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I was waiting in the hallway with the other jazz band people to start our sectional class. We have to wait like an hour, so we sit there and drink the free sodas we get from the teachers who feel bad for us and listen to music. So this one guy was looking through my friends phone, and came across a name with over 200 texts messages sent to it; and this name with over 200 texts messages to it happened to be a huge crush of mine. The person who had been looking through my phone annouced that my friend sent a lot of text messages to this guy, and we were all laughing and I was saying "ooooooooh!!" . But then my friend pointed at me and said loudly "You have a crush on him!!" and then I think it got quieter. Then I started babbling, saying I didn't have a crush on him, and I could feel my face turning bright red. I was fully aware that the hallway was full of my crushes friends. After that the conversation shifted, and I realized how hurt I was. That friend, who blurted out my crush, is my best friend and we tell everyything to each other. And we pinky swear (or pointer swear, because my pinky hasn't bent right since band camp) that we'll never tell anyone about anything we want to keep private, like our crushes. And she completly broke our promise! We both tried pretending it never happened after that. But a half hour later, when I was getting up to go to my sectional, she pulled me over and said "I didn't mean what I said", and I got up and responded, without looking at her, "You still said it". She then called after me "And then the drama begins!" After my rehearsal, as I was packing up, she waved and playfully bumped into me, but i just ignored her. When I got in the car I saw that she had sent a text soon after she blurted out that crush apologizing. I responded with a long text explaining that it matter whether she meant it or not, what mattered is that she said it in a room full of his friends. I then told her she needed to fix her mistake, so she said she would convince my crushes friends that I didn't like him.
Should I trust that she will follow through?
How do I forgive her?
How do I see my crush tommorow in homeroom?
Should i start being more careful around my crush?

I do think that you should trust her you can't hold a grudge aganist her forever you've got to forgive her at some point everybody makes mistakes what she said was a mistake she isn't perfect and neither are you if she said she didn't mean what she said then you should believe her you should forgive her when she follows through with what she said she was going to do then you'll know you'll be able to trust her again i don't think you should see your crush seeing as you were saying you didn't like him and if your near him then others might get suspicious and start to assume that you actually do like him then they'd know you were lieing so yes you should try & be careful around him

Okay, so recently to sum my story up short, My Boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5years. In the past I have caught him maybe 2yrs ago lying about girls he had slept with and he put it all out on the table who and what he lied about. 2 years later here we are he lied to me again saying he was going to sleep Friday night because he had to "work" saturday morning an I didn't trust him at all because his whole story about working had been changing, because he lives out of town also! He just recently moved away as well, so he said basically he couldn't come into town because he had to work. I trusted that he said he had to work even though things were sketchy! SO I called his friend later that night he picked up the phone an hungup an I heard music playing , eventually he called an chewed me out saying he was sleeping an stop calling him. I just so happened to check his account and see he was lying and at a nude bar? I kept thinking why would he lie, I caughthim an drove all the way to south carolina to fix things with him NOTE:i didnt do anything wrong, I think any female would have done the same an checked up on their bf of 5 YEARS. So he is wanting to break up because I went on his online banking and he foundout tuesday I tried logging in again and he changed his password so I couldn't go on an I assumed maybe he was hiding stuff and questioned him about it? I wrote him a long email saying if he wanted closure I will give it to him an called him that night to talk, this time he wasnt yelling at me on the phone he listened an just commented saying I dont trust him an never did, an that's why he did it an tried to get away with it because he knew I wouldn't approve of him going out like he did. Well needless to say we ended the convo on good terms he said he would call me and hasn't called yet, it's been about a day now! SO I want to know am I wrong? What can I do to fix it? I told him I would go to counseling to do whatever it took to make it work an would trust him but at the same time he has to gain that back from me? I don't know what more to do I have talked to al kinds of people at work, managers everything and have no clue what to do?? ANY advice would be appreciated , Thank you SO much!

