in time.
Good luck.
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i apologize in advance for the length.
i'm 17/f. i don't like drinking. i don't find a point in it. my mom and my sister drink all of the time. it makes them do ridiculously stupid things; typical when you are drunk. my mom has done things like walked into doors, broken valuable things of hers, fallen down the stairs with my cat in her hand, and so on and so forth. my sister is only 19, and she drinks almost every night out of the week. her and her boyfriend broke up over her heavy alcohol use. now, my boyfriend is starting to become a big alcohol user. when i try saying something to them, they say i'm preaching to them, or i'm making everyone mad by preaching to them. what can i say? i'm so sick of everyone telling me i'm preaching to them. i don't like the people they are when they are drinking, and either is my dad. my dad's not even talking to my mom anymore. i need advice on what to say. i don't want to cry about the way things are around my house anymore. any advice would be greatly appreciated. thanks :)
I agree with what basketcase_x08 said, it's certianly things you can try.
I drink socially and only socially and even then I am very selective about what I drink. I've only ever once (maybe twice) gotten drunk and even then I was still clear headed enough to know what I am doing. My dad is an alcoholic (still is) and after seeing some horrible stuff because of that it had put me off alcohol a very long time. Now if I drink as I said it's when I'm out and I'm around people I know or can trust otherwise I stick to soft drinks. :]
Forcing someone to stop doesn't work because they will always find a way to feed their addiction. Alcohol is no different to any kind of drug, it's addictive and causes dependancy as well as being dangerous.
I think the first step will be to have a talk with your bf (just you both alone together) and tell him how you feel about him drinking. If he says you're preaching remind him that the reason your mom and dad don't talk anymore is because of the exact thing you're trying to talk to him about. That alcohol split them up and you don't want it getting in the way of you and him and how you don't like who he is when he's drunk. All you really can do is try to get this through to him. Tell him how you're getting sick of it (if you really feel that way). You need to tell him how you feel about his drinking and more importantly WHY you feel that way about it, you need to make him understand you're not just preaching because alcohol is bad, you're telling him this because you don't like what he's becoming. It's important you do this on a one-on-one basis with him so you don't have others screaming at you about how your preaching and such (with just you and him it's just you and him - no one else there to get in the way).
As for your mom and your sister there's only so much you can do but as basketcase_x08 said, talking to your dad might be a very good idea. Explaining to him about what's going on might help and he may be willing to try and help you to get through to your mom and sister. Just remember though that sometimes one person against a few is unfair odds so you need to make things a little more equal. Talk to your bf on his own. Talk to your sister on her own as well if you can - explain to her how what your mom is doing to herself (and to you) is taking its toll and your getting sick of it. See what she has to say and more importantly see if you can get her to see things how you see them.
I wish you luck and I'm glad at least you have not taken up after your mom and sister. :]
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my best friend and i have been doing gymnastics together for a long time. the gym we've gone to is really good (the best in the state), but its really far away and really expensive.
well, this year i decided to try out for cheerleading at my school, and i made it. i thought i'd be able to stay on my gymnastics team, but it just wouldnt work out with the cheer schedule. so i changed to another gym thats a lot closer to my house. its a lot smaller than my old gym and the team is not as good. and it was really hard to leave my old teammates! but at least i can still do gymnastics, which i love, and also cheerleading.
well, now my best friend keeps making remarks about my new gym... like how small it is, how bad the coaches are, how ugly the leotards are, and how she'd never go there. and she keeps bragging about how good she's getting, and how great things are going at our old gym. and then she has these parties and sleepovers with all our teammates from the old gym (who i know as well as she does), and she doesnt invite me. but she makes sure i hear about it. it really makes me feel bad.
i dont want to get in a big fight with her becuz i still have to see her at school and stuff, and we do some other activities together. but it really hurts when she does this stuff. why is she being so mean??
Hmm, this is awkward. On the one hand I think she is being a bitch by thinking because she is going to a high class gym and such she is suddenly better than you but then on the other hand I think the reason she is being this way is because she is not taking it well that you moved to another gym and such. She might even be jealous because you moved on, you're a cheerleader now as well, and she hasn't. It could be a good number of things that are bothering her.
I think the best thing to do might be to try talk to her about it all and ask her what her problem is exactly. So she doesn't think your new gym is all that - you didn't want to move there but you had no choice as it made things easier for you. It might not be as big or have all the fancy stuff but it serves its purpose (remember the saying, a rose by any other name is still a rose?). Best thing you can do though in my opinion is to confront her and ask her exactly what her problem with you is because you're getting tired of the constant digs she is taking at you. If from there you both can resolve things then it's all good. :] If not and you realise that it's nothing to do with jealousy or with her being upset about you moving (and maybe thinking now that you have moved you'll not want to hang out with her as much anymore and such) and that it is all down to her just being a bitch towards you - then turn around and walk away. There wouldn't be much you can do other than that. :(
I hope you manage to get it all sorted out though, good luck.
