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i'm a sophmore in highschool and i've never been kissed and never had a boyfriend.Please don't write "it's going to happen someday" or "just wait, it'll come soon when you're not expecting it" But, the thing is it seems like i'm the one who's scaring off all the guys though.I come off pretty mean. But it's like every time i try to tell myself to be nice or don't say anything hurtful, it happens anyway. It's like I can't control what my actions. So basically i want advice on how to be a lot less mean, and way more nice.i know it sounds stupid, but i think if i had like the right mind set then maybe i can get somewhere in my social life.
THANX IN ADVANCE!
It is possible to control your actions, but it does take some practice! Like any other skill you want to learn, there are a couple steps.
(1) Observe: When you learn a new skill, you usually start off by watching someone else do it. So take a look at some people who you think are nice, and observe how they act. Take some mental notes on what they do or say that makes them seem nice.
(2) Practice: Once you know what you WANT to do, you need to practice it so it will come easily and naturally. Start by holding "rehearsals" inside your head. Imagine yourself in different situations, and visualize yourself acting the way you'd like to act. Do this over and over, and it will become easy to do in real life.
(3) Perform: After you've had some practice, put your new skill into action! And don't be too hard on yourself if you slip up once in a while. It takes some time to develop a new skill and turn it into a habit, so be patient with yourself and don't stop trying!
Good luck!
list anything you girls put in your purses.
like my aunt was being funny and said all them 13 year old abercrombie chicks carry around their abercrombie totes and all they have in it is a bottle of lipgloss. lmfao.
There are tons of things you can put in your purse! Here are a few:
wallet with money or gift cards
cell phone
camera
ipod
keys
sunglasses
hairbrush/comb
mirror
lipgloss & other makeup
perfume
nail file
breath mints or gum
pad of paper
pen or pencil
emergency kit with safety pins, band aids, etc
aspirin/tylenol
feminine products
15/f. I know this guy..and well, on MSN last night, he told me that this girl he met online [his gf] was going to visit him (she never met him before and would be traveling from another country)...and well, I know about her. And I don't like her AT ALL...and all of a sudden...he comes to me with "[name]'s coming to visit me for a couple of weeks :D!!" and I'm all *thinks*..uhmmm why the hell do I care..? so now he keeps on bothering me about it and mentioning it. I really don't give a shit. What should I say?
You should keep your feelings to yourself on this one, and not say anything. She's his girlfriend, so obviously he likes her and he's excited about seeing her. It's natural that he would want to share his excitement with someone. If you say anything negative about her, or tell him that you don't want to hear about it, it's going to make you look mean, catty and jealous. And I'm sure you don't want to make that kind of impression, because it sounds to me like maybe you like this guy and that you ARE a little jealous... am I right? If you want him to think good things about you, just be nice. Next time he mentions it, say, "Oh, cool. That sounds like fun." If there's something wrong with this girl, he'll figure it out on his own.
15/f
this is gonna sound way conceited, but i promise, im not trying to be. im much prettier then my friend. i mean, shes like fat and everything, so i mean obviously, guys dont like her much. plus she acts really stupid alot. anyways, since im a freshman, ive made alot of new friends. and so when me and her will be wlaking down the hall, just about every person says hi to me, and i stop and talk and make yano small talk. and she gets mad, and walks away. anyways, whenever i talk about like guys or something, she like finds some way to insult them. and its just really annoying. what should i do?
Your friend is jealous... and you can't really blame her. It's no fun being in the shadow of someone who is prettier, more popular, gets more attention, etc. So when people stop to talk to you, and ignore her, she feels bad... especially if you tend to ignore her once the other people come along. She also probably worries that you're going to eventually ditch her for your new friends, or for a boyfriend, and that makes her feel bad, too.
If you're truly friends with this girl, and want to keep up that friendship, try to put yourself in her shoes and think about how she feels.
When you're walking down the hall and people stop to talk to you, include your friend. Introduce her if the people don't already know her. Include her in the conversation. Show her, and your other friends, that she is someone you care about and that you're happy and proud to have her as your friend.
