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My boyfriend's turn-on's are strange!
I have this boyfriend and we have been dating off and on for almost a year and a half.
Of course people change but, he's changed dramatically with what his turn-ons are.
When we first started dating he loved making out and french kissing me.
He especially loved oral, and he's always loved anal and vaginal.
But for some reason, this one time, I farted in front of him and he wanted to smell it.
I was like, wtf..
So whenever I fart or something, he wants me to tell him so he can smell it and he gets aroused by it! He gets a freaking boner!
And not only that, but he's obsessed with my ass and my asshole.
We'll be in his room or anywhere, and he'll be like, Hey, why don't you put your ass in my face. And he's like, how about if I eat out your asshole. And he puts his face in it and starts smelling it!
It really really turns me off.
I don't understand why he likes it so much..
It's getting to the point where he asks me if I can take a shit on him! >:[
It's grossing me out, and I don't know what to do..
When we'd be talking dirty, he'd be like, how about you put your thong on me, do 69 on me and take a shit on my head..
He won't stop!
Talking about shitting on him, farting on him, wearing my clothes like my thongs, or smelling and eating out my asshole!
I seriously don't know what to do because I've had enough of it.
I just wonder why he can't be normal. He doesn't even get turned on when I'm on top of him when we're having sex.
He basically only likes doggy style so he can see my ass or put his face in it..
It's sickening.
He never used to be like that.
Please help me, what should I do!? :[
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Wow that is the strangest think ive ever heard of. Ok i think you should just talk to him about it or he wont stop. Or you can actually take a crap on his face so he can see how unpleasant it is and stop acting this way. Scare him out of it. I hope it works out for you.
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omg loool wooow this guyz a freak yo
you gotta tell him to stop because seriously...ew
thats ....aah!i don even no what to say man..just tell him to stop askin you to shit on him cuz thats not right...its nasty and abnormal and turns you off and makes you disgusted of him....eww
Ask him why hes changed....and demand an explanation for it....it could be something psycological
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His fetishes are NOT going to change. Period.
There is significant evidence to suggest many festishes are, or become, hard-wired neurologically. He will keeping getting turned on by your undies and shit. That will NEVER just go away.
If you are waiting for it to just go away, stop holding your breath, let him loose to find someone who can accept him, and maybe even indulge him.
Yes, he needs to learn about bounderies and empathy, but that doesn't make him a bad, bad person who needs to change.
If you can't compromise and can't acccept his fetishes the as at least bit entertaining. Your relationship is doomed. Period. You said you find this 'sickening' so I don't hold out any hope for compromise. I would find it sickening too. Which is why I wouldn't date him. It's not fair to either of you. End it before you seriously hurt one another.
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If you are uncomfortable and unhappy, dump him.
But remember this: Your boyfriend doesn't have a 'fetish problem' he has a boundaries and respect problem.
His fetishes are normal. There is nothing 'wrong' with them, they might just not be for you, and that is completely okay and a valid reason to say 'Look, this relationship aint working.'
His problem is that he isn't respecting or acknowledging your discomfort. His problem is that he is trying to act on his fetishes at all times, even very wrong ones. His idea that you be game for them immediately is wrong. Ignoring that fact that you, his equal partner in this is not happy, is wrong.
So dump him, and tell him why. You donâ??t need to shame him or call him not normal, that wouldnâ??t be fair or true, but you could help him out by letting him know itâ??s not just the fetishes; itâ??s that he isnâ??t treating you right. If he doesnâ??t learn to be a bit more tactful and a bit less selfish, he isnâ??t going to manage any healthy relationships in the future either.
Lots of people have fetishes and are tactful and respect boundaries. Hell, you might even discover some weird ones buried in your brain at some point... but you don't have to compromise and neither does he.
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