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Perfect Body
I have a problem, and it's very bad. Sometimes I just want to cry and cry forver. I have a phobia of not being perfect. I need perfect grades, perfect friends, perfect face, prefect body, perfect breast, perfect family, perfect house, perfect life. I don't know what to do. I always feel so ugly, and that no one likes me. Yet I am very popular in school and have lots of friends. I go to parties every weekend... and try to live the classic Hollister & Ambercrombie California barbie. I'm pretty good at it too, except for my confidence. I'm 5'3" and weigh 103 pounds and am constantly worrying about my body. Everyday I will look in front of my mirror with nothing on and just look at my body and cry. I'm fat, no breast, no butt, my face is too big, my arms are to skinny, but nose is to big, my chinis ugly. I have a dissorder adn I don't know what to do. Sometimes I just think if i should throw up after meals... but the thing is i don't know why i should. Everybody thinks my life is great and perfect... but it's not. I'm so unhappy about everything, I hate my life sometimes i just want to die. What is your advice? Should I stick with my dream of being perfect and plan my plastic surgeries when I get older adn stick with my studies. Or shoudl O let go? Should I go to councilling, please help... I'm so confused!
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Everybody is unsecure about themselves. When you look in the mirror, everybody looks at their faults, not at the beautiful aspects of themselves. Trust me, I had this problem for a long time. Don't worry about your body, you WILL fill out. I PROMISE! You are only 13! Your body is still growing. There is no need for plastic surgery. You do not need counciling either. Just look in the mirror and point out the positive aspects and tell yourself over and over that you are beautiful, because you are. And as for your phobia, it is called being a perfectionist. There is nothing wrong with that, just realize that nobody is perfect, and you can not set impossible standards for yourself. If you need any more advice then you can contact me on AIM at barsano09. =] feel better.
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103 POUNDS IS NOT OVERWEIGHT!!!!!!!!
GUESS WAT I ALSO HAVE PROMBLES to.
I would advise couseling. the reason i tell u i have problems is because it true!
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Go to counseling..definitely! Tell yourself why you have friends...tell yourself your pretty! Build self-confidence. But yeah, maybe talk to a counselor/therapist or something.
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Counsoling may help you. Work hard just like you are in school and its good you have alot of friends. Im 5'3 and weigh 118. I wish i was as skinny as you. And looked like a Hollister & Ambercrombie California barbie. So in my eyes your perfect to me! Noone is perfect so just remember that. And to the man upstairs your perfect. Thats all that should matter.. that is if you do believe in god. If you dont just know that noone can be perfect. The top 10 models arent even perfect. Im sure they find some faults about themselves to. Just remember we are all different and we are all different for a reason. Uniqueness! Just remember you can't be anyone else no matter how hard you try and noone can be you no matter how hard they try. Your you and their them. Your perfect the way you are!!
Trixx
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sweetheart nobody is perfect! even tho some of us want to be, its just not possible we all are going to have our flaws and things that we arent happy about but there isnt anything we can do about it! your not fat at all your actually pretty skinny! i dont think you need to go to counseling OR get plastic surgery because you should be happy with yourself and not try to be something that your not. people are going to love you for you! i bet tons of girls are jealous of you so if i were you i would feel great about myself! build up your self-confidence and tell yourself that your beautiful! i get to the point where i just break down and cry because sometime i see myself in a mirror and dont think i look that ugly but then one day i will look and i will see something totally different, something i cant stand looking at! everyone goes thru this hun but if you need anything else im always here!
♥ Kristen
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Hey there, it's okay. Don't think so bad about yourself because no one will ever be perfect. No one will ever have the perfect body, perfect face, perfect life, etc. because we all have our flaws. We'll always think somebody's prettier, smarter, whatev. Don't get plastic sugeries or anything like that because it's fake & not pretty at all. You're probably very pretty if you're popular in your school & if you have a lot of friends. You're not fat at all if you're 5'3" & weigh 103 pounds.. you're so skinny! If you want to go to a councelor, that's fine but I don't see a reason why. Girls always have problems with the way they look when they're a pre-teen or a teenager.
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I'm not a behavioral health professional, but from what you've said it sounds very much as if you need to be professionally evaluated. Talk to your parents; if you're not comfortable doing that, talk to an adult that you trust - your doctor, a teacher, guidance counselor, minister, rabbi, or adult relative.
It may feel scary, but believe me - what you're going through right now is the WORST of what you'll have to endure. You need help, and you'll feel a lot better once you get it.
The good news is that there are a number of effective treatments for behavioral problems. It may take a while, but you WILL be happy again.
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take a deep breath. everyone stresses over things like that because nobody thinks that they are perfect, but nobody can be perfect. just stop thinking about all of those things. start thinking about how beautiful you are!!! i hope that i helped. much love, cristy
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