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I'm Jessie. I've been on here on and off for about 7 years. I'm 22 :) I am currently in my final year of college studying English and new media
I'm from Ireland I dye my hair way too much. I've been blonde,brown,brown with blonde,black,red,and blonde again!I love helping people I found advicenators when I was just 15 and didn't understand the world! I feel I have matured with this site. The people on here are amazing and I love coming on here in my spare time to be there for people in need. I won't tell you what you want to hear because that's not advice it's just fooling yourself. I try to help in whatever way I can I try not to judge and try to relate to a situation if I can. :) If you don't like honesty then you won't like my advice.
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Well saturday i havea birthday party i need help on a out fit hres 2 photos do you think the white cardigan or black cardigan is better ?

http://i759.photobucket.com/albums/xx232/HildaJrCarter/blackcardigan-1.jpg

http://i759.photobucket.com/albums/xx232/HildaJrCarter/white.jpg

& also with or with out belt ?

http://i759.photobucket.com/albums/xx232/HildaJrCarter/nobelt.jpg

http://i759.photobucket.com/albums/xx232/HildaJrCarter/blackcardigan.jpg



Thanks =]

Hey there,
Definately the black cardigan with the belt :)
the white kind of clashes.
really cute outfit by the way.
hope I helped
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I am a 21 year old female. And I have a question that has been bugging me for a while. I have an ex boyfriend. That to this day I still have feelings for him. We were togeather for a year and, I really and truly loved him. And at the time I felt as if he was my soul mate. But he ended up leaving me after we got in an argument. And soon he started seeing other people. And he ended up getting back with his ex,and currently their staying togeather. And what's weird is, I still have feelings for him, I know we've been broken apart for a long time,. But I just can't stop thinking of him, Every day he's on my mind. And I just have this hope that one day we will reunite. My question is do you think it's posible that we are. I believe that we are soulmates and for some reason I just can't move on.

hey there,
ok firstly let me say how I understand how hard this is. ive been there,and ive watched my friend go through it with a guy whos been messing her around for over 2years,shes still not over him and she wishes she had backed out sooner.
honestly im going to be blunt you can't keep living in hope that one day you will reunite.. dont fool your self and dont put your life on hold waiting around.
I know you still have feelings but you honestly have to move on. its easy to say youve tried but ask yourself have you really?
every time he comes into your thoughts distract yourself call a friend do something to take your mind off him keep busy.
start going out more with friends doing the things you love doing and buy doing this soon you dont even begin to realise how little you think of him anymore to the point where you dont.
and youl eventually be able to think of him and laugh and say hey im so over you.
I know it may seem like it now but please trust me ive gone through it I know im only young but I do understand.
hes gone his seperate way,now you go yours.
get back out there maybe one day some other guy will come along without you even expecting it and he will make you sudenly forget about your ex thats what people kept telling me would happen i never thought it would but it did!
if in time who knows you two could end up together down the line in the future but for now your still young and you need to expierience different relationships and move on. if they dont work out like I said who knows but for now just leave it in the past.
I hope I made some sense and helped in any way,
any more questions please inbox me!
good luck && much

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I am pretty early in my pregnancy still, I guess, but was thinking I should probably start buying things for the baby. I just don't know where to start! What do I buy first for the baby? It's, of course, my first and we aren't going to find out it's gender until the baby is born :D

Should I get newborn clothes or diapers or a crib or should I wait until it's closer to my delivery date? Should I buy the expensive, necessary things right now? I just want to be prepared, that's all.

