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im 14 years old and this guy i really like is 18....wut to do??? is it bad?
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What the other two posts said pretty much sums up anything I could say (in particular how older guys will target younger girls just for a bit of fun/sex so that's something you really need to beware of). They assume because a girl is younger she will be ingnorant of what's going on around her. If he likes you as well then fair enough but it's important you know what you're getting youself into. I've found that the best time to have sex is when you feel completely ready and not before - even more so when the guy keeps asking for it. Generally if the guy is only after sex he will eventually tire of waiting and move on to someone easier.
As for what Michele said, and this is VERY important. In the eyes of the law you are a minor and he is not. He can be arrested for statutory rape if you both decided to have sex, even if he had your FULL permission. If your will be against the idea of you both seeing each other reassure them and tell them to meet him first before judging him purely by his age. It will be important that they do know you both are seeing each other if it comes down to this. Also, depending on where you are from (ages regarding this vary from one country to another)some places are okay with it as long as your parents have given consent for you both to see each other whereas other places will disregard this and he can still be arrested and charged regardless.
I will say though that you didn't indicate if he knows about you liking him or anything and you may have just been asking if its bad for you to feel this way about someone who's 18 in which case I would say no, it's not. It happens often enough and we can't help who we like. It can be for a lot of reasons too. Just physical attraction, they are more mature (only just in my case) and various other things. It could be anything but I wouldn't say generally it's a bad thing to like someone who's older - I've known many people who have had crushes on older people (teachers, parents friends etc).
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<small>hi hun. My name is Becca and my boyfriend's name is Ian. We have been dating since June 28,2006. I was 15 and he had just turned 18 six days earlier.
There are many risks involved, but they can be worth it in the end. You just need to make sure it is with the right person and you have parental consent to the relationship.
Some 18 year olds, not all, use younger girls to try to get some so watch out. Make sure you trust this guy with your life and you have known him for awhile. If not, he make sleep with you and leave.
Parental consent is also important in this kind of relationship. Because of his age, your parents can press charges against him for stagatory rape and he gets marked as a child molestor or the rest of his life, which can prevent him from getting into certain schools or getting certain jobs.
This relationship required dedication but in the end is worth more than anything else.
Hope I helped and feel free to contact me anytime. My AIM screenname is xAskkMechaBeccax
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Yes it is very bad, for him. He is 18 and more mature, and may not be a virgin, and may expect a lot from a relation ship with a girl. He may expect intimacy, or sex. You are under age, and what they call "jail bait". If you two become friends and later fall in love, and later have sex, he could be arrested. And the both of you do not have to go all the way, even just getting to 2nd base can be seed as sexual assault in the eyes if the law. AND it won't matter that you and even your family DO NOT WANT TO PRESS CHARGES. The police can arrest him anyway. And then he will have a criminal record for sexual assault on a minor and this will follow him for the rest of his life. It will affect where he works, wether or not he can get into collge, and where he can work. He will have to register with the police department in any town or city that he may live in as a sex offender, for the rest of his live. It can be a terrible thing.
I understand honey that you are attracted to him. He is older, wiser and so much more mature than the 14 year old boys that you know from school and stuff. But it could ruin his future. DO you want to do that to him.
Of course anything is possible,and it is possible that the two of you could become close friends and wait to become closer after you are 16 years old. Anything is possible. But can you be strong enough to wait?
And please, you don't say whether or not he is persuing you, if he is, I advise you to run as fast as you can in the opposite direction. Because he does know better. But some guys think that having relationships with young girls is a good way to avoid getting aids. Then after they get what they want, they dissapear, and you are left with a broken heart. MY advice, don't be in such a hurry to be in a relationship. Take your time. you have your whole life, maybe 80 or 100 years ahead of you, to get your heart broken, or find the right guy. I hope this helps
Michele
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