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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

I have to write an essay about what I didn't do over summer vacation. It's like the usual 'What I did over summer vacation' essay but my teacher wants us to lie to her and write about something that DIDN'T happen, but would be extremely unordinary/exciting. But the problem is, I can't think of a single thing to write about. Any ideas?

Out of the ordinary... Exciting....

You went to the moon. If one looks through a good enough telescope, perhaps they can see the footprints you made walking on the surface.

They would be easily distinguishable, considering you decided such an occasion warrants going in style. You looked pretty darn good bouncing across the moon in your black, sequined evening dress and spike heels....


Just a thought. ;-)

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I think I might have whooping cough, seeing as there's been more than 30 cases of it in my county. As far as symptoms, I have a runny nose, I cough like crazy, and in the beginning I had a really sore throat (but it's gone.) But the thing is, I was vaccinated against it. o_0 Is there a chance I have it? The coughing only gets worse everyday. x_x

14/f if it helps x)

Well, you need to go to your doctor. See, we can only take stabs in the dark at guessing what you have.

I will tell you this- Having children, I have researched a lot about vaccines.
I can tell you that just because your vaccinated against something, doesn't mean you won't get it.

Think of it kind of like birth control. Birth control is not guaranteed to be 100% effective, correct?

Neither are vaccines. Chances are, the person vaccinated will be protected. However, there is a chance that the vaccine didn't properly "take."
It happens sometimes.

Safest bet? Visit your doctor to be certain. Whooping Cough is highly contagious. It can take up to 10 weeks to recover. If have it and go around small children, especially those too young to be vaccinated, the risk of transmitting it to them is very dangerous. Whooping cough can cause an infant to stop breathing, and even lead to death.

I just want to stress how VERY important it is that you get checked out. It is a highly contagious disease you don't want to spread.

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Okay so I finally went to the hospital last night and the doctors told me I had "Sinusitis" today I went into the bathroom and I must of spit out like 4 mouthfuls of yellowish, bloody, greenish mucus. However.. I coughed up something weird...and it didn't look normal so I poked it (sorry to be disgusting...) and it felt like it was a peice of skin!!! Omg.. It was hard and omg it was gross and Ugh.. I don't know what the heck it was or what to do :(

Ok, well first and foremost, something like this warrants a call to your doctor for information.

Having suffered the misery of sinusitis, most likely it was a glob of infection/mucus. Once you start on the antibiotics, all of the infection in your sinuses drain down your throat, causing you to cough up some pretty raunchy things.

It can also make you vomit. What happens is that when the infection drains into your stomach, your stomach rejects it, causing severe nausea and vomiting. When I dealt with that, I couldn't even keep down water.

Don't be alarmed by it unless you can't keep water down for 24 hours. If that does happen, call your doctor right away. Most likely you need to go back to the hospital so they can give you some IV fluid to keep you hydrated. Your doctor will inform you of what to do.

Not meaning to scare you with that last bit, but I want to be sure you are informed.

Get to feeling better soon!

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Ok, here gos.
My Bestfriend "Jess" go dumped by her boyfriend "Frank"... for his Ex girlfriend... like a month ago or something.

"Jess" still really likes him. She talks about him all the time!

When they were going out, he was tellin me things like: "I really like you!" and "If I wasnt going out with 'jess' I'd totally go out with you."

I didn't even like him then...
But I really like him now!

But i know if i go out with him, "Jes" will get really angry.

what to do?

P.S: Sorry this is so long!

I'd say bypass on this guy.

FIRST. Your best friend still has feelings for him. You'd hurt her A LOT if you pursued this guy. Dating a friend's ex is a touchy thing in it's own, but when they still harbor feelings for that ex, you're dangerously flirting with being disrespectful.

SECOND. He's obviously a jerk who you really don't want to keep company with. Think about it. While he was dating your best friend, he kept saying "If it wasn't for her, I'd be with you."
That, my dear, is a jerk.

This leads me to give you a question to ask yourself: Would you want your boyfriend saying that to another girl?

If you go out with this guy, not only will you do potentially serious damage to your friendship with your best friend, but he will likely say those things to other girls behind YOUR back. If he's willing to talk that way behind your back, what else is he willing to do?