Hey there,first off let me say congratulations :)
hope all goes well for you!
Okay well if this were me what I would do is rather then buy everything at once now,or closer to the time I would pick things up along the way a few things at a time if that makes sense.
it all depends on how well your financial state is going too.
so I would say now maybe start picking up some clothes,nuetural colours of course because you dont know the gender,mostly white creams,and lemons.
then when the babys born you can buy more once you know the gender of course :)
as for the crib,pram && all that discuss it with your parthner maybe about when its afordable etc theres no hurry you have another 5months so its really just up to you!
but I would say buy the nesecary things like bottles and diapers baby formula (if your not breastfeeding) baby grows vests.
im sure you will be more then prepared most first time mothers arent! so just relax and build things up over the coming weeks and months it works out cheaper then.
if you are having trouble what to get etc take your mom with you no one knows better then her she should surely be able to help and it would be nice to bond over some baby shopping lol :)
hope I helped!
good luck once again
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so i'm very interested in the whole, giving a BJ thing, at least just once!

i know many girl don't like it but i just want to experience it once. and i know people are always like "OMG I DONT EVEN KNOW HOW, WHAT SHOULD I DO!!?" and honestly reading about how to do it is definately not going to help..

i've told guys before, i dont know how! and they're just always like, it's easy just do what youuu want.

and i'm like no awkward, like i wouldn't even know what to do, how to do it but i was just wondering, does it come natural?

by the way i'm 19. female.

just curious :)

Hey there,
I know how you feel,i had never given head to any previous boyfriends or any guy until literally about a week ago with my current boyfriend,because I really like him I decided he was the one I wanted to try it with.
it definately just came naturally to me I was always worried about what to do but honestly like kissing you worry so much about what to do before it but then when the time comes you dont even realise your doing it!
we were making out and then I was kissing his chest and the next thing I know im giving head.
Just watch your teeth,its not as gross as i always thought too.
he asked me afterwards had i done it before,and being honest i said no. then i was worried it was bad for him but he said it was amazing :)
so relax and dont worry!
hope I helped
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me and this guy, we say were "best friends" but we flirt NONSTOP everytime we're together, and i just don't know if its us being comofortable with each other, or if we both want to be more, if we're just really attracted to each other or if its just a best friend kinda thing. i'll give you a couple examples of what we do and i'll get your opinion!(:

i took a shower, and i came out with only a towel on and he was like "daaaaaaang, i'll dry you off;)!" and i started laughing and he took my water and i was like give me my water! and he sat down on a chair and he was like come sit on me. and i shyly was like "noooo:)" and i bent over and he like lifted my towel up, but it wasnt embarassing because we do things like that to each other.

he always knows when something's wrong, and he is always looking out for me and is like "you don't smoke do you, you better not linds i'm serious!" or if i ask him a question and i feel like he's not telling me the truth he'll be like "you know you can trust me, we tell each other everything" and when i'm sad, he does everything he can to make me laugh.

everytime we hangout, and one of us leaves the other, he'll always give me a hug and won't let go for a long time, its so cute:)

he's seen me naked, i've seen him naked. we haven't done anything though not even kissed BUT doing that, was a dare kind of thing and we were totally comfortable with it.

one time i was making food and he came up from behind me, and like put his chin on my shoulder and his arms around me and i like leaned back, if you can picture that and i was like do i smell all sweaty! hahaaa because i just got done running, and he was like noo not at all you smell like your perfume!

we do things like that all the time. i can wear whatever i want around him! hes seen me with no makeup, my hair not done and grubby clothes on and he doesnt care.

i just don't know what to think about our friendship. everyone always asks me if we like each other because they say we flirt all the time but i'm just like "we're just best friends:)"

even though he is really hot! and i know he thinks i am, i just don't know about us!

