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okay, how do i start. Short and simple. Okay so one of my friends told me that my friend has this sickness or whatever like; the dr said that he probably will live until 31 or somewhere around it. were in middle school. menaing eigth grde. okay so what cant that be? like what sickness can do that? hes really skinny and short. idk if that states anything but. if you think you know can you tell me what the sickness is and what it does.

id appreciate it sooo much. thanks.

It could be Cystic Fibrosis, which is a disease that affects the lungs. It causes the lungs to produce a lot of mucus, making it difficult to breathe. Not long ago, people with Cystic Fibrosis didn't live past childhood or early teens, but now there are treatments that can help them live into their 20s or early 30s. =[

ok well im turning 16 in april.. i know thats like awhile from now. but like my dad is like against having a car when youre 16 and where i live like every kid gets a car when theyre 16 and its like essential to like get around and stuff. i mean it wouldnt be THAT big of a deal to me except for the fact that my parents are like you cant drive in cars w/ ur friends that just got their license. what do they expect? that theyre gonna drive me around for the rest of my life? any ways to convince them that i should be able to get a car (not neccesarily for my birthday just like sometime soon). also what are some ways to make money? i cant really get like a good job right now bc of school but i want to get one this summer. how much do like used cars cost?

Well, your parents might be saying that now, but chances are, once you get your license, they'll change their minds pretty quick. And without you having to do or say anything! You see, this is how it works:

When you first get your license, they'll be really strict about your driving. Then they'll start letting you take the car to the store or to run errands for them, or to drive yourself places. And suddenly they'll realize how convenient it is that you can drive! After 16 years of chauffeuring you everywhere, they're finally "free"! And next thing you know, you're taking the car whenever you want, and then they're getting you one of your own.

Trust me, it won't take long. That's how it was for me, and for a ton of other people I know. So just let it happen naturally. If you whine and beg or make a big deal about it, it will just remind them of their "decision" not to get you one, and it will take longer for them to come around.

I'm definatly not overweight, but my calfes are huge! well they are really muscular from doing ballet for 9 years. Does anyone know a way to lose a little muscle in my calfes and a little in my thighs?? PLEASE don't say, "u should be happy that your muscular" or w.e. I like a little muscles, it just looks like too much. THANKS!!!!

Hey, I'm in the same boat. I did gymnastics, cheer and dance for ages, and my calves are huge! But in my case, it's just heredity... both my parents have really muscular calves, so I guess I'm just doomed. haha. I know at one point when I lost a whole bunch of weight, they got slightly smaller, but not by much. So if you're like me, there may not be much you can do about it. It's just a part of my body I don't really like but I've just had to stop dwelling on it and concentrate on the good things. I know how you feel, though. I HATE it when people are like "omg, your legs are so muscular!". But some people say it's sexy, so... I just try to think about that! =]

why are guys so horny? i heard theres an actual reason for that

Yes, it's the testosterone that makes guys so horny. But why do they have it? That just the way God/nature made males... to go out and make lots of babies and ensure the survival of the species. Girls get horny, too, but not as much as guys... I guess because nature doesnt want us to have more babies than we can take care of?? I dont know... that's an interesting thing to think about!

He said that we are going to wait for each other. Then he comes home from camp and he tells me that he met this girl and kissed her. He won't talk to me or message me back on any of the messages i give him. Then all of a sudden he breaks up with this girl and meets another. he tells her that she was the best thing that has ever happened to him. I see him at a concert and he keeps looking at me and by the end of the concert he finally talks to me and we are acting like friends again. but after the concert I try and ask him if he still likes me and he doesnt answer me. He won't message me back. He does the same thing to me again. What do I do? I really like him and all I can do is think about him

Obviously I don't know you, but I'm sure you are a wonderful, beautiful, sweet person with a ton of amazing qualities. And somewhere out there is a guy who is going to see those qualities and will be soooo crazy about you that he will do everything he can to get you! I know you really like this one guy, but unfortunately, he doesn't seem to be the one. If this guy really liked you, he would be calling you, asking you out, chasing after you... thats what guys do when they like a girl. You deserve a guy who is going to be absoultely crazy about you and never do anything to risk losing you! But you aren't going to find him if you're sitting around waiting and hoping for someone who doesn't feel that way about you. I know it will be hard, but you should try to put him out of your mind and move on. That perfect guy who's out there waiting for you will be glad you did!

