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Is it possible for a guy to actually love you in highschool? Even when you are having sex?
Or do they ALWAYS just use you?

Holy moley thats a pretty dim view you have of us. Of course its possible. Also I would like to think that the majority of guys would not be using you. Of course there will always be some, but that in no way means that all of them do (coincidentally though, the ones that are users tend also to be the ones the girls are most interested in... kind of ironic actually).

so i'm taking supplements because i'm one of those people who's motabolism is really fast, so its hard to gain weight. I heard that you have to work out like lift weights, i was wondering is i can dance instead of working out? would this work too? bcuz i can't really go to the gym to lift weights.

No its not the same thing. Dance is more like cardio/ fitness training. Weight training works entirely in the anaerobic zone which is what promotes serious muscle growth.

When you exert force through muscular contraction, the energy to perform that contraction comes from a molecule called ATP. In order to keep producing contractions, the molecule needs to be regenerated. Depending on how one trains, the muscles adapt to specialise for optimal regeneration of the molecule.

Aerobic exercises use oxygen as the primary source. Bodybuiling routines (with exertion times of well under 2 minutes at a time) rely mainly on glycogen stored in the muscles. When the body adapts it promotes muscle growth so as to store more glycogen. Weight training with sets of say 10 reps would produce this effect.

So you see, its very much about how you work out. Even weight training with reps below 5 or so will not produce anywhere near as much weight gain, since the body does not yet begin using glycogen as a primary source.

Dancing can have anaerobic components, but for weight gain I do not think it will be very effective.

Remember though also, weight training or not, you need a substantial calorie surplus. If you increase your workouts (of any kind), you need to eat even more than what you burn. The thing about aerobic exercises is that they burn a lot of calories, so you have to adjust your diet accordingly. You cannot ever gain weight without ingesting more calories than you burn.

Good luck.

so i have some questions.
any help is appreciated. thanks.

1. what do guys look for in girls?
2. why do guys not tell girls when they have feelings for them?
3. how do guys flirt with girls?
4. what are some good ways to get a guy to notice you?
5. what are some turn ons for guys?

thanks babes.

=].

Well here goes:

1. Someone with enthusiasm and a good sense of humour. A gleam in her eye and a great smile can go a long way if you know what I mean.

2. Why don't girls? Lol it probably always looks worse from where one is standing, but I have always found women to be the ones that are most reluctant to put themselves on the line. As a guy it always seems as though it is my God given duty to risk embarrassing myself :D

3. That depends on the guy (some guys don't really flirt as such). It can vary from smiling and trying to pass her compliments to acting like a baboon.

4. No great formula there. Talk to him, be nice, smile, show interest in what he likes, use humour, pay attention to what he says, etc.

5. This one I cannot answer generally (and I will stay away from the physical side of things). Some guys like shy girls, others like tomboys, some like girls who play sports, others like them old fashioned... you will always find some guy that is turned on by any "type" of girl.

From my perspective I like a girl who has energy and passion. Someone also who is not so concerned about what other people think (appearances and such), and who is generally open and not afraid to take initiative. That kind of thing, which is really quite rare, you can even see in the way she acts (like her body language and even the way she walks).

Well, thats that. Hope this was of some help :)

How do you do a virus scan on your computer
do you need a speical program?
if so how much does it cost?

Thankss.
=]

You can get online scans for free from known anti virus programs. However, there are also a number of free ones available for download. The advantage with downloading them is that, once you have installed them, they run in the background and help prevent your computer from getting infected in the first place (by warning you when you are being attacked by a virus). Here is a good free program:

