E-mail: chicandtrendy33@yahoo.com
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Location: Miami
Occupation: student
Age: 15
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LONG STORY!!!!SORRY
I'm 16 and recently went back to work at the restaurant I worked at the previous summer. I was surprised to find out that J., 20, had started to work there on the same day that I came back. We worked together last summer, I had no strong feelings for him this way or that.
I began to flirt with him immediately, normally I wouldn't do this, but I am comfortable around him. He's always set me at ease. I did childish things like throw parsley at him, he often attempted to throw it right back.
Anyway, as time went on we'd stand close together in the doorway, just subtle flirtatious things like that. Later, he began to flirt back with me by putting me in headlocks and lightly pushing me. Sometimes we'd hold hands until the next session of flirtation began.
To make a long story short (I'm sorry! I don't want to bore you! ^^;;) I asked him if he had a girlfriend, and he said he did. I almost slapped myself, was he ever planning on telling me if I never asked? I guess I should have asked earlier, but maybe I didn't want to know if he did...
So even though I really liked him I tried to not flirt with him, I felt that things were just "weird," because it feels so natural to have the flirtation between us. I don't want to hurt his girlfriend, but I can't help the way I feel...
So later after I pretty much had stopped my advances, he starts to flirt with ME again! (not vice versa!) What am I supposed to do?! I flirt back, because I still have strong feelings for him.
One night when we worked alone we got drunk (well I had 2 beers, he had 3) and we played around some more. We did the normal flirty things that we usually do, stand really close together, he holds me and runs his mouth/face over my neck/collarbone. Then our boss shows up, we scramble outside and I ride around with him in his car (I was afraid to drive).
He said he wanted to have sex with me, and I told him, "No way. I'm a virgin. I'd never have sex with you unless I really really liked you and you were my boyfriend."
I told him the last part to be nice. I'm really saving myself for marriage. Later before he dropped me off and said that he wanted to kiss me, but he said he shouldn't because, A. I'm "too young", and B. he has a GF. I gave him a kiss on the cheek and told him Goodnight. That way his GF can't be mad at him.
Another night (next week) we got drunk again at work, I had 3 wine spritzers and he had a beer. We fooled around some more and I kissed him, or he kissed me...I don't know. He told me I was a good kisser (but you never know because boys lie! :-P) and that he wanted me to kiss him again. I eventually end up kissing him more and more that night before we went over another restaurant that my boss owns. He's my second kiss, and I love kissing him. Of course, because I was drunk I told him that when I was kissing my first kiss I was thinking about him. (I was!)
He told me that he would date me if he didn't have a girlfriend already, I told him that I would wait for him...oh, he also said that he likes me.
He also told me that someone told his girl that I had a crush on him. We think it was one of the waitstaff, that told one of HER friends, that told his girl. (Yes, one big long chain of ppl ^^;;) I asked if he would act weird around me when that certain waitress was around, first he said probably, and then he said he would act the same around me. I was happy when he said that, I don't want things to change. Oh, this was also on another day of working alone together, we were sober!
So the day after our kiss, he acts Coldly around me. He tries to avoid me if possible, and barely talks to me. The next day is kind of the same, but he tells me he had a huge fight with his girlfriend (that wants to beat me up..) partly over me. He told me that he told his girl that he didn't care about me.
So here I am. I'm confused and lost. I really like him. I don't want to get burned, but it appears to be too late. I know that if I dated him, I would be the only one..but how would I be for sure when he flirts with me and has a girl?! I don't want to have these doubts, I trust him completely.
How should I act around him? What should I do? I just want to flirt with him, and he with me, and have everything be alright.
I can't stop thinking about him, and I just want him to come back to me. What has his problem been lately? I just don't understand. I can't turn to anyone else for help.
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i think that you should talk to this boy. he might just be doing this to protect you from his gf. im sure he doesn't want her to beat you up. but, just talk to him. i hope i helped. good luck. luv, cristy
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I have a problem, and it's very bad. Sometimes I just want to cry and cry forver. I have a phobia of not being perfect. I need perfect grades, perfect friends, perfect face, prefect body, perfect breast, perfect family, perfect house, perfect life. I don't know what to do. I always feel so ugly, and that no one likes me. Yet I am very popular in school and have lots of friends. I go to parties every weekend... and try to live the classic Hollister & Ambercrombie California barbie. I'm pretty good at it too, except for my confidence. I'm 5'3" and weigh 103 pounds and am constantly worrying about my body. Everyday I will look in front of my mirror with nothing on and just look at my body and cry. I'm fat, no breast, no butt, my face is too big, my arms are to skinny, but nose is to big, my chinis ugly. I have a dissorder adn I don't know what to do. Sometimes I just think if i should throw up after meals... but the thing is i don't know why i should. Everybody thinks my life is great and perfect... but it's not. I'm so unhappy about everything, I hate my life sometimes i just want to die. What is your advice? Should I stick with my dream of being perfect and plan my plastic surgeries when I get older adn stick with my studies. Or shoudl O let go? Should I go to councilling, please help... I'm so confused! (link)
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take a deep breath. everyone stresses over things like that because nobody thinks that they are perfect, but nobody can be perfect. just stop thinking about all of those things. start thinking about how beautiful you are!!! i hope that i helped. much love, cristy
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i'm sorry if this is kind of long. i've liked this guy since i was five now im turning fifteen in two weeks. we use to go to the same school. but i switched schools for second grade. i went to an all girls school and for sixth grade he went to an all boys school. but most of my guy friends go to all guy schools and the boys from all guy schools are usually the ones that go to all of parties and dances and stuff and the guys that we hang out with after school. so, anyways when i started jr high, in seventh grade, the guy came to all of our dances, so i saw him again at a dance i went to in seventh grade.