My boyfriend for 5 months broke up with me because of another girl. It hurts me a lot.. I really love him and i gave him everything. It's only 2 weeks since we broke up and he is now with that girl. He told me that he loves her already and that there's no chance that we'll get back together.. What is he talking about? Is it that easy to forget the memories we had? Is it that easy to forget someone you loved? Two weeks ago he just told me that he loves me a lot and that i'm the only one for him.. And now, he's inlove with another girl.. He just met that girl in disco and they've already slept together.. His family is doing everything for us to get back together. They told me that they don't like his gf and that i'm the one they want for their son. His brothers are telling me that he still loves me, they said that he's just confused. But i don't feel his love anymore. He doesn't call me anymore. He said that he's not calling because his gf is jealous. He's so mean. His family told me to never give up because they are sure that we'll still get back together. I still love him and i'm still hoping that he'll go back to me.. What should i do now???

Awwww I'm soooo sorry. =[ I know how much that hurts. And I know this isn't what you want to hear, but... I think you need to forget about him and try to move on. The truth is, if he loved you, he would want to be with you and no one else.

Unfortunately, his family isn't doing you any favors by saying what they're saying to you. They obviously love you, and just like you, they hope he will come back to you. And sure, there's always that possibility that he will. But what if he doesn't? Do you really want to waste your time and emotions waiting and hoping for something that might not happen? No. Because somewhere out there is a guy who WILL love you and will be so crazy about you that he will never want to let you go. And you're not going to find him if you're sitting around waiting for someone who may or may not come back. Someone who cares so little for you that he won't even call or talk to you when he knows you're hurting.

You have a lot to offer and a lot of love to give, and you deserve someone who will see what an awesome girl you are and will never do anything that would hurt you.

hi. how much damage can a box of cigarettes do to your body? just a box? to be more specific, 10 sovereign. if i were to smoke them and never smoke another cigarette, how much damage? thanks

Well, it might seem like the 10 cigarettes won't hurt you, but trust me, they will. Cigarettes are sooooo addictive and even smoking just 10 can get you hooked. You might think it won't happen, but it will. You'll want more, and you'll tell yourself it will just be a few... just these 10... just one pack... just one carton. And then you're hooked for life. I know it may be tempting to try it, but do yourself a favor and just don't do it.

I've been playing soccer for the last 8 years. I've been on a select team for 5 or 6 years. My mom never supports me. She says I suck at soccer & I'm not aggressive & I'm the worst player in my city. It really hurts because I try so hard to show her that I actually have skills. All my friends say I'm one of the best players and they say I'm the best right wing they've ever met. And a lot of people don't make the select team, and I've made it every year. I've made it when people 2 years older than me haven't. So why does my mom say I'm horrible?

Oh yeah, and she says my sister is awesome at softball when her coach doesn't even know her name & it's only her second year and she can barely hit.

Ugh!!

Wow, that really stinks. But don't feel too bad... I've been around a lot of parents in a lot of different sports, and trust me, you are not the only person with this kind of problem! A lot of parents say stuff like that to their kids. And here's the reason...

All parents want their kids to be happy. But some parents confuse happiness with success. They think that you can only be happy if you're really successful, even "the best", at what you do. So they do crazy things that they think will help you succeed.

