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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well

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so me and my boyfriend started having sex a few months ago and i know he wasn't a virgin but i was and i don't have that much experience but everytime we have sex he doesn't last very long. i don't really care because i care about him but i mean is this my fault or his because i don't want him to be unhappy so is there any way that that happens because of me?

No its not ur falt that he doesnt last long. He doesnt have as much experience as you think its going to take him a while to start lasting long . Another reason for it could be that he isent very healthy.

my boyfriend of a yr and a half sexually assualted me. we broke up in november. a good guy friend of mine has liked me for awhile now, about 5 months? anyway.. he asked me out recently, and i said i didnt want anything serious right now. he understood bc he knows the situation. im startin to fall for him [again] and we basically act like we go out now except for the fact that we dont. im worried about being with him, because obviously along with relationships, comes the physical stuff. ive made out with him, but thats definitely as far as that goes. im worried about being with another guy because of what my ex did. obviously if i go out with my good friend, we wouldnt just jump into stuff because im not like that, it would take time. but the thought of that still scares me, i worry about what if we do end up lasting for awhile. i know he would want the physical aspect of a relationship, and honestly [most] people do. i know he would understand where im coming from, but i feel like eventually he would get tired of doing nothing, and we'd end up breaking up. help ??

You should give it a chance i know you just got out of a bad relationship it doesnt mean its gunna happen again. So it won't happen let him know that you want to take it slow. He has liked you for about 5 months i don't think he is going to hurt you. Best of luck. ps the good ones don't get tired of doing nothing.

17/f. I've been a bit lonely lately. Me and my last boyfriend never worked out (i was pressured into a relationship with him that i never wanted) and we hardly talk anymore mainly coz i dont want him to think that i miss him. I dont miss him at all so i dont want him to think that i do.
I really liked a guy who had to go back home (overseas) just a few months ago. I was lonely before he came along and he was a bit older than me but i really liked him, then we ended up hooking up and now hes gone so im lonely again.
My best friend in the whole world (male) has had to move state and now i dont know what to do with myself.
I have friends, although not that many anymore because i have found out who my true friends are. And unfortunately most of them are moving away or changing schools for grad year.
I know friends are great and everything but theres nothing quite like having a nice boy and now i dont know what to do. i dont want to go and join a club or a group or get involved in a new activity really. coz i dont like that sort of stuff.
but i just dont know what to do. why do i bother getting up in the mornings?

I doubt a boy is just gunna come to you without you trying. You need to try and meet guys in and out of school. My advice is to try something new even if your not into that don't put it down before you try it. Your only 17 you shouldent feel like not getting up in the mornings. Best of luck

I'm 15-f and if I have to hear about another person's relationship problem in my school I'm going to explode. I understand that high school is the time to "test the waters", but people would rather talk about who they screwed last night then keep private matters PRIVATE. It's different when a couple's life get's spread by rumor, but it's getting annoying how in EVERY class there is always a couple talking about 'What they want to do to each other.' I'm not exaggerating either. How am I gonna survive High school when I can't even hear the teacher over someone's moaning and giggling infront of me?

FP

There's not much you can do about this i have the same thing at my school but its alot worse. I just learned to ignore it. Best of luck

ok so im going to go on a date on Sunday with my friend Dylan and Mandy and Mandy's boyfriend.
but i haven't got the nerve to ask Dylan to come bc last time i went with him the next day i hooked up with one of his friends and i feel really bad bout it. so i really really like Dylan i mean i really really like him! but i haven't talk to him since i hooked up with his friend i really don't even know if he knows about it(its not like we we're going out when i kissed his friend [when his friend kissed me])so guys would you be mad?
and how do i ask him???

ya i don't think you should ask him anytime soon he has to know that you hooked up with one of his friends. Friends tell each other everything. If you do ask him theres a big chance he is gunna say no because its like he is taking you away from his friend. a true friend won't do that. I suggest everyone that you hung out with the day when you hooked up with his friend hangs out again but this time you don't make the same mistake. Talk to dylan if he asks about the other time tell him it didnt mean anything. And ya i would be mad but wouldent say anything. Best of luck

I really like this guy at my school; we have a lot in common, we like the same movies and stuff, he's cute and smart and funny, but there is a problem: i'm a year older and like a foot taller than him. he says he doesn't care that i'm older but that it would be too weird dating a girl who's so taller. Everyone says he likes me and i'm graduating this year (it's a middle school) and i don't have time to wait for his growth spurt. I want him to ask me out (preferably before valentine's day). i've promised never to wear high heels, please help!!

