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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well

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16/f
ive had a crush on this guy for almost a year now, and we just recently starting going out. i am very happy with this, i mean we are like perfect for eachother ((atlest i think)) and its been two days by the way. after he asked me out him and i were on the phone for another two hours. i asked him "so are we serious now?" and he was like "yes, i really want to start a relationship with you, i mean i really like you. i have somse things i need to srot out in my life, and ive never had a girlfriend in school before so i dont know how this is going to work, but for now, lets not tell anyone." so ive only told a few people that i can trust who wont tell, and they haven't. this guy and i are hanging out this weekend and we are only to relaly have a relationship outside of school even though we go to the same school. does this mean that he doesn't want to be my boyfriend? or does he just want ot be friends with benefits?

It could be that he noticed most couples in school slack off because they want to be with each other as much as possible that means skipping and being late to classes. I think he wants to stay on track with his studies. Does he really care alot about school? straight A student or a A B student? If not then there is something wrong. Good luck

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I really need a good workout playlist...Can anyone tell me some good songs to workout to? I need like energetic songs (maybe some techno?) I hate rap, but i love pretty much everything else. My ipod has a lot of random songs on it. I'm 17 (if that helps).

Thankss soo much!

Do you like screamo? Thats what i listen to when i work out here is 2 of my fav bands.
Scary kids scarying kids and Underoath.

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i started going with this sexy boy sat and today almost every time i was close to him my face got extremely red!!!im like light skiknned but not white but u can deffinately see when i am red in the face.it was at normal temp in class and i was sitting beside him wiith a friend and my friend was like gosh your getting mighty red in the face and i started laughing and was like its really cold in here!it was so embarsed!then we were walking outside and it was kinda chilly and i was walking with him again and i started getting really red in the face and the girl was like dang grl your red again!i was like its really cold ousided ok.and she said it must be reall ycold every where and i was like yes it is!its so embarrasing but i just cant help it and it sucks!!!will this getting red in the face ever go away because it is like supa embarrasing!and also what do guys think when girls get red in the face when they are around some one they like?thanx!

Eventually it will go away you will feel more comfortable around him just talk to him get to know him more so this being red will go away. O and as for what guys think about it we think its cute. Good luck

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okay well me and this guy have been getting to know each other, we are aquaintances, and i think that he might have a little bit of a crush on me, but he has a girlfriend...so my main question is can you tell me how i can tell if he likes me..?? thank you

Does he give you compliments? Look at you different then other girls? A conversation that you had would really help me. If you like him and want to be his girlfriend then get to know him better be friends but don't cross the line. A easy way to find out if he likes you is to talk to him about past relationships. Good luck messege me back if you have any other questions or if he says something that might mean that he likes you.

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im 15/f and i like this 17/m.
we both go to the same school. he is a senior and i am a sophmore. yeah i know it seems pointless, and your probably saying to yourself that im dumb because he will graduate with in a few months. I really really like him though and he really really likes me. He has asked me to be his "girlfriend" ..so ill put it, and i said no because i feel i will just be heartbroken in the end because he is graduating. The thing is though I really want to go out with him and be his girlfriend but I have horrible realtionship issues, and I feel i will become attached and it will all just go down hill from there. I really need some advice please help me if you can. Thank you so much.

Find out if he is into long term relationships if not then trust your instincts and don't say yes. If he is i suggest you take that chance and tell him that you will be his girlfriend. Once you find out there isent anything holding you back you both really like each other. Best of luck

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I've been dancing for over 5 years. and i love it. but recently i've been getting way too much work and i've been skipping dance (to get it all done) my mom told me its time for me to quit dance...and maybe start something new..idk what i want to doo.
please helpp mee.

Don't give up something you love to do to find something else thats not as time consuming nothing will compare. I know you don't have the time right now to get your work done and dance. Just try your best to make time. Best of luck

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When I was younger, I used to be very hyper and energetic. I wasn't afraid to act a little crazy sometimes, and I was very confident. However, now I'm 15 and naturally, I got more mature. In fact, people say that I've changed a lot, and that I've become boring. I thought that I was just being immature, but people used to like being around me. Should I go back to being playful and carefree, or am I too old for that now?

