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Bisexual? Lez? It was an accident!
13/f
me and a friend, we'll call her T. T is bi. I am supposed to be straight, but I'm confused now. Well, T and I went to a friends house and when my other frined fell asleep, we played truth or dare. I couldn't thing of one, so I said
'i dare you to do the first thing that comes to your mind when I say sexy.' She kissed me! She grabbed my face and kissed me! it was surprising and it scared me. but that wasn't the scary part. the scary part was... it was a nice kiss. well, then I was quiet and obviously, thinking about very stupid things. my friend said, i dare you to kiss me back. i don't turn down dares, but this one was a little creepy, but for some reason, i kissed her back. unfortunately, things got a little out of hand. she dared me to get on top of her in the bed, so i did... then, i think we made out then just... uh humped each other for a while. it was okay, but when i didn't feel that weird urge anymore, i felt so stupid. i cursed myself and i still do! the same thing happened again a couple weeks after school let out. only this time, we got a bit undressed, not all the way. again, i don't get how it happened. i don't want to be bisexual or lesbian. i want to be straight and straight all the time. what do i do about this?! I couldn't be considered bi could i? I get angry afterwards, then don't get turned on by any other girls. just guys... and then when T does the dares, then i get... yea. so, what do i do?!
Candy
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You need to back off and quit getting into these situations. Say I dare you to never ask me to do that again or just don't do the dare. You get angry because of the perceived excitement but afterwards you see how dumb it was. That's a good clue you lack some self control. The sooner you remove this opportunity from happening, the sooner the temptation will subside. You might stay away from this girl. Bad company corrupts good morals.
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i dont think youre necessarily bi...i just think that you like to follow through with dares =]
youre probaly just going through a little phase (i know you dont want to hear that, but everyone goes through that sooner or later, i know i did and so did all my friends).
i hope i helped =]
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Hm.. this is a tough one. The thing is, it sounds like you're really in the moment about it. Just because you get 'excited' about something going on at the time dosen't mean you won't regret it, or would normally be turned on by it. It dosent' really make a difference sometimes whether or not it's a guy or a girl, you could still like it at the moment. Just think about what's going to happen when you guys hang out. If you think something's going to happen and you don't want it to, talk to your friend about it before hand. I'm sure there are SOME exceptions to saying no to dares, and if you don't believe there are, you may want to avoid hanging out if it all bothers you so much.
By other people's standards, I can't say what you'd be considered. It SOUNDS like something a bisexual would do, but then again it also sounds like something a teenager experimenting would do.
YOU define who you are, but make sure you think things through before you do them. There's nothing wrong with any sexual orientation in my opinion, but if you believe there is, or strongly disagree with something, make it clear!
XOXO
KAT.
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maybe you should talk to "T" about this and tell her how you feel maybe she'll understand. If you don't feel comfortable telling her then maybe you should take some time to think about if you may have feelings for her and not guys or her and guys.I hope this helped you.
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okay well this is my sisters thingy so she told me to answer it cuz i am bi so ya but it isn`t wierd but okay and well ya it kinda does mean you are bi and ohh well just tell her you only like her as a friend if you dont want to do it but if you do then just accept that you are bi because well ya you can probobly change but dont be ashamed if you are so ya thatz what i think so ya ..........
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you could be just really confused rite now i say u stop hanging out with her seeing that everytime you do that happends start hanging with guys see if its differnt theres nothing wrong being bi or lesbian but dont beat ur self up for being who you are!
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It's perfectly natural to experiment. You're at that age where your hormones are developing. So it's normal to be sexually interested in the same gender. This doesn't necessarily mean you're bisexual or lesbian, though it definitely could.
Also, I've heard and read about people who are such close friends that they do have an attraction to each other, despite the fact that they are not normally attracted to that sex. This is referred to as a "girl crush" of sorts, and could be the case with you.
My advice is to not write off any sexual orientation as "bad." Eventually you'll know if you're lesbian, bisexual, straight, etc. Keep in mind, too, that if you wouldn't engage in sexual activity with a guy, then it's perfectly fine to say "no" to a girl.
Best wishes! I hope this helped.
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people really are a bit too hardpressed to categorize everything, hell for a long time, there wasnt even a "bi" it was just "gay" or "straight". kinsey had the right idea with his scale of i believe 0 to 6 for meassure, but i think it goes even deeper than that. its perfectly possible to be straight, but still be attracted to one or two of your gender. where that puts your sexuality is for you to define. if someone is touching you in a way that feels good then it feels good, their gender doesnt really matter much. your angry feeling is probably due to the fact that you feel good, but want to be straight. since you are saying you arent turned on by other girls, and for that matter, seems like you arent turned on by T, i wouldnt say liking doing those things makes you bi. it doesnt really matter what you want though, its not a choice, itll get worse than this too, when you start to like a boy who you dont want to like for one reason for another, it happens to everyone. anyways, if this stuff with T is making you uncomfortable, tell her that if she keeps doing it, you wont play truth or dare with her anymore. and really, daring someone to do something to you is a bit tacky... if you want to do something with someone you are supposed to ask a friend to dare them for you.
and of yeah, im sure a lot of people will try telling you how you cant possibly figure out your sexuality at your age. i think thats a bunch of crap, i knew i was straight at 13, so its completley logical to think that bi and gay people figure it out at a similar age as well.
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