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im 14 years old and this guy i really like is 18....wut to do??? is it bad?
Hi.
What the other two posts said pretty much sums up anything I could say (in particular how older guys will target younger girls just for a bit of fun/sex so that's something you really need to beware of). They assume because a girl is younger she will be ingnorant of what's going on around her. If he likes you as well then fair enough but it's important you know what you're getting youself into. I've found that the best time to have sex is when you feel completely ready and not before - even more so when the guy keeps asking for it. Generally if the guy is only after sex he will eventually tire of waiting and move on to someone easier.
As for what Michele said, and this is VERY important. In the eyes of the law you are a minor and he is not. He can be arrested for statutory rape if you both decided to have sex, even if he had your FULL permission. If your will be against the idea of you both seeing each other reassure them and tell them to meet him first before judging him purely by his age. It will be important that they do know you both are seeing each other if it comes down to this. Also, depending on where you are from (ages regarding this vary from one country to another)some places are okay with it as long as your parents have given consent for you both to see each other whereas other places will disregard this and he can still be arrested and charged regardless.
I will say though that you didn't indicate if he knows about you liking him or anything and you may have just been asking if its bad for you to feel this way about someone who's 18 in which case I would say no, it's not. It happens often enough and we can't help who we like. It can be for a lot of reasons too. Just physical attraction, they are more mature (only just in my case) and various other things. It could be anything but I wouldn't say generally it's a bad thing to like someone who's older - I've known many people who have had crushes on older people (teachers, parents friends etc).
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Well, I've been making freewebs sites for a while & got myself a subdomain a while ago. Now I really want to buy my own domain. The cost is no big deal, I can easily pay it myself. However, it has to go through their credit card & then I would pay them cash in return. So they need to know. How should I ask them? They're kind of weird about those things & might see it as stupid & might not like me having my own website. What are some things I can say to convince them to let me do it? I was just going to tell them i wanted my own space to do whatever with, it's cheap, & I've been reading about them & experimenting with free sites, etc. Any ideas?
I eventually resorted to getting my own web space and domain name (I now have 2 and plan on buying a further 2 or 3 in due time) because they were far more flexible than signing up to some site for web space.
The best way to convince them for starters is have the money on hand that it'll cost you. It shouldn't be much since most places charge you the domain name fee which is 1 or 2 years and then the fee for the domain space package you want which is usually on a per year basis. Have this money on hand and that way when it comes to buying it you can say you've the money on hand to pay back your parents when they buy the space and name for you through their card. :] This way they won't have any doubts about you paying them back and such. As for the reasons, you can simply explain that you just want some space on the Internet you can call your own (it's a great feeling having that bit of space to call your own which you can do anything with) as well as having the freedom to be able to experiment with web design and such without limitations that free web sites put on their domains (such as adding tons of popups and banners all over your pages).
I had absolutely no knowledge of html when I started. I read up some basic notes on html from my sisters university notes and from there began to develop my skills. I started off with free web sites as well but, as stated, they were very restrictive and limiting and there was no real freedom so I decided eventually to buy my own space and such. You can see my site via my column if you'd like. Good luck. :]
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I love singing. specially rock and R'n'b. I bought a software "magix audio studio 2005 deLuxe".The problem is i dont know how to use it.. pleaaaaaaaaaaaase i need help!
how do i compose music using it???
I want to compose my own songs with my own composed music and burn them into CD's..
With software like this it's not easy for someone to just tell you how to use it. It requires a lot of reading up on the software as well as trial and error and more importantly, getting a feel for the program you are using. I use Fruity Loops and it took me a VERY long time before I managed to get the hang of using it, even then I was only using the very bare basics of the program.
The best course of advice, since you brought the software, is to check out the companies web site. They will hopefully have a forums section or some help files on there to help you on getting started with the program. Failing this the program may even have come with its own set of help files (or has links to guides) so it's always worth checking for these (is how I learn to use various software I've not used before).
Sorry I can't give you a detailed description and such but what you are asking for is a guide and it could take someone a long time to desribe and give you a walkthrough on how to compose music on the program. Fruity Loops took me a week to learn and even that was from a cousin (who's a producer and uses the program extensively) and that was becuase I was at his that whole week so I could see what he was doing as well as ask him any questins I had about what he was doing.
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ok on addictinggames.com the impossible quiz. i've gotten all the way to the vanishing cursor thing. but the second one that you can't skip. i pressed all the buttons at least a million times and it keeps saying it's wrong.
so my question is. what do i do ?
If you move the mouse over the coloursw in the small box really fast, back and forth, you can see what you need to do. ;]
In this case it tells you to click on the V in the word LIVES. :]
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25/F
I apologize in advance for the length of my question. Now... Where do I begin?