Be you be who you want to be if you like being the way you are right now then stay like that don't let other ppl's comments get in the way of that. But if you like being energetic and a little crazy then be like that but don't get into too much trouble. I had the same problem. Best of luck

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Me 15/F him, 15/M

We both live in europe. Just bear that in mind :)

Hokay, well I have known Seth(him) since I was about 6.
When we turned 13 we became very close. Like we would always be together, and we acted like a couple, sometimes even kissed..but we weren't a couple.

Since his family is good friends with mine, every year we go on a snowboard/ski trip to France(Alps).
This year, since we were both 15, we got a ''ski apartment'' to ourselves. We spent all our time together, and since last year, he's taught me how to snowboard.
We ride together, we do everything together for those two weeks that we stay there.
One night we got pretty drunk and I was lying on him on the big sofa, and I fell asleep. I woke up a bit later and started kissing him, because I wanted him, sooo bad.
But I can't imagine us being together, like a couple.
He said that he'd liked me since he was 13... but he knows that we'll prob. never ever date.
We do go out together a lot and so on...but I donno.

I love him. I do. Not as a friend..I love him, but why can't I see us together??!

I think its because you have been good friends for so long that thats the only way you can see him. Give it a chance you know he likes you so it's not really a risk if you tell him that you want to be a couple. Best of luck

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i just started private tumbling classes and my coach thinks i will definitely have my back tuck before my back handspring, strangely. she thinks ill get my back tuck in about a month, which is when i need to have both of them by (as good as i can get them). anyways, i JUST started my back tuck, and ive been working on my bhs for awhile, but i guess back tuck comes easier, and my legs are strong enough or something. what are your opinions on this..did any of you have your tuck first? how long did it take you? do you think i will get mine in a month, even before a bhs? everyone is i know, but what do you think? im very determined to get it :] any tips you all have are very appreciated!

I think thats kinda weird because most ppl in my class got there back hand spring first and so did I. But there are some cases where you do get your back tuck first very rare though.

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Okay, I needed somewhere to vent this out, and I need advice. So I thought advicenators would be perfect! Sorry if this is long!!

Okay, well, about a year ago this guy was stalking me really badly. He had it baaaad for me, but I would never like him. He hated that, so he started stalking me. He also did crazy stuff, like if he said something to me I didn't like, and I'd tell him to go away he said he would ring my school and say I did all this crap I didn't. He even got so psycho that when he said he was in love with me, and I said I didn't like him like that he said he would ring my mum and tell her I was dating a guy 6 years older than me over the internet (Which I wasn't)

Anyway, it's over now and I'm glad so don't feel sorry for me.

Throughout the 'friendship' with this guy, he hated my best friend. He always called her ugly and an attention seeker (the last bit is true, I know it's horrible to say that about her but she lied 5 times about her dad dying) but recently they became friends (after he pretended to like her) now, if any guy even talks to her, she'll instantly fall in love with them. So this guy was pretending to like her and she fell head over heels. He told her to hate me, and she did it. We didn't talk for a few weeks. But even before this, she was a bit narky with me because of mine and his' history. She would constantly blog saying I'm a bitch, I need to get over the feud with him and she hated the fact I could probably still get him with a click of my fingers.

Anyway, I started talking to her again and she told me how controlling he was (When he used to stalk me I knew straight away he's going to be a wife basher) and she didn't like it. I told her that's how it started with me, and she needs to be extra cautious and get him out of her life. She then emailed him saying she was in contact with me (didn't say anything rude, just casually I was friends with her again) and he told her he would never speak to her again.

Then she tells me about all this crazy stuff he said to her. But she doesn't just tell me...she BRAGS about it. As if she's proud some guy was saying weird stuff to her. Then she brags about how he's stalking her. I told her he wasn't, because he hadn't said anything about calling her parents/school like he did with me, and didn't look up her address. She got angry at me. Like I was ruining her dream? Then she told me he was stalking her.

But it made me feel sick. She's bragging about something that made me live in constant fear for half a year. Something that made me feel so low. She's acting as if it'd something to be prided about.

And now, it gets worse. She thinks she's better than me, cos he said some effed up things to her. Like he wants to get her pregnant and stuff like that. Now, I'll let you know he said some stuff like that to me. It even got worse than that. But I'm pretty much a feminist and I told him if he wants to say those things to go to a chatroom and not say it to me, so he stopped because he didn't want to be blocked. But being the idiot she is, she thinks it's cute he wants her, and she even wrote in her LiveJournal she sort of regrets talking to me again, and doesn't understand why I hate him, and was implying I'm a bitch.