And if it makes her uncomfortable when you talk about guys, then just don't talk about them around her. Surely you have other friends you can talk to about that stuff. But when you're with this friend, stick to topics that interest you both.
my homecoming is coming up.
where can i get a really cute cocktail
type dress that does cost a crap load.
im a size 1/2/sometimes a 3.
also, i need to able to dance in it.
cause there will be grinding and what not.
and i dont want my dress riding too far up. (:
and if i helps, i live in the houston area.
THANK YOU!
Do you have a Ross in Houston? If so, check it out. I just bought 3 really cute dresses there for $19.99 each... and then I saw one of the same ones at Dillards for $69.00! The exact same one! So yeah, give it a try.
how do u know whos a poser or not? i meen i jus added someone that said they were vannessa hudgens and i sent her a comment and she sent one back and it seemed like her but how does a person truelly know? i looke up ashley tisdale and theirs like 6 people whos display says"official ashley tisdale".so whos real and whos fake cuz they all say that they are the real person!
Well, I'm not 100% sure, but I'm 99.9% sure that all of those people are fake. People like Vanessa Hurgens don't have time to sit around talking to random strangers on Myspace. And if they do have a Myspace, it's probably private and they probably use a fake name so they don't get 100 zillion friend requests. So don't believe it.
How can I make some money besides babysitting, or selling cans or something.
Any ideas? I'm just seeing if there's anything else a 14 year old can do besides selling cans and all that & babysitting.
THANKS!
I know a girl who's made a bunch of money by selling "spirit items" to friends at school. She's made earrings, bracelets, necklaces and purses with the school colors and mascot. They're really cute! She started out making them for herself, and everyone kept asking her where she got them... so she started taking orders. So, if you like making stuff, that's one idea!
would the dance in thriller be considered famous or infamous?
Well, "famous" means being widely known and celebrated, usually in a good way. "Infamous" means being widely known for something bad, usually like committing a crime or doing something scandalous.
Soooo... the dance in thriller would be considered famous, because so many people know about it and most people thought it was entertaining.
Unless you were talking to people who were totally against it and thought it had a horribly negative impact on dance, music videos, popular culture, etc. And there might be some people with that opinion! But for the most part, even if someone doesn't like it, they probably don't think there's any harm in it. So I think "famous" would be the proper term for it.
I've lost respect from this guy and his friends because I tried to have sex with him and most of his friends and his friends would but he hates me and now they hate me. What do I do to gain their respect back or should i just leave them alone because I think I should?
Well, once you've lost someone's respect, it's really hard to get it back. It can take years, and sometimes it never happens. Especially in a case like yours. I think you're gonna have to accept the fact that, to these guys, you're always gonna be "the girl who slept around." And I think your hunch is right... just leave them alone, and start fresh with some new people. Learn from your past and don't make the same mistake again.
ok so in the last two days one of my classmates' mother died. It was really unexpected to me even though she had been fighting off cancer. her son, who i dont really talk to that much, is in a group project with me for a class. I don't know what to say to him when i see him. The family is keeping this all really private and I don't want to be pushing. Since I think that they had seen it coming for a while, he doesn't seem to be all that depressed but maybe it's just taking a while for it to sink in. help me on what to say ! 16/f thanks in advance
I used to feel the same way you do... I was never sure what to say, or even if I should say anything at all. I always worried that I would make the person feel worse by bringing it up, or that I would say something that just sounded stupid.
But then my own dad died, and I got to see things from the other side. It was definitely better when people said something, anything really, it didn't matter what. Because when someone didn't mention it at all, it just seemed weird. I could tell they wanted to say something but they just didn't know what to say, so there was this awkward unsaid thing hanging there and I felt kinda bad for THEM... I wanted to tell them, "It's okay, you can say something!"
So yeah... you should say something. Maybe just "I'm real sorry about your mom". It just lets him know that you care.
Also... this probably doesn't apply in your case, since you did't know his mom, but just for future reference... when my dad died, it really made me feel good when people talked about him to me; when people told me things they liked about him and things they were gonna miss. It was really comforting to know that other people loved him or appreciated him, etc. And now that I know how I felt in that situation, it's easier for me to know what to say when someone loses someone close.
Hope that helps some!
k so i have a silver dress and black shoes for homecoming. what color should i paint my nails?
