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Just be honest, but be nice. Just be like," Look, I'm sorry but I only like you as a friend. Can we just stay friends? Who knows.. maybe in the future =) " ( maybe give the boy SOME hopes even if there isn't any ) I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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this past summer i went to an over night camp.. im 15 1/2 and this 19 year old kid was there.. he was a couciler and i was a camper. i knew him previously because he's worked with my team during reg. season. this summer, however, i really fell for him.. and i think he has a thing for me too? even though hes WAY old but he would constantly flirt with me.. and he has a gf.. on MY TEAM thats 17 or 18.. he isnt from the u.s.. so hes not here now. but i talk to him all the time.. and he always wants to know why i like him or if only i was older.. and he hints little things like that.. once he even told me he loved me.. out of no where. of course i wanna believe he rly likes me.. but part of me has a feeling he just wants me to keep liking him.. like hes playing hard to get or something when i KNOWW hes out of any ideas at this time. i really have no idea whats going on. and im friends with his g/f. HeLp!!!!!!

Well it seems to me like he may just want you to keep on liking him if he keeps bringing up the subject on why you like him which may give him an ego boost or something and make him be like," Oh girls still think I'm hot even when I have a girlfriend!" ( or something like that ) or it could be that he actually does like you and just wants to know.. why him? =) But sorry, but it seems to me like it's the "keep you liking him" option. And it wouldn't really work out anyways because:

- your underage ( unless you two wanna wait..3 years.. )

- he has a girlfriend

- his girlfriend is friends with you, and you shouldn't do stuff like that to friends.. guys should never get in the way of friendships, because friends are always there when guys might not be

- he doesn't even live in the U.S anyway, so that'd be a really big long distance relationship and that'd be hard cause you'd never know what's going on ( what if he still dated your friend behind your back? =/ )

.. so really, it just doesn't seem like it's a good idea at all to try and do anything with him so i don't know, just next time you talk to him, ask him how he feels about you ( & if he says he really does, then he prob. does.. and the next time he asks the "why do you like me?" thing again, just ask him why he always asks that.. )
If you wanna talk to me more, pelase just IM me at:

MELii x MARiiE

... I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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there is this guy that i have known for a while and he is hott and everything but he is like a brother to me and he asked me out should i do it or should i just say no?

love ?

Well if you like him back, then I don't see why you shouldn't go out with him! Because my best guy friend asked me out and we went out, and then whenever we broke up, we still stayed friends and it seemed like it never happened, so if there ever was the chance you guys broke up, it can always work out. I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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two months or so ago, my bf broke up with me :( ever since i have been to scared to ask anyone out because i figure they're going to say no..

Can Someone help??¿¿

It's okay to be afraid that someone's going to say no, I mean, everyone's scared of rejection. But people never think of what they might be doing.. if they're so afraid of rejection that they don't ask the person out, they might be ruining a chance they have with that person ( what if that person were to actually say yes? They'd never know... ) so sometimes you just have to take a chance, and if they say no, they say no, I mean yes, it'll hurt at first, but then someday you'll find a new person, and the someday, someone's gonna say yes. You can't be afraid. And it was your boyfriend who broke up with you, so just think, you guys actually WENT OUT. So at the very beginning you weren't rejected there...so just take a chance. Next time you talk to a guy you like, just see if he flirts iwth you or anything or maybe have a friend find out who he likes ( so then you can have some idea if he likes you at all first ) and then try and ask him to hang out sometime. Just be like," Hey, wanna go see "title of a movie" sometime? I heard it's real good.." I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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ok, well me and some of my friends are bi. i just found out that one of my friends who i like likes me too. but we dont want anyone to know about us being bi. so we sorta wanna go out but if we were to go out we agreed we wouldnt tell anyone. so we also agreed that we wouldnt be jealous if the other person went out with a guy or got with another girl or something. so my question is should we go out and just keep quiet or shoudl we just stay being friends with benefits?