http://www.avast.com/eng/download-avast-home.html

Okay, so, I'm 21 f. I'm a voice teacher. I was born Jewish, but my beliefs have melded into Agnosticism with a touch of Hindu over the years. One of my best students keeps gravitating towards all these "god-songs" (Think David Archuletta, Angels) as I call them, things that talk about believing in "the father" or "my Jesus," and it's really, REALLY getting on my nerves. This student is 23, by the way, so he's not a little kid. His parents are major Catholics (and they hate me).
I suppose I might also include that this guy is my ex-boyfriend-turned-best-friend. So I can't just drop him as a student. Besides, he's fantastic. He has nearly a four octave range full voice, and I enjoy listening to him sing. (Which actually says quite a bit, because I'm one of the harshest critics out there. I'm hard pressed to find any singers I actually enjoy listening to. I can always find something completely off-putting about their singing or their song choice.)
Anyway, my issue is this:
He wants to work on religious songs, and I feel like I can't condone it because I don't believe in "god", I don't feel comfortable with the term, and I just...I don't know. Those songs bother me quite a bit.
On the other hand, I feel I'm being a bit hypocritical because - and I hate to admit this - I sing for a church choir. BUT, I'm getting paid big bucks to do it, and the director has some crazy connections in the music world.
I'm not the most religious girl (obviously) but the one firm issue I have with the three big ones (Christianity, Muslim, and Judaism) are that they believe in this "Almighty God," and I just HATE it for some reason.
I'm not even sure why, but the idea of one of my students/friends singing something like that upsets me.
Anyone have any insight or suggestions?

Your situation is kind of tricky. From one agnostic to another, I must admit that you had me until the choir thing.

Now, I understand why you do it, but at the same time it really does ruin your options of taking an anti- religious stand with this guy. The thing about principles is that they cannot be bent when one can stand to gain from it. That is really what defines a principle in my opinion.

So, if you ever do approach your student with the issues that you have, he will quite rightly think you are being hypocritical.

Don't get me wrong, I totally understand your frustration with the message in the music. I personally have a problem with any position that considers itself to be the ultimate truth, yet fails to provide one iota of proof. However, that does not change things.

This basically leaves us back at the beginning. You cannot confront this person and ask him to understand your feelings. Not while you are singing in a choir. The only message this would convey to him is that he is not as important to you as money is. Since that is the one major difference between the two situations. Worse yet actually, in the other scenario you are the one actually doing the singing.

This leaves you with the options that you listed, which implies determining which is more important to you- his friendship and having him as a student vs your dislike for hearing religious propaganda in song.

Personally I would take a hard look at my beliefs and reevaluate my position. Consistency is the most basic element in taking a stand. Without it, one cannot be taken seriously. For me this really is a choice between being in that choir or not.

I know this was not the greatest help to you, but that is how I would reason your situation.

Good luck.

religion is essential to a moral society?

what are your guys opinions or support?

I completely disagree with that statement. In fact, very often, religion has been a strong force opposing moral/ ethical development.

It is true that most religions offer a set of guidelines. The ten commandments are probably the most well known example. However, religious guidelines are not the only thing influencing morality.

The philosophy of ethics has evolved in parallel to religion. Sometimes it has been influenced by religious thought, but many times it has purposefully avoided taking it into consideration.

Non religious based ethics has played a very important role throughout history to evolve our concept of rights and lawmaking. Often it has had to fight hard to undo the resistance to change caused by adherence to religious theories/ interpretations.

Without getting too far into this, I have never seen any evidence that religion is an essential part of morality. For any example where religion has been shown to spur acts of kindness and fairness, I believe it would be fairly easy to find a counterpart (if not several).

Furthermore, many religions have (whether due to faulty interpretations or otherwise) stood in the way of developing rights for women, members of other faiths/ groups, homosexuals, animals, and so on.

Finally, I have never seen any statistics that showed any correlation between atheism and an increase in unethical behaviour. In fact, one can find a number of statistics that hint that the opposite might be true (if memory serves, crime rates and divorce rates were generally higher amongst many religious groups in the US).

This in itself does not prove anything, since atheists are a radically diverse group, and since so many factors play into these statistics. However in my opinion it does negate any chance of anyone being able to prove that religion is a mandatory component of ethics.

13/m
ok so ive got a big belly that sticks out and i want to know how to get rid of it other than taking medication such as doing sit ups every morning or somehting like that
thanks

Look, you cannot spot reduce fat. This means that exercises that target an area only build muscle there, they do not burn off the fat. While such exercises do have some value when tallying up your daily calorie balance, they are not very valuable when compared to doing cardiovascular workouts.

Basically, you need a negative calorie balance to lose weight overall. Eventually your body will pull fat from your stomach, however genetics will determine if one area is emphasised over another.

The key therefore is diet and general exercise. Cardio workouts are great- things like running, biking, stair machines, rowing, etc. Sports and resistance training (emphasising the entire body) can also be very valuable. However, what you eat will make or break your efforts.