Anyway, sorry for the longness of that but I want you to understand the full story before answering.

Well, the question is, I sort of understand why I'm so pissed, but why am I so angry? It's not jealousy, but I'm really angry. Shouldn't I be scared for her? Or proud she isn't talking to him?

Also, what do I say to her to stop her bragging, it's not something to be bragging about? I don't care about her feelings if she doesn't care about mine, but I don't want her to blow up and block me and say she wasn't bragging. I want her to understand being stalked is terrible, and it's something you don't want to happen in your life.

And last, how can I get over this anger? I don't want to be angry at her. But I can't help it =\

If i where you i would drop her as a friend. Bragging about the worst possible thing that you could be bragging about thinking it will make you feel bad what kind of friend does that. And the name calling thats not a true friend. If you keep being her friend your past most likely will come back. If it does tell somebody (parent, teacher or anybody that can help)you don't have to live like that. Best of luck

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I have this boyfriend and we have been dating off and on for almost a year and a half.
Of course people change but, he's changed dramatically with what his turn-ons are.
When we first started dating he loved making out and french kissing me.
He especially loved oral, and he's always loved anal and vaginal.
But for some reason, this one time, I farted in front of him and he wanted to smell it.
I was like, wtf..
So whenever I fart or something, he wants me to tell him so he can smell it and he gets aroused by it! He gets a freaking boner!
And not only that, but he's obsessed with my ass and my asshole.
We'll be in his room or anywhere, and he'll be like, Hey, why don't you put your ass in my face. And he's like, how about if I eat out your asshole. And he puts his face in it and starts smelling it!
It really really turns me off.
I don't understand why he likes it so much..
It's getting to the point where he asks me if I can take a shit on him! >:[
It's grossing me out, and I don't know what to do..
When we'd be talking dirty, he'd be like, how about you put your thong on me, do 69 on me and take a shit on my head..
He won't stop!
Talking about shitting on him, farting on him, wearing my clothes like my thongs, or smelling and eating out my asshole!
I seriously don't know what to do because I've had enough of it.
I just wonder why he can't be normal. He doesn't even get turned on when I'm on top of him when we're having sex.
He basically only likes doggy style so he can see my ass or put his face in it..
It's sickening.
He never used to be like that.
Please help me, what should I do!? :[

Wow that is the strangest think ive ever heard of. Ok i think you should just talk to him about it or he wont stop. Or you can actually take a crap on his face so he can see how unpleasant it is and stop acting this way. Scare him out of it. I hope it works out for you.

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Ugghh. I usually like older guys. But omg. There's this freshman! He is absolutely delicious. Hahahha. I'm a JUNIOR. He acts mature, could possibly pass as a sophomore :-D.... at least he's my height! We flirt a lot and I get BUTTERFLIES for a FRESHMAN. He tells my bestfriend how he likes me. Oh, FYI not trying to be "rude" but, we're both pretty "popular" and EVERYONE would know if we went out. Omgoodness. Do you think its wrong or weird or what? Some friends say "age is just a number!" Some roll their eyes. Some say "No! You need a read man!" I don't know what my mom would say! I don't want people to think I'm a pedophile!! Help!! Thanks!!! :-D

To me age is just a number im sure he thinks the same if he tell ur friend that he likes you. Don't miss out on a great guy because of what people think about it. If you really like him you won't let other people's comments get in the way of having a relationship with him. Good luck

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whats that song in 27 dresses that they get on the table and sing to? i looked up the soundtrack but none of the songs on there sounded like it..kay thanks

Its called benny and the jets by elton john.

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I need some excersize scudules that you guys have i really need to get in shape.

It depends could you say your age and gender that would really help?

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I feel really fat, all my friends think im like really skinny. I weigh 7 stone and im 13 years old nearly 14 and im 5 ft 3ish. Am I really fat or am I just paranoyed?

If 7 stone means 70 then yes you are really really skiny. If it doesnt then for a girl that is 5ft 3 to me 100 is normal.

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i was wondering..im 15/m and like when ever my g/f touches me like puts her arms around me/hugs me i kinda get a little excited if you know what i mean..i mean i dont think about sex or anything it just happens..is that normal, and will it stop after a while?

Ya its normal once you get use to her then it will stop.