I'm sure your mom knows that you're really good at soccer. She's probably been told that many times... and perhaps that's given her visions of you getting a soccer scholarship, or becoming the next Mia Hamm. And she wants that really bad for you. So whenever you have a bad practice, or an off game, or another player seems to be doing better, she gets worried. She's afraid that her dreams of your success are in jeopardy. So she says things that she thinks will make you work harder. But unfortunately, she's going about it in the wrong way.

A lot of parents and coaches make that mistake. They think that insulting a player or cutting them down will make them work harder. They think the player will take it as a challenge to do better. But the truth is, most people don't do well when they feel bad about themselves... they do worse. Athletes perform their best when they feel good and confident in their ability.

I hate to tell you not to listen to your mom, but... when she says those things, don't listen to her. Just block it out and remind yourself of all your successes. And keep in mind that she's saying those things because she thinks she's helping you. She just doesn't understand how it all works! Just go out and play soccer and enjoy it, because after all, it's YOUR sport, not hers or anyone else's.

is "Bartos" a hungarian last name?

Bartos is a slavic name, being the slavic form of Bartholomew. The name is common in Hungary, Czechoslavakia, Austria, Poland and Lithuania.

i would prefer a guys opinion on this, but a girls opinion would work too.

my sister stephanie has been going out with this kid pat for a couple months. pat has a younger brother thats my age. we've been talking for about a month, but we still havent meet yet. we both like eachother, but pat doesnt want us to meet because he doesnt want us to go out.

would that(your brother going out with your girlfriends sister) bother you too? and if so, why? because i dont understand why pat doesnt want his brother and i to go out.

thanks

Hmmm... maybe Pat is afraid that if you and his brother get close, his brother might tell you personal things about him, or their family, that he doesn't want your sister to know about. I don't know... that's the only reason I could come up with! :]

Our friend, "Jake," and my husband have helped each other out for years. Jake repairs our cars; my husband helps him out with his computer needs.

The last time we had trouble with our car, Jake said he'd look at it. He called later and said we needed new brakes, some adjustments, and that some of the fluids needed to be changed. He estimated the cost would be about $200.

When Jake finished the repairs, he brought our car back (instead of our picking it up like we usually do) and left a bill in the car for $400 -- $100 for brakes and fluids, $300 for labor.

We were shocked. Jake never charged for his labor before, and my husband has never charged Jake for working on his computer. We contacted a nearby auto repair shop to compare prices, and they quoted less than Jake charged us. Now we don't know what to say or do. Help!

Hmmm... I don't think I'd say anything about it. But next time he asks for computer help, I'd say something like, "Oh, sorry, I'm really busy right now so I won't be able to do it this time."

ok, well I am 7-10 years older than my little sisters and brother. When I was growing up I was only allowed to watch an hour of tv a week and my parents made me eat a green vegetable with every meal and all that. My parents split up, so now I have little siblings, but they are technically my half siblings. I love them so much, but I feel like my dad and stepmom like, don't care. It's not that they don't love them, i mean they do, a TON. They are great, loving parents. I'm 15/f and whenever I get involved, like commenting on how much tv they watch (they watch a lot) or the fact that the only vegetable they eat is carrots, my step mom gets mad at me. I can't really talk to my dad alone because he gets defensive as well and thinks I'm only saying this because I don't get along with my step mom. I love these kids and I really want them to be healthy, so what should I do? I'm a really anxious, worried person as it is, so it bothers me knowing that they are frying their brains and not getting proper nutrients in their diet. I don't know what to do!
please help

Well, as you've already found out, talking to your parents is probably not going to change things. But there are some things that you can do to help your siblings.

I'm sure they really look up to you and probably idolize everything you do. So you can set a good example for them to follow. When you go out to eat, order some veggies and make a big deal about how good they are. When you're around them, don't watch TV yourself... let them see you being involved in other activities.

You could also offer to plan and prepare some meals for the whole family sometimes, and include some healthy stuff. You could even get your siblings to help with the cooking, and make it like a fun project. (If they've helped prepare the food, they'll probably be more willing to try it). When you see them watching too much TV, offer to take them to the park, play a game with them, or go on a bike ride.