Start by creating a 500 calorie daily deficit. This should translate to about one pound of weight loss per week, which at your age should be plenty (unless you are obese). If you are not getting the results you need, decrease your calories slightly, or increase your work load.

I would aim for 3- 6 cardio workouts/ week (steady pace, low intensity and lasting for at least 30 minutes). Then, supplement with any other kinds of training if you have to the time and energy. Again, the more muscle groups you work out the better, since this will burn more calories and help sustain your muscle mass during your weight loss (which in turn prevents your metabolism from suffering).

Good luck.

i am 16 years old. i weight 95 pounds and 5 ft 5"3 inches....in this book that i have it says i should be weighing 115 pounds. All I want is to weigh 110. I've tried eating, but sometimes i just don't feel like it so i don't do it. Its not like i'm trying to starve myself, but sometimes food is not something that i crave. Its weird, and i really want to change it. I've eaten meat,and pasta, and oyster sandwitches and peanuts. Yeah, i've gainned a little weight, butafter a while, my appetite goes away...i don't know what to do....i don't like being a stick....i want curvyness at least...110 is what i'm really looking at...do you guys havei any ideas? they would really help so...anyways...thank you!!!:)

In the end you need to intake enough calories, there is no way around that obviously. However, have you tried looking into meal replacements or supplements? You can get weight gainer shakes for people like you who have trouble gaining weight... There are a variety of shakes available, some are designed to replace meals fully, others are intended as supplements.

Just go past a store either, either in person or online (I could give you a link, but since I am in Europe I only know places that deliver within the EU). However a quick google search should do it.

Let me underline something though, just so I dont end up giving advice that can be detrimental in the long run. You should really, really, get into the habit of learning to eat regular balanced meals. There really is no long term substitute for proper nutrition. However, if occasionally you have trouble getting enough calories, then supplements and meal replacements should be just fine.

Good luck.

can you get pregnant or get any disease from giving head?

You cannot get pregnant. However you can contract a number of STDs from oral sex.

Check out this site:

http://sexuality.about.com/od/saferse1/a/safer_oral_sex.htm

17/F

Alright, so this question is going to make me sound extremely stupid, but should I convert my religion to try to get with this guy that i really like? He's mormon, and I looked up some stuff and it says that mormons can only date other mormons. I really want to be with him. We dont actually know each other. Ive introduced myself twice and he thinks im crazy, but I want him to notice me in a good way and i think going to his church and being all mormon will be a good way to get his attention and show him that im right for him.
Plus I have no real religion as of right now. I mean I believe in God and all that but I dont go to church.

Any advice will be appriciated
Thanks

Well, I do not believe in any religion, and as such I place little value on one school of though versus another. Still though, I too do not believe you should "convert" albeit for different reasons than the other people.

You will also note I put convert in inverted commas above. There is a reason for that. Changing your religion to meet this guy is hardly converting. Yes, you could technically call it that, but normally it implies more. It implies actually believing in this new religion.

Now we can come to why you should not. It is dishonest. It is an outright lie to him, to the faith, and pretty much to anyone else that you tell you are a Mormon.

From my perspective all other reasons are irrelevant. Relationships (real, long lasting ones) are built on trust and respect. You would be establishing your relationship without either.

Good luck.

I know, i know..another question about what type of lady a real man prefers. More specificly, would you ever go out with a girl that has a bit more chub chub than others? what are your thoughts and/or opinions on that?

It is of very little importance to me. In fact a little bit is better than totally thin imo, but that is just down to taste. Either way though, its not an important characteristic.

ok alin 75! im the person who is dating guy of 3yrs. see u hit a few things on the head there are somethings i don't want to loose, but if i have too then so be it. now he is really is a good guy but there are a few things that like; i've been hurt before so its a little difficult to trust all the way, but then and now are 3 different things. i care for him but being in love with him him thats another thing, but he is a good provider, good lover, and tries his best to make me happy. deep down in side i dont want to loose that and i know i will never hurt him, but i dont think my feelings are in place they come and go and it is confusing me. help me if u can.

Hey there.