I suppose the beginning would be a good place, wouldn't it? Really this all started when I was about 14. Around that time I became very ill and my parents withdrew me from the public school system. I became isolated with only my co-dependent mother and neglegent step-father to keep me company. A social anxiety disorder and depression were the result. That compounded with other issues (an estranged father, past sexual abuse, and extremely low self-esteem) caused my depression to drag me into what I refer to as the "screaming void." I cried myself to sleep every night and thought a lot about death when I was awake.
Around the age of sixteen I initiated a raging war with my own, then severe, depression. I won't bore you with the details. To make a long story short I finally made peace with myself. I am proud to say that I have grown into an emotionally and physically healthy young woman, capable of caring for herself. I'm independent and stable in every aspect of my life... And I have so many reasons to be grateful. My health, loving family and friends, a healthy, loving relationship with my long-term significant other, a decent career with decent benefits and pay, a nice, safe place to live... I have everything I could possibly need...
However... My depression never really "went away." Even during some of the happiest periods of my life it would crop up in one form or another and try to turn my life upside down again. I've managed to keep myself from being dragged into that screaming void but...
Recently, I've felt myself being pulled in that direction again. I know the warning signs. My all ready unusual sleeping habits are becoming even more erratic and I'm always tired. I eat when I'm not hungry. I'm bored with my life and beginning to wonder if it's pointless despite the fact that I know it isn't. I'm not motivated. Difficulty concentrating... Generally feeling over-whelmed, inadequate, etc.
Usually, there is some situation that triggers this behavior. The only thing that I can think of... My career. About nine months ago I was promoted to a management position and sent to a "trouble store" with the mission of cleaning up the mess. It was stressful from the day that I walked in the door to the day I walked out. I ended up quitting and finding another job... During interviews, when asked why I was leaving a company I that I had worked for five years, I implied that the company was going down the proverbial shit-hole and wouldn't be in business much longer. While that wasn't a lie, the real reason I was leaving was that my management staff wasn't supportive... And I was miserable. This was when the warning signs started popping up and finding a new job was the only solution I could find to the problem.
On Memorial Day I started my new job. It's only been a week and I'm all ready feeling bored, inadequate, and generally unmotivated. A part of me says to hang in there, that this is going to pass and things will get better... Another part of me says that maybe I should think about a career change. But I can't think of anything that I WANT to do... And I can't afford to support myself and go back to college.
I'd enjoy being self-employed... Or doing something creative like writing childrens books and novels. But those just don't seem like possible options right now.
I've also thought about asking my doctor about anti-depressants. The reason I haven't is because I know that finding an anti-depressant that works is like riding a roller-coaster. And I've been on that roller-coaster before.
Any ideas? Thoughts? Suggestions?
Thank you in advance. ;)
Hi.
Firstly I'd like to say after everything you've said I take my hat off to you (not wearing one but I think you get the idea) in being able to pull yourself out of that dark void. It's not easy to be able to do that and then turn everything around. The thing is, as I stated in another question someone had posted, life is NOT an easy thing. It never will be. It's a constant struggle and we seem to have to fight for what we want and to be happy but then no one has ever gotten anything just by asking. Firstly, just hang on in there and keep fighting and hanging on. you've got someone here who's cheering you on. :]
I know exactly how you feel about where you work and the type of work you are doing too. I was working retail and then management and it was all just getting to the point it was a chore and a very boring one at that. There was no motivation and management seemed like a pck of wolves waiting for me to slip up just so they could take a bite instead of being there to support me. I eventually decided to wash my hands of it completely and decided I wanted to do something completely different. I'm now working on a number of things and small jobs so I have a small amount of money coming in but my ultimate goal is to get my internet security company up and running (internet security meaning we protect children who use the internet from internet predators). The company is well on its way already (am currently working on various advertising solutions as well as making arrangements for a liaison to be assigned to me and the company through my local police station). Running your own little company might well be just what you need and don't forget you don't have to quit working where you currently work to do it. If you have an interest in writing childrens books and novels by all means do so. There's many publishers out there who may take an interest and if not you can always publish and print them yourself through a printers. All you need is to have those ideas there and you can do it - don't let anything stop you from doing it. As I said, you don't have to (and I wouldn't suggest it either) quit working where you now work because it's a steady source of income. Even being self employed in writing childrens books you can do part-time when your not working and at your own time and leisure.
Also, another thing I would like to suggest is maybe a nice vacation. I think considering everything that you have been going through and now with all this stuff with work things are obviously taking their toll. Everyone needs a break from time to time so you should give yourself a break too. Go away for a while on holiday, somewhere you've always wanted to go, it doesn't even have to be abroad. Just go away for a while and enjoy yourself and have fun be it with your other half or with a few friends. Then when you come back start fresh and with a clear mind. Then decide what you DO want to do. If you want to start writing then by all means go for it.
Also, before considering anti-depressant you may want to consider counseling. Just having a therapist to talk to. It may seem odd as a suggestion but it would be a far more productive and maybe even safer option to go with than the alternative (anti-depressants). It's just an idea though as maybe having a therapist to talk to may help you a little.
Good luck and stay strong and hang in there. :]
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