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What there to say about me? I'm 27 and a graduate of UCSD. Throughout my life most of my close friends have been girls so I have a unique perspective on relationships and sex. I know a lot about computers as well as random stuff in general. Feel free to ask me anything and I'll answer it to the best of my knowledge.
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my cellphone doesnt have the internet on it but is there anyway that you can get ringtones without having to use the internet on your phone?
thanks! (link)
how can your phone not have internet? phones 6 years ago had a primitive internet browser on them... im guessing you mean you dont have internet service? if so, then if your phone has bluetooth, you can use that to transfer it from a computer that has bluetooth, simply get a sound editing software like wavepad, cut the song down to about 20sec and transfer it to your phone. you can also use a data cable to transfer it.


I have asked this question before and have, to date, gotten no answer. So maybe someone new will see this question and help me.

I just bought an HP tablet PC with Windows Vista. I was wondering if there is a way to change the settings where the screen is landscape when you have the computer like a laptop and then it changes to portrait when you flip the screen to write on it. It is hard to write with the screen all wide like that, but it is also hard to see to type if your screen is really skinny. Thanks in advance.

--turtle 479-- (link)
i used to have one of those and as i recall, it was like that automatically...

in the control panel, there should be a tablet pc settings icon you can look there. also, there should be a button that looks kinda like an internet explorer refresh button that should flip the orientation.


My boyfriend and I haven't been together long... but when we are alone together he gets excited and a lot of times carried away, and he tries to get me to move too far with him. I told him I wanted a serious relationship with him because I really cared about him, not to just fool around. And he said he wanted a serious relationship too, but his actions don't match his words. What am I supposed to tell him?!? He's always telling me that I make him hard, and texts me dirty messages. It makes me feel uncomfortable a lot of times, that maybe he doesnt see the real me and all he sees is a girl with boobs and a butt. Can this be fixed or will it never work out for us? (link)
subtle hints dont work, blunt hints dont work, totally obvious hints dont work. grab his face, look into his eyes, and say "cut it out"

and no, if hes just seeing boobs, a butt, and a certain other part, there is no way to fix it.


I was wondering if anyone knew of any websites that have couples sex games with more than one couple involved, but not a foursome situation. (link)
the answer to any question of the form "does ____ exist on the internet" is yes.

heres one that contains actual games you buy
http://www.greatsexgames.com/games.html

i only did a quick search and could imediately find any ones that could just be described but do a google search and you should be able to find some. truth or dare usually cant miss.


HEy do guys get upset if a girl is really athletic and is really better than they are does that turn a guy away? And do guys hate when a girl is really competitive? (link)
some guys do, i myself actually find it a bit of a turn on.


How do you say something like ´athleticism´or like ´athletic´ in russian?
Chinese? OR Thai
If you only know one of the languauges that fine .

Thank you so much! sorry its a wierd question haha ... (link)
theres no direct russian translation for athletic, it was adopted into russian as "ath-le-tich-niy" (a as in awkward)

the closest actual russian word is "zdaroviy" which means fit or healthy though that has more to do with mody type than frequent activity.

also, there is "mochniy" which means something similar to strong


i had sex two times in one week the boy came in me both times, how long would it take to find out if im pregnate? (link)
pregnancy tests are best taken 1 week after a missed period. some can be taken earlier, but its still best to wait.


I am 17-year-old straight girl, and the guy I like is gay. I've tried everything to get over him, but there just aren't any other guys left in my school that meet my standards. Is it okay to keep having a crush on him, knowing it will never happen, until I get to college and meet new people? He knows that I used to like him, but I let him think that I got over him because I didn't want it to ruin our friendship. I'm worried that if I make it clear that I still have some pretty strong feelings, he will keep feeling guilty and apologizing to me (which is what did before), or worse, decide to go out with me out of pity. I want to be honest, but I don't want to make things more awkward than they need to be. How much should I tell him? (link)
unrequited love is a lot like hanging from a rusty meathook, yeah it hurts, but it sure is difficult to let go. nothing wrong with liking someone you cant have, it happens all the time. eventually, you will meet someone new and move on. and nothing wrong with not telling him.


ok. i know this is gross, but is it normal a ringworm?? nd how do i get rid of it?? (link)
i got ringworm at like... 20 yeah its normal enough. go to the doctor and they will perscribe and antifungal cream most likely that you rub on there for i think 2 weeks and it will go away.