I will be honest with you, I am no relationship expert. When I answered your original question, I felt it kind of answered itself, but now you want me to produce real wisdom, that is much harder :)

I do not really know how important love is (i.e. actually being "in love"). I have not figured it out yet, and I hear conflicting things. For some people a long term relationship could not exist without it, for others it is the qualities that you describe in your boyfriend that they consider to be most relevant.

Now, your boyfriend sounds like a really decent guy. I can understand your dilemma. However, the key here as I see it, is that you both need to feel happy and fulfilled in the relationship. Sometimes that is just not possible, other times it takes "work".

I cannot help you to understand your feelings as such, but I would encourage you to consider a few questions.

How long have you felt this way? Could this be a temporary thing, or is it something that has been building up for a while.

Could it be that the only thing you have in this relationship is a sense of safety? You say he is a good provider that tries to make you happy. In your first question you expressed a clear issue with just being in his company.

Can you see yourself with this guy in 10 years? how about 30? I mean this in all seriousness, picture yourself 30 years down the line, married and living with your current boyfriend. If the very idea sends shivers down your spine, then you are probably delaying the inevitable. If not, then perhaps there is something to work with.

All that being said, if you do break it up with him, it will end up hurting him no matter what. If he loves you, and it sounds like he does, there will be no easy way to do it. Remaining friends will also be quite difficult (though not impossible). However, if it is the right thing to do, for the both of you and your long term happiness, then it has to be done.

These kinds of decisions are always very tricky, and very hard to give concrete advice on. Basically you need to determine if your relationship has long term potential, and if he will ever be anything more than a friend to you. If not, then the only solution is to move on, irrespective of the nice things that one will end up losing as a consequence of ending it.

Good luck.

There's this poem I found on the Internet I'm reciting for French, but I have to know who the author... I actually just picked the first poem from this random website (fortunately I ended up liking it) but now I have NO IDEA who wrote it... any random person could've written it actually. Anyone care to help?

Aujourd'hui j'aimerais écrire,
Tout ce qui me fait souffrir,
Des insultes sur du papier,
Des mots doux qui me font rêver,
Puis au fusain je dessine,
Tout ce qui me chagrine,
Et je rajoute à la craie,
Les ombres du passé,
Avec un stylos sans mesure,
Je trace mon futur,
Et de toutes les couleurs,
Je raconte mon malheur.

Hmmm, it appears on this blog, with another verse as well:

http://fofinha.allmyblog.com/14-dessin-d-amour.html

As far as I can see, there is no name attached, but it should belong to the author of the blog.

On the left there is a tab that says "Contacter l'auteur de ce blog"... I would say that this is your best chance to find out who wrote the poem.

Otherwise it also appears here:

http://www.algerie-dz.com/forums/la-rue-des-petites-perles/37978-aujourdhui.html

And one gets the name of the person who posted. However, what strikes me about this is that the punctuation is different at the end. That and the missing verse as in your version... so it makes me wonder if this is not some sort of reposting by someone else.

Well, in any case if you are recounting it in class, that name might suffice.

Good luck.

I am dating this guy, he is really a great guy we have been togehter for about 3yrs, but i don't know whats wrong with me. My quesstion is? i don't have any feelings for him like i used to, i don't want to have sex with him either, the only time i can be around him is when i drink. Is there something wrong with me? can some one help me? I dont want to loose him but i am worried, thank you.

With all due respect, what is it that you are afraid to lose?

Lets look at it rationally, you do not have romantic feelings for him, you do not have a sexual attraction to him, and I would say you are not really that good friends with him either. For the latter, if you were good friends, you would not need to drink to like being around him.

So, of course there is nothing wrong with you. There is something wrong with the relationship... and its nobody's fault. As people below said, sometimes these things just die out.

So again, ask yourself what is it that you are actually afraid of losing, because whatever it is, you did not give any hint of it in your question. Beyond that, it is time to end it. Remain friends if you like, but I would say you need some time apart first and foremost. Alcohol should not be the glue that holds any relationship together.

Good luck.

Im a 16 yr old average sized kid, but i want to get big fast, like muscle wise. I dont have any fat to turn into muscle so i need to find a supplement to help. I was going to take creatine, but that just puts air in your muscles, so you can turn the fat into more muscle, but i dont have fat. Someone told me take a weight gaining supplement first to bulk up then creatine. Is there one solution so im not taking a bunch of different stuff. And please dont tell me how this stuffs not healthy.

