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keeping the family together through divorce
My husband and I have been together 21 years (15 married). We have a 3 year old child we both love very much. And we want each other to always be a constant in our child's life. But we are going to separate/divorce. We have discussed continuing to live together but like roommates. We cannot afford two households. I was so OK with this that when he said he had ED and was too embarassed to pick up his Viagra Rx, I picked it up for him ($20/pill btw) THEN hubby does a 180 and says he doesn't want it to end and he wants to work on us so we can be happy together ... so we ended up having sex... Now I find out he's IMing an old girlfriend with "I love you" and "I had a sex dream about you" and "I'm so lucky and proud to be with you". !!!He used me to see if his dick still worked!!! I haven't confronted him about these messages yet. I don't want to be the one to rip our child away from daddy but I can't live with him. 21 years. sounds like a prison sentence. and to imagine another 15 at least... I am a stay at home mom with no income and no local family to take me in. I need some advice.
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There are plenty of ways to get on your feet and with income tax here its golden. first off hun i am sure you know this but you do not have to live with your ex husband just for him to be in his childs life. set up visitation. tell him its not going to work out us living together and you seen his messages on the computer. you dont have to make it messy but you are the mother the child your child will automatically life with you. now i know stay at home mom is perfect but itll be time to get a job. there is governemnt housing until you get on your feet go your your local job and family services get hooked up with food stamps and temp assitance. find a job. everything will work out.
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what you need to do is get away from him ASAP.. he's only going to make matters worse. throw him out and be done with it. teach him a lesson. then what you need to do is gain some money. sell something. make a fundraiser, like wash cars or baby sit. that way you'll have enough money to last for a few weeks. then you need to get your act together. make a resume and start looking for job openings. you dont need a full time job per say.. you could get 2 part time jobs or something. start planning for job interviews and look professional. if you're concerned about your kid, hire a nanny to take care of him while you are gone. if you dont like that option.. you could try looking for a job that can be dealt with at home. perhaps something computer wise? i've heard of Avon, which is a beauty company and you sell their products door to door.
anyways, i hope i helped a little and i wish you luck :)
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