Come on. Both you and your friend deserve a guy FAR better than that.

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well when i was in highschool i remember just being able to stay for days on a go without sleep... i used to be able to manage school homework activities etc and still felt i wasn't bz enough... now i am in college (my fourth year!) and i seem to be getting worse. it started in freshman year where i couldn't go on without sleep. and i couldn't do half as much work and my grades started to plummet and i am not as productive!!! its gotten so bad that i would just ignore everything and type up a paper (that is soooo horrible!) 2 hours before its due... i can't focus and i feel tiered and as though i can't think or my brain is not working! i thought it was just the change and my mental state.... but now i am beginning to think there is something physically wrong with me :s any suggestions ? or am i just lazy/crazy?

Getting a good night's sleep is a necessary thing. When you're younger, you seem like you don't need that rest. You can go on just fine without it.
The older you get, the less you are able to do that. Eventually, if you don't get sleep, you drift like a cloud through the day, barely able to function.

You're not crazy. You're brain and body craves much needed sleep.

I know you're busy with school, but you need to make time for the rest you need. You'll be FAR more productive in your days.

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I just recently started dating my boyfriend. I've known him since we were younger because we went to school together. Throughout high school we never really hung out with the same people so i wasn't around him that much. He's been in the army for almost a year now and when he was just home on leave we started dating. Even though we were only hanging out for a week, we really noticed how much we like eachother. Do you think i'm wasting my time in this relationship since i can't see him that much and we didn't have a chance to get that serious with eachother?

I care about him a lot and i would really like the relationship to work out but i could use someone else's advice. thank you.

I don't see why this relationship wouldn't work. If you care enough about one another, you can make it work.
You won't see him much, sure. But think about how great the times you can spend together will be.

But it all boils down to this:
Is he worth waiting for, and are you willing to wait for him?
A guy worth waiting for is a guy worth having in your life.


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My best friend and I are fighting over a boy in school. My friend and him are kind of popular and I am not. I really want to have him as my boyfriend but I don't think he likes me. Should I let my friend have the boy? Or if I have a chance, should I do everything I can to make him like me. But if I get but if I get the boy do you think my friend will be friends with me?

I agree fully with venom- a boy is NOT worth the risk of losing a friend.

Just let him go. He's not worth it at all.


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Ok, SO I have had an ongoing saga with my ex. We have 3 kids 8, 10, and 12. The new wife is very sexually verbally innapropriate with the kids and is very controlling and abusive to their father. THey have been together for 3 years. His family belives she beats him and will kill him if he leaves one day. She has been convicted of Felony child endangering, identity fraud, robbery, passing bad checks, and the list goes on. Shoplifting is her favorite. She also has personality disorder. Her therapist dropped her. She openly discusses how good her sex life is with their dad, jokes about rape, and Talks about giving their father blow jobs and how well she does it. He is not allowed to see his kids if he does, he has to lie and meet them at a secret location. WHEW!! Here is the problem. The bitch and the ass are taking me to court!! They (she) wants visitation. ALOT!! THey told the court I was witholding visitation because of back child support LIE!!! He AGREED that their home is not a good environment for the kids. They also want to lower child support, I make 8,000, he makes 27,000. They also want to drop medical coverage, I have a very ill son and no medical. They are 2,677 behind on child support.And demand to claim the kids on taxes and leave me nothing!!I have done nothing for them to do all of this to us. She is controlling and his entire family feels she will kill him or become rely jealous of my kids and kill them!! How do you think court will go? Help!!

As long as the court is aware of her behavior, they WILL NOT make a choice that will put your children in a potentially harmful situation. If they do, I'd certainly talk to your lawyer about requesting a new judge and appealing that decision.

Visitation? I'd offer supervised AT MOST. Offer supervised visitation with a Child Services representative overseeing. He won't have to lie to see his kids. They won't be put in harm's way, or be exposed to inappropriate behavior.

Support? If it gets them off your back, let them drop medical. Try to apply for a medical card. I assume you are now a single mother, so your kids should be eligible for state medical coverage.

If it gets them off your back, let them lower the monetary support. Trust me, I know how much you need the money. However, sometimes that money just isn't worth it. Even if you have to scratch and scrape to get by.

