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Losing friends because of my attitude :[
Hi.
I am 14 years old [female]... I am a freshman in high school. I am having many friendship problems. I am loosing friends because of my rude attitude towards everyone. & The bad thing is, I've been so mean forever, that I haven't even noticed I am until today when I lost a friend.
I am always so stressed out and tend to take it out on other people. I really want to make a comeback and show everyone that I am way more than what my reputation is. I feel horrible how I treat people, and someone finally treated me the way I treat people.
I really need help on ways of being nice to people and earning a better reputation. I could have so much going for me.. if you could help :[
Thanks again
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Wow! Congratulations! I think it's so great that you've come to this realization about yourself, and that you want to change for the better. That's half the battle!
The best way to reach any goal is to practice. And you don't have to wait for a situation to come up... you can do it inside your head. Before you fall asleep each night, imagine some situations that might make you feel stressed... and then visualize yourself reacting the way you WANT yourself to act. And then when a situation does come up in real life, you'll already know what to do, because you've rehearsed it in your mind.
The more you can do this, the better. If you constantly imagine yourself being the kind of person you want to be, pretty soon you WILL be that person!
Good luck! =]
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Start by apologizing. Even if they don't want to hear it, send the people you know you've hurt a note apologizing. Don't make excuses and don't tell them what they did wrong, it's not about them. It's about you knowing that you weren't perfect. Doesn't matter if they weren't either.
End your note, or tell them in person, that you want to change and will try. You could even, if you are feeling really bold, ask them what things specifically you've done to hurt them and how they think you could fix them.
Don't argue with them, even if you disagree. It's okay if you don't agree with all of thier feelings or if there are things you decide not to change.
The best place to begin is to tell people you are sorry, and to find out what needs to change.
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It's good that you have some remorse, but this new attitude can't be faked. You can't change who you are to change your reputation. I'd say that the best thing you could is to talk to the friend that you've lost and apologize. Tell her everything you said here. Just be honest about your remorse, and people will already think differently about you.
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