If you can expose them to some healthy foods and some activities besides TV - even if they don't get it on a regular basis - they'll grow up being more open to trying new things. And when they're old enough to choose their meals and activities themselves, hopefully they'll make some better choices.

well, i have this teacher, in high school.
I think she might have a grudge on me!
It all began like this... i was in class and she said we all needed to listen, althought i was still writing, she came up to me and started shouting that i don't listen, she then told me to put my pen down, i did ad said 'ok'. She got in a really bad mood and sent me out for the whole lesson.
My next lesson i came in and said 'sorry am late miss, my school bus was late. She said 'oh so now you own a bus'! and told me to sit down
The next lesson, i was sitting with my mate dana, and she shouted saying 'don't talk oh you will be moved' so i stopped.
The next lesson, she said come and sit next to me
and i had to do that for the rest of the year!
There's loadz more...
sometimes when she hands out exsam papers she missed me, first and second times and mistakes but i think she did that 6 times to me.
Once my friend asked for a pen, and that reminded me i needed one so i put hand up about 35 secs after my friend put hers up, and she shouted saying that i should ask earlier!
Then i was wearing a blue jacket and told me to take it off, i did then this girl went passed her with massive hoop earings and bright green jacket-even this girl i did'nt know said she has a grudge on you! There LOADZ more!
I MAY JUST BE THAT AM IN THE WRONG, BUT I REALLY THINK THIS TEACHER GOT SOMETHING AGAIST ME, MY FRIENDS THINK IT AND MY BEST TEACHER SAID SHES BEEN TALKING ABOUT ME SAYING I BEHAVE BAD(MY BEST TEACHER WAS SURPRISED COS AM AN OKAY STUDNET)
I HAVE TOLD MY DAD AND HE SAYS HE'LL TALK TO HER BUT AM NOT SURE IF ITS ME OH HER!

SORRY ITS SO LONG :(

Wow, that stinks! It sounds like this teacher really has it in for you. And now that she has this bad attitude toward you, anything you do is going to look bad in her eyes. Maybe it was something you did, or some way you acted?? Or maybe she has just pre-judged you without giving you a chance, because something about you (looks, clothes, mannerisms) remind her of another student who gave her trouble in the past? So she's assumed you're the same way?

Whatever the reason for her attitude, you're going to have to deal with her for the rest of the year. So it would be best to get things straightened out right away.

I think having you dad talk to her would NOT be a good idea. Even if he is really nice about it, she will take that as a personal attack and it might actually make things worse. I think it would be much better if YOU talked to her about it!

Try writing her a note. Say something like, "Dear Miss _____, I think we've gotten off on the wrong foot, and it's really been bothering me. I really want to do well in your class this year, and I'm afraid I may have done something to make you think I don't care about your class. I just want you to know that I am going to try my best to be a good student."

Another thing you could try is asking her for help with the work, perhaps after school. That may help soften her up a bit. When a teacher gives a student one on one help, they get to know the student on a more personal level, and they tend to feel more friendly and sympathetic toward them.

If none of that works, then have your dad talk to her. And if THAT doesn't work, have him talk to the principal. Maybe you can be transferred to a different teacher?

Good luck! =]

This happened about and hour after the story I just wrote about so I want to keep it separate.

SECOND PART OF STORY: My mom asked me how much I paid for the purse that I had to buy today because the one I came up with the zipper broke. Jokingly I told her 3 dollars. She said no you didnt. I told her that I paid 12 dollars. She said that she could tell that I paid more than 3 dollars. This got me upset and the reason it got me upset is because the purses I buy in New York City are inexpensive ($2.00) but dont look it. I said to her are you implying that my other purses look cheap. She said no but they are not the same quality, and she knows they are not the same quality because she brought one as well. She said the labor is not the same and the material is not the same. She said look at the purse you brought today is tapestry and the ones that you buy in New York City are not tapestry, and look at the handle on the purse you brought today - it is made better. I said to her you never saw the ones I brought at Value Depot. She said no but they are not the same as the LeSportacs purses that she has. I said are you implying they are not nice or cheap and she said no she isnt.

