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The bastard is taking me to court!!
Ok, SO I have had an ongoing saga with my ex. We have 3 kids 8, 10, and 12. The new wife is very sexually verbally innapropriate with the kids and is very controlling and abusive to their father. THey have been together for 3 years. His family belives she beats him and will kill him if he leaves one day. She has been convicted of Felony child endangering, identity fraud, robbery, passing bad checks, and the list goes on. Shoplifting is her favorite. She also has personality disorder. Her therapist dropped her. She openly discusses how good her sex life is with their dad, jokes about rape, and Talks about giving their father blow jobs and how well she does it. He is not allowed to see his kids if he does, he has to lie and meet them at a secret location. WHEW!! Here is the problem. The bitch and the ass are taking me to court!! They (she) wants visitation. ALOT!! THey told the court I was witholding visitation because of back child support LIE!!! He AGREED that their home is not a good environment for the kids. They also want to lower child support, I make 8,000, he makes 27,000. They also want to drop medical coverage, I have a very ill son and no medical. They are 2,677 behind on child support.And demand to claim the kids on taxes and leave me nothing!!I have done nothing for them to do all of this to us. She is controlling and his entire family feels she will kill him or become rely jealous of my kids and kill them!! How do you think court will go? Help!!
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I don't think you have anything to worry about at all. I just want to offer a bit of advice to add on to what has already been said. You obviously don't like this woman and I certainly don't blame you. Just make sure that you are respectful during court and try not to show your dislike outwardly. Just stick to the facts and try not to get too mad. I'm pretty sure you will be fine doing this, I'm just giving a gentle reminder since you refer to the both of them so negatively and in less than appropriate language throughout your question. Even if you are in the right, which you are, a judge won't like it if you get too frazzled. Again though, you have nothing to worry about. Good luck, even though you probably won't even need it! :)
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As long as the court is aware of her behavior, they WILL NOT make a choice that will put your children in a potentially harmful situation. If they do, I'd certainly talk to your lawyer about requesting a new judge and appealing that decision.
Visitation? I'd offer supervised AT MOST. Offer supervised visitation with a Child Services representative overseeing. He won't have to lie to see his kids. They won't be put in harm's way, or be exposed to inappropriate behavior.
Support? If it gets them off your back, let them drop medical. Try to apply for a medical card. I assume you are now a single mother, so your kids should be eligible for state medical coverage.
If it gets them off your back, let them lower the monetary support. Trust me, I know how much you need the money. However, sometimes that money just isn't worth it. Even if you have to scratch and scrape to get by.
As for the taxes?
Here's what you do.
When you have YOUR taxes done, CLAIM YOUR KIDS. Be sure to have the tax accountant send along a letter to the IRS stating what's going on.
Believe me, the IRS will notice your children's social security numbers have been claimed twice, and they WILL audit. They will not pay twice for the same kids!
They will investigate and require both of you to provide proof that the kids live with you as dependents.
In fact, have the tax accountant send that proof along with the letter with your taxes. The tax accountant should know what proof you need to make copy of and send.
Best of luck to you, and I hope your court goes as it SHOULD.
ygs-30/f
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