A french manicure would look nice. But if you want to go with some color, I'd go with a traditional red or dark pink color. That would look nice with the silver dress.
okay so i'm a girl to start this off
oh by the way this is a really long and confusing question
I have a crush on this guy we will call B and he is one of my best friends. Apparently i am a really easy person to figure out because everyone knows i like him. so yesterday i was talking to B's best friend who we will call J on myspace and we get on the topic of B. J keeps telling B that i like him and i want to go out with him which is true but i don't want to tell him that because it might ruin my friendship with B. So J says 'nicole stop denying it everyone knows already that you like him so just admit it'. so i told J that i don't like B like that and if i did it wouldn't matter because he doesn't like me like that anyways. I already know that B doesn't like me like that because on day at school we were talking (Me, J, B, and M [another friend of mine only its a she]) and J was telling him to ask me out and B said 'ew i'm not going to ask her out she's too fat and ugly' right next to me. well anyways J says 'i know he doesn't like you but you like him'. so i pretty much hit rock bottom there and lost all hope of him liking me back so i kept denying it. then i started talking to another friend who i will call BE. BE also thinks i like B so she was bugging me about it too. she was saying things like 'are you guys bicolen now instead of nicole and B?' B said that he thinks that i don't like him and told me to to sent a bulletin that says that i don't like him and to leave him alone. well i didn't want to send the bulletin and J said that i won't send it because i like B which is true but i don't want to tell anyone it is. after that B logged off of myspace and J + BE started send bulletins that said stuff like 'nicole just admit it' and 'we know it and you know it so just say it already'. after a while other people got in on it and they were like 'Nicole likes B???' and 'whens the wedding' (which apparently is today) and stuff like that. i just got tired of being harassed with millions of bulletins, messages, and comments so i logged off. today i got online and B was saying 'what happened when i logged off?' and he messaged me asking for me to explain it and i said i will on monday at school.
so here is the actual question
what do i do? should i tell him that i like him even though i'm pretty sure he doesn't like me or should i just deny it more?
any advice is appreciated and thank you for reading through this really long thing. =)
I think you should send a message to B and say something like, "Look, I don't know how this mess got started, but it's really making me feel bad. For some reason, people want me to say that I like you. I really don't know why they would want me to say that, and it's making me very uncomfortable. So can we please just forget about this? And please tell your friends to leave me alone about it?"
And then you should tell J, "Look, you've already told me that B doesn't like me. So why does it matter whether I like him or not? And why do you want me to say it so bad? What is the point? This is making me feel really bad! Why do you want to make me feel bad? Please, if you're a decent person, will you please stop?"
i need to learn how to do a cartwheel, and a backhandspring~ A)because i think it would be really fun to learn how to do it and B)- because its the requirements for cheerleading squad...i didnt make it this year but im trying out next year.. i dont really want to go to a gymanstics place so im trying to teach myself and i pritned out some instructions online but i really need some step by step instructions (remember:im a beginner an im really afriad of getting hurt) i REALLY appreciate your help!!!
Okay, well I'm a gymnastics coach, and I really hope you'll take my advice. For the cartwheel, it's fine to practice at home. But for the back handspring... you really should NOT try to learn that on your own. You could break a wrist, an arm, or even your neck! Besides that, you won't learn it correctly on your own... you need good instruction!
Please, find a gymnastics or cheer gym and take a tumbling class. All gyms have beginning tumbling classes, and they are FULL of middle school and high school girls who want to learn flip flops for cheer tryouts. You will not be the only one just learning! And trust me... no one is gonna make fun of you or think badly of you for being a beginner! Everyone in the gym is used to seeing girls who are just learning... that's what gyms are for!
Also, if you really want to get your back handspring for tryouts, start NOW! Even with the best instruction, it can take several months to learn. The sooner you get started, the better. I can't tell you how many times I've had girls come to me in a panic because they HAVE to learn a flip flop by "next week!" And I have to tell them, sorry, that just aint gonna happen!
So do yourself a favor... find a gym and take a class. You'll be soooooo glad you did!
