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I am dating this guy, he is really a great guy we have been togehter for about 3yrs, but i don't know whats wrong with me. My quesstion is? i don't have any feelings for him like i used to, i don't want to have sex with him either, the only time i can be around him is when i drink. Is there something wrong with me? can some one help me? I dont want to loose him but i am worried, thank you.
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With all due respect, what is it that you are afraid to lose?
Lets look at it rationally, you do not have romantic feelings for him, you do not have a sexual attraction to him, and I would say you are not really that good friends with him either. For the latter, if you were good friends, you would not need to drink to like being around him.
So, of course there is nothing wrong with you. There is something wrong with the relationship... and its nobody's fault. As people below said, sometimes these things just die out.
So again, ask yourself what is it that you are actually afraid of losing, because whatever it is, you did not give any hint of it in your question. Beyond that, it is time to end it. Remain friends if you like, but I would say you need some time apart first and foremost. Alcohol should not be the glue that holds any relationship together.
Good luck.
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If you have to be drunk to tolerate someone,
the romance is over! Just break up with him
and find someone new. People change and their
partners don't always change along with them.
Better it happen now than later. I know it
will be hard to do, after 3 years he's like
a habit! But you really need to find another
guy. :)
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Sometimes the spark just leaves. I went through it with my man. We just didn't wanna bang anymore. I thought about breaking up with him, because I thought maybe he could find someone better. I didn't though. I held on, and explained to him that I was just having a hard time. He understood, gave me some space and we're fine now.
In that space I went to see a shrink though, and she really helped me. Once I felt better there wasn't a way to keep me off of him. I think you should find someone to talk to about it. A counselor, a shrink, your mom, even your best friend. Just talk, see what comes flying out of your mouth when you aren't paying attention.
I don't recommend drinking so you can be with him. Sometimes it's just over and no one wants to admit it. You just have to deal with it, I'm afraid.
I hope I helped.
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Sometime in a relationship the sparks just stop thats why you cant always be with the same person for long the attraction is gone and i doubt that it will come back so the only advice i can really give you is to break up with him so he and you both can move on but ask him to still be friends its for the best i hope i helped good luck :)
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