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Age difference?
14 1/2 /f
So my best guy friend (not bf) sort of hooked me up with this other guy (who's 13 and a rising 7th grader, but i'm a rising freshman) and we talk online sometimes and I think I would like to date him, because he thinks I'm pretty and everything and he likes me. (even though we haven't met in person)
oh but i do know that he's real because he goes to my best guy friend's school and they're good friends you know so this isn't just a random online hookup. so please don't say anything like "oh it's unsafe to do that".
Oh, but my best friend said that the guy said that I had to ask him out, not the other way around because he's shy i guess... should i do it?
he's mexican and I'm white... does that matter?
I just want to know what everyone thinks of the age difference. (i'm super mature for 14, and I look like i'm 16 or 17)
oh he is taller than i am though.
any advice greatly appreciated. i just want to know what everyone thinks of this whole situation.
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It shouldn't matter that he's mexican and you're white.
Society has tried to make that unacceptable, none the less.
My girlfriend is seven months older than I.
It doesn't make any difference for us.
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I read the comments of the last 2 people and I have to say I agree with them.
Asking someone out over the net without having met face to face could just be a mistake. A person can be great talking to them online but you won't really know what he's like until you've met him in person AND got to know him (everyone can pretend to be a great guy on the first few dates).
A lot of points were made and although they may have offended you I can see some truth in them as well. All I'll say though (and I'm not one to bother about the age difference and such) is if you like him then by all means pursue it but don't rush into it head first. If he REALLY likes you he won't be in any hurry so it will give you a chance to get to know him better first and ge tto meet him in person and see what he's like. If after that you want to go ahead with it and feel he is genuine about how he feels then go for it and I'll wish you good luck. :]
P.S. I also find it very odd that you have to do the asking out. :/
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Well first of all the whole Mexican vs. White thing doesnt matter (to me at least, you might have different views on that). However, in my oppinion this doesnt seem like a good match. The age difference is too big, even though its only two years, at your age thats pretty significant. Also you are going to be in highschool, while he is in middle school, and i think that you guys will be on different tracks.
Also, the fact that you havent met him seems odd too (not in a sketchy way, just that you should probably have a face to face conversation with him).
And lastly the fact that YOU have to ask HIM out seems bazar. Like he lacks confidence or something.
And the last senario that i can think of (and pleaseeee don't be offended) is that it's a bet, or he is using you (to be going out with someone in "highschool" while he is still in "middle school". Its just a senario, but it could be possible, because not many guys would go out with a girl w/o metting her first.
I hope that this helped!!! Good Luck, and just follow your heart, if you really like this guy, then i'd say deffinatly go for it, but make sure that it's what you really want :)
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Honestly. I don't think that you should ask anyone out until you hang out with him a couple of times and ya'll get to know eachother and actually see if he's who you want to be with. Leave your options open. You're going to be in high school soon &I just graduated from there. Trust me. You will WANT to leave your options open. =] So make sure he's what you want because he is going into 7th grade and of course he's going to like older girls, what guy doesn't? Haha. See how it goes.
Hope I helped!!
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