I have a problem, and it's very bad. Sometimes I just want to cry and cry forver. I have a phobia of not being perfect. I need perfect grades, perfect friends, perfect face, prefect body, perfect breast, perfect family, perfect house, perfect life. I don't know what to do. I always feel so ugly, and that no one likes me. Yet I am very popular in school and have lots of friends. I go to parties every weekend... and try to live the classic Hollister & Ambercrombie California barbie. I'm pretty good at it too, except for my confidence. I'm 5'3" and weigh 103 pounds and am constantly worrying about my body. Everyday I will look in front of my mirror with nothing on and just look at my body and cry. I'm fat, no breast, no butt, my face is too big, my arms are to skinny, but nose is to big, my chinis ugly. I have a dissorder adn I don't know what to do. Sometimes I just think if i should throw up after meals... but the thing is i don't know why i should. Everybody thinks my life is great and perfect... but it's not. I'm so unhappy about everything, I hate my life sometimes i just want to die. What is your advice? Should I stick with my dream of being perfect and plan my plastic surgeries when I get older adn stick with my studies. Or shoudl O let go? Should I go to councilling, please help... I'm so confused!
sweetheart nobody is perfect! even tho some of us want to be, its just not possible we all are going to have our flaws and things that we arent happy about but there isnt anything we can do about it! your not fat at all your actually pretty skinny! i dont think you need to go to counseling OR get plastic surgery because you should be happy with yourself and not try to be something that your not. people are going to love you for you! i bet tons of girls are jealous of you so if i were you i would feel great about myself! build up your self-confidence and tell yourself that your beautiful! i get to the point where i just break down and cry because sometime i see myself in a mirror and dont think i look that ugly but then one day i will look and i will see something totally different, something i cant stand looking at! everyone goes thru this hun but if you need anything else im always here!
♥ Kristen
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16/F.
My 2 best friends have been going out since the summer (don't worry, it's a guy/girl....) I'm really happy for them & all, but sometimes it gets annoying, because whenever I do get to spend time with either one of them (since they're constantly with each other), we always end up discussing the person's bf / gf. They are always asking, "So what does he/she say about me??" & I always end up having to spill the juicy, mushy details of all the "oh she/he's so hot" & all that. I feel less like their friend & more like their spy now! It really makes me feel used. So, my question is... is it wrong for me to want them / encourage them to break up (I know that seems kind of selfish, but....) or what am I supposed to do about this? I rate 5's for non-crap answers. ;)
im in this situation alot and it bugs the crap outta me. one of my friends is always talking about her boyfriend and im thinking GOSH SHUT UP i dont want to hear about your boyfriend anymore! lol yeah i know sounds mean but as you know it does get annoying. what you should do is the next time you hang out with either or both of them you have to tell them how your feeling, tell them its okay if they ask you something once in awhile but not everytime. tell them you feel excluded. trust me the best thing you could do for this situation is talk to them it will make things better and if they are true friends they will understand. otherwise you could like roll your eyes everytime they say something haha sounds kinda mean but they might get a clue that your getting annoyed. well hope all goes well hun and if you need anything else let me know!
♥ Kristen
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Ok..well I've been going out with this guy and only a fewp people know, and i didnt want them to know bc when everyone knows then people start to screw up everything and can cause us to break up, so one of my friends asked me if i was going out with this one guy and i said no and named somebody else even tho i was going out with that guy and i lied to him for 3 months and i finally told him and now he pretty much hates me, i've been giving him space, is there anything else i can do?
aww sweetie if your love for each other is strong enough nothing is going to break that bond between you two! first off i would give your boyfirned some space like you did, let him calm down then go over to his house or have him come over to yours and just talk about it one on one. tell him why you said that and just apologize. if he loves you enough he will forgive you. i hope everything works out..let me know how it goes! if you need anything else leave one in the inbox
♥ Kristen
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my boyfriend doesnt find me very attractive.. he thinks i'm cute but not hot, he doesnt seem to have any desire to have sex.. which bugs me lots.. can someone help me with tips to make him want me more? please
sweetie looks arent EVERYTHING. i bet you are gorgeous anyways! but um you could either do something nice for yourself like wear something cute/sexy not slutty tho you dont want a reputation! um do your hair and makeup cute just things like that. but i would say that if he doesnt like you for you, and only goes for the looks he is no good. i would wait and see how things develop and if nothing gets better find a guy that actually loves you for you and not what you look like. if you need anything im always here hun just let me know!
♥ Kristen
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alright for this i dont want anyone telling me " that i should just let them be" or anything ..alright so this boy and girl...there going out...i lke the boy and the girl is my friend..they have been going out for like a week and they dont talk on the phone and barely see eachother...and i feel like i talk to the boy more than she does and so i want them to break up..want are some good ways to get them too?