Does the amount of times the guy ejulactulates determine the ammount of kids? like if he only does once you will have one kid..if he does twice you will have twins/2 kids etc..
thanks =D
No, the guy doesn't determine how many babies there will be... the girl does. Here's how it works. Each month, one of the girl's ovaries will release an egg. The egg floats down the fallopian tube towards the uterus. If a sperm meets up with the egg and fertilizes it, a baby is made. Only one sperm can fertilize the egg... once it gets into the egg, no other sperm can get in. So it doesn't matter how many times a guy ejaculates or how many sperm there are. It only takes one egg and one sperm to make a baby.
Normally, only one egg is released each month. But sometimes, two or more eggs are released. If a woman is taking fertility drugs, even more might be released. If each of those eggs is fertilized by a sperm, there will be that many babies. So it doesn't matter how many sperm are there... it only matters how many eggs are fertilized.
Another way twins can occur is when one egg is fertilized, but then splits in two, making two babies. When that happens, the twins are identical, because they came from the same egg & sperm. However, if twins happen because two different eggs have been fertilized (by two different sperm), those twins are no more alike than regular siblings.
By the way... one thing the guy DOES control is whether the baby is a girl or a boy. Each sperm has either an X chromosome or a Y chromosome. If it's an X, the baby will be a girl; if it's a Y, the baby will be a boy.
Hope that explains it!
Hi.
I am 14 years old [female]... I am a freshman in high school. I am having many friendship problems. I am loosing friends because of my rude attitude towards everyone. & The bad thing is, I've been so mean forever, that I haven't even noticed I am until today when I lost a friend.
I am always so stressed out and tend to take it out on other people. I really want to make a comeback and show everyone that I am way more than what my reputation is. I feel horrible how I treat people, and someone finally treated me the way I treat people.
I really need help on ways of being nice to people and earning a better reputation. I could have so much going for me.. if you could help :[
Thanks again
Wow! Congratulations! I think it's so great that you've come to this realization about yourself, and that you want to change for the better. That's half the battle!
The best way to reach any goal is to practice. And you don't have to wait for a situation to come up... you can do it inside your head. Before you fall asleep each night, imagine some situations that might make you feel stressed... and then visualize yourself reacting the way you WANT yourself to act. And then when a situation does come up in real life, you'll already know what to do, because you've rehearsed it in your mind.
The more you can do this, the better. If you constantly imagine yourself being the kind of person you want to be, pretty soon you WILL be that person!
Good luck! =]
I really love this guy as I have already said but how do I prove I love him, he wont belive me when I just tell him and I have said a load of things like I would gladly kill for him and I would walk over the tallest mountain and all of that stuff but he still doesnt belive me so please please please help... I'm desperate!... I really need some pointers fast so any would be helpful... I don't care how stupid I just want an answer or a few... thanks
Everyone has their own "love language"... the way they experience and understand love. For some people, hearing the words "I love you" and other nice things is enough. Other people need certain actions to feel loved... doing little favors for them, or spending special time alone with them. Some people feel most loved when they're given gifts. And some people need physical closeness to feel loved... and I don't just mean sex, I mean just hugging or cuddling or being close.
You need to figure out what your boyfriend's love language is, so you can express your love in the way he can best understand it. Because if you're talking to him in your OWN love language, he may not be getting the message. One way to figure it out is to look at the way HE shows his love for you. Does he do a lot of nice things for you? Does he buy you stuff? Does he always want to cuddle and be close? The way he shows his love for you is probably the way he needs to be shown love by you.
Good luck!
what things do guys see in girls to consider them hot? Like idk if im considered hot or not, is it what there face looks like, their body, there personality, etc. PLEASE someone answer this...in detail. thanks =]
Well, I know this one girl who every guy thinks it HOT. And yeah, she's kinda pretty... but there are a lot of other girls who are actually prettier than her. If you just saw a picture of her and compared her to some other girls, you definitely wouldn't say she was the best looking. Yet she has guys flocking around her all the time.
What it boils down to is the way she carries herself, and the vibes she sends out. She's very confident... not conceited, but she's comfortable with herself and its like she just KNOWS she's attractive. And guys sense that, so they're attracted to her. She also smiles a lot. And she knows how to make guys feel good, so they want to be around her. She definitely doesn't act like a slut or anything, but she's friendly and just a little flirty and makes guys feel like she genuinely likes them... but it's not like she's trying to "get" them.