Ok the sheer amount of myths that you managed to incorporate into one paragraph is amazing :D Don't get me wrong, I am not making fun of you- this kind of stuff is prevalent amongst people that go to the gym. If you don't mind I am going to go a bit outside the scope of your question and include some other advice... i do cover supplements though and have a quick overview at the end of the text.

Lets start at the beginning. Fat never, ever (ever, ever) turns to muscle. Muscle never, ever turns to fat. You can lose fat or gain fat, but the cell structure does not change into something else.

Second, creatine does not put air in your muscles (it does make the muscles retain water, maybe that's where the confusion came about from). It is a compound that is used by the body in the regeneration of the ATP molecule during short term exertion. Therefore, creatine increases your performance (somewhat) for short term anaerobic exercise.

Now, this stuff is not unhealthy- creatine is found in your food and its a natural compound. Neither is a weight gainer which is just basically protein, fat and carbs. No magic there, nothing unusual or dangerous (or particularly effective). Sometimes they add glutamine which is an amino acid that becomes very much in demand when one lifts weights. Again, nothing dangerous or unhealthy.

There is only one problem with the way you approach this, and as someone who has been training on and off since I was your age (I am now 33), I have seen this too many times. If you are not willing to put the effort to do it "right", you will almost certainly fail. People looking for fast results and short cuts, almost always end up not paying the right attention to the things that truly matter. Patience is key at the gym- you must understand this early on.

I am not trying to discourage you, but I have seen it in strangers, and I have seen it in people I trained up.

The first step, always is to get your routine in order. You set your goals (in this case bulking), and then you have someone design you your first 8- 12 week cycle (not the guy that said creatine puts air in your muscles). This cycle should be quite different from your next one, once you are conditioned for more serious lifting.

Irrespective the routine should be based around the big free-weight compound lifts like squats, deadlifts, presses, rows, etc. These big lifts increase your natural testosterone production (amongst other things)and are therefore much more effective than machines and isolated movements.

The other simultaneous step is to get your diet in order. Supplements are NOTHING compared to a proper diet. I wonder if you truly eat to bulk... if you actually know what it takes, diet wise, to put on real weight. If you want, post your diet and your stats in my inbox (hour by hour, including the quantity and type of food you eat), and I will help you make a bulking diet. In my experience less than 10% of people at the gym know what they are doing in this respect.

After this one should look into supplements (legal nutritional supplements, not roids or the like). If you are a hard gainer (but you will not know this until you did step 1 and 2 for a while) then you could use a weight gainer... if you are not you risk piling on too much body fat with those things imo.

Notable supplements with proven track records are:
- Whey protein- concentrate or isolate... this should be taken directly post training due to its fast absorption. This supplement is pretty essential.
- Casein protein- This should be taken before bed due to its slow absorption
- Glutamine- a conditionally essential amino acid.
- Creatine
- Carbs like maltodextrin: For post workout recovery.
- Vitamins: a good multi tab every morning

Thats pretty much it. Good luck training, and remember be patient and be ready to put in real effort, and you will make solid gains.

Well, this guy and i have been messing around for about 3 years now. And hes 5 years older than me, but its become more intense. Like, now he wants me to sleep over and all that. But he has a girlfriend of two years, but he says he doesnt care about her. He basically just needs her for now because of work. Well, we are on the level of more than good friends and less than a couple, its confusing. I really have strong feelings about him, and i go over his house everynight and its not always about sex. I dont know if he is using me, and i really doubt it just because of how he acts towards me. I know he cares, but its like we cant be together right now because of our age difference and because i am 16. Am i a booty call? or is this all that can be at the moment? and until i become 18 this is all that can happen?

PLus, i stay over and we cuddle and all that.

idk, please any advice?

Well I will be totally honest, I don't think much of your relationship, and I have a hard time not feeling dislike towards your sort-of boyfriend.

First off, he has a girlfriend which he is blatantly using. He has done this with no remorse for two years. This should give you an indication of how he will deal with people whenever his interests conflict with what is morally right. Clearly, he has no problems with the whole concept of using another person for his own gain.