As for the taxes?
Here's what you do.
When you have YOUR taxes done, CLAIM YOUR KIDS. Be sure to have the tax accountant send along a letter to the IRS stating what's going on.

Believe me, the IRS will notice your children's social security numbers have been claimed twice, and they WILL audit. They will not pay twice for the same kids!

They will investigate and require both of you to provide proof that the kids live with you as dependents.

In fact, have the tax accountant send that proof along with the letter with your taxes. The tax accountant should know what proof you need to make copy of and send.

Best of luck to you, and I hope your court goes as it SHOULD.

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well does this sound like depression? im going to get checked by a doctor but im just wondering. and i thought i had depression last winter..i dont think it ever really went away..

i just CANT get myself motivated
im easily distracted and cant stay focused
im very easily upset and always have anger building up inside me
i hate myself
i dont feel good enough and dont have much of a self worth
i feel like i cant change and cant get better even though i really really want to
and i feel like im in this circle of not being motivated so i dont do anything and then get even more mad at myself when i dissapoint everyone(mostly my parents) by not doing whatever i was supposed to do. cutting feels like the little thing that can break that cycle. i had stopped for a while now but tonight i just finally cut again because i want to break this cycle! i want to stop hating myself and dissapointing my parents. please help! and im going to see a counselor very soon so yea i already kno i need to do that

but at other times (mainly when im with my friends or talking to them) im happy and upbeat and talkative and outgoing but when im not with my friends i feel like like just really really sucks and i fight with my family all the time for no reason and the smallest thing sets me off. if you have any tips or advice or personal stories or ANYTHING please help me!!!

Going to your doctor is the wise thing. Good for you for making that choice.

Yes, it does sound like it could be depression. I've felt those things, too, and also had to go to my doctor in order to get the help ball rolling.

However, when you go to your doctor, you need to talk about cutting yourself. Self mutilation is NEVER the way to break the cycle. There are other healthier ways to do that.

Think about it. What IS self harm? Is it not a form of self punishment? Seems to me that it is. Perhaps, though you may not admit it even to yourself, you feel better by cutting yourself because you feel you need to punish yourself for some odd reason? You don't need to at all.

I'm not a professional at all. I don't want to give that impression. I'm just throwing my thoughts out in the wind.

I will tell you that taking the steps to visit your doctor is taking steps towards that light at the end of your tunnel. Even if you have to seek psychiatric help to get past your cutting issues, grab for that chance.

You deserve far better than to feel the way you do. You deserve far better than hurting yourself.

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I am a 15 year old guy and I have been friends with a girl for about two years now. I have always liked her and she has always liked me. We recently started getting closer to eachother. We have even been kissing and stuff like that. I think that I might love her. But, now that we have started school again, she has been telling me that she likes this other guy. I have known this guy ever since I was in the sixth grade. I know he likes her as well. So naturally I care about his feelings and I would feel bad if this girl and I started dating. Should I just let him have her and try to find someone as good as she is (Which probably won't happen), or should I just ask her out and not care about the other guy? I really like this girl and I just kind of feel like she might like him more than she likes me. What should I do?

Here's my suggestion:
Tell her you know that the other guy likes her.
Tell her you like her as well.
Let HER make that choice. Because it is hers to make, as long as she's aware of her options.

Be sure that you discuss your friendship. It doesn't always happen, but often times, dating friends is not a good idea.
1- Nasty break-up? Bye-bye friendship.
2- Decide better off as friends? One of you may be still ga-ga over the other, and jealous over every person the other dates. That puts a wrinkle in your friendship.

So be sure that you both go talk about the pros and cons together before you decide to date one another.
But let the choice be hers, ok? She's got a mind to make such decisions with. ;-)

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17, ENGLAND

I am a Travel & Tourism student in college, and I have been set an assignment on promotional materials.

The assignment is to choose a Kent attraction and find out as much as possible about it and the way the organisation markets itself.

I am having a really hard time understanding the questions..

I chose Hever castle.

I need to investigate:

- What products and services this organisation sells.

- What type of promotions do they use and why they are appropriate?

- How do they meet their customers needs?