MY QUESTION: Am I overreacting and if my mom said the above to you how would you interpret it. I mean is she saying that my purses that I buy are not pretty or nice or good quality

No, I don't think she's saying that your other purses look cheap. She's saying that the new one you bought was probably more expensive than the ones you usually buy.

But none of this is really about purses. It's about money. Obviously, it's very important to your mom that you learn to spend your money wisely. She doesn't want you to waste your money on things you don't need. And when you do need something, she wants you to shop carefully and not spend more than necessary.

Yes, it's probably driving you bonkers to have her go on and on about one little $12 purse. But don't be too hard on her. She's trying to do what she thinks is best for you (teach you to be careful with money), and this is just her way of getting you to think about what you spend. She probably thinks you didn't NEED to buy a new purse, and that you didn't NEED to spend as much as you did... and she's trying to get you to realize that.

If you want to get her off your back, just give in. Say, "Mom, maybe you're right. Maybe I didn't need to buy this purse. Next time I'll think a little more carefully before I buy something." Even if you think the purse was necessary and not too expensive, just say it. This will make her think she's gotten her point across, and she'll stop nagging you about it.

hi, i was just wondering if anyone knows of any articles about the migration of indians from africa to the UK? ive tried googling it, but no results. thanks:)

Try this website. It's National Geographic's Human Genome Project:

https://www3.nationalgeographic.com/genographic/

Up at the top, click on Atlas of the Human Journey.

14/f
i really want a snake. i love love love animals.

what kind of snake is best for me and if you have tips that would be great.

im going to wait like a month or two to make sure i really want it so i won't buy one and like not want it a month later. but what kind should i get.

i want one that ....
-doesn't get very big. preferably under two feet. and will stay that way.
-has a good temperament (doesn't bite & friendly)
-semi-easy to take care of.
-i won't have to feed mice. something i can feed worms/guppies/small fish/or bugs.

please only answer if you have had snake experiences (IE. you have/had one/friend has one/work at a pet store, etc.)

thank you =)

I always wanted a snake, too, but I never got one because I couldn't bare to feed it mice. And everyone told me that ALL snakes have to eat mice eventually. But then I found a snake at the pet store called a Green Snake, and they told me he would be okay will only eating crickets. I've had him a year now, fed only crickets, and he's fine. He will only get about 2 feet long. And he's super cute! The only drawback to Green Snakes is that they're really fast and not very easily tamed. So you have to patient with them, because they're not really calm and docile like corn snakes, boas, etc. Mine has finally gotten used to being held, but it took a while. Oh, and if you get one of these, be sure to give him lots of branches and things to climb on, because in the wild they live in trees.

what does it mean to party like it's 1999 or whenever

Back when this song came out (1982) we were in the middle of the cold war. People were worried about a nuclear war starting and destroying the world. And some people thought that the world would end in the year 2000. (Silly, I know, but throughout history people have been predicting the world would end on various dates). So anyway... in the song, to "party like it's 1999" means to party it up and have a good time, do whatever you want and don't worry about the consequences, because you could die at any time.