I think you two should just be friends with benefits, because if you two went out and didn't tell anyone, in a way that's really not going out it's the same kinda relationship as friends with benefits. Because if you guys didn't care if anyone knew you guys were bi, then I'd just say go out.. anyways, just stay friends with benefits. I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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Hey, me & this boy named Kyle have been best friends since 2nd grade, he's liked me since then (2nd grade) for a girlfriend & I've liked him as a boyfriend since 5th grade. We never dated because I didn't want to ruin our relationship as friends, and if we ever broke up I didn't want it to seem awkward for us! So, now I'm in 10th grade & I just moved 26 hours away from him (We both still live in the USA) Just I live in Texas and he lives in Pennsylvania. We talk on the phone & internet. I love him to death he's absolutely amazing, and he tells me the same thing back. Except, he won't wait until we graduate for me, he says "Whatever happens, happens!" I guess he's right in a way, I can't stop him from seeing other people, but I want him to sooo bad. He doesn't believe in long distance relationships, so. I don't know what to do. Is he right about the whole situation? Or, do you think I'm just over reacting about the whole thing? Thanks for your help!

I can see where he's coming from. I mean most long-distance relationships are very hard to do, you have to be VERY determined to keep the relationship, and try to see eachother as much as possible ( which would be hard in your case seeing as you two are like 26 hours away.. ) so maybe you should just do like he says, just see what happens. Just keep talking to him on the phone and on IM and maybe even try and see if you guys can visit eachother from time to time, because if you guys love eachother as much as you guys do, I don't think you guys'll be dating other people and stuff. So then whenever you guys graduate, then maybe you guys can get together and stuff. I hope everything works out for you two and I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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I am 15 year old male, gay, and attending High School. In the past year, I've come to terms with who I am and I've come out to 2 of my friends. My huge problem is that nobody my age comes out of the closet so I am going to be single for a while. I am despretely lonely and wanting someone to sweep me off my feet. I just feel so deprest and want to have a boyfriend like all the other straight couples have where you love each other and understand each other and comfort one another. My problem is that there is this guy that I like but he has no clue I exist. I think that he is gay. The signs are that he is in tennis, went to tennis camp and is trying out for the tennis team, is in drama class, his eyebrows look plucked, he looks well made up and his hair is curly and conditioned, he is fit, and all his friends are strangely attractive. I also see the way he looks at guys and can kinda tell. I really want to become friends with him so that I can be around him and be happy and possibly get him to come out to me and maybe even become my boyfriend but I don't know how to go up to him and become his friend. It's like I can't just walk up to him and say hey what's up because we don't know each other so I was thinking of bringing up tennis because I've started taking lessons and stuff and I'm going to try out for the team just so I can be there with him and possibly go to his camp and get closer to him. I just don't know how to become his friend or how to talk to him. What should I do?

Well do like you said, just keep going with the tennis thing. And then next time you see him at tennis camp or w/e, then just ask him if he wants to play a game with you. And then whenever you finish, just start talking to him. Maybe ask him,

-how long has he been playing tennis?

-how did he first begin to like it? Like did he play it as a child, etc?

-maybe ask him for some help with some stuff ( so then you guys can hang out more ;-)..)

-and then slowly just start adding some other stuff in like about himself, family, music, etc. and just start talking and be yourself =D If you're sure that he's gay, he probably is ( cause you said you can tell how he looks at guys ) and so yeah just keep getting closer to him, and then maybe someday he'll tell you. It actually might even be easier if after you guys become friends, you tell him first cause then he might feel more at ease to tell you he is too. I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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I really wanna scrunch my hair

i have thin straight hair

Is there any possible way i can scrunch it

If So HOW?? and What can i use??

Thanks♥

What you do is you just take a shower and then only dry your hair a bit and then just take gel and just kinda like ( I don't know how to describe it ) you just grab it and it'll just start scrunching up and you just keep doing that until you're satisfied with it, and then just put in some hairspray so it'll stay. I hope I helped!

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MELii

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omg im feeling so depressed all of the sudden because 1) me and my best friend have been bff's for 12 years! and now she starts acting all bitchy and in a year shes going to move to california and i live in ohio..and i dont want her to move because shes the only person i can talk to who always knows what to do in my situations. 2) this guy ive liked all summer (he likes me too) all of the sudden on IM he acts like he doesnt even want to talk to me..and i dont know why?!?!? and 3) this other i guy i like has always been really flirty and nice to me and now all of the sudden he wont talk to me anymore..did i do something wrong?!?!? i dont know what to do..i feel so..uhh ya know? please help me!! i would really appreciate it!

okay..

