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uhh jealous?
15/f
this is gonna sound way conceited, but i promise, im not trying to be. im much prettier then my friend. i mean, shes like fat and everything, so i mean obviously, guys dont like her much. plus she acts really stupid alot. anyways, since im a freshman, ive made alot of new friends. and so when me and her will be wlaking down the hall, just about every person says hi to me, and i stop and talk and make yano small talk. and she gets mad, and walks away. anyways, whenever i talk about like guys or something, she like finds some way to insult them. and its just really annoying. what should i do?
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Your friend is jealous... and you can't really blame her. It's no fun being in the shadow of someone who is prettier, more popular, gets more attention, etc. So when people stop to talk to you, and ignore her, she feels bad... especially if you tend to ignore her once the other people come along. She also probably worries that you're going to eventually ditch her for your new friends, or for a boyfriend, and that makes her feel bad, too.
If you're truly friends with this girl, and want to keep up that friendship, try to put yourself in her shoes and think about how she feels.
When you're walking down the hall and people stop to talk to you, include your friend. Introduce her if the people don't already know her. Include her in the conversation. Show her, and your other friends, that she is someone you care about and that you're happy and proud to have her as your friend