I am having a really hard time with this, can anybody explain the questions and give me ideas on what to write about for each of them?

Well, here is a link to their site:
http://www.hevercastle.co.uk/

Across the top of that page, research all of the links. "Things to do" "Weddings/Celebrations" "Corporate Hospitality" etc.

What do the sell?
It's a historic site. Tourism! Services would be all of the activities one could take part in, or they also appear to give people the option to plan their weddings there.
So that sort of information is what you'd probably want to research and use to answer that question.

Promotions?
That entire site is promotion. I would say you should research the site. Each promotion they have is to show tourists what fun and exciting things they have to offer.

Meeting customer needs?
All of the sites and attractions they have to offer, of course. Researching the different things they have to offer for the enjoyment of all of their customers would likely be the suitable answer for this.
Also, you can do more research for this one by searching Google for "Hever Castle customer reviews"
That will give you the customer's perspective and experience with the place.

Hope that was helpful to you!

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I need something that will be a good quote for my aim profile, you know how people have amazing quotes in the aim profile? this is the one i currently have in mine, but i want mine about school starting and summer ending etc.

"you realize that no matter how much you care about someone
they don't always care back, and that letting go of something
isn't that hard, it's what you leave behind that's the hard part.
you realize that you can't make someone love you, and you'd be
better off not falling in love in the first place."


please help :) i want it to be original but i cant think of anything!

Ok, I don't know if this is what you're looking for, but I'll share with you my Myspace quote:

Live your life in such a way that when your feet hit the floor in the morning, Satan shudders and says, "Oh crap! She's awake!"


I don't know who wrote it, but it caught my eye when I saw it. ;-)

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One of my best friends has recently been diagnosed with chlamydia and she is very scared that something will go wrong with her baby because she is 5 months pregnant and has this STD. I know because of the STD she had to see her OB/GYN a lot more frequently. This is her first baby and she's only 16 in 10th grade.

Anyway, she is really afraid to tell her boyfriend that he gave her chlamydia because he promised to her that he was clean and had been tested recently. She lost her virginity to him the night they met, he was openly not a virgin then. Honestly, I'm convinced that the only reason they are really together is because he got her pregnant the first night they met and he feels bad about it because she's scared. I know she's also secretly afraid that when she confronts him about the STD transmission that he is going to leave her and the baby, but she has told me many times that she knows the right thing to do is to tell him.

She's going through a lot. She's still a teenager and is pregnant with her first baby. She's still trying to attend high school so she can graduate next year but also is holding down a part-time job. She lost her virginity only 5 months ago to a guy she met when she was drinking. Before that night, she had been wanting to save her virginity for when she actually got married. I understand that she's in quite a predicament now and is probably feeling very scared. I'm trying to be there for her.

How do I convince my friend to tell her boyfriend now, and how should she go about confronting him that he has given her an STD (chlamydia in particular)? I really think the only reason she hasn't confronted him yet is in fear he will leave. What can I say to encourage and support her in telling him about the STD she contracted from him?

Well, you know that she definitely needs to tell him right away.

Think about it:
He got it from someone. She (the one he got it from) may have passed it to 3 people, who in turn may have passed it to 9 people, who may have in turn passed it to Lord knows how many people.
So I must stress how VERY important it is that she tell him immediately.

Being a mother, myself, I can tell you that she must see her main priority in her life now is that child. Not him. Not worries over him leaving. Harsh, but true.
I know she doesn't want him to leave, but if he isn't man enough to be COMPLETELY responsible, he isn't man enough to be with her.

If he is willing to walk away from the woman-child carrying his child over an STD he gave her, then he's not worth having in her life. If he is willing to walk away for that reason, he can't be trusted to be a stable part of her life. She NEEDS stability. Her child NEEDS and DESERVES stability.

She can grant stability to her child and herself without his help. She doesn't NEED him.

How can she go about telling him?
Here's an idea.
Have him attend her next OB appointment. I mean, really. These appointments are not only for her well being, but for the well being of HIS CHILD. My husband took part in every aspect of my pregnancies. Why? They are his children.

So. That being said, have the OB discuss the issue with both of them. OB has the proof on paper- the lab sheet is right there in your friend's medical chart.
Tell her to call her OB prior, and notify them that this is the plan. Let OB tell him. Your friend has more than enough on her plate. OB will be more than willing to ease her of that much.