I would wait and see if he calls you seeing as he said he would if he does then that's one step closer for you trusting him no i don't think your wrong you would of been wrong if you didn't have proof and evidence and you accused him of doing something wrong but you've got all that i give you credit for driving to North Carolina the best way you could fix it would be like you said go to counseling or a therapist one that specializes in relationships it isn't healthy for a person to keep what their feeling to themselves it's better to get it all out in the open without trust in a relationship it won't get very far and will most likely end if he doesn't call you back and it becomes more then one day then you call him but for now wait give him the benefit of doubt he could be busy keep yourself busy so you aren't constantly thinking about it and making yourself
more stressed out then you already are if he does
call you then tell him that he's got to earn your trust back and that it isn't going to be easy to gain it back again maybe that will make him think twice about lieing and sneaking around and will make his bad behavior change and it will put a end to it for both of your sakes(:

Is it bad to feel lonely. I just lost a few of my freinds, (backstabbing) and i feel like everyone just gangs up on me and treats me like I'm absolutely nothing. I'm just depressed. I dont't know. What should I do?

No it's not bad to feel lonely it happens to some of us and is apart of life the friends that you lost weren't meant to be in your life if they were backstabbers you don't need people who are you going to hurt you and bring you down..try and think positively if you think negatively then the situation won't get better & you won't be making yourself feel better either you could try telling whoever gangs up on you how..you feel they won't know unless you tell them tell someone you trust how you feel it's not healthy to keep what your feeling to yourself it's better to get it out in the
open there are plenty of other people out there so i'm sure you'll make new different friendships(:

Im almost 19 years old. I started going out with my highschool sweetheart 2 and a half years ago. She left me a few days ago, saying that she needed a break from everything. Ive asked if this is forever, or if she ever wants to get back with me and she says she doesnt know.

Weve been saying how we wanted to get married once I was done with college. We both moved to a new town 2 hours away from our hometown about 4 months ago, I moved there because she wanted to move there. Neither of us have any friends here. I dropped out of college here (I plan on going somewhere else) and I havent gotten a job yet. She has a job. She is literally the only thing I have in this town, and my lease isnt up for another 8 months. We both want to move back to our hometown.

Anyways, she left me! She broke up with me 6 times in the past 2 months, she took me back right away except for the last time. She also just started hanging out with an old friend (a guy). She is not attracted to him at all, she says she only hung out with him to make me upset, and she doesnt want to hang out with him again. Why would she want to make me more upset if shes the one who left me? She says she still loves and cares about me, and wants to stay my best friend. But she wants zero contact for awhile.

The night after she hung out with this guy for the first time, she called me and told me what happened and was crying and said she regretted it. She asked me to pick her up (it was 1am) She said that she just wanted a break from me, but for sure wanted to get back with me someday. She then started kissing me and we talked all night, and she slept in my arms. I took her home in the morning. After that, she said that night only happened how it did because she was upset and tired. Also, when she broke up with me a few times ago, when she was taking me back and crying, she told me to never give up on her, that shes just really emotional because she hates living in this town and her job and everything.

Last night we saw each other, and we ignored the fact we broke up. We were talking and laughing, and we even held hands (we were driving back to our hometown). I felt alot better, but when we went back home, and I asked her how she felt about me, she said she still doesnt know and needs to take a break, and doesnt know if shell ever want me back. So now, were trying not to talk or see each other at all. Im so confused, and I dont know what to do! Also, im stuck in this town with no one and nothing! Shes all I had here. Any help, on anything? Thanks

It sounds like she's confused about what she truely wants seeing as what she tells you keeps changing one minute she wants a break from you and the next she's calling you up and crying telling you she regretted it if she truely regretted it she'd try and make things better instead of telling you she needs a break i think once your lease is fully up you should move back to your hometown and go to college there she needs to make up her mind and decide whether or not she wants to be with you or not you've got your own life to live and you can't be waiting around for her to make up her mind while your still in that town you could try searching for a job it seems like she's the one who's giving up on you your the one who's trying to keep the two of you together her saying that she doesn't know if she'll ever want you back again sounds like she's unsure and the two of you won't get back together again unless she changes her mind you should probably move on because you can't be wondering if something is going to happen that might not

All these blank walls are bothering me in my room. What are some unique ways for a 14 year old to get them less boring??

You could paint them a color of your choice if your parents will allow it or put pictures up of you and
your friends draw a picture and put it there posters
of a celebrity you like those are some suggestions be creative i'm sure you'll think of something(: You
could ask your friends for suggestions too!

I have a really hard time keeping focused when I'm doing homework...I always end up on the computer doing whatever and then I'm cramming in homework late at night. Any method to keep focused??