1) Hmmm the only thing I could sense about her being bitchy is possibly she's trying to push you away so whenever she DOES have to move, she won't feel as bad saying goodbye maybe? I would just talk to her about that. Just be like," Look, we've been best friends for 12 years. Please, you can talk to me.. why are you being so mean to me lately?" .. she just might be upset or soemthing that she has to move, and she just might be taking it out on you.

2) Does he know you like him? Maybe if you didn't send him any signals or anything he might have given up on you, thinking you don't like him. I would talk to him about it. Next time, just be like," Hey, did I do something or say something? It seems like you don't wanna talk to me anymore =(..." ( or something like that ). I don't know ; that's kinda weird...

3)Same thing as 2, maybe he thought you didn't like him, so he stopped flirting iwth you... I don't know, alls I can really suggest is once again, talk to him about it. Just be like," Hey did I do something wrong or say something wrong to offend you or something? cause lately you don't really wanna talk to me anymore.." ( or something like that )

.. I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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heyy umm me and my friend both liked this guy and he liked her when we first met him and stuff .. soo a couple of days ago he started to like me and she went away and just found out over the phone .. and now shes all upset about it .. and after she found out she called me and was like complaining to me about how upset she was .. but like i helped her and stuff .. but like when i use to like this guy they both went to a club and danced and stuff and he started to like her and he kissed her by the end of the night .. and she told me she sorta kissed him back .. and when i got madd she gave me like an attitude like oh my god its not my fault or w.e .. soo now like i dont know if should like be together w. this guy that we both like or not.. cause like i really really like him too soo i dont know if its okk help!

Okay I know that both of you like this guy, but you have to think.. what do you want more? A friendship with this girl? Or a relationship with this guy? Because you have to think obviously this girl's probably not going to be able to accept the fact if you and him ever go out and move on.. she'll get angry. And I assume you'd do vice versa, so really... it's not doing any good for anyone. And obviously he likes both of you, so even if he dated one of you...he probably would still like the other ( and the word "cheating" comes to mind there..) so really, it sounds like this guy does neither good for you or your friend, so I'd suggest, forget the guy ; keep the friend, because in the end, she'll always be there, whenever he might not. You shouldn't let a guy ever come in the way of a friendship. And go find a guy who will just like YOU. I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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ok I have a question.Where can you get a picture to put on your xanga page like the picture above your name.Thanks!

well I'm sorry, I don't know how to do pictures life of yourself and stuff ( because I don't have a webcam or anything so I've never done that before ) but if you want to know how to do like icons and stuff like that, all you have to do is go to an xanga site that has icons, and copy it and then paste it into your xanga entry, but if you want an icon/picture ( like you already saved the picture onto your computer ) then you..

icon- you can either right click the icon, go to "properties", get the URL thing and then paste that where it says "PUT PICTURE LINK HERE" ( i can't remember what it says, but you'll know when you see it ) and stuff.

picture- well since it's already on your computer, you just go to "BROWSE PICTURES" and then click on the picture you want there and then it's URL will pop up there and then you just click,"UPLOAD PICTURE"

..sorry if it was a little confusing. You can always IM me! MELii x MARiiE! I hope I helped!

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MELii

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Does anyonew kno where i can find some cute tv quotes?

um I think there's this site that's called www.Wittyprofiles.com .. they have some good qoutes there from movies, celebs, etc. I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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ok well heres my problem ok well i like this guy named *cameron ok well ive met him before and he was really cool and now hes in my homeroom hes soo cute hes a freaking hotty ok well today we were totally playing footsy and stuff we were totally flirting hes my buddy and i like him so much and at lunch i told him i was sitting with him he seemed excited and we were tlking and my friends came over when they saw me and they saw i was flirting when we went outside he asked me if i wanted a piggy back ride and i said no thanks shly and it was just great but my friend amanda was like do u like him i was like yeah and then she started asking me if i had his screenname i know hes not my boyfriend but he didnt even talk to her but should i be worried ? thanks
I'm a female and i'm 13