You can either drop hints. Or you can just tell him how you feel about him. I suggest you don't bring up the height thing make it seem like it doesnt bother you at all so it won't bother him. Best of luck

im 15/f. and lately i've been having this longing feeling to be close to my best friend. hes sweet, and cute, and my other guyfriend is telling me that he really likes me. and he even said that if i did like him that we could "see where it goes". and at first i thought the idea of us as a pair was stupid. but im rethinking it...and i now no that im MADLY IN LOVE WITH HIM. but i dont wanna be! hes just a friend...and thats all i want him to be. idk if i should go for it or ignore my feelings or what...help me?

I think you should go for it because its better that you know what will come of this then not knowing and regretting it later on. Best of luck

Ok, so I'm starting to think about working out for the summer. The only problem is, I have a terrible procrastination problem and I don't commit to things very easily at all. I also want to start dieting but those problems still apply. How do I make it easier to wake up and actually enjoy running?

It makes it alot more fun and easyer if you have a friend that is doing the same thing. Someone that has had experience doing this so they can push you towards your goal. Best of luck

Ok this will sound weird just a warning for you anwyay my mom's friend had this psychic party thing basically she had this psychic do a half hour reading for everyong now i didnt go but my mom said that the psychic said that i'm a leader but i'm leading people down the wrong path and for some reason thats bugging me now this chick said alot of true stuff like the fact that my dad isnt living with us cause my parents are getting a divorce and alot of other stuff that was true anyway it's been buggin me a little cause you know i dont want to lead anyone down te worng path or anything but yeah does anyone know what that might mean i mean i'm normaly not all into this stuff but for some reason it's bugging me so i thought i'd ask about it

Don't let her get to you. Psychics are just good at guessing and judging they all make mistakes.

okay.. so i thought this guy from my school was kinda hot but i didnt think about him except when i was arond him and he talked to one of my captains. but for some reason in less than two weeks i had 4 diff. dreams about him and they all had to do with us liking eachother and being close (cuddling, holdin hands, hugging, kissing, flirting...) so what does all of this mean???!!! answer asap please

It means that you find him attractive. I think that you should start talking to him if you already do then spend more time with him get to know him a little better. Best of luck

Heyy do you have an AIM screen name? If you do, what is it? thanks.

clinic956@yahoo.com

my thighs are alright...but i want to get rid of the fat on the upper, inner thigh, and i want to get the bump in the front a little reduced..ive tried pilates, and i know it says that it makes your body lean, but lots of adults i know that do pilates their thighs are always really muscular, i dont want really muscular...so excercises please for inner and front of thighs!
thanks so much:)

Running will make you lose the fat off your thighs there are some other exercises but there for gaining muscle and i know you don't want that. But if you change your mind message me and ill tell them to you. Best of luck

Ok, so, I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months. He moved about 2 months ago. I have major trust issues, and, I'm always worried he's going to cheat on me. I mean, when he was here, he'd always kinda flirt with other girls around me [mostly this really pretty girl] and he's grab her boobs and her ass. I never said anything about it though, because I just can't make myself. Well, now I guess he met this girl down there with the same personality as me. And, he didn't tell me this, but he told my best friend, that, she wears thongs like I do, and he'll pull them up her back like he did to me. I'm really worried. I mean, that hurt. And, now he doesn't call me as often as he used to. I'm not the kind to confront people. What do I do? Am I just being paranoid? Thanks.
[Sorry it was so long.]

You not being paranoid i know your not the person to confront people but i think you should break up with him. If he was flirting and touching other girls when you where around what do you think he is doing now that your not there. You deserve a lot better then him. You never did anything to deserve the way he treats you. Long distance relationships don't work if both people arent committed i hope you've already seen that he isent. Best of luck

ok so since the beggining of school i liked this boy and i asked him out and he said there was to much goin on right then and he didnt want a gf.afta that i decided to become closer with him and become friends.well we have and i still like him alot!!!were always jokn with each otha and makn fun of each otha.every time i see him i bump into him on purpose and start sayn o im sorry i didnt see you there knowing that i did.hed start lauging and like try to push me back.he takes drivers ed on sat and i come evry sat with my dad cuz hes the prinicipal.well durn there lunch break i started talkn to him and we were jokn on each otha then we startn havn a sort of deep convo.well i ask people before to ask him if he likes me and they say he says no but i keep havn this feeln that he does by the way he kinda flirts with me and looks at me.but then maybe hes just a nice gut who does that to everybod and im no special person.its just so hard to read him beacuse i feel like hes flirting and he might like me but the few peeps i asked says he doesnt.im jus so confused and i really dont want to ask him myself cuz i already asked him at the beggining of the year and that was hard.and now that were freinds it would be evn more hard and i dont wanna jepurdise our freindship.i just like him so much and i wanna know if there is somthn there or if hes just a naturally flirtatious guy!