Do your homework in a place where there's less
distractions a room where there isn't the computer
or anything elese that would cause you to become less focused if you want to go onto the computer do
it before you start your homework that way you won't
be tempted to go on it just think if you don't do your work your grades will start to go down and you
won't get full credit for the work that should be enough motivation(:

okay boyfriend trouble. i've been dating this guy for about a month now and im a little confused. i can tell he has very strong feelings for me and he knows i have strong feelings for him too. but he hasn't said i love you yet.. i don't get it. i mean all my ex's had said it way earlier than a month. he's almost said it like 3 times but i have this wierd feeling telling me he's afraid to say it cause he doesn't know what my reaction will be. i know im intimidating at times but i try to soften my expression whenever im with him. what can i do to make him not scared to say it? without losing my way of spitting game and without saying it first. any advice would be grand:) thank ya.

Not all the boys are the same they are all different just because your last boyfriends said i love you early doesn't exactly mean that your current one will give him time i'm sure once he's ready to say it he will i wouldn't rush him because if you do then he'll probably feel pressured & rushed then it will take him longer to say it your
best option is to wait & if he doesn't say anything
then casually bring it up(:

Been married 22 years in 2 weeks.Husband served in military for 23 years became disabled while serving in military. i have never been thin probably gained 15 pounds since marrying. Have 2 grown children problem is this when we have an argument he always goes there. He says I would have thought by now you might have lost weight but all you are is fat. I dont know if he says it out of anger or really means it. All I know is it really hurts. I would love to lose weight but somewhere I lost who I really am. Can someone help me

People say things they don't mean i don't think he meant what he said i'm sure he loves you and thinks your beautiful you've got to be motivated to loose weight eat healthy and exercise believe in yourself
it isn't going to be easy to loose it but if you work hard enough i'm sure you'll be able to do it
he's got to realize that you gained weight since you
married him you should sit him down and tell
him how you feel otherwise he won't know what he told you..really hurt you try and get the situation straightened out he probably said it out of
anger or the words slipped out your best option is to talk to him and express how you feel it's not healthy to keep what your feeling to yourself get it all out in the open you'll feel better afterwards(:

My 9-month-old doberman puppy past away on thursday, the 28th. He was our first puppy together, my husband and i. Its been so hard dealing with the pain & the loss, he was my beautiful baby boy. The breeder offered to give us another dobe for free but we're not quite ready for another just yet. I cant stop thinking about him, i want to cry every second of the day.

Is there anyone here thats dealt with losing a beloved pet before? How can I make this easier on myself...Anything helpful comments will be appreciated. Thanks.

Think of all the good times you've had with him and
how when he was alive you took good care of him & gave him everything he needed focus on the positive
and try your hardest to not think about all the negative i know it's tough but you won't make the situation better or yourself my family had a doberman pass away in the past she needed a surgery
that we couldn't afford sadly it's alright to mourn
and cry there's nothing wrong with that if you feel the need to cry then do it don't hold it in(:

I'm sorry for your loss

My name is christina. I'm seventeen. so this guy and i liked each other...he is known to be a trouble maker.he is just bad. He acts pretty much shy when it comes to girls. We have liked each other for a while now. We go to the same school. He was acting way too shy to me, all he would ever do really is smile and hug. I was the one doing all the talking so i decided to back off and not talk to him for a while. This bugged him and he ended up constantly calling and bugging to see if i still liked him. I ended up telling him yeah after a whole week of ignoring. He has become really close to my best guy friend. I asked my best guy friend what he thinks about him and i, and he said he thinks that he is just after one thing. It really hut me because somewhat deep down i knew that it was true. Everytime we talked he always seemed to talk nasty, and he had such a curiousity of wether or not i was a virgin. He had also said that he had heard that i like to mess with guys' minds. And i denied it. I do talk to some guys, but they are just friends. After realizing that this guy was after only one thing, i decided that it was payback time. so i told him that i have to come clean with him because i don't want to keep making him think something that is not true....i do mess with people's minds. He then told me that he felt the same way that i did. Later on my best guy friend called me, they were both at a party, and i heard the guy i like in the background saying....F#@** you Christina...twice....i was mad so i told my best guy friend to put him on the phone. I asked him why he was talking shiz about me...and he was denying it saying he was talking to some other girl...i told him that if he wanted to say any kind of shiz to me he should just say it to my face....and he said he had heard i was talking smack on him.....this is pretty much the story But i want to know what you guys think....i know i was being rude, but i had to