ILL rate 5 for anyways..just not like " thats mean"
lol i like this question =) um what you could do if you really want them to break up is flirt with him even tho it is probably going to piss your friend off. or just like wear cute clothes, do your makeup and hair cute whenever you think you are going to see him! maybe hang out with him alot just "as friends" or as he thinks haha but then the more time you spend together the more he will end up thinking "gosh i kinda of like this girl" screw my girlfriend! haha i dont think your friend and this guy will stay together for long anyways i mean come on who goes out and doesnt talk to each other or even hang out much?! well thats what i would do, even tho it might risk your friendship. well let me know how it goes!
♥ Kristen
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my boyfriend and i were messing around the other night and he fingered me. after it kinda hurt, he went pretty far out. then when i went to pee there was a little blood. did my cherry pop? or can it only pop if you have sex? (which i havent)
thanks for the help!
your cherry could have been popped, its not that hard! you can do it whenever like during sports and stuff i know sounds weird but its true! it does also pop when your having sex, but it can be popped when being fingered also. its okay tho! dont worry about it nothing bad is going to happen! if you need to know anything else, just let me know sweetie!
♥ Kristen
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okay, so i like this guy and he flirts with me and stuff and i do back. but the problem is that he has a girlfrienf. they have been going out over a month now and i dont know how serious it is. he never bring her up when we talk so i dont know if he knows i knows that he has a girlfriend. but i really really like this guy i mean a whole lot. and i thought he would be my first guy to go out with and we almost danced at charity ball, but he had a girlfriend which i knew, but he never said "no" we just didnt. and he felt bad and asked one of his friends to dance with me. but i said no. does he really like me or am i just like his little pitty friend?? thanks-- michelle
i hate when that happens! well what i would do is kind of back off a little bit. i mean i know its hard but the more you talk to him the more your going to fall for him if you know what i mean? i know thats probably not what you want to hear and im sorry! i mean i think this kid has feelings for you but he really loves his girlfriend and doesnt want to lose her. if you think he is worth it, i would wait and see what happens. hope all goes well sweetie and if you need anything just let me know!
♥ Kristen
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i noticed that a lot of girls eyeliners stay on for hours at a time w/o applying it more than once. How do they do it? because i always have to apply mine bout every 30 mins. Thanks!!
well i personally dont like liquid eyeliner, but everyone is different. that happened to me too, it got in my eye and made it all black ha. i use this eyeliner called studio gear from Ulta, i dont know if you have that store where you live but it works great! it's a little expensive but i think its worth it! also do you touch your eye alot or anything? that could be it too, try not to touch the area around your eye or rub your eye alot. hope i helped!
♥ Kristen
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Could you date someone who had very different or totally contrary views to your own. For example, if you were a dedicated Democrat and they were a Republican, or if you were quite religious and they were an atheist. Would those sort of things be a dealbreaker for you or would you still want to see them?
Do you think relationships like that are doomed or are disagreements like that healthy?
I think you two should see how things go first. sometimes disagreements makes your relationship stronger, but for some it doesnt. it all kind of depends on you two but i wouldnt let this problem keep you from seeing each other. well if you need anything else drop one in the inbox!
♥ Kristen
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My name is Alex, I am a female, and I’m thirteen years old.
Well I have this friend I knew since the 5th grade, and now we are in the 8th grade, and she has changed, a lot. And she has been telling me I changed but I think it's the opposite, she's changed! She has gotten meaner than ever since Elementary school. Anyways, the day before a dance at our school, I told her that I like a guy that she knows & that is in every single one of her classes. May I add, he is also my ex-boyfriend. But then when the dance came, she started dancing with the guy I like. I got pretty mad, after all, she knows I like him and she just dances with him in front of me! I don’t know what to do, I am not going out with the guy, but I like him. But then I don’t want to ruin our friendship over a guy. But I really like this guy though. Please Help!
aww im sorry hun! we all go through this problem sooner or later. girls are bitches haha! they are seriously so backstabbing. you have to talk to your friend about it, either in person or on the phone. If things just get worse then i would say you need to find a true friend. nobody deserves a friend that does that to you. i had the same problem my friend changed so much and guess what? we arent friends anymore, i was a little upset about it but i knew it was for the best. try making more guy friends, they wont do that to you, they dont cause so much drama as girls do! well hope i helped sweetie. let me know how it goes and if you need anything else just let me know!
♥ Kristen
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what does URL mean? what is it?
URL means..Uniform Resource Locator
im simpler forms..a website haha
♥ Kristen
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OKAY... please do not anwser this question unless you are 100% sure
Can you get pregnant if you havent had you period yet?!?!
yes you can.
♥ Kristen
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I want to find cute edgy clothes or any type of affordable clothes that I can buy online.
Please give me some websites that would work and that i could shop from.
Thanks
well these are the stores that i love..
www.hollisterco.com
www.victoriasecrets.com
www.ae.com
well hope you find something! if ya need anything else let me know!
