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should i convert my religion for him?
17/F
Alright, so this question is going to make me sound extremely stupid, but should I convert my religion to try to get with this guy that i really like? He's mormon, and I looked up some stuff and it says that mormons can only date other mormons. I really want to be with him. We dont actually know each other. Ive introduced myself twice and he thinks im crazy, but I want him to notice me in a good way and i think going to his church and being all mormon will be a good way to get his attention and show him that im right for him.
Plus I have no real religion as of right now. I mean I believe in God and all that but I dont go to church.
Any advice will be appriciated
Thanks <3
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In my personal opinion, I believe that you shouldn't. ofcourse, you might and might not. The thing is that what happens if you convert, and lets say you do go out...what if you dont spend the rest of your life with him?
if you convert, you are only going to be able to date people that are mormons, and what happens if you fall for someone who isn't?
I understand you want to be with him, but you don't know him. Lets say you do date and you find things about him that you cant stand...you converted for nothing but him! If you find other reasons to convert such as you understand and want to be part of the religion, then go for it. but dont do it for some guy. It's like getting a tattoo of a guy that you haven't known that long, it's pointless.
Please consider this
and i'm sure you'll find someone perfect for you
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Well, I do not believe in any religion, and as such I place little value on one school of though versus another. Still though, I too do not believe you should "convert" albeit for different reasons than the other people.
You will also note I put convert in inverted commas above. There is a reason for that. Changing your religion to meet this guy is hardly converting. Yes, you could technically call it that, but normally it implies more. It implies actually believing in this new religion.
Now we can come to why you should not. It is dishonest. It is an outright lie to him, to the faith, and pretty much to anyone else that you tell you are a Mormon.
From my perspective all other reasons are irrelevant. Relationships (real, long lasting ones) are built on trust and respect. You would be establishing your relationship without either.
Good luck.
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I would absolutely not convert.
Do you know what Mormons believe? They think Jesus came to North America. They believe this guy read a new gospel from special stones and when the guy was asked to re-write the gospel again exactly the way it was written the first time, he couldn't. They think black skin is the result of being a sinful person and belief in Jesus will turn skin light. Some believe in having more than one wife. Also, no alcohol, ever.
Do you want to sign up for this because of some guy? Let me tell you something, if he thinks you're crazy now, which you've said he does, then he's really going to think you're nuts if you convert for him for any reason since he's not interested in you.
If you're not a church person, I'd focus more on finding a guy who is also not a church person. Shared values are important.
Fact is you don't know anything about this boy, except that you're attracted to him. Joining a religion for someone you don't know is never going to be a good idea. You'll regret it later.
And besides, you can't make someone like you. They either are attracted to you or they're not. No amount of converting will change his mind.
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I don't think you should. If he hasn't noticed you and you have introduced yourself twice now, then forget him. The perfect person will come along, and you won't have to change a thing about yourself for him.
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