I don't think you were being rude if you ask me he got what he deserved it was coming to him karma what comes around goes around there was no need for him to say what he did about you in the background it's even worst that he denied what he said and lied you have every right to be mad you shouldn't be feeling gulity like you did something wrong seeing as you had to be rude to defend yourself since he was saying things about you(:

kso, i like a boy in my class, but he has a girlfriend who goes to a different school. they seem pretty close. i like him more and more each day, but since he has a girlfriend i dont know if i should just keep liking him, or move on.
sometimes he barely notices me also, like.. he always knows im there, but doesnt talk to me to much

Well i think you should move on you can't make him
like you if he doesn't plus he has a girlfriend already there isn't much you can do the one thing you don't want to do is get in between him & his girlfriend there's plenty of other boys out there who are single you've just got to find them or wait
and let them come to you just move on i think your wasting time liking the boy when he already has someone(:

Okay I currently have a boyfriend. Juts to make that clear. Last night I hung out wit one of my guy friends josh till like really late, n I ended up passign out on his bed and I woke up wrapped in my own blanket up wit him passed out 2.he woke up and grabbed some of the covers and right then his sister walked in. His sister goes to my school and everyone in the house assumes that we did something but nothing happened at all, I just fell asleep. I feel really guilty that I stayed the night considering I do have a boyfriend and I know he would be pissed if he found out. Did I do something wrong and should I feel guilty. It was like 4 in the morning when I passed out and I left at 8. I know I should have left but since nothing happened and we really stayed away from each other until he needed covers did I do something wrong and should I feel as guilty as I do

I don't think you should feel gulity or feel like you did something wrong seeing as you didn't do anything with him you just slept and were tired it
was 4 in the morning it's not like you could of left but you could if you wanted too..you'd have a
reason to worry if you did something with him that
you weren't suppose too but you just slept if you know that nothing happened between you two then i
wouldn't listen to what the family thinks because only you know the truth and his sister just walked
in & saw what she saw she doesn't know the truth like you do(:

okay, soo i'm 15 years old and i've never had a boyfriend before.. I find being my age and never having a boyfriend is kind of lame. haha.
I've always been really shy, so talking to guys is something i've never really been able to do.
All my friends have had boyfriends but they're all not shy. i've always been shy so coming out of my shell is hard, the only time guys really talk to me is to get the answers on a worksheet, or to ask me for a pencil! anyways, I like this guy but I have no idea what to do to get him to like me too. I don't have any classes with him anymore but I do see him in the hallways sometimes. when we did have a class together he was always really nice to me, he would notice everything about me like if I got a new pair of jeans or other little things and he would always TRY to talk to me but I was too shy to hold a conversation with him.
WHAT DO I DO?!
what are some ways I can get guys to notice me? I don't want to get of highschool and have no experience with guys.
How can I come out of my shell at school?
I neeeed help :(

You've got to be confident and believe in yourself some boys are into girls who are confident but not all are if your confident you
won't feel as shy you can't let your nerves get the best of you otherwise you'll have low self esteem take a few deep breaths before to calm yourself down you could practice what you want to say before you do speak that way you'll know exactly what to say when you do start a conversation try and be positive thinking negative
will make the situation worst and you'll make yourself feel worst too(:

i love photography and im lost without my camera. for the past few months it dies within ten min even if i charge it all night. but i dont really know if it is the battery or the camera itself. how can i find out? i dont have the money to do anything expensive for it so its kind of depressing. maybe buy a new battery but what if its not even the battery..? any help

I think it's the battery you could try doing research about the camera online and see if other people have had the same problem as you or if you've still got the manual that came with the camera you could read that and see if it gives you the information you need or try getting the companies phone number and contacting them or going onto their offical website those would be your best options recently a similar situation happened to me i had a video game system that wouldn't charge & it turned out to be that the battery was shot i ended up buying a new battery & charger(:

My boobs. :( They are UNEVEN! is there any way to even them out? or make them look less lop-sided?

Are uneven boobs normal or is this something that means I am deformed in some kinda way?