16/female

How long should you wait after hooking up with a guy and not recieving a phone call before deciding if he's used you or not? Sorry if that was a little confusing to understand, but it's been a week now and im not sure if i should just forget about him and move on, i really just can't stop thinking about him and i know after having sex the guy should at least call if he cares about the girl at all right? i mean if he dosent.. does that mean he has no feelings for her whatsoever? (link)
i think i saw your question in the public pool... i was actually thinking about how to answer it. yeah a week is a bit much, the general "rule" a lot of guys follow is dont call the next day, so you should expect a call the day after that, anything beyond 3 days is most likely a blow off. are you friends with him on myspace/facebook/aim/whatever? if so, and he hasnt contacted you through those either but has some activity then yeah forget about him, or really, yeah, just forget about him, definitely sounds like a blow off.


13/f

me and a friend, we'll call her T. T is bi. I am supposed to be straight, but I'm confused now. Well, T and I went to a friends house and when my other frined fell asleep, we played truth or dare. I couldn't thing of one, so I said
'i dare you to do the first thing that comes to your mind when I say sexy.' She kissed me! She grabbed my face and kissed me! it was surprising and it scared me. but that wasn't the scary part. the scary part was... it was a nice kiss. well, then I was quiet and obviously, thinking about very stupid things. my friend said, i dare you to kiss me back. i don't turn down dares, but this one was a little creepy, but for some reason, i kissed her back. unfortunately, things got a little out of hand. she dared me to get on top of her in the bed, so i did... then, i think we made out then just... uh humped each other for a while. it was okay, but when i didn't feel that weird urge anymore, i felt so stupid. i cursed myself and i still do! the same thing happened again a couple weeks after school let out. only this time, we got a bit undressed, not all the way. again, i don't get how it happened. i don't want to be bisexual or lesbian. i want to be straight and straight all the time. what do i do about this?! I couldn't be considered bi could i? I get angry afterwards, then don't get turned on by any other girls. just guys... and then when T does the dares, then i get... yea. so, what do i do?!
Candy (link)
people really are a bit too hardpressed to categorize everything, hell for a long time, there wasnt even a "bi" it was just "gay" or "straight". kinsey had the right idea with his scale of i believe 0 to 6 for meassure, but i think it goes even deeper than that. its perfectly possible to be straight, but still be attracted to one or two of your gender. where that puts your sexuality is for you to define. if someone is touching you in a way that feels good then it feels good, their gender doesnt really matter much. your angry feeling is probably due to the fact that you feel good, but want to be straight. since you are saying you arent turned on by other girls, and for that matter, seems like you arent turned on by T, i wouldnt say liking doing those things makes you bi. it doesnt really matter what you want though, its not a choice, itll get worse than this too, when you start to like a boy who you dont want to like for one reason for another, it happens to everyone. anyways, if this stuff with T is making you uncomfortable, tell her that if she keeps doing it, you wont play truth or dare with her anymore. and really, daring someone to do something to you is a bit tacky... if you want to do something with someone you are supposed to ask a friend to dare them for you.

and of yeah, im sure a lot of people will try telling you how you cant possibly figure out your sexuality at your age. i think thats a bunch of crap, i knew i was straight at 13, so its completley logical to think that bi and gay people figure it out at a similar age as well.


