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Ok heres the question it sounds stupid but its true, I feel scared to kiss!!! ok some time this week i am going to meeting up with a friend who i have not seen for 4 years because he left school when i was 13. ok so when i was 13 i like loved him, we was going out! ok so he texts me asking me when i meet him he wants a birthday kiss what does that mean??? He wants to kiss me? ok im 2 scared i always freak out incase i don't kiss right! what if he kisses me? wouldn't it be forward of him. 4 years is along time. im 17/f thanx
Whenever he meanshe wants a birthday kiss, he just either wants a little peck on the cheek or a little peck on the lips. Probably a peck on the lips. I can understand why your nervous. I've never kissed anyone either and I'm always afraid that whenever that's gonna happen... will I do it right? Will I mess up? Will I be good? But then I thought, you just have to let it come naturally, and you probably won't mess up. And if you are just giving him a little peck on the lips, all you gotta do is like a 1 sec thing. Everyone's nervous. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
ok i was wondering what different websites there are for xanga music? i perfer if this website had greenday, click five and fall out boy..any suggestions?? please help!
-Lex
there is:
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=Music4yeh
..that's a really good site. I was doing this from memory, I have more sites, I just can't remember them, so please IM me later ( because im not at my house right now, so all my sites on "Favorites" aren't here ) and I'll give you the rest of the sites later. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
i found out that the guy i likes likes me back, and i need to know how to be flirty with him but not be like all over him. we are going to homecoming together later this month, but we arent like a "couple"
THANKS!!
i will rate
Just don't try to flirt like every five seconds. Just do it a little ; and just keep eye contact. Keep smiling, be funny...just be yourself. Cause obviously you don't have to flirt a whole lot if he already likes you! =D
Love,
MELii
I just did a survey and I seriously don't know...what the heck does 'cut some rug' mean? The question was "would you cut some rug with me?". Help please.
To 'cut a rug ' means to dance. They used that term in like, the 50's or so. Or the person on the survey's just trying to be funny and means will you actually cut out some rug with me. But I think he probably means 'dance'.. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
You see, I have a crush on this guy. I've had one on him for 3 years now. I'm kind of sort of friends with him, but the only time I have the guts to talk with him is around my friend because she's friends with him, so I just follow and laugh at his jokes.
I'm not good at starting conversations, so I'm not sure how to get his attention. I don't want to be all like "I LIKE YOU." to him, because I did that for two years now. And my biggest fear is that he thinks I'm some sort of stalker-freak.
How do I get his attention? *feels like a fool* Thanks!
ok well..
whenever you talk to him next time, don't think of him as your crush of two years. Try to think of him as just someone that your talking too. And just be yourself. Whenever he's talking to your friend, make yourself a part of the conversation. Make a comment on what he said or share a memory or something. ( and sharing memories shows you can get personal with him, so that's good )..so just be yourself, and he'll like you for you. I mean, even if he doesn't like-like you at all, wouldn't it be better if you were his friend then back to nothing "stalker-freak"? So if not going for like-like, go for friend, cause then maybe someday.. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
Okay I was sitting in my IPS class (1st period) when my friend tapes me and tells me to look out the door where I see A. well thats what i call him. So he smiles and I just giggle and wave. Than we ran into each other in the hall. (2nd per.) So he got to pick his seat in home ec and sat behind me and like flirted with me the whole movie and I means hes hilarious and not my normal guy but hes cute. So I just need to know how to get him interested because everyone likes him and stuff. How do i know if I genuenlly like him or if its "lust at first sight".
I'm on the rejection rebound so is that a part of it?
Well about him, it sounds like he already likes you ( because he flirted,smiled,etc. ) so you might not even need to mkae him like you more...and you might be on the rebound, so just wait a while longer before you try anything or anything and then just get to know him a little better and see if you actually like him. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
well is it weird that im a girl that thinks its better to have guy friends. cause there not all about drama and are really funny. well a bunch of people say that cuz im nice and i hang out with guys that means i like love them or something. and i really dont feel that way about them.
what do you think
No ; you just sound like what you said. You just think they're funny and nice and stuff and nothing's wrong with that. Girls are probably just jealous because your friends with so many boys and stuff and they aren't. Just next time they say that, just tell them they're wrong. Who cares if they think that? I mean, you know you don't "love" them and the guys know. Maybe even have the guys talk to the people who say that. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
Hi I am a 17 year old boy and my girlfriend wants to have unprotected sex
with me, but i'm not sure i want to have unprotected sex.
We have had protected sex before. Please Help me?.
