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relationship issues
hi there! sorry this is a bit long..
me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months. recently we frequently have arguments. i love him so much, so it makes me sad that whenever we see each other we end up arguing about stuff. we both work and dont get to see each other everyday. my boyfriend has been especially busy with work. i really would love to see him every other day at least.. but when i call him at work he would sound annoyed like im just disturbing him. whenever we go out and have dinner.. he just seems more focused on the time.. kinda wants to leave early to have enough sleep for work the next day. he goes by a plan and a schedule and wants everything done "the right way" as planned. sometimes i feel like going out with me is added work for him. hope you could give me some advice on this, thanks!
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Obviously, he's very driven when it comes to his work. I don't think you should be upset and/or mad about that, because it's good that he's passionate about it.
However, I do think you have a right to be upset that he's making you feel like an added chore or something. I know how you feel, and it's not fun.
Try talking to him about it. Sit down with him, and let him know that you understand that he is busy with work, but you've really been feeling like you're "added work for him". Tell him just like you told us.
Maybe he can add you on to his schedule? Like, have a day or time every week that he spends time with you?
I hope this helps! :)
-Laura (17-f)
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he should always have time for you, but he might be really stressing out at work..So you have to really sit down and talk to him about how you feeling, thats the only way you know what is going on with him. He needs to totally be honest and open with you. I mean sounds like he have alot of things running through his head and is not open with you. get him to talk about how he is feeling and why he is rushing his time to go home and sleep early..He might be up to something, talk to him.
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Why dont you go out for dinner when he hasnt got work the next day then he wont have anything to complain about. If i were you i would stop calling him when he's at work he obviously gets anoyed with it. Always tell him how much you love him. Compiment him about his clothes/looks men love this. stear clear of arguments by talking about things he's intrested in ask him about work and stuff. Good luck. Love Pink Pwincess xoxo
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Hey there,
I understand how you must be feeling.
and honestly what you need to do is sit your boyfriend down and tell him how you feel,
tell him you feel neglected for his work and that your not important to him,hes a guy and typicaly hes probably too wrapped up in his work to even notice hes not spending near as enough time with you.
its all about finding a balance,tell him your not asking for every waking moment together but you need to see him every once in a while for this relationship to work say your sick of the fighting and you just want things to go back to how they used to be.
hopefully this will shed some light over him and make him realise he better shape up and start giving up the attention you deserve sometimes thats all it takes for a guy the fear and suden realisation that they might loose you,for them to see the error of their ways.
If things don't start getting better I sugest then its time to rethink the relationship because you deserve better then that,
hope this doesnt happen though and hope i helped
much <3
Jess 15/f
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