Hey there, =]
first off I want to say how its really great how you have that kind of a relationship with a guy,
it sounds exactly the same as me and my guy berstfriend,although I dont see him as more then a friend.
what you need to do is figure out do you want to be more?
from reading that it seems to me like you do,but like everyone else in theese kinds of situations your scared of ruining the friendship right?
well dont be. if you have feelings for him and he does for you then you could be missing out on a really great relationship by holding back.take the risk ask him how he feels about you two if its just comfortable friendship or really is something more,which it seems like a lot to me :)
if things dont work out dont worry about your friendship changing you two are so close its unlikey that things will get so akward that you wont speak or anything like that trust me.
my best guy friend told me he liked me as more but i didnt feel the same and were still as close as ever.
In my opinion I think you two would make an amazing couple your very lucky he sounds great :)
but you have to find out if he feels the same because although it may strongly look that way it isnt always the case so talk to him about it =)
I really hope I helped somehow! and made sense and things work out
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i'm fifteen.
where i live i cant get a job, i have to be 16.
i want to save up money to buy a car, and i need to do it fast.

so since i cant have a job..what are ways i can make money quick?
anything online i can do?
how old do you have to sell something online?
i cant do anything like car washes or lemonade stands.


any idea's will help.

Hey there,
I know exactly how you feel,i Just turned 16 two weeks ago and up until then all i wanted was a job!
Luckily I have one now but anyway heres some things i did that might help
-ALOT of babysitting,if you can! maybe aunts uncles anything,dont wait for them to come to you,put yourself out there offer some parents would be glad for a night out theres just no babysitters,even put an add in the paper or a local shop or something like that me and my friend did it and suprisngly it worked.

-you can be any age as far as i know to sell stuff on e-bay,ive never used it but my sister has im sure if you go there set up an account and read up on it and all that it should help.

have you tried asking in any local small shops or supermarkets for a job some places do hire u16s to like stock shelves and stuff like that?

offer to do any jobs around the house to get extra money off your parents.

ask for money instead of presents at birthday and christmasses.
dont ever be fooled into doing those online surveys for money by the way,total scams.

thats really all i can think of sorry if I didnt help theres just not much 15yr olds can do unfortunately :(
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Hi im 16 male and im gay and ive been with my bf for almost 9 months we are great together we love each other a lot we recently came out and well everyone seem fine with it although a couple of people have made a point to say what they think they say were abnormal they call us freaks and that we are sick ive tried to ignore them but it can be hard to take my bf has been distanced lately hasnt said much ive tried to talk to but he doesnt want to talk im getting worried all this he might not want to be with me i really love him what do i do?

hey there,sorry for not answering straight away, =)
okay first off those people are seriously immature and pathetic people like that annoy me.
never let them make you think bad or any less of yourself for being gay,there is nothing abnormal about it.
nobody should have to be ridiculed like that but unfortunately there are those sadistic people out there and we just have to let they're opinions flaot over our heads.
it shouldnt matter what any of them think.
im going to be blunt,if your boyfriend really loves you he wont care what anyone thinks of your relationship,and if he does,he shouldnt. simple.
I can understand why hes being a bit distant its probably not with you hes just finding it hard to cope with the insults and ridicules he is probably wondering if those people are right and if so he needs to get those thoughts out of his head dont let people like that come between your relationship,give him a little more time and see if he comes around if not try talking to him again but this time ask him straight out whats he thinking,if hes questioning the relatinship because of it well then honestly I would strongly sugest you move on and find someone else because no matter what there are always gonna be those few who just cant except anything different then what they class as "normality"
so he wont last long in many other relationships and if he tried to become straight hed be fooling himself and being someone hes not.
I hope I made some sense,and helped in any way at all.
im sorry you have to deal with those people,just remember your the bigger and better person.
Hope everything works out and your bf comes around,
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My boyfriend and i have been together for 11 months. He leaves for college next week and i'm going crazy. I can't even talk about it without being put into tears. I dont know what to do to make it easier for myself.. help ?