I would just sit down and seriously discuss with her about this. Discuss all the consequences that can happen if you two have unprotected sex. If you are having doubts about having unprotected sex, then you shouldn't do it with her because that obviously means a part of you never wanted to and you shouldn't do anything you don't want to do. If she loved you, then she would understand your point of view. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
p.s. for both of your safeties, I would suggest just keep using a condom
ok, well i recently just took a vacation to a beach about 20 hours away. On the last day I found a guy who I REALLY like, and I know he liked me. We hung out until about 1-2 in the morning then I had to go back to my hotel room. The morning after I left without seeing him at all. Now here I am at home and I can't stop thinking about him. Anything I say His name is in my sentace. Are there any ways to get off my mind? I can't go back to the beach because, well, I'm only 14, and he's only 14, so we both can't drive.
Just whenever you start to think about him, just try pushing that outta your mind with something else. Or try listening to music and getting a song stuck inside your head instead of him. Or just try and occupy yourself and then you won't be thinking about him and you won't even realize it. Occupying yourself is probably the best thing to do. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
is it like.. unhealthy to not have sex for your entire life,
i want kids, and i want alot, but i want to adopt. its not a spiritual thing..i just.. am weirded out by the idea of sex...
please help..
i rate high on good advice
No it's not unhealthy to not have sex for your entire life. I kinda respect the fact that you aren't going to get pressured into it like some girls do. So it's totally fine and not unhealthy. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
=/ I suck at reading guys' actions, so.....
1) He sits next to my best friend in my Social Studies Class. So one day before class, I went over to talk to her, and he jumped, yes JUMPED up and RAN, yes, SPRINTED across the room, and started talking to his friend. Matter of fact, he practically leaves everytime I come near. I'm not mean to him or anything, and we get along well (just got aquainted about 2 1/2 weeks ago)
2) When I come late into class, he stares. Like the other day, I came in late, and he looked at me for about 5 minutes while I was explaining to the teacher.
3) He'll only talk to me if I say something to him. I don't think this means anything--a lot of my friends say he does that anyways.
=/ And he has a girlfriend. Or should say "groupie". She's VERY obsessed with him. I think he just gave in, (they were friends) and was too nice to know.
What do you guys think?
It sounds to me like he does like you. He just might be running away from you because he might be afraid to do something stupid in front of you, so he's trying to keep his distance, or he's just plain nervous. And the staring.. guys tend to do that sometimes.. i don't know why ; they just do. I would try getting one of your friends to go and talk to him and see if he likes you. Or maybe try asking one of his friends. If he does like you (if you like him), I would say go for it! Because if he knows that you like him, then maybe'll he'll dump his girlfriend or "groupie" or w/e and then you two can date! If you don't like him, then just whenever you talk to him, try not to do anything that might come off as flirting or w.e and just try and hint to him that you guys are friends and only that. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
why was the site down? well i just heard it was.
ill rate...
It's just because Hurriccan Katrina hit one of the servers, and they couldn't fix it yet. But now they did and it's all good now =D I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
ok so at my highschool we got a pool and have to go swimming. the problem is i dont feel comfrontable taking off ALL my clothes to wear my bathing suit infront of everyone.. they think just because we are all girls and have the same body parents that it is ok but i personaly dont think that is right.. and another thing is we cant use the "girl problem" to stop us from swimming" but i have NEVER used a tampon and i have heared from my friends that the doctor has told them it is bad for you and can mess up soemthing down there?? what can i do??
p.s
i dont start PE until next term
Well first of all ; it's perfectly okay to wear a tampon. Just don't keep it in for like more than 5 or 6 hours and right after you get outta the water, go and change it. And I can understand the whole changing infront of people and wearing bathing suits in fron tof them. What I do is I just wear my towel around me or I just kinda jump in the water really quickly but now I've kinda just gotten used to it, cause I just think there's a buncha other girls there doing it too and they're probably all uncomfortable too, so it's normal and I shouldn't worry, the class'll be over soon. And maybe for changing..do you have bathrooms in your changing rooms? ( we do so heres where I got the idea ) maybe change in the stalls. That's what I do. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
Ok me & my friend are 15 & we are still virgins & we havent
even had our first kiss yet! We dont know what to do! Is it a bad thing
all of our other friends have done it all! We dont know if we should do it
now or wait we dont want to wait to long! But we dont want to end up being
pregnant at a young age! But we think its stupid that we havent even had
our first kiss! & we have gone out with tons of guys! tell us what you
think we should do we really need someones help!.
