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Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.

Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.

You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.

Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.

-Volleyball2150



BODY EXERCISES AND WORKOUTS! my way or the highway

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i just got my period not to long ago and someone told me i should keep track of my obvlation but how am i supposed to noe when that happenes?

get a calendar that is private. so that only you can see it. then mark the days you got your period. Then mark it when it stops. Estimate 28 days and when it happens again mark it.

I hope I helped!
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So I'm out of school for the summer. I'm trying to find things to do to keep myself busy so I'm not just sitting around the house all the time. I'm on a limited budget, so it's not like I have money to spend on an amazing vacation or anything. The only thing I have planned this summer is a week-long camping trip, but that might not even happen because the friend I was going to go with probably won't be able to get off work. I don't really have a lot of friends to hang out with either. And I don't like swimming.

Any suggestions on things I could do this summer to keep myself busy?

My interests are writing, roller blading, reading, video games, etc. if that helps. I just want to find something to do that will help me get out of the house!

well... be creative

if you like rollerblading, go to a park and just rollerblade with yourself! who says you need a friend to enjoy life? bring along some music or something. If you like writing, maybe go to a park where it's quiet and relaxing and write a poem or book. same thing with reading...

video games? that you can only do inside the house, so i would try to challenge yourself to only play video games 5 hours a week. sound good??

there are so many things you can do... if you have a city website, go there and see if there are any concerts or parties or something. maybe take your bike out of the garage and bike around. Go shopping!!!! woooo! that's what i would do. lol
and i mean you don't even have to buy that much stuff, you can still go to stores and just browse and see cool new things. go to the movie theatre, or maybe sign up for an art club. If you have a specific sport that you're good at, go and sign up for a team or club.

my neighbors and I did this one time- Have a Block Party and have a variety show. serve lots and lots of food and have seats outside that the audience can sit and watch the show. Have a Spokes person and you can introduce the neighbors who have talents that would like to show the audience. Kinda like a talent show. It doesn't even have to be your neighborhood. maybe just your friends...

you just have to be creative. sometimes what helps is if you jump in the car and just drive around and hopefully see signs or posters of upcoming events in your city.

i hope I helped!!
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I really want a puppy and my mom said the only puppy we can get is if its a really small puppy. Like a chihuahua. Anyways, She doesn't think I would take good care of it. I know I would I've always wanted a puppy. I do not have my license so I am home all summer ( I live in the country so its hard to go to town ) so i would always be here to take it out, walk it, train it, play with it, etc. I just need to write her a small email telling her that I KNOW i can do this. I just need help how to sound very reassuring

right now your mom doesn't think you have the responsibillity it takes to take care of a dog. you need to show her that you can do this.

Start off by doing extra things. such as extra chores, helping your mom with work/other things, cleaning the house, mowing the lawn etc. etc. etc.

don't do annoying things to her like begging to go out, or for money or anything like that

always tell your mom that you love her and that you are always there for her

now... just tell your mom that you know that you have what it takes to take care of a dog. Tell her that if you break the rules (taking care of it) that you are willing to do something. (like a punishment)

keep doing this until your mom see's that you are mature enough to do this. my mom did!

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How can you get rid of a sore throat by Saturday? Or at least some methods to make it feel better for that day.

I woke up with one today, and I am going to Six Flags with my class.

Thank you in advance.

ohh... i can definitally help you with that. You're talking to the girl who's been sick a lot and can get better in 2 days.

first off...
DONT drink anything cold. Tea Tea Tea! my grandma has a special tea mix that always helps me. Its Peppermint Tea with Honey and Sugar. It's really good and helps fast.

Next... don't talk because that just irritates your throat and makes it worse.

Finally, rest! even though sore throats don't have anything to do with rest... it sill helps your immune system and gets you healthier and less sick.

that's all you can do.

oh yeah and also take medicine. I normally take cough syrup and spray.

I hope you feel better and have fun at six flags!