Here are the lyrics:

I was dreamin' when I wrote this
Forgive me if it goes astray

But when I woke up this mornin'
Coulda sworn it was judgment day

The sky was all purple
There were people runnin' everywhere

Tryin' 2 run from the destruction
U know I didn't even care

'Cuz they say two thousand zero zero party over
Oops out of time
So tonight I'm gonna party like it's 1999

I was dreamin' when I wrote this
So sue me if I go 2 fast

But life is just a party
And parties weren't meant 2 last

War is all around us
My mind says prepare 2 fight

So if I gotta die
I'm gonna listen 2 my body tonight

Yeah, they say two thousand zero zero party over
Oops out of time
So tonight I'm gonna party like it's 1999
Yeah

Lemme tell ya somethin'
If U didn't come 2 party
Don't bother knockin' on my door
I got a lion in my pocket
And baby he's ready 2 roar

Yeah, everybody's got a bomb
We could all die any day
But before I'll let that happen
I'll dance my life away

They say two thousand zero zero party over
Oops out of time
We're runnin' outta time
So tonight we gonna, we gonna (Tonight I'm gonna party like it's 1999)

Say it 1 more time
Two thousand zero zero party over
Oops out of time
No, no
So tonight we gonna, we gonna (Tonight I'm gonna party like it's 1999)

Alright, it's 1999
You say it, 1999
1999
1999 don't stop, don't stop, say it 1 more time

Two thousand zero zero party over
Oops out of time
Yeah, Yeah
So tonight we gonna, we gonna (Tonight I'm gonna party like it's 1999)

Yeah, 1999
Don'tcha wanna go
Don'tcha wanna go
We could all die any day
I don't wanna die
I'd rather dance

is it true that masturbation can cause baldness over time?? no opinions, only facts please. just need to know, thnx.

The fact is, no it doesn't.

My boyfriend of 3 months and i broke up a week ago today. I have had the worst week and the stupid thing is, its all over the reasoning as to why we broke up. You see, things had been weird with him the week leading up to the breakup and i asked him what was wrong and he told me the news... hes moving at the end of the year. ten hours away to be exact.

I messaged him telling him that I didnt want to wait around to have my heart broken at the end of the year and he agreed that it would be 'smart' of us to break it off sooner rather than later. He said letting me go was going to be hard but it was better this way.

The thing is... i know i love him. And that I really just want to be with him. We are still friends but have stopped the whole couples thing (no touching...no kissing etc) but everytime i see him i just want to fall back into his arms and be how we used to be.

He told me the only thing that would change would be that we wouldnt do couple things but we could still go over to each others houses and be good friends and that he would always love me.

I really dont know what i should do, do i gradually de-attach myself?

Is it wrong to feel like this, and should i try and mask my feelings of love from him?

Was it smart to break up now and save the heartbreak later? Should I tell him how i feel or would that just make him feel worse for moving when i know he doesnt want to?

Is it wrong to feel jealous when i see him talking and mucking around with other girls and is it wrong to still message him and talk to him at school AND have him over at my house like old times?

HELP!!!!

Well, I'm going to look at this from your boyfriend's point of view, because I had to move several times when I was in school. And it was always the same. As soon as they heard I'd be moving, some of my friends would become distant, almost as if I was already gone. And even though I understood why they were acting that way, it still really hurt. I just wanted to be with my friends as long as possible!

Maybe your boyfriend is feeling the same way? It sounds like he really does understand your reasoning, but he may be missing your "coupleness" as much as you are. You should talk to him and find out if he feels this way.

The thing is, it's going to hurt to lose each other no matter when that occurs - now, or at the end of the year. If you both still have feelings for each other, why not enjoy each other for as long as you can?

this guy that i like went to mexico and is coming back tomorrow..
and before he left we were getting really close. and he kissed me
before he left. but hes not the hook up type or whatever. so i was
just wondering what you think.. do u think we will be the same when
he gets back? or no?? and he promised was gonna tell me this one
"secret" which my friend told him to ask me out. .and he promised he
would tell me when he got back...so i hope he does *knock on wood*
but idkk i just want to know what a lot of other people think??

I bet he's been thinking about you as much as you've been thinking about him. And he's probably worried about the same thing; "Does she still like me, or has she forgotten about me while I've been away?" Let him know that you've missed him... send him a note or make him a little Welcome Home sign, and tell him you're looking forward to seeing him again!

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