hey there,
I know how hard this can be trust me ive been there theres no way of sugar coating it,it plain sucks.
honestly the best advice I can give you is to keep busy.
distract yourself from thinking about him as much as you want to and it kills you to do so,do the things you love doing take up a new hobbie?
go out with friends basicly just live your live as normal and best you can don't allow yourself to become depressed and mope around the place stay going. keep going.
I know you really dont want to hear this right now but it will make sense life does go on.
the trick is time,over time it will ease I promise im not saying itl happen over night itl be tough but you can get through it surround yourself with friends and family =)
I hope I helped in anyway,and things get easier and better,sorry to hear again.
anymore questions please feel free to inbox me
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When I blow dry my hair well try to blow dry it straight it just comes out poofy and thick. Its SO annoying. When my hair dressers do it they do it perfect. I don't understnd why I can't do it! What products should I use and just step by step instructions how to make it straight and not poofy! Thanksss in advance=)

Hey there,
I know what you mean it can be seriously annoying when you cant blow dry your own hair to perfection like hairdressers do but bear in mind not many of us can,its quite tricky to do it to your own hair and alot of hairdressers are trained to do it properly which is why i usually just straighten my hair after i blow dry it.
im not sure if youve tried this or not
but all the heat from the straightner and blow dryer isnt good for your hair so either get a heat protection spray if your going to do that,or let your hair dry naturally and then straighten it.
i usually get similar results if not nicer to when i get it blow dried professionaly =)
i prefer straitening it but its important to keep your hair nourished and not let it get too dried out if your going to do this because it gives it that frizzy straw-like look.
but if your dead set on blow drying it i would advice you to apply a smootening serum to your hair while wet and then begin to blow dry in sections,letting a piece down each time and going over it until its straight,or you could just ask your hairdresser on how to do it properly they will surely have some tips!
sorry i couldnt be more help
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im 17 male im a virgin and well my penis is quite small im a bit embarrassed ive been with my gf for almost 4 months she's my first and im nervous about her seeing my penis im not sure if she still wants to be with me what age doe syour body stop growing? im worried there my be something wrong with me do girls care much about penis size?

hey there, =]
okay first off you have nothing to be embarassed about,I know this might sound cliche but everyone comes in all different shapes and sizes, and theres nothing we can do but accept that.
youve been with your gf 4months if she truley cares for you then the size of your penis shouldnt even matter let alone bother her!
theres no specific time given to when your body stops growing im afraid
theres definately nothing wrong with you and your not the only one trust me,my boyfriends not that big and honestly? it really doesnt bother me in the slightest actually its easier to manage lol.
as they say its not the size that matters its what you do with it
your girlfriend is seriously immature if she cares about that or not to be blunt,if she has an issue with it id suggest you advice her to grow up get over herself and fine someone who respects you!
but chances are she will be totally fine with it trust me :)
just relax and feel comfortable and confident with your body and your self,and that will shine through.
good luck I hope I helped a bit
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okay i recently discovered that i have freaking strech marks on my tummy & my sides & its sooo ugly i dont wanna take my clothes off around my boyfriend because of them. i kno that he doesnt really notice them cause they're not that bad but its bad enough wat can i do ??

hey there,
ok almost every girl expiernces stretch marks somewhere on their body at one stage or another so your not the only one,
i got them inbetween my thighs at first i was soo self concious of them and i thought whenever i wore a bikini or shorts that people were staring.
then I came to realise i was just being paronied and that people barely even noticed,and it made me feel a whole lot better when i realised my friend had them too.
sometimes they can be white barely visable other times they could be red or a deep purple its strange.
anyway chances are your boyfriend,if he really cares for you wont even notice! and if he does he definately wont care,and wont find you any less attractive.
but if they are really bothering you that much you could try using Bio Oil,ive heard its meant to be good for helping scars and stretch marks fade, you can get it and any health store or chemist :)
hope I helped
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im a senior in highschool and this kid and i have been talking for 3 months. Today was our first day of school, and him and i dont really have the same group of friends (which i knew was going to be weird). he was very weird at school, we have no classes together and he only say hi to me like three times and it was like a few minutes conversations, nothing special. then today after school i texted him and its been like three hours and he hasnt responded. should i just be done? what do i do?