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ive been sleeping all day since i have a really bad headache and its like 4 days in a row i take medicine and it will gone for a while but it wont go away my friend said this is because i drank coffee a lot last week it was hot chocolate+coffee creamer+ little bit of coffee like 2-3 cups a day
and i stopped drinking them since its gone and yeah and at night i get REALLY sweaty and i dont know what this is im sick or what? cause everytime i get up my back of my head hurts does anyone know what this is??

Ya its because you are sleeping to much. When you get a headache on the back of your head without getting hit there then its because you have been sleeping to much. Sleep normally and keep taking whatever your taking for headaches. As for being sweaty at night i don't think your sick it happened to me a couple of times in a row then it stopped. I had just got back from a trip and was stressed out. Best of luck

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Riiight. This guy.
Another one of those questions.
I have mixed feelings for him.
I think.
Well this is how we are.
I have at least one class with him a day.
I talk to him EVERY DAY
He ALWAYS makes me laugh
We are pretty close
We hug quite a lot
When we're saying bye to each other, we kiss each other on the cheek
We sometimes go on the subway together. And if we do, he usually rides to my stop with me, and then rides three stops back to his stop.
we've never had a fight
We're into the same music and so on
He comes over to me to talk to me.

But I fucking don't know if he likes me, or is just being friendly.
I think he likes someone else..but we never talk about stuff like that..

what's going on?

I suggest you drop some hints if you havent already. Im almost positive that he likes you. Think about it if he does all these things and is with you most of the time, he can't be doing it for someone else. Best of luck

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okay so me and this guy cj well we have been getting to know each other...like friends. But a while back i thought that he liked me because well we never talked and he would just like look at me a lot and he started a paper wad fight with me. But then this past thursday, we was doing this project and he said he had a girlfriend. and there was like 4 people in the group including him, and they all raised their hands but me. and when he raised his hand he kinda looked at me. I cant explain it, it was just like he was trying to tell me something. I didnt know what it was but when he looked at me it was eye contact and i just got this feeling. But anyways, ever since then we have been getting to know each other, like i always talk to him when we are in that class. And like last night i went to an away game with a friend, a basketball game. And he is on the team. and i sat like right behind him, my knee was touching his chair. And he would look at me and smile, and i would smile back (we was like saying hi.) But i didnt talk to him cause i didnt want to take his mind off of the game. and he didnt talk to me. And after we won, me and my friend was standing in the corner trying to get service on our phones. and the team left, but as they were leaving he kinda looked at me then looked down like he was disappointed or something. But we are still like friends. People say that i wouldnt have a chance because he is a senior and im just a freshman, and my friend says that he is ugly and he dont like his personality but everytime i say something about him she says well he told me that he dont like that class....so my question is what do you think about this?? what does everything mean..?


PS and when he smiled at me at the game it was a half smile; and he says he dont even remember my friend, let alone know her. And she wouldnt be protecting me because he is a nice NICE guy. his mom was my fifth grade teacher. haha

Don't let your friends comments keep you from liking him. If he has a girlfriend don't try and take him from her (not saying you would do that). Just keep going on how things are right now don't be afraid to talk to him (normally no flirting). If he really likes you he will break up with his girlfriend him realizing that he has more feelings for you then he could ever have for her. Give it time and keep me updated. Good luck

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Alright, Well my friend bailie is in town only for two days and she lives about 3 hours away , she use to live here. Well Bailie wanted this boy taylor to drop by and see her [ we were at my house ] and i felt bad because i have a boyfriend and he's kind of jelous & we've been dating for 11 months & i was like ok they can but ill just stand up front while you talk to them & thats exactly what i did , they came over i said hey and went walking for a lil . They wasnt even for 10 mins and i told them to leave . Well a while ago my boyfriend had a girl to come over to his house that i didnt like for his friend & they B0TH had cars . But after i told justin he got really really mad ! and i said sorry a million times & when i said well you know what its like to do that , you did it before & they actually came in your house and everything and all he said was " see your bringing up crap in the past because you know your wrong " I dont know what to do . this happend last night & i texted him over and over again & called a thousand times ! he didnt reply to my textes or my phone calls ''/
He's really mad but i mean gosh i didnt even do anything .
What do i do ?

Jealousy can ruin a relationship its not your fault its his. As long as you didnt do anything wrong then don't worry about it. Explain to him that and if he still has a problem then you can do better then him. Best of luck

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