-volleyball2150

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ok well see theres this guy and i went out with him for 3 and 1/2 weeks. well then we broke up, recently i told him i still liked him but he has a girlfriend. i ask my friends for advice and they tell me i need ti win him back. how do i win him back. its summer break so all i can do is talk to him on AIM. but if we start going out i can go to the movies with him. But how do i win him back, how do i flirt with him, and do it all on AIM.

i definitally agree with Icey...

just have a normal conversation with him and then just say something like "i had a dream that we were back together..." and then wait for his reply. the main key is patience. it takes time to win a guy. if he doesn't really 'connect' with what you are trying to do, i would just leave him be. It takes 2 people to have a relationship. It's not fair if you want to go out with him and he doesn't but you still are flirting with him. You can't make him decide. it's his decision. however, if he does kinda flirt with you... just keep on doing what you are doing and don't rush into it.

just like Icey said... be prepared for a cat fight cuz his girlfriend is gonna be soo pissed when she finds out his Ex gf is trying to win him back.

it's a risk, but is he worth it?

-volleyball2150

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Hi. I'm working on getting my body summer ready.
I don't really need to loose weight, just get into shape. Flatten the tummy, that sorta thing.

I want a flatter stomach, but I can't do a crunch because I have back problems. What are some exercises I can do to get it flatter?

Thanks.

some exercises without doing crunches for stomachs are-

lay down on back, hold onto something heavy so you won't squirm around (chair, table ect.) then lift both of your legs off the ground so your body is at a 90 degrees angle. then slowly rest them down to the floor. do about 25 and repeat 5 times.

another one is lay in a sit-up position, then come up as if you were doing sit ups, and make 1 hand touch your foot. ex- left arm touches left foot... right arm touches left foot.

-volleyball2150

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I don't know what to get my mother for mother's day.I can't buy her anything because she will know
about it.So I will have to make her something.I was thinking of making her a doll of he rself,but I don't know how to make it.Here are somet hings I have but are not being used
1)Axe that was used as a prop for the school play.
2)Broken mug
Can I make a mother's day gift from either of them or do you have any other ideas?

uh no offence or anything, but an axe or a mug isn't really what i would buy my mother for mothers day.

well since you can't go shopping for a present, make a special gift.

Here are some ideas-

eye pillows
http://www.dotcomwomen.com/crafts/lavendar_pillow.shtml

regular pillow-

http://ilovetocraft.com/sewing/message-pillows.shtml

a poem

a mix CD of her fav. songs

money

a promise saying you will spend 1 day helping her/spending time with her

recipe books (print off net and put in funky photo album)

photo album of family

bake cookies or dessert of her fav.

that's all i can think of.. good luck and be creative!

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13/f
okay so my skin is like, really pale. im tan, just its like my skin isnt bright or healthy looking like every body else's skin. i mean, my make-up looks good and everything when i put it on, but if you look really close to my skin around my nose and cheeks, its kind of speckly and stuff. should i just wash my face a lot and eat healthy? what should i do?

hmm... I think it could be the kind of make-up you're using.

look at the expiration date, if it's old... throw it away!!

It's super important to clean your make-up kits so there's no bacteria on there. Once you apply make-up to your skin, the bactieria from the make-up goes into your skin and that's what I think is causing your skin to be this way.

I'm not saying to quit putting make-up on, but make sure that if you do put make-up on, that you wash it off at the end of the day. Use a special kind of face wash meant for your type of skin. Also you can use a daily face lotion that makes it soft and smooth.

If this really bothers you, try going to a dermatologist and ask them what you can do about it.

I hope I helped!
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I play in a band and we put on a bunch of shows, which is a huge passion of mine, and everyone I know knows it.
So everytime we play a show my closest, supposed "friends" always say they're going to come, but when the time of the show comes, none of them ever show up. At the last show only one of them showed up, but that was like at the middle of the very last song.
This bothers me because I think if these were my friends, they'd realize how important this is to me and give me support, like I have always been there for them. And I always feel like they makeup some lame excuse as to why they didn't come, or why they're late.
Am I wrong for feeling this way ????

no no no! you are soo not wrong for feeling this way! I feel that way too!

are these 'friends' also interested in band??
if they are not, maybe they don't come because they just have no passion for it, unlike you.