♥ Kristen
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I need to get a new perfume, and I want my boyfriend to like it. What are some inexpensive (under $35) perfumes that guys will like? I started wearing JLO Still, but my boyfriend never even commented it.. and also my mom said it smelled bad. Any other suggestions?
these are the ones that i personally like..
hollister
victoria secrets very sexy for her lol of course
bath and body work's country apple
bath and body work's sweet pea
tommy girl
refuge - charlotte russe
victoria secrets love spell
and ive also heard paris hilton's was good
but ive never smelled it before
well hope i helped!
if ya need anything else leave it in the inbox
♥ Kristen
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Ok. Today I got shocked by like a 151 V. It didn't hurt but i was shaken it was my first time getting shocked.. and im still shaking from it.. very lightly. Im not hurt or anything but i still feel wierd..
Should I just let this pass overnight?
OUCH! yeah i would definatley let is pass overnight. but it nothing changes the next day or two, you should start to get worried, and do something about it. hope all goes well!
♥ Kristen
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this is going to be long and i will need serious answers. okay, so i like these 2 boys. like, i realllyy like them. so anyway. lets call them m and p. so i went out with m before and i really liked him and then it ended , but that was a year ago. and we have classes together and we see eachother and we sometimes hangout and i like him. but i kinda don't really wanna go back to him because i feel that would be a mistake..but i really like him. and then theres p. we've talked all of twice but i get this crazy feeling that i like him so much. and i mean before school i stand with people in which he stands too and i just completely fell for him and i dont understand why. so basically i'm asking two questions:
1. if you were me, who would you choose?
2. if i were not to choose m, the one i dont really wanna go back to, and i chose p, how could i start to talk to him online or kinda build up a friendship. oh, and like how to make it completely unawkward if i just randomly imed him online.
P.S. They are both on the same basketball team? if that helps. could i start a conversation with p about basketball? or would that be weird?
i get where your coming from! well what i would do is if you dont want to go back out with "m" again, then try and talk to "p" more! since you've talked to him already, even if it has only been two times at least he knows who you are! try talking to him at school, or if you want to i/m him..just be like hi this is ___ whats goin on? i havent talked to you in awhile..how have things been? then you can start talking about basketball..lOl guys always love talking about sports..even if its not the girls favorite subject. well anyways i would try and talk to "p" more then after you've talked to him for awhile be like yeah we should hang out sometime..call me! also you could have a party and maybe invite one of his friends that you know and tell them to bring "p" and then you guys could start talking at the party! well if you need anything else just leave one in the inbox!
♥ Kristen
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okay so im 16 and iv had discharge ever since i got my period as a freshman. and i know its always sopose to be clear, but sometimes mine is more of a cream color, and sometimes brown. is that bad? and if you have a infection wat is the "smell?" thank you!
thats normal..it may suck but its normal! its nothing to worry about and when its brown that usually means that your going to get your period. well if ya need anything else leave it in the inbox!
♥ Kristen
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well there is a problem as you know or i wouldnt be here. I was talking with my gf and then i came to this website and red what she said about me. she obviously likes her ex too but she doesnt know who to pick. i love her and i would do anything for her but she doesnt see that in me. she said that it seams like i dont care and shes nothin special to me but ahh.... it just makes me sad. i really dont want to break up with her please help. p.s. i am a 14 yr old MALE
aww thats so cute! first off sit down with her and have a serious talk, let all your feelings out. let her know how you feel. tell her that you love her and would do anything for her, but most importantly show her!! give her roses or something, most girls always love those =) or if you talk to her and she is still saying that she doesnt think you care, i think you two need to take a break. maybe she isnt the right one for you? i know you love her but deserve so much better if she doesnt see that!! well hope i helped, if you need anything else just drop it in the inbox!
♥ Kristen
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I love this kid. But he's in rehab. And he's not getting back for awhile.
So, when he gets back, how should i tell him i like him?
well invite him over to your house or something, or go somewhere and just straight out tell him! tell him how your feeling --that your falling for him and see what his reaction is =) sorry i couldnt help much but if you need anything else just leave it in the inbox!
♥ Kristen
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Okay,
latly i have noticed how..."normal" or "boring" my hair is. Its brown/dark red, completly natural, wavy and a little over medium lenghth. ITS BORING! i wanna spice it up a bit, you know, cut to the shoulders, die it, something! i am thinking straightening it and dieing it orange or brown. i dont know blond for that cut flirty look, orange for that "i need a boyfriend" look, brown for that Dark, deap look, black for that mysterious look or red for a kate windslit "titanic" look. What do you think? I wanta do something with it becaus its so "dull" i need advice. Please no sarcastic remarks like "wahsing it?" none of that please. i need advice, new year's coming up you know....oh yeah "Happy New Year!"
~hair
hey hun! well what i would do is put some layers in it..not too short because then it wil just bug you..maybe some in the back? and maybe some side bangs, like ones that go a little past your nose i think those are adorable! DONT GO ORANGE i think you should either do a lighter brown or if your feeling really brave maybe blonde? haha that might be a drastic change. but also what you could do is put highlights in, those are always cute! well if ya need anything else just leave one in the inbox
♥ Kristin
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