Hey there,
okay it seems to me like this guy is confused about or either afraid to admit his feelings for you.
alot of guys are like that when they really like a girl,they are afraid of what their friends will think,and they often act weird or different around us in front of them or else theyd blow us off out of fear of what others think etc.
stupid I know.
what I would advice you to do is to just text him again,or pull him a side and be like seriously whats up?how come you don't talk to me barely anymore and blow me off etc,just ask straight out that way you can figure out whether your wasting your time on him or not.
I hope I helped in anyway or gave some insight!
hope it works out too good luck
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I messed up and I fingered my g/f before I removed my hand wart. It was fairly recent. What is going to happen? What should I do? How can I help her?

Hey there,
is she aware that you had the wart?
If not talk to her about explain how your very sorry but you forgot,and your quite worried.
I then sugest the two of you go see a doctor to be on the safe side,warts are caused by the HPV (human papiloma virus) its very contagious im not 100% sure seeing as im not a doctor but this leads me to believe that this might devolop into genital warts something im sure your gf really does not want!
so if she sees a doctor or if you two go to an STI clinic at your nearest hopsital to get her checked out so if anything has spread it can be caught early on.
I know this can be a little awkward but trust me its better then your gf catching an sti.
way to go for showing concern though most guys wouldnt care,or even realise! =) She will see that it was a genuine mistake you guys will get it sorted and youl be fine,just be more careful and aware next time and dont forget to get that wart treated ,hope I helped
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I always go to MagicTans spray tan booths, I really like it and you can see the color instantly after it sprays you rather than waiting hours for your tan to show up. I have bought products from neutrogena and loreal as a self tanner, but it sprays on clear. My question is, is there some sort of self tanner that sprays on bronze?

Hey there,
well as far as I know most instant tans spray on bronze straight away,so if thats what your looking for some brands are rimmel sun shimmer it shows up straight away but it can wash off pretty easily with rain which is why I find sally hensen instant spray self tanner to be better it comes up instantly and lasts long and doesnt wash off much with the rain.
how ever if its an overnight self tanner that shows up the next day that your looking for with a bronze tint that you can seen while going on,theres loads of brands you can get,just ask in your nearest cosmetics store they can advice you,st tropez is a good one too.
Hope I helped some how =]
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hi there! sorry this is a bit long..
me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months. recently we frequently have arguments. i love him so much, so it makes me sad that whenever we see each other we end up arguing about stuff. we both work and dont get to see each other everyday. my boyfriend has been especially busy with work. i really would love to see him every other day at least.. but when i call him at work he would sound annoyed like im just disturbing him. whenever we go out and have dinner.. he just seems more focused on the time.. kinda wants to leave early to have enough sleep for work the next day. he goes by a plan and a schedule and wants everything done "the right way" as planned. sometimes i feel like going out with me is added work for him. hope you could give me some advice on this, thanks!