I don't think there's anything to worry about. It just sounds to me like she's jealous of you because you're getting attention from a guy and she isn't. And I mean like you said if he hasn't even talked to her, it's not like she can make him fall in love with her in like one night...so don't think there's anything to worry about! I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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hey im a new student and i just moved from CA to ND its horrible i got you guys sn from a friend any way i am a new student and im really upset because nobody knows me and they all have there own little cliks and nobody wqants me in theirs

PLEASE HELP

signed,
no friends

I know how it's hard to be in a new school and such.. the only reason people aren't letting you in their cliks yet is because they probably don't know you well enough yet. And instead of just being friends with one clik, try being friendly with them all. The more, the merrier =) just start talking to anyone and slowly whenever they get to know you more, you'll become friends with a bunch of people. Trust me ; just give it some time. I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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does anyone no any good cheap places to buy bedroom furniture besides like ikea that will cost me under $600 for everything (bed twin or queen, dresser with mirror, nightstand and maybe a desk?) also i want a store or website that is the acually place not like ebay or those deal finder sites

thanks

i rate high for good answers

-Walmart
-K Mart
-Target
-JCPenny
-Kohls
-Kaufmans
-Sears
- Bed Bath & Beyond..

..that's all I can think of. Hope I helped! & I live in Pittsburgh too! =D

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MELii

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i think i'm big enough for a size a but i'm scared to ask my mom and i certainly won't ask my dad but i hate feeling like i should have a bigger bra what should i do do i tell my mom or wait till she says something?

I would just talk to your mom ; I mean, she's a girl.. she understands that stuff. Believe me, whenever I don't want to talk to my mom about stuff, but then I end up just coming out with it, I feel so much better and then she helps me. Because she probably won't say anything. Yeah, just tell her =) I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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Im 14 male and i am running cross country..so i have to get a physical..is it bad??

No they aren't bad at all ; they just wanna like check your height, weight and see if you are okay to run cross country because if you are like sick or something, they don't want any sick people on their team or maybe if you had asthma or something, then the coach needs to know, etc. So, no.. they're not bad at all...I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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I just moved here from a different state & I'm starting school on Monday next week. I'm extremely nervous, I've never moved schools before & I'm 15. Pretty much, my question is: At lunch, I'll probably be sitting by myself. Does anyone have any suggestions on some things I could do to interest me, while sitting at lunch by myself. I don't want to look stupid and just sit there and stare around at people. I want to be able to do something. I'm not going up to people and asking them to sit with them because, I'm not that type of person. Thanks for your help.

Well it's okay to be extremely nervous about going to a new school, but just think.. there will probably be other new people there too who will be just as nervous as you are so it's normal so all you have to do is just calm down and just relax. And then about the lunch thing, you might make some friends before lunch. Like I'm not saying like be super-friendly and everything, but just be polite, be yourself, and just start talking to people. Maybe you'll ask someone where a class is and then you'll end up finding out you have alot in common with them. But if you don't make any friends before lunch, then maybe just bring a CD player to listen to music to while you eat, or bring a notebook to doodle in ( or maybe write a note to one of your friends back home telling her how everything's going so far and stuff ) I know going to a new shcool is tough ; but you'll be fine =) I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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At Cheerleading practice we have to run like a mile and a half without stopping and if we stop every1 has to run another lap around the football field (4 laps=1mile) I get so exhausted and i cant run that much i get to the point where i cant feel my legs and i cant breathe..i dont know y though i am a skinny person and im short and very atheletic ..i just cant run for a long time!...i need help on ways to make me run better/ longer..thanks!...I rate!!!!!!

im the same way...i would go to your local doctors office and maybee run a test to see if you have athsma...maybee it could run in the family...

chao for now

a friend of meli's

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Over the summer I lost a few pounds. I wasn't big before or anything I just kind of toned down. Well, a few guys have noticed and commented to me. My boyfriend gets really jealous when anyone (by one I mean guys. I don't know what to do about it. It isn't that big of a problem to where we need to break up but it upsets me when I see him like this. Today, I saw one of my really good guy friends that I didn't have a chance to see during the summer. We talked for a few min. and he asked me if I lost weight and I said yes and he told me that I looked great. My bf was standing with us and when my friend said what he said, my bf walked away. Does anyone have any idea what I can do/say to him? I'm 17 and he's 18 if that helps.

Just explain to him that you can be trusted...after all you picked him instead of the thousands of other guys out there...

chao for now

a friend of meli's

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