in the summer of me going into eighth grade, we started talking. its not like i had never seen a boy in my life just because i go to an all girls school, but he was like the first boy that i started like talking to and stuff. so, he had this best friend. the best friend and i became really close. he would come home from summer school every day and we would talk online and we became the best of friends, until one day he told me that he hated me and he never wanted to speak to me again for the rest of his life and i had no idea why he said that. but now he's talking to me again, but it has never really been the same since he said that to me. why would he have done that to me?
the guy i like was the first boy that ever told me he loved me. it was that summer. but my mom was super overprotective because i guess she was nervous that this was the first boy and i didnt noe what to do so she told me that i had to play hard to get with him. so thats what i did. he would call me every day and we would talk online every night. but i took my mothers advice and then the boy put on his profile: "i don't know who i like" and i've been devastated since the eighth grade. and now he has a girlfriend, and he's bringing her to my quinces cuz they are dj's and they are going to be playing at my quinces!!!
could someone please give me an idea of what to do. please do not say get over him because i really love him and i don't think that i'll ever stop loving him. he is my baby and i'll always love him! but please, what can i do?
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well, as far as the friend guy, he might of been doing it because he likes you too and he might have been trying to push you away because his friend, your love, could have like threatened him or something. and your love, it sounds like he really loves you. believe me!!! he's doing this to make you jealous. right now, just kind of dont worry about it. he'll come to his senses but help him lol try talking to him, not around her but try talking to him online or on the phone. but if he tells you he loves you tell him that you love him back. because you really really do. i can tell. and you have always loved him
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I was just wondering if anyone has tried spray-on tanning. I do not want to harm my skin with regular tanning, but I don't want to look white as a ghost either. So, how do they do it? Does it look fake? Will it streak or wash off? Does anyone recommend it? (link)
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well, i use a spray for my legs and it makes them look more tanned. It's from sally hansen. airbrush for the legs it duznt harm my skin at all!!!!!
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I'm a 17/F, junior in high school. I'm seriously debating dropping out my senior year. Just finish out school until I'm 18 and no longer legally have to attend. I simply hate school, all it does is cause problems and drama in my life. With the things I've done, I wont get accepted into college anyway, so I figure I'll go to a community college when I'm ready because you don't even have to graduate to go to one of those. I already have a job that I absolutely love, so finding a job because I'm a dropout wont be a problem, and I'll be going to college anyway. Everyone I know is a senior this year, so next year will be miserable when all my friends are gone, and teachers suck, and other people are just self centered assholes, that I don't want to be around anyway. What are the pros and cons of dropping out for me at this point? Is anyone out there a dropout? Any experiences to share? (link)
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look, i think i noe how you feel. i hate school too. i go to an all-girls school and it really sucks because girls are vicious. and the people in my school are just panes in the butt. but, ive been in that school my whole life, and im close to graduation too. i cant just drop out. if you hate school so much, it could be because you just hate that particular school. maybe you can transfer to another school. but, dont quit. you will be very happy that you accomplished your goal after and then in colleage it will be different. but, finish school, get into a college that you really want to go to and then follow your dreams, your ambitions. but, don't drop out. it is for your own good, and in the longrun, for your own happiness, even if you don't think so now, but later you will see that it is true. i hope that i helped. :) -cristy
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I care to much about what people think of me. I know I do this, and it holds me back from alot.
I know I'm a cool person inside, but I'm scared to talk to anyone (besides people I'm already friends with). How can I stop this? (link)
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aww dont worry. just remember that they are not better than u and imagine being in their shoes. they probably want to talk to you too. so dont worry. just take a deep breath and ull be fine. =) hope i helped. love, cristy
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ok well i am really bad at math. like pretty bad. and at school i always get a different test then everyone else bc the work they do is too hard (so the teacher thinks about me). it really bugs me and ll the kids are like " aww lucky!!" i do get ok grades for math about that but, it just bugs me. i have three tutors, and they kinda help. its like i have a mental block. but i was born that way and its not my fault. and when the teacher asks me a hard question that all the other kids know and i get it wrong they all look at me and its sooo embarrassing! idk what to do, i do my best at math and i try hard but, you know. most of the stuff in homeroom math i dont even know bc i dont go to that math class, i go to an "easier one" with my totur!! HELP
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dont worry. im really bad @ math 2. But maybe the fact that you think your bad @ it is wats killing you. the thing is, that you get nervous or upset every time that you hav 2 deal with math because you think that there is something wrong with you and math. just relax. before you go into a test, listen to relaxing music, burn some insense. the problem might be all in ur mind
hope i helped.
luv, cristy
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