Hey there,
I understand how you must be feeling.
and honestly what you need to do is sit your boyfriend down and tell him how you feel,
tell him you feel neglected for his work and that your not important to him,hes a guy and typicaly hes probably too wrapped up in his work to even notice hes not spending near as enough time with you.
its all about finding a balance,tell him your not asking for every waking moment together but you need to see him every once in a while for this relationship to work say your sick of the fighting and you just want things to go back to how they used to be.
hopefully this will shed some light over him and make him realise he better shape up and start giving up the attention you deserve sometimes thats all it takes for a guy the fear and suden realisation that they might loose you,for them to see the error of their ways.
If things don't start getting better I sugest then its time to rethink the relationship because you deserve better then that,
hope this doesnt happen though and hope i helped
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Sorry if this is the wrong category... This might be long. xD Please don't give me a hard time about what I'm about to say, and don't tell me to simply "get over it' either." -.- So I pretty much hate my life. I'm 14/f, going to be a freshman in high school soon. I've been feeling this way since 7th grade, but I think it got much much worse in 8th grade, and I think it's even worse now. I'm tired of all this crap and drama, I can't take it anymore. I feel like I'm unworthy of living, I have lots of regrets. I also feel like I'm never good enough, and that I'm a horrible person. I think I'm such a bitchy person, but I can't help it. :\ I know I won't be, nor do i want to be the BEST at EVERYTHING. o.o but it just affects my confidence and self-esteem. I hate that I do this, but I let things get to me A LOT. :| I won't explain EVERYTHING in detail though. I feel like I have nothing to live for, other than friends. I don't look forward to tomorrow. I'm just pessimistic or something. What do I have to live for? My thoughts of life is that you just go to school, then after that you go to work, then retire. It's like the suckish parts of my life seem to overpower the happy moments. On top of all of that, my "best friend" has moved on from our friendship I guess. I don't think she wants to be my best friend anymore. I know I've done some mean and bitchy things towards her, but I always end up apologizing. Except this time, outta nowhere, on Facebook, her status was something like "I don't care anymore, I've had enough. You can run away from my life, I'm not going to beg you to come back. At least treat me as a person, it's not all about you." This time, I HONESTLY don't even know what I did! This all just seemed out of the blue. (this happened maybe 2-3 months ago.) I know I do NOT think it's all about me. I apologized to her and asked if she was mad at me... She said she wasn't. It's like I'm always the one who's apologzing. I know she was lying though, even though she said she wasn't. I mean, what can I do this fix things when she wouldn't tell me what I did wrong? I feel like she completely blew me off for no reason which sucks. We WERE really good friends though. We had plenty of good times. I miss it. I know it's probably bitchy to say, but she got on my nerves from time to time. I thought she was fake and a copier. -.- I know, I'm a bad friend for saying this. You'd probably have to be in my shoes to understand... but really, at that time when she said that on her status, I don't know what I did. Now she's found "new best friends" I guess. Sometimes she hangs out with other people too. The thing is, I just feel like she's intentionally trying to show off to me. That she's hanging out with other people, and that she doesn't need to hang out with me to have a good time. We used to hang out all the time, and we had a bunch of fun. She even hung out with one of our good guy friends today, and with other people.... WITHOUT me. I don't think it bothers me as much, it's just that I have a feeling she's trying to rub it in my face. ;__; It kinda offended me. Everything she does, I just feel like it's so fake, and an attempt to show off to me. It gets to me SO MUCH. She doesn't think it, but I honestly think she's spoiled. It's kinda hard to explain. I don't think this came out right, so I'll probably get some answers I didn't want to hear. Sorry, I'm not good at explaining things. -__- I HAVE thought about suicide before. I don't think I'd actually commit it though. It just sucks when ONE person makes you feel so angry and baffled, to the point where you have thoughts about suicide. I can't stand her. :( I have a hard time getting over things. I'm definitely not jealous of her, though sometimes I am. It just made me mad that she planned a whole hangout thing with one of our good guy friends. And that he attended it. ;__; I think I CAN get over things. It's just that I keep thinking about it, and have doubts, you know? I have this feeling of paranoia that never goes away. D: That my "friend" thinks, "Oh, haha wow. My life is soo better than hers. I have good friends, I don't need her. HAHA I go out of the house and hang out more than her. I hang out with a lot of friends. I wonder how she feels about me hanging out with Chad.".... She's also like "I had a lot of fun today on the go-karts, bumper cars, arcade, etc, etc, at All-Sports today with ___, ____, ____, ___, ___, and others. I begged Chad for money and tokens muahah." Does anyone understand how I would feel about reading that? On Facebook, where when you post your status, EVERYONE can see it? I feel so annoyed and crappy. Do you really need to post all the freakin details? I hope you understand or get how I would feel. ;__; Does anyone have any advice on how I can view my life better? Or how I can get over things, and NOT let things get to me so easily? I seriously need help on not letting things get to me. I don't want to feel better by thinking, "OH PSH, my life is SO better than hers, LOL @ her. She's just kidding herself.".... It's just that feeling of paranoia I can't get rid of. D: I CAN'T STAND the fact that she could possibly think she's better than me, and that her life is better than me. Also that she's having more fun with friends and I'm NOT. I don't mean to be overdramatic. :\ This is just how I feel. So in short, all of the things I feel happen almost everyday. I'm never good enough, I suck and fail at life, I don't deserve to live, I'm a horrible person, so why should I deserve to live? Also that I have nothing to live for, and that my friend gets on my nerves, and that I constantly feel so PARANOID... I'm probably leaving out a bunchh of details, but I don't want to make this even longer. I hope someone understands what I mean and how I feel... Again, please don't give me a hard time. I'm just tired of letting things get to me so easily. D:

Hey there,
Im going to start off by reassuiring you that you are definately NOT alone and I do understand exactly where your coming from,everyone lf gets feelings like this from time to time I often do.
what worries me though is it seems that your letting yours take over your life.
youve forgotten how to live how to just have fun without thinking to much about things and other people and over anaylising things.
what you need to do is adjust your attitude on life see things in a differnt light,the glass half full instead of half empty.
sometimes I feel like when my best friend goes somewhere without me or hangs out with others and orginises things and i cant go etc,it makes me so angry slightly jealous left out upset paronied,all the things youve mentioned at one point i found it so hard to deal with but what I did was calm myself down and realise how good my life was too i focused on the good things,the oppurtunities I had that she didnt,I told myself I can have just as much fun without her too. when were not together etc
whether your friends facebook status' etc are an attempt to get at you or not so what?
shes having fun. you can too don't waste your time sitting around moping reading too much into other people and things and just let go don't let everything get to you adapt a care free attitude,you can have a happy life too its down to you and what you do about it.
no one can steal your life away from you only yourself,think about it.
shes not doing anything wrong by trying to have a good time(im not defending her im just trying to make a point ;)) and maybe you should just let go of your negative feelings and try to do that also?
if she copies you and tries to act and live like you be flattered! see it as a weakness in her character not being able to be her own person.
forever copying other people thats not going to get her far.
ask chad to hang out sometime with you? get out and do things with other friends don't worry or give any attention to what your other friend is doing,if she is doing it to get at you shes only waiting for a reaction dont give her one.
this girl doesnt seem like shes worth it to be honest,if she excludes you and makes you feel like you forever have to apologise for things you don't even know what youve done.
sure you may have had good times in the past but sometimes there comes a time where its best to just let things go and it works out easier in the end.
shes giving you all theese mixed up feelings and emotions that are clearly not healthy espically if they are giving you suicidal thoughts,you need to relax and re discover a sense of life again,its not all work and school look at the good times.
this was pretty long so I did my very best to interperate,I hope I have correctly! because Like you I understand it can be really hard to get what your thinking or what and how you want to say out right ont paper or on here,ive probably left out half of what I Wanted to say to you so I feel i havnt really helped much though i hope i have a bit,
I know everyone says this but it really wouldnt be a bad idea for you to talk to someone like a counseller about all theese feelings your having they can really help you to understand,to let go and to change for the better,because thats what you need to start to do before it gets worse.
I also sugest maybe talking to your friend,maybe you two can work something out?if you get help dealing with the bitchyness you claim you have,tell her you feel left out sometimes its not always a bad thing to be the one to apologise and admit your wrong if you are,its being the bigger person,but as i said before its not fair to do it all the time,you should just talk to her about exactly how your feeling without coming accross controlling or paronied.
it mainly seems like you need help dealing with your emotions and feelings which is why counselling could really help. or just talking to your mom or a sister or cousin or anyone really.
I really hope I made some sense! and things get better for you,any more questions please inbox me.
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15 yr old guy and im gay and i really have strong feelings for a guy hes also 15 weve spent a lot of time together over the last few months and i think he likes me im a bit nervous to tell him how i feel im not real sure if hes gay im a bit worried about getting rejected if i tell him my feelings im unsure what to do how do i find out if hes gay? do i just tell him i like him what do i do?

