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Why is my friend being so mean?
my best friend and i have been doing gymnastics together for a long time. the gym we've gone to is really good (the best in the state), but its really far away and really expensive.
well, this year i decided to try out for cheerleading at my school, and i made it. i thought i'd be able to stay on my gymnastics team, but it just wouldnt work out with the cheer schedule. so i changed to another gym thats a lot closer to my house. its a lot smaller than my old gym and the team is not as good. and it was really hard to leave my old teammates! but at least i can still do gymnastics, which i love, and also cheerleading.
well, now my best friend keeps making remarks about my new gym... like how small it is, how bad the coaches are, how ugly the leotards are, and how she'd never go there. and she keeps bragging about how good she's getting, and how great things are going at our old gym. and then she has these parties and sleepovers with all our teammates from the old gym (who i know as well as she does), and she doesnt invite me. but she makes sure i hear about it. it really makes me feel bad.
i dont want to get in a big fight with her becuz i still have to see her at school and stuff, and we do some other activities together. but it really hurts when she does this stuff. why is she being so mean??
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she may be doing this becuase she is jealous that you are on another sport without her so she is trying to make you feel bad. its like the bully everyone had in 2nd grade. or she is doing this bc you left her to go to a different gym. just try talking things out with her and tell her how you feel if she is a true and good friend she will ease up on it. also mention to her that she could try out for cheerleading to the next year. hope this helped =]
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Hmm, this is awkward. On the one hand I think she is being a bitch by thinking because she is going to a high class gym and such she is suddenly better than you but then on the other hand I think the reason she is being this way is because she is not taking it well that you moved to another gym and such. She might even be jealous because you moved on, you're a cheerleader now as well, and she hasn't. It could be a good number of things that are bothering her.
I think the best thing to do might be to try talk to her about it all and ask her what her problem is exactly. So she doesn't think your new gym is all that - you didn't want to move there but you had no choice as it made things easier for you. It might not be as big or have all the fancy stuff but it serves its purpose (remember the saying, a rose by any other name is still a rose?). Best thing you can do though in my opinion is to confront her and ask her exactly what her problem with you is because you're getting tired of the constant digs she is taking at you. If from there you both can resolve things then it's all good. :] If not and you realise that it's nothing to do with jealousy or with her being upset about you moving (and maybe thinking now that you have moved you'll not want to hang out with her as much anymore and such) and that it is all down to her just being a bitch towards you - then turn around and walk away. There wouldn't be much you can do other than that. :(
I hope you manage to get it all sorted out though, good luck.
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She's being mean because she's a stuck up bitch. You didn't see it before but now that things have changed for you, her true colors are really showing.
My advice? Stay away from her & stop talking to her. Either that or tell her to stop being such a bitch. She's not better than you or anyone else & she's stupid to think that she is.
She's honestly not a good friend, so drop her.
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aw. im sorry about you and your friend =/.
well honestly i think she is just upset that you left your old gym. she probably misses you a lot and all the fun you guys use to have there. and since you're a cheerleader and you have a busy schedule she probably feels neglected. i think you should talk to her about it and tell her how you really feel, it hurts you when she says this stuff. tell her that you just couldn't keep going to the old gym because of you crazy schedule...but that you still want to hang out with her besides gymnastics. maybe you guys could have a girls night and just hang out together like once a week, or something. just let her know how you feel.
hope i helped! =)<3
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