He can either accept it and continue to be a part of her life, or he can walk away. If he opts for the latter, then good riddance, in all honesty. (And I mean that! The guy LIED to her, saying he was tested and clean...)

Either way, he needs to be treated. He needs to know. He has the RIGHT to know.

You are a good friend. She's lucky to have you.
Keep on being there for her. She's going to need you and your support.

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This is how mybelly button piercings been doing:

Day 1-2: Red, tender, top is crusted
Day 3-5: Top still crusted, no longer tender, pus comes out
Day 6: Top crust comes off so it looks kinda healed becuase its smooth
Day 7-8: Still puses and occasionally crusts, but crust falls off real easily
Day 9-10: REDDER. I though that it had been getting much better, but turns out, it got worse? I think... Im worried
I also think it'll be rejected because it looks like its migrating.

I dont know what to do! I dont want it to migrate out. Also, what can I do to make it NOT red?

You need to go to the professional who did the piercing for the best advice.

**EDIT**

Then why would I answer, you ask?

Having had MULTIPLE body piercings, I know for FACT that talking to the professional is the intelligent thing to do.
Having an infected piercing is something that needs to be looked at with knowledgeable eyes, not diagnosed by faceless internet strangers who may think they know the answer.
Infection can be DANGEROUS.

THAT is exactly why I would answer.

So GO TO THE PROFESSIONAL.

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so i have a family plan for verizon. i used to have texting but i went over my limit and my parents took it away. i have a job now and i would be able to pay for unlimited texting, so i want texting back. the problem is, if i change my plan to get texting back, will i have to extend my contract?
THANKS IN ADVANCE.

I don't have Verizon, so please forgive if this isn't entirely accurate...
From my experience with cell phones, changing your plan has nothing to do with your contract.
Your contract means you will pay for your service for X amount of time. You should be able to add, or change your plan without it having any bearing on your contract.


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i would like a list of old songs (love, sweet)

for example i have; fast car, keep on loving you, waiting for a girl like you...

anymore? thank you. astist and titles!

Me and Bobby McGee- Janis Joplin
I Wanna Know What Love Is- Foreigner
Will You Still Love Me- Chicago
You're The Inspiration- Chicago (They do a lot of them)
Honestly- Stryper
We Belong- Pat Benatar
Lady- The Little River Band
I'll Have To Say I Love You In a Song- Jim Croce
Silver Springs- Fleetwood Mac
All Through The Night- Cyndi Lauper
Heaven- Bryan Adams
Helplessly Hoping- Crosby, Stills, and Nash
Amanda- Boston
The Longest Time- Billy Joel

Hope one of those is something you like. :-)

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is 19 grams a lot of weed?

Sorry, but this isn't an illegal drug expert site.

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How can u get Weed out of your system fast?

Stop smoking it?
That's the only certain way.

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helllo:D
i have no extra curricular activities to my name! i'm not much of a team player, so sports are out of the question! i also dont really like anything they have to offer. So is there anything i can do that will be useful to put on my resume? also, do extra curricular activities have to be in school? can stuff like amrtial arts be "extra curricular" if i dont do them at school? thanks?:)

If you are into art, is there any artistic activity in your school? If not, perhaps you can try to see to it that one becomes available to the students.

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**EDIT**
I apologize. I misread that you meant martial arts. :-(

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so recently i started getting high and i'm normally a pretty shy person. i mean i'm like loud around my friends and stuff but like new people i meet and stuff it's harder for me. but i was at a party last night and i met this kid and i guess i came off as a little bitchy at first and like quiet but then i smoked and he was like wow you're so much more fun when you're high and so basically it like makes me into the person i want to be.. like more fun and loud and stuff. like that's the personality i want. i'm like scared i'm gonna get addicted to smoking because i want that personality so bad. what should i do?

Wow.
Is that desire REALLY worth going to jail over?
No.
Leaning to drugs to change something about your life is FAR BE IT from smart.
Instead of that, why not try to work on your self confidence?
Anyone who says how much more fun you are when you're high is an idiot, sorry to say.

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