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I'm Kevin or Ruminator! I took Ruminator from the word ruminate. One of it meanings is to go over in the mind repeatedly and often casually or slowly. I love helping people! I have learned not to give advice per say but listen and ask questions that opens awareness to possibly a bigger picture.

I'm still a kid in spirit! I love life! I'm very active for a 41 year old with CP (Cerebral Palsy). In September 2007 I attempted to cycle from San Diego to Portland Oregon. I only got 600+ mile, hence the word attempted. I'm happy with the adventure so on to the next one! My next adventure this spring is a hydro-foil ride from Long Beach CA to Catalina and back! Stay tune for more on this!

As I said earlier, I love helping people. I've been teaching workshops on respect and understanding differences since 1992. I now want to do more one on one help so here I am. I will try my best to give food for thought and maybe we can both ruminate!

My approach is to ask questions so you'll find answers that really apply to you. I�ll also give you my opinion but I think the best advice come from within.

advice

I am a 17-year old girl about to go to college. I absolutely love my family. However, recently my dad has been acting harshly towards my mom, but not in an abusive way- he doesn't specify where he's going when he's going out, for example, and expects her to take it. They've been married 26 years, but he doesn't show her a lot of affection -and she has complained to me about it. Now I have proof that he is having an affair. The only problem is is that this proof is his text messages - things I shouldn't be looking at. I couldn't help myself, and I know it was wrong. However, now that I know should I do and/or say something? I am absolutely heartbroken and shocked, but more than that is the fact that my mom doesn't deserve this. Is there anything I can do? Please help me.

No one has said this yet but I think you should talk to your school counselor. Maybe they could give you some direction and support. I think there's to many factor to weigh for good direction. Some face to face counseling is my suggestion. Trust your heart!

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When I was younger, I used to be very hyper and energetic. I wasn't afraid to act a little crazy sometimes, and I was very confident. However, now I'm 15 and naturally, I got more mature. In fact, people say that I've changed a lot, and that I've become boring. I thought that I was just being immature, but people used to like being around me. Should I go back to being playful and carefree, or am I too old for that now?

My approach is to ask questions so you'll find answers that really apply to you. I’ll also give you my opinion but I think the best advice come from within.
Do you like your level of maturity? Do you think it’s good to have a balance of maturity and fun?
My thoughts! I think life is an ongoing balance. There are times to be mature and times to be fun. Do what you enjoy while finding your balance! Stay confident and love life!

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Which is better, to have an outgoing personality where everybody knows you, which makes you more susceptible to rumors, or to be quiet and kind of standoffish so that no one notices you, and therefore won't talk about you? I know its a weird question, but I was curious. Thanks

I was very popular in middle school and high school. I was vote most friendliest in middle school. I like to ask questions so you'll find answers that really aply to you. Do you think there are going to be rumors out there you should worry about? Do you think there's any outgoing people out there that worries about rumors? Do you think all rumors are bad?

Here's my thinking! I never worry about rumors. I try to enjoy my life and be as respectful as I can. I think if you have good intentions with whatever you're doing you'll do fine! I hope this helps! Feel free to ask me more stuff!

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