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Puppy Past Away....
My 9-month-old doberman puppy past away on thursday, the 28th. He was our first puppy together, my husband and i. Its been so hard dealing with the pain & the loss, he was my beautiful baby boy. The breeder offered to give us another dobe for free but we're not quite ready for another just yet. I cant stop thinking about him, i want to cry every second of the day.
Is there anyone here thats dealt with losing a beloved pet before? How can I make this easier on myself...Anything helpful comments will be appreciated. Thanks.
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It sounds like your puppy was a vauled member of the family and you had a great deal of love for him. When someone loses a loved one they go through the stages of grief and it may be hard to cope, especially if you did not expect to lose the loved one. This case is similar to having lost a family member so treat it as so.
Have a burial service for the puppy if it would help to ease your mind (it isn't crazy to do this, many people do--including me). Talk about how much you loved the puppy and how you hope he is in a better place for dogs. Share your fond memories and help your husband move past this pain as well. Talk about your pain with eachother and console eachother, even if the memory that stirs particular feelings in your partner doesn't stir those for you.
Find out what went wrong and take precautions next time to help you from experiencing this sort of pain again. If the puppy had a birth defect then do not get a dog from the same genetic line and ask the next breeder about their animals' genetic lines. If the puppy passed away from an illness then speak to a vet. about early signs and symptoms of this illness and if it strikes any particular breed. It may help to join some forums dedicated to the doberman breed so that you can learn futher about their genetic history and how particular diseases may affect them (and may you'd like to share your story there or photos to people who will appreciate them and understand your pain):
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Don't rush into getting another pet. Some people, especially breeders I have noticed, feel that the animal's companionship is the most vauled trait. Because of this they may feel that replacing the lost animal with one that has similar traits will solve a major part of the pain. The problem is that animals have different personalities and you bonded with one particular puppy--just like we bond with specific people. Replacing the puppy may help to keep your mind off of the loss but it will not replace your old dog--know that.
Keep your mind active onto other things. Focus on tidying the house up. Do a major scrub-down of the bathroom and kitchen or clean out all of the closets. Go out to a few movies with your husband and treat yourselves to a few nice nights out. Pick up a hobby and focus on it--learning how to or actually knitting a scarf would be appropriate at this time. Start taking a few walks during the day to keep your body active and happy. Remember to take your vitamins and drink plenty of water to keep your immune system function properly (stress of losing someone will really hurt your body). If you simply cannot get the pet out of your mind to focus on ANYTHING else then consider creating memorials of him! :)
If your husband is away often, doesn't feel the same at all, or you want to vent and grieve with others then search the internet for some places to share your loss. There is one particular forum from www.petloss.com that is:
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Where you can post your story and your love for your lost. Here are some other message boards and forums that are directed to pet loss and the grief you experience:
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In time the pain will dwindle and your fond memories will remain. The pain will subside and you will be able to live normally. For now, be glad you have eachother and share those memories! Help eachother cope and understanding the grieving you each must go through. Be open with your partner and understand you are not alone.
If you have any more questions you can inbox me more directly if you would like. :)
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Think of all the good times you've had with him and
how when he was alive you took good care of him & gave him everything he needed focus on the positive
and try your hardest to not think about all the negative i know it's tough but you won't make the situation better or yourself my family had a doberman pass away in the past she needed a surgery
that we couldn't afford sadly it's alright to mourn
and cry there's nothing wrong with that if you feel the need to cry then do it don't hold it in(:
I'm sorry for your loss
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