So yeah. Guys are definitely attracted to girls who have great bodies and beautiful faces, but what REALLY makes a girl "hot" comes from inside and the way she thinks of herself.
i have a horrible habit where i pull out my eyelashes/eyebrows. it's been going on for about 5 years now. these days i usually go 2 months without doing it at all & i look great; but then i like relapse & do it once & then i can't stop. like a few minutes ago i just ripped out like 20 eyelashes; & i can't take it. it's not as simple as just saying stop. i usually don't even REALIZE that i'm doing it. & a lot of people make fun of me for it; & if they ask about it i always pretend that i don't know what's going on & then i go home & cry. i've wasted too much time with this. & i know if i keep it up that they'll stop growing back one day. i look like i have a disease; & i know it's so horrible for the people who DO look like this because they have diseases; but i don't. it's not just because of how i look when i do this. i just can't take it knowing that i punish myself when somebody gets me mad or i'm bored or whatever. i put bandaids on my fingers to stop me from doing it; but it just makes everything else more difficult for me to do. PLEASE HELP ME IN ANYWAY YOU CAN!!!!! 14/f.
I have a friend who used to pick out her eyebrows. She normally gets her eyebrows and upper lip waxed once a week... but one week she didn't have time, so she started picking out the hairs herself. Somehow it became a habit, and pretty soon she had like half her eyebrows gone!
Her waxing lady solved the problem. She told her, "instead of picking your eyebrows, why not pick the hair off your lip?" And that's what she started doing. She just replaced one picking-habit with another, and this one isn't too noticable. In fact, it's a good thing, because now she doesn't have to get her lip waxed! She also picks the hair off her arms, because she's kinda self concious about having hairy arms. So she's still a "picker", but at least she's picking something that doesn't affect her appearance in a bad way.
Oh yeah, she also asked some of her friends to say something whenever they caught her picking her eyebrows. We did, and that helped. So don't be afraid to ask for help. People like "catching" people in the act, and they also like helping people... so I bet they'd be more than willing to point it out to you.
Ok so i have to write this thing for my english class and basically we picked out a book to read and we have to write a letter to the author and we have to say what we liked and didnt like about the book well i absolutely loved the book i read and i dont even read i just read the first page and it's like i was addicted to it or something i wanted to keep reading but i didnt want it to end and well i cant seem to put in words why i loved it so much and in case your wondering waht book it's Candy by Kevin Brooks anyway how can i put it in words
Well, I think you should start by saying what you told us. Tell the author that you don't normally enjoy reading, but that you had to read a book for this class. And you feel really lucky that you picked this book, because the moment you started it, you couldn't put it down!
Now try to think of some specific things you liked about, and write about those. What about the characters? Was there something you liked about their personalities, or the things they did? What about things that happened in the book? Were there certain parts that were really exciting, or really sad, or really happy? If you had to pick a certain part of the book to read to someone else, which part would it be? Think about that and write about that part.
And since you have to say what you DIDN'T like about the book, you could say... the only thing I didn't like was that it had to end!
Good luck!
15/f
ok. i guess i sitll kinda am a little girl in some ways. i mean. that game webkinz? i like love that game. and i still like playing school occasionaly. [only in the winter though] but like, im not immature. like i dont go talking about how i got a new webkinz or something. and i dont like, act like a little girl. i mean, its just stuff i do when im bored. so is that bad?
i mean, like it doesnt affect my personality with friends and stuff. im just really girlie. i guess.
Well, I'm a lot older than you and there are a ton of "kid" things that I like to do! Give me a coloring book and some crayons and I'll be entertained for hours! Ha ha!
Actually, I think the fact that you enjoy those things, and feel comfortable doing them, shows that you're very mature. And I'll give you an example to show you what I mean.
My neighbors have three daughters, and they have a bunch of American Girl dolls. The youngest girl (age 7) plays with them all the time. The middle girl (11) won't go near them... she says they're for babies. But the other day I was over there and the oldest girl (15) and her friends had all the dolls out and were having a great time with them! They've gone beyond the "proving I'm a big girl" stage, and they have no problem admitting that it's fun to play dolls!
So don't worry about it! Just have fun doing what you enjoy!