No you aren't deformed it's normal every girls body
is different if it's making you feel uncomfortable then go visit your doctor they'll probably be able to help you and give you a better explaination you could get another bra with more support and see if that helps if it doesn't then it would probably be best if you visited your doctor(:

Judo season is coming up and I was wondering if I should join. I'm really interested and very determined to join it but my parents disagree to whether or not I should join. My mom really wants me to join because she wants me to learn self-defense and her co-worker's daughter is in it. But then, my dad doesn't really want me to join because the we have practice three times a week and I don't think he wants to drive back to my school just to pick me up (we live far away). Also, I severly injured my left knee two years ago. I tore the ACL cord in my left leg and it's currently been rather sensitive lately. So do you think I should join? I really need to decide right now because practice starts next week. HELP PLEASE! >

Even though it would be a good experience for you i don't think you should join seeing as you live far away and your father would be driving plus your knee you could possiblity injury it again which would cause you to not be involved and you'd have to take time off and wait until it healed martial arts is a very physical sport ultimately it's your decision whether or not you should join do what makes you happy that's the main thing that counts(:

Hope i helped

im around smokeing of pot, cigarettes and everything a bit and latley i really want to do it. no ones making me in fact my friends tell me no, the smokers and non-smokers and my boyfriend is totally against it. its just a very bad urge that i neeeed to do it, its only getting worse so im lost. what can i do to satisfy that? try it or not or substitue? almost 16

I wouldn't do it if i were you smoking ciagrette's is very addicting and it will be hard for you to stop it truely isn't easy your lungs will start to turn black and you'll have a hard time breathing and well smoking pot is bad obviously if you get caught with it you'll be in serious trouble since it's illegal also wouldn't do it since your boyfriend is aganist it i don't think he'd like to kiss you after you've smoked just because someone does something doesn't mean that you've got to do it too be a leader not a follower just think of your boyfriend and how smoking pot & ciagrette's are both bad for you

my life has been really hard lately just around father's day of last year my best friend died and then this Thursday my Granny died and now the guy that I was seeing broke up with me about 3 days after I found out my granny died I just don't know what to do anymore please help me.

The best thing you could do right now is try and stay positive it isn't going to be easy but you can't make yourself more depressed then you already
are it won't help the situation and you won't help yourself either death is a horrible thing and nobody
should have to experience it but it happens try and think of it as your loved one's are in a better place now watching over you protecting you almost as
if they are your guardian angels they'll always be with you where ever you go(:

I just recently got a new boyfriend and we were talking for about a month before we started going out. I'm already having a little issue. He doesn't seem to communicate with me enough. For example,on friday we made plans to hangout but he had to go to pickup his brother from college and he promised me he could hangout when he got back,he didn't call me or text me that whole night. On saturday,we chilled a lot of the day and all night and thats when we started going out. On sunday,he didn't text me all day and i finally texted him and he wrote back 5 hours later saying he was sleeping all day,which was understandable. Then today (monday) he just didn't come to school or tell me he wasn't coming or anything and he still hasn't texted me and it's after school. When we are together,everything is great but he just doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with this!I figured since we are going out that things would change but he's being the same.I don't wanna seem annoying since we just started going out.Should I wait a little longer before i confront him about it?

I'd wait longer yes there is a possibity that things could change and he starts talking more i'd give it time be patient if you don't see a change in him confront him and tell him how you feel say that communication is needed in a relationship and
he needs to start talking more and whatever elese you'd like to add(:

I'm a thirteen year old girl.Ever since grade three, the boys keep making fun of me. Whether its my skin color or how I am. I never told on them and I don't want to. If my parents hear this, they will be really sad. Before, When I was seven, my parents and I stayed in a house with an old lady who was really grumpy. She hated me. Pushed me in the hallways, frowns at me, and put a smoking matchstick on my leg :(. Okay, that was old, but now, In school....people make fun of me. Everyone except few who have kind hearts. Whenever some guys see me, they keep saying "HOLY _____!" my name :(
I really want this to stop. It has been three years, and they can't leave me alone and live my frigging life. I feel like running away. Telling my parents to go to our home country. But they wont go there...because my dad needs to work in a country like this where people in my school teases me. I really don't want to tell on them. But I wish my life would be better. Is there anyways I could get my parents to make me move to my home country? I really want to go! :( And, don't just tell me to ignore them. Because this is what I have been doing for the last 2 and a half years. I can't talk to them either, because they start to make more fun of me and diss me. :( PLEASE HELP! I WILL BE REALLY THANKFUL TO YOUR HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS.

You've got to tell your parents what's happening sit them down and say that you've been having problems in school and that some kids have been picking on you and teasing you and that it's been going on for a while now they won't know the situation unless you tell them say that you'd really like for them to take you back to your home country and that it would make you very happy if they did make it known to them that you'd like to go
maybe once you explain the situation to them and they see how it's affecting you they'll give in & take you back there(:

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