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Childish
When I was younger, I used to be very hyper and energetic. I wasn't afraid to act a little crazy sometimes, and I was very confident. However, now I'm 15 and naturally, I got more mature. In fact, people say that I've changed a lot, and that I've become boring. I thought that I was just being immature, but people used to like being around me. Should I go back to being playful and carefree, or am I too old for that now?
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The problem with looking back on childhood is that people tend to make it all rosy and carefree whenever their current life feels suckish. Sure, you were well liked, energetic, and confident, but maybe there was a good reason for loosing those qualities. People are very adaptable. Maybe your energy made schoolwork harder, who knows?
In that light, it's good to have some energy and craziness every now and then. I'd suggest letting yourself go a little. A lot of people tend to stick to one way of doing things - maybe go to a really random club after school, or find something you really like and explore it further. If you like art, for example, you could try out your drawing skills at random.
I personally don't think that anyone is too old to be playful or carefree, but there's certainly a time and place for it. I'd suggest doing more random things with your friends, or if you hear about something cool that they're doing, ask if you can come. Spontaneity is always good. Like, when you see a piece of cake in a store that you want to eat, how many people just go and get themselves cake? So go ahead and buy it. Or wear mismatched socks. Little things like that, they just make life so much more fun.
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My approach is to ask questions so you'll find answers that really apply to you. I’ll also give you my opinion but I think the best advice come from within.
Do you like your level of maturity? Do you think it’s good to have a balance of maturity and fun?
My thoughts! I think life is an ongoing balance. There are times to be mature and times to be fun. Do what you enjoy while finding your balance! Stay confident and love life!
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be free! :p
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People mature at different rates and this can often cause conflict as people get older. You have matured to a stage in your life that your friends have not necessarily reached yet. Because of this, they feel that you are boring and you might find their behaviour immature. It's not necessarily that either side is right or wrong. In time, they will start to move away from their current behaviour and will act more mature but in the meantime, they aren't there.
There's no reason you can't all have fun together, but you need to find some new common ground. Try to think of something you would enjoy doing, whether it is all going for a meal or taking up a new hobby, going to the cinema or bowling. See how it goes. If you all have a brilliant time, great! If you don't, then it might be worth perhaps spending a little less time with them and either spending more time with just you or maybe join a club of some kind and make more friends. Don't necessarily drop your old friends. Just expand your social circle to include peeople you have more in common with for the time beeing. Then, when your friends catch you up, you'll be able to enjoy their company more and you'll have more friends to hang out with already!
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Be you be who you want to be if you like being the way you are right now then stay like that don't let other ppl's comments get in the way of that. But if you like being energetic and a little crazy then be like that but don't get into too much trouble. I had the same problem. Best of luck
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Everyone likes someone fun and bubbly to be around. Be that person. Just be sure you know when to be mature and when to act crazy :)
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