I have some questions about AIM and I was wondering if anyone could explain them to me. xD

1. How do you link 2 or more accounts together?
2. If you're talking to a person on one of your screen names, and then you block them, do all your accounts block that person or is it just for that account?
3. If you block someone (which makes you appear offline) or you sign off or set yourself to invisible, will all your screen names sign off at the same time, or will they just sign off one by one?
4. Is there a way to set yourself to private if you don't want anyone else seeing you on their friends list? Like for example, if someone adds you to their buddy list and you don't have them on yours, they can still see you online. (so that kinda sucks if you blocked one person and they had another account to see if you were online or not.)
5. I'm just curious, have you ever blocked anyone or has anyone blocked you? Because my friend signed off but I guess she obviously forgot I had another and she's online ;[ that makes me sad cause she might be annoyed at me, but I'm not gonna bother her about it. It's like she doesn't wanna talk to me, but she'd want to talk to her other friends. (if she blocked me or something) So has this ever happened to anybody xP (I'm not sure if she's set on invisible....)

Anyway, thanks to anyone who answers this :] it'll be a big help, and if you have a link to a FAQ about linked accounts then that's fine too. x] (link)
1. edit > settings > buddy list > manage linked screenames
2. just that account
3. blocking as above only affects one account. if you click the little eye, that will just make that account go invisible, if you click available, one of the options there is go invisible, another is "apply to all accounts" which is checked by default
4. edit > settings > privacy > allow only users on my buddy list
5. yeah ive blocked a couple people, and been blocked by a couple people. a couple of those times were temporary when i guess the person just wanted some time alone and i tend to be pretty talkative

6. yes, if theyve blocked one account, it wont affect how your other accounts see them
7. no idea... i dont think thats true...
8. i dont think you can see people's status messages if they are offline, and you appear as offline if you are invisible or have blocked someone.


Ok so I like my best friend and i dont know if he likes me back.. he gives me mixed signs so i don't know what to think. he would talk to me all the time, sit by me at lunch, and when we are around our other friends he always is talking to me. and then sometimes he doesnt sit by me or he doesnt wait for me at lunch. i dont know what to think?! does he like me or doesnt he? If he likes me then i gonna try make a move, so what do i do?
f/14 (link)
go ahead and try to make a move. even if he doesnt like you, guys are a lot better about staying friends after a false move than girls are, so youll be fine either way.


Out of all my friends I'm the ONLY ONE who hasn't kissed a boy. (13/f) It's so annoying hearing about everyones first kiss. I know it's suppose to be special and what ever. But honestly, I'm done caring. I just wanna get it over with. You know? I've tried truth or dare, Spin the bottle.. But not once have I been dare or chosen. It's like God doesn't want me kissin a dude. But it makes me feel SO stupid. Ha. I sound so pathetic.
But help?

Any help will work... (link)
well you could always just go up to a guy and kiss him. as long as hes single, i highly doubt he will mind.


How do I know whether I have been blocked on myspace? (link)
myspace blocking doesnt hide the blocked person from you. all it does is make it so they cant message you. what you do is, send her a message, then check your sent messages folder. if it shows up there, you arent blocked, just deleted.


I downloaded a ringtone online and it told me to save the file onto my computer. One saved as an mp3 and the other saved as a midi. How do I transfer these to my phone? (link)
if your computer has bluetooth, you should just use that. turn it on on both the computer and cell phone, and pair them up and send it. if not, does it have a card slot for the type of memory card your phone uses? if so, stick it in, and move the file over. if not, you will need a data cable, which most phones dont come with.