If he already knows that you like him then your just gunna have to wait till he is ready. I don't think it will be hard for him to ask you if he knows that you already like him. Hang in there

i always picking on my boyfriend alll the time like hurting him something like that, sometime he got mad, but why i always picking on him not my another ex boyfriend? i do love my boyfriend i should show him love than picking on him, is that mean i don't love him or what? i want show him more love, but I'm not that good, i love begin picking on him, how can i stopped it?

I think picking on him is just your way of telling him that you love him let him know that so you don't hurt his feeling anymore.

(Those of you who are not familiar with everything you can read my last few questions)
Well TJ did ask me out yesterday over the phone.
(I said yes, of course!)
Well his brother Johnathan(SP?) told me at our morning recess in the gym that the reason TJ asked me out was because he called him a "wimp, chicken, (EXCUSE MY LANGUAGE BUT THIS IS EXACT QUOTE) and a pussy."
Now Johnathan lies.A lot.
So I didn't believe him, I just slapped his leg and we laughed at it.
I thouhgt ' Okay he's pulling my chain.'
But as today went on I started thinking, ' What if he's serious!?'
I got checked out and since TJ goes to a highschool and (He's a yeah older then me by the way) I'm in my final year of middle school, I only see him on the bus, usually anyway.
Well I'm gonna call later today and I have NO IDEA what to say or do! HELP!

Don't let it bother you don't question him from the start that's not a good way to start a relationship. If you do it now he is gunna think that you will always question him. Time will tell if he asked you out for the wrong reason. Just to let you know his brother might like you. He probably just made it up so that you would ruin the relationship. Best of luck

ive liked this guy tony for awhile and i noticed that he liked me back bc he asked to see my cell once and he saw another tony in my list and got jealous and ended up not giving me his # after that he would try to talk to me but he couldn't come up with something so he would think of the most random thing and talk to about that. a problem is the most popular girl is school jen flirts with him bc she has nothing better to do. no one likes her anymore and she has no friends so she always flirts with him and the geekiest guy in our science class. i can tell that tony doesn't like jen bc she kinda bugs him and she put her feet up on his desk and i said straight up to her that i think that tony doesn't want her feet on his desk and he lipped to me "thank you". jen really bugs me about that but also tony talks to her a lot and im worried he might fall for her. my main thing is that i really want him and i went out with his friends and he might be worried about getting his friend mad.
so to continue.....his friend likes me still bc i broke up with him. im kinda friends with tony like we would talk but not the kind of friend that would like have inside jokes like i have a bunch with a lot of the other guys im friends with. i only have one inside joke with tony but jen stole another guy that liked me and i liked him back but we didn't go out so i don't want her stealling this one. i really would like tony to ask me out and i think hes pretty shy about it but im trying to talk to him as much as i posibly can. ps i have no way of contact to him...i only time i see him is at school.....please help

He probaby hasent asked you out yet because he doesnt know that you like him. Drop some hints or if that doesnt work just tell him how you feel. Best of luck

i really want a boy friend im not presured to but i am flat chested i hang out with the "popular kids" and im the omly one that hasnt had a boy fiend i dont even think guys are attracted to me

I really don't know what you are asking but if it is "How do i get a boy friend". Well first don't get into any relationship just because you think that you need a boy friend. If there is someone that you like right now "not because of his looks" then you should try to spend more time with him. Go like that for a while then if you think that he likes you then you should drop hints or tell him how you feel to get him to ask you out. As for how your not confident about how you look. You can't change the how fast you develop so change your confidence.

Honestly, im lost. How on earth do you give a guy head, and not get cum in your mouth?

Im sorry to tell you it's impossible no to get it in your mouth. If your boy friend wants you to and you don't just tell him your not comfortable doing it don't do something if you don't want to do it; just cuz you think you should because your his girlfriend.

so my family just started this heart healthy diet were they give you a list of what your supposed to eat.my mom,dad and sis are all kinda obese but im at my ideal weight!on this diet you follow it for three days then your off for four days then back on for three days and so on.well after three days your suppose to loose 10 pounds.well that might be possible for my fam,but prob not me...right?im 5'0 and i weighed 120 the day i started and after the three days were over i was at 117!is that possible?i want to get at 110 pounds because thats a good wieght for me in my opinion and based on the chart for the suggeted BMI!is this a healthy diet if im loosing 4pounds in three days?i feel fine but and im eating everything on the diet which is a good amount to me?opinions would be lovely!thanx!

I don't think diet's are good for you there like cutting out the exercise that you should do to lose weight. I think you should eat healthy and exercise you will feel alot healthyer and stronger. If you want to try that then message me back and ill tell you some good exercises you can do. Best of luck

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