The whole notion of you not being together because of age sounds like the excuses married men make to have affairs. Dont get me wrong, its true that, when you were 13 (!!!!) and he was 18, that would have landed him in a world of trouble. But, at the same time, if he cared for you so much how come its not exclusive? A relationship can be secret and exclusive at the same time...

Whatever his justification for lying, cheating and disrespecting his current girlfriend is, I doubt that its not something he could have avoided in 2 years. And now I am actually playing along that it is somehow acceptable to use another human being in this way- which I categorically think it is NOT.

Let me tell you one other thing. Over the years I have had a lot of friends, mainly guys. I have been close to a number of them with extremely dubious ethics in regards to women.

Now, these guys were typically some of the most successful in that department as well, despite many (imo damn obvious) signals that the girls should have picked up on. Yet all of them made their women feel "so special", they all knew how to manipulate them emotionally to the point that they the warnings were right there- in plain sight. Yet they got away with it again and again.

I am not saying this is your boyfriend. But what I am saying is that my warning lights went on the minute I read through your description. There are times in life when logic and reason must "win" over one's desires and wishes. Are you sure you aren't seeing what you want to see? Why do you think that someone who can totally disregard another person's feelings, rights, and self respect (his girlfriend's) is actually a good person?

Thats all I can say to this. Do I, from this limited info, believe you are a booty call... oh yes. I have as little doubt as is possible from what I know.

I hope you work this out.

Good luck.

i work out everyday or like every other day but mostly everyday no im not trying to lose weight but im trying to stay in shape and i want to remain my current weight,im 13 & im like 5'5 and im like 54 53 and half kilos so i know im not fat at all im skinny but when i workout on my treadmille i sweat alot i run for like 2 miles and lose like 200 calories which i think is fine but the only problem i have here is that my calves and knees ALWAYS hurt me and i cant even bend down anymore because of how much they hurt, am i pushin myself too hard or what exactly lol? maybe my body is jus gettin used to it i dont know. cuz ive been working out for a while now but i startedd runing alot recently.thanks

It does not have to be because you are pushing yourself too hard. Certainly your routine does not sound excessive at all.

Some people get knee problems, it does not have to be more complicated than that. However, you MUST go and get it checked by a doctor. Particularly if it is getting worse and it is as bad as you describe. Your body should not be reacting this way, so it could well be something that will not just pass on its own.

A doctor will be able to tell you exactly what you should and should not be doing. He may even need to refer you to a specialist. Advice on this site will simply not suffice since it could be anything ranging from needing some rest to surgery.

So please go and get checked up. Good luck.

Okay, I think I need to drop a few pounds. The problem is that I don't know how to do that without gaining muscle. I like the muscle that I have now but if I lost weight and then gained MORE muscle I would look way to buff. Any suggestions on that?

Seriously right, if you are losing weight this is not a big concern to you. Weight loss by definition requires a calorie deficit, and weight gain (muscle or fat) requires a calorie surplus.

The thing to worry about actually during weight loss is how to preserve your existing muscle mass. And its a big problem and a reason why so many people regain lost weight. They lose weight, a portion of that is muscle, because they eat wrong that portion is too high relatively speaking- this then screws up their metabolism and they gain weight as soon as they start to eat right.

I agree with the answer below that cardio should be your focus (something like 4-6 cardios/ week of 30 min+ is a good goal to shoot for). However, I do not agree with the rest. You can easily incorporate some maintenance weight training to help sustain your muscle mass. You dont need to do this, but it will help. You can certainly train endurance training, I see no reason on earth why that shouldnt be recommended.

Now, if you do lose weight, your muscles will become more apparent, but thats something else.

Anyhow, good luck and happy exercising :)

This is EXTREMLY werid
But can a male dog get you pregnate?
My friend just recently sent me sex story about some chick having sex with her dog & the dog 'came' in her
So, dog chid. Is it a posibility?

Nope. We cannot breed with other species (tell that to the makers of Star Trek lol... but its true).

okay i really need some help haha. my breast size is a 36 D or DD either one depending on the bra..but the size of my nippple (not the ball thing) the brown part is huge! and i love the size of my boobs but i get so embarressed when i have to take off my bra beacause i think guys will think its disgusting. i need advice from girls and guys! please and thank youuu

Well, I have no clue what girls think, but I can tell you that guys will not find it disgusting. No need to worry about that.

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