I have 3 brothers and im the only girl. And about ten years ago i was molested by my oldest brother and we was taken away to juvy then a group home. But when i was about 12 about 5 years ago he came to live with us because we were moving from california to florida and my dad didnt want to leave his son there but i wanted to. My dad thought he learned a lesson but he never did because he still kept doing it and now at my house here for almost 4 years i've had to use two locks so he wont get in. he's almost 22 and still lives with us. I feel like my dad loves him more because he never yells at him but always at me. I feel like my parents dont love me at all. My secong older brother has a girlfriend and i feel like my parents like her more by the way they treat her and the way they treat me. I just don't know what to do and im 17 about to star my senior year. And i just think that if my parents loved me my oldest brother wouldnt be living with us so that i wouldnt have to lock my door until i move out because hes almost 22 and doesnt have a life no girlfriend or friends at all. I just need help on what to do! Thanks. (link)
ok, i dont know about those answers telling you to talk to your parents. havent you already done that? you have a few options other than that, some good, some not so good.

1. your best bet is to circumvent your parents, and even child services. go straight to the police and acuse him of rape. or moslestation if there wasnt any actual rape... just tell the police what is going on and have them take care of the rest. hes 22 now, so if goes through, hell be going to jail for a long time, where he will probably get molested himself.

2. do you have any one else you can stay with to get away from him? a friend or other family member?

3. buy yourself some pepper spray, and use it to defend yourself. or get a heating coil and leave it on your doorhandle overnight. this is one of the bad options, but i still feel i should mention it in case you have exhausted all other ones. the reason it is bad is because it leaves you needing to be constantly on guard, and thats not something anyone should have to do. especially not in their own home.

have you really been putting up with all of this for 5 years now? thats horrible... i dont see how parents can let that happen to their own child... just... go to the police, you could probably even make a case for your father being an accessory, since he is protecting him.


15/F
For five months i've been dating this guy, and all has gone well!
He's really respectful, and sweet, and it seemed he really liked me for me.
About two weeks ago, we started making out on a daily basis.
Which is fine, because i really love him, and i love kissing him and stuff. But lateley everytime i try talking to him, or want to have fun, making out is all he wants to do.
Now, i said this before, i love making out with him, but i want to do other things too sometimes you know?
Yesterday, he brought me in the garage so we could do nothing BUT make out.
Theres more to realationships and love then just making out.
I know hes really into me and i know he loves me, but what are some very slight hints i can give him that will indicate that i want to do something else when i dont feel like making out?
Dont say change the subject because it never works, i tried it.
He'll just say "You're so pretty"
or
"You're so cute"
and then he'll kiss me.
what do i do? (link)
try eating a lot of garlic or onion before you are going to hang out.


how do i search for everyone that is in the network that i am on facebook?


i want to see everyone who is in my school network, but how do i do that? (link)
search for anything, then at the top click friend finder. on the bottom left of that page, all your networks should be listed, it will say "find classmates from..."


I am a student and I do not feel knowledgeable about laptop notebook computers. I want to buy one that can last for a couple of years, yet price is a big concern. After doing plenty of research about laptops, I feel completely clueless. Do you think you can recommend a laptop with the following information?

1. I will not use my laptop every day.

2. I will write many papers/presentations with it, and that is the main purpose of the purchase. Therefore, I would like a one that allows papers to be easily transferred to other computers and has good tools for academic projects.

3. I will use the internet with the laptop and that's very important because the classes I am enrolled in often post things online and I have to turn documents in online.

4. I hopefully will have an iTunes account on it.

Those are the four criteria. The MacBook is really quite expensive for me, but do you think it would be better to buy high or just buy low due to my needs. I probably will never make songs and videos on it. Thanks for your help and consideration. It is greatly appreciated!! Thanks! (link)
http://www.costco.com/CTO/HPProduct.aspx?Prodid=10029570&whse=BC&Ne=4000000&eCat=BC|84|56670&N=4017749&Mo=1&No=1&Nr=P_CatalogName%3aBC&cat=28163&Ns=P_Price|1||P_SignDesc1&lang=en-US&Sp=C&topnav=&model=KR346AV&configno=b8f7de5d-e626-4f46-9205-b3ee94246082

i upped the ram to 2gigs because 1 really isnt enough anymore, especially with vista. the rest i believe is standard. click reconfigure if you like to make changes, for example, you migth want a better battery




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