There's nothing wrong with that, but still it doesn't justify what they are doing to you. Talk to them and let them know how you are feeling, tell them that you are disappointed that they never come to see you play and that you would really appriciate it if they could come.

Make sure you give them the exact times and days of when your band is playing so they don't forget. But be careful because if you mention it too many times, they will get annoyed and just forget about it.

If these so called "friends" of yours still do not show up, and it's making you mad.. find other friends who you know that will care about you. There's nothing wrong with making new friends. Friendships aren't guranteed to last forever.

I hope I helped.. they'll come along, just give them time to see how much this means to you

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i am from England. I love a lad that I met on a chat room and he doesn't love me back he lives in another country and he hasn't emailed me for almost two months. I do love him though what shall i do?
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If he doesn't love you, lives in another country, and hasn't had any comunication with you for 2 months, what's the point of even loving him???

I'm sorry to say that, but it's true. Forget about him, and find someone else. Join activities that you like and talk to different guys and hopefully they will love you too.

If you don't support my advice, you can always email him and ask him what's wrong. Remember... he may be busy with something or is gone on vacation. Email him your feelings and tell him that you're upset that you don't talk to him anymore.

I hope I helped and all goes well!

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Ok well I want to delete this picture but when I click delete something pops up that says:

Cannot delete: It is being used by anotherperson or program. Close any programs that might be using the file and try again.

Well nothing was even opened and it still wouldn't delete. It's really annoying me and I tried it a couple more times and the same thing happened. help?

try closing everything that is on your computer. you can do this by holdin ctrl + alt + delete and go on the tab that says applications, highlight everything that is on there and click end task.

then go to the file that has the picture stored (my pictures, my desktop, my computer etc.) and right click it and click delete.

If that doesn't work, i'm sorry but that's all i know of what to do. Try re-starting your computer and trying again. if that doesn't work maybe you can drag the picture file into the Recycling Bin on your desktop.

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so theres this guy names tony and i really like him and i have had my best friend talk to him and he was thinking about asking me out. well i ended up asking him out and he hasent answered and its been about 4 day. should i ask him again or leave him alone!

well 4 days itsn't that long. Maybe he's playing hard to get...

give it another 3 days and if he still hasn't said anything, i would ask him again. say something like "what's up? so are we still up for that date?"

or he could also be shy and isn't sure of how to say yes or no. So my advice is give it sometime and be patient. that's the key to love... be patient.

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13/f

okay i am having horrible horribile cramps right now [i'm on my period.. hehe]. like worse than ever. what can make that go away? & bloating too?

If you have a heat pack, I would suggest putting that on your stomach. Main thing to do is to keep it warm. Warm makes the pain go away. If it hurts that badly, you can try Midol which works great for this kind of stuff.

Other than that, you just need to rest and keep still. movement will make it worse. Try doing something that keeps your mind off of it, such as watching a movie, sleeping, reading a book, go on the computer etc.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

PS: you're not the only girl around here who hates having her period!
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Ok there is this boy that I really dont like,but im goin out wit him. hes very wird but is popular and if i break up wit him alot of people wont like me. I really still like my ex boyfriend though. He is my childhood sweet heart. shoul I go out wit da popular boy or with the boy ive loved since third grade?

duhh.. go out with the boy you like!

I think it's torture to go out with somone that you don't even like. Just because he's popular doesn't mean you should go out with him!

So what if everyone doesn't like you, why should they even care if you like him or not. It's none of their business.

If you really like your ex boyfriend, I say go for him! Why put yourself through so much pain and misiry for some guy that you don't even like.