I'm 14 and I haven't had my first kiss either -- yes I mean sometimes I feel really weird cause some of my friends have been kissed already and stuff, but then again, some of my friends haven't.. so I feel normal. I mean I don't want to waste my first kiss on something stupid like making out iwth a guy I don't even know or like or something. So whenever it happens ; it'll happen. You just gotta do it with someone you like alot because it's a very special thing you'll always remember ( god that sounds sappy lmao ) but anyways, it's completley normal, there's actually a bunch of girls who haven't been kissed either, so you are not alone! =D I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
My hait is pretty thin & long. Is there any way I can get my hair thickened. I know its proboly not possible but I was just wondering. I eat extremely healthy. Eveerything I basically eat is organtic & I take supplements. So its not because of my eating habits. Thank you!
Well sometimes whenever people get their hair cut in layers, it makes it looks thicker. But I would suggesst looking for hair products next time you are shopping and look for the word VOLUME on there. I prefer "Aussie" products. But there's alot of hair products that make your hair thicker & maybe next time you get your hair cut, ask your hair cutter.. maybe they know some suggestions I don't. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
when there are sales from hollister and american eagle.. how much are the sweaters/sweatshirts and shirts for?
Well usually, they go down to $15 ( both AE and HOLLISTER ).. sometimes you have to wait a while for something to go from like $40 to $15.. that's what I did with a jacket I love. Anywyas, it'd be really good idea to shop there soon whenever all the summer stuff's going away and all the fall stuff's coming out so you can get some good stuff really really cheap. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
Is there anyway i can find out if my ex still likes me? because I still like him a ton. & hes been IMing me a lot lately & saying like some of our old insiders. Is there anything i should do? & i Dont know if he has a girlfriend because in his profile it said i LOVE U SO & SO. & Now he took it out. So im not sure if they broke up or whatever.
Well next time you talk to him, just ask him about it. Just be like," Hey what was up with that ' i love you so & so ' stuff? Did you guys break up o w.e? Cause maybe he broke up with her for you.. just try flirting with him next time you talk to him and see how he reacts. If he doesn't flirt back, then maybe he doesn't like like you and he was just bringing up old times for some laughs and silence-breakers. But it kinda sounds to me like he might like you again. So, just flirt with him and stuff and see what happens. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
PLease some one answer this question! ok so theres this boy i saw the other day i had not seen him for 6 months because we had an argument. We went out before the argument but then we kinda broke up. Well after seeing him the other day i realised i still have feelings for him the thing is im not sure if he does for me? he said my friend told him i was beautiful and he agrees. He seemed to be interested in who im going out with, what ive been doing since not seeing him. It just seemed strange because he never hugged me, kissed me or anything he just smiled at me. The thing is what do i do now!! Shall i wait for a text? wait for him 2 phone me? he tried to break me up with my bf.when i was 16 im now 17
Hmmm he could just possibly be wondering if you've gotten over him yet, hence all the sudden," Whose she going out with?" and such. But I think it might be because he has some feelings still for you, becaus I mean, he also called you beautiful and stuff. He just might not hug you or kiss you because he doesn't know how you feel about him, so he doesn't want you to maybe like freak out or anything if he trys something. Just call him sometime and be like," Hey it was awseome seeing you again... we should hang out sometime soon." ( or something like that ) and then whenever you are there, just flirt with him a little, and see if he does back. If not, then maybe he was just interested if you gotten over him or not. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
hi i'm 15,male,ohio and there is this girl that i like but shes really popular and i'm not i'm hated by everyone popular and i'm not sure if she hates me and i'd really like to get to know her shes gave me her number but never sits by me on the bus and jus says hi.
Well first of all, obviously she doesn't "hate" you if she gave her number, right? So to find out who she likes -- you have her number, call her. First try asking her about homework or something and then slowly changing the subject maybe to idk, music, fav. foods, fav. stores even? I don't know... just get to know her, and if she's talking to you, obviously she doesn't hate you. It doesn't matter if someone's popular, you should like someone for them, popular or not. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
i have this friend who is always there for me..and everything..we're ireseperable..but she thinks she is my only friend..and when my other friends call and ask to do stuff she gets mad. her mother even thinks im her only friend. the problem is she is my very BEST friend. but i do have other friends and i do like to hang out with them. please give me your advice.
thanks, much love~ two-split friend
Oh my god I'm in the same situation like, right now! What I do is I just try and call my friends up and make plans with them and whenever she calls, I'm just like," Sorry, but ____ already asked me to hang out with her, maybe another day." And I just keep doing that, and gradually she's been calling less ( like she still calls, but not everyday ) and whenever I am on the phone with her sometimes, I tell her some stuff me and ___ said/did whenever we hung out and stuff so that sends her a message in a way that you have other friends and need time to hang with them. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii