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how do i ask him out
ok this guy likes me but is way too shy
and i like him so much
we are very random and just our complete selfs around eachother and i reallllly like him a lot
we are both on the swim team together
well he wants to go out with me but is too shy to ask
and he told my friend he'd rather have me ask
i just want to know a good way to say it
15/f
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Im going through this at this very moment, the guy im talking to is REALLY shy. So when your with him. Talk to him, and tell him..."do you like me" and if he answers "yes" then just ask him out but make seem like your not asking him out so he dosnt notice "Then can i be your girl...I really think we should...you know...go out" it will make him blush, but its an easy way...now i just gotta take my own advice and get my man lol, but try it and tell me if it works out.
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although you might want him to ask you out,
i wouldnt pressure him
just catch him before you both go in the locker rooms to change
just be like..
hey i was wondering if you wanted to go out sometime
he'll be glad that you made the first move
and he'll open up more too
hope i helped =]
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It seems to me that he needs to get over his shyness. I remember feeling much the same way at 15, but part of being ready to date someone is getting up the courage to actually ask them out. That having been said, there's no problem with you asking him out; that role isn't confined to the male gender anymore.
I think he needs to be put on the spot a little bit, though.
The first thing to do is to get him alone, of course, and since you're on a team together that shouldn't be too hard. However, he's nervous enough without having you both half-naked when it happens, so pick a time when you're NOT in swimsuits. The best thing to do would be to corner him coming out of the locker room after a practice, but you have a disadvantage there in that it generally takes girls longer to fix themselves up after swimming, so he'd usually be leaving first. Maybe you can arrange for one of his friends to delay him somehow. Anyway, however you do it, get him alone.
Then, I suggest you say the following:
"My friend was telling me that you might want to go out, and you were hoping I'd ask you?"
He will look nervous, not know what to say, etc. Then you say,
"Well, I'd honestly rather YOU ask ME out... and just so you know, I'm going to say Yes."
At this point, he should ask you out. If he doesn't, then he is WAY too painfully shy to be ready for a dating relationship.
The reason I think this is a good way to go about it is that he needs to be called on going through your friend instead of going to you directly. This approach will give him a minor rebuke for that, while at the same time it will get you both what you want - a date with each other.
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good way as in making it sound you're not desperate?? or good way as in a cute, flirty way?
well i'll go easy on you and give you both ways
A way to make it sound not desperate-
you both swim together... go up to him and just talk about swimming. nothing wrong with that. then when you both are getting off topic and start to talk about something else, just casually bring up something about how you want to go somewhere (see a specific movie, go to this one restaurant etc.) then pause and say "we should go together!"
this way, it's telling him that you're not desperate, but still want to hang out with him.
flirty/cute way-
same thing.. talk to him and when you get off topic say you'll talk to him later. Write him notes, emails, or even give him your number.
if you're too shy to do that.. then you can do this-
tell him that you know someone who likes him, then kinda look away from him , then stare at him for a while. If he doesn't guess it's you, say "her name starts with ____ and she's sitting next to you" he'll get it that it's you.
I wish you luck!
-volleyball2150
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