I'm sorry but that's my opinion. Go for the ex.

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My body temp is always around 96.7 when it's supposed to be 98.6. My body temperature has never been normal! Is my body temp. considered low and can it affect my health in any way? Also WHY is it so low?

I`m really scared =).

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/body-temperature/AN01513

this persons' temperature is 96.9 and the other person said it's not dangerous unless its lower than 95 degrees

do you have diabetes.. that may be the reason.

if none of those reasons on the website is what it is causing it, then I suggest going to the doctor to see what is going on.

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ok this guy likes me but is way too shy
and i like him so much
we are very random and just our complete selfs around eachother and i reallllly like him a lot
we are both on the swim team together

well he wants to go out with me but is too shy to ask
and he told my friend he'd rather have me ask
i just want to know a good way to say it


15/f

good way as in making it sound you're not desperate?? or good way as in a cute, flirty way?

well i'll go easy on you and give you both ways

A way to make it sound not desperate-
you both swim together... go up to him and just talk about swimming. nothing wrong with that. then when you both are getting off topic and start to talk about something else, just casually bring up something about how you want to go somewhere (see a specific movie, go to this one restaurant etc.) then pause and say "we should go together!"

this way, it's telling him that you're not desperate, but still want to hang out with him.


flirty/cute way-

same thing.. talk to him and when you get off topic say you'll talk to him later. Write him notes, emails, or even give him your number.

if you're too shy to do that.. then you can do this-

tell him that you know someone who likes him, then kinda look away from him , then stare at him for a while. If he doesn't guess it's you, say "her name starts with ____ and she's sitting next to you" he'll get it that it's you.

I wish you luck!
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So all these diet websites say to eat 5 small meals a day. My question is, WHAT IS CONSIDERED A SMALL MEAL?! thank you

a small meal is probably a salad with soup, sandwhich, fruits, vegetables, cearl etc.

here's also a website that has more

http://www.baptisteast.com/recipes/smallmeals.cfm

I hope I helped!
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okay, so i'm 5'8 and weigh around 160. my body would be much better if i didn't have flabby arms and a bulging stomach. is there any way i can get my body back into shape for this summer?

ok so this website is for your arms

http://www.exrx.net/Lists/ExList/ArmWt.html

it teaches you all kinds of different exercises to do for your arms and it also has a icon thing that moves so you can see how to do it.

this website is the same one but for waists-
http://www.exrx.net/Lists/ExList/WaistWt.html

I hope I helped!!
-volleyball2150

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I play soccer on a club team so its not like i dont exercise alot..im 120/f/14
my body is alot of muscle, and i know thats supposed to be good and everything but i like the skinny look better..

what are some exercises to lose weight on your calves and hips??

calves-

http://www.shapefit.com/training-calves.html

hips-

http://www.exrx.net/Lists/ExList/HipsWt.html

I hope I helped!

-volleyball2150

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14/f 5 ft 3

i was 123 for my last physical (2006 sep) and now im 115, ive been told i looked thinner. i eat healthy and sometimes have cravings that shake my good eating hah, but i dont eat crappy food. i am in cheerleading and used to run daily. i dont really do the running anymore. i go on the trmapoline and do crunches everyday. i mainly do exercises for my stomach and just started doing butt exercises. i did see results on my tummy. but i really hate my inner thys and thys. my friend is the same height as me and has a perfect body and my thys are so much bulkier than hers. what at home exercises can i do to get rid of inner thy, under my arm muscle, and thys. a website can help too

you can't really get RID of your thigh and arm fat. the closest thing would be to exercise them.

Thighs- do about 25 squats up and down and repeat 4 times a day. (100 per day)


more excersises-
http://www.lhj.com/home/Thigh-Exercises.html

Triecps-

Hold weights in your hands (whatever weight you are comfortable with) and slowly drop them behind your head, then lift back up

more exercises-

http://www.leehayward.com/arms.htm

scroll that website down until it says triceps

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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