Hey there, =)
okay this is a tough enough situation and I understand your fear of rejection completely,and everyone has to put themselves out there and face it once and a while but this differs slightly with the different sexualitys.
Okay well heres what I think you you should do,theres two options really,

Option 1. is to be brave enough to come right out and say it,admit your feelings and your sexuality and who know he might very well feel the same way?,even if he doesnt if hes a true friend he will accept it,tell you in a nice way that he doesnt feel the same but would gladly be your friend,sure things will be a bit awkward but that always goes away after a little while i promise been there on both sides. if he reacts badly and doesnt want anything to do with you because you gay and hes not or anything along those lines then bottom line hes a jerk,who needs to grow up and isnt worth it. but I doubt very much that will happen.

Option 2,if your not quite ready to admit openly your feelings then id monitor his reactions towards you for another little while,look closey to see if hes just being friendly or is it flirting and what not read the signs carefully maybe find out if hes had any ex's that way you might be able to determine whether hes gay or not you know that type of thing.

bare in mind also that if you tell him you like him and he reacts badly at first its because your both still really young and he might be confused about his feelings also. like i said this hopefuly wont happen but if it does give him time to come around =)
Really hope it all works out and that i helped in some way!
any more questions please ask
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What exactly is taking a break from a relationship? Like what goes on during it?

hey there,
taking a break means litteraly just that a break from each other,
your not officaly broken up but both sides of the relationship are taking a step back and giving each other a little space so they can work through whatever it is thats going wrong and try to resolve it.
during the "taking a break"time the guy and girl will realise if they are truely better off and hapier without the other,or if the miss each other and want a go at making it work again :)
hope this clears it up
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How do you know when a guy is just using you?

hey okay,
will generally only call or text when he wants something, he will pressure you alot to do things and sweet talk you alot to make you feel special and that he really cares then just ignore you and become distant after he gets what he wants.
the signs are usually pretty obvious if a guy is using you don't let your self be walked all over and be careful :)
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Okay last year i was in 10th grade. This guy started talking to me randomly, he recently turned 18, and I just turned 15 (this was october 2008). Soo, one day..I was sitting out from gym because I just hate sportss, and he sat out too because he was unprepared. He started talking to me about school, gym, and how old we each are. After that, he talked to me often, and he also stared at me a lot. I even heard him tell his friend, who is a girl, that he thought I was pretty. So, I kind of thought he liked me. And, I liked him too of course. But, after several months of flirting off/on, he just stopped talking to me. Basically, school ended in June, and I haven't talked to him in like..maybe, 6 months? But, all the sudden, starting 2 days ago, I keep having dreams about him! They're weird too..the first one was in school, and he was sitting their with this girl I know (the girl who he told that he thinks im pretty) and he looked sad or something. The dream wasn't even long. That's what it consisted of. Then last night, the dream was that I was with my friends, and all the sudden he appeared and was with some girl (who ive never seen in my life) and they were holding hands and stuff. In both dreams I didn't talk to him or anything. It's weird! Why am I suddenly having dreams about him? I haven't talked to him in soo long, and I THOUGHT I was over him since he started to ignore me. Please help? Any advice? Thankyou.

Hey there ,=)
okay what I think this is,is your subconcious bringing up thoughts about this guy again that your unaware of hence why you dream about him alot,
I guess what it is,is something is telling you to maybe talk to this guy again..? find out why he randomly starts to ignore you like that,its not really fair is it?
maybe this is your dreams way of telling you to bring it back up and find out why things went that way?
or maybe if you feel its best left in the past and that youve moved on just leave it be :)
its nothing to worry about anyway just dreams.
its up to you whether you chose to take anything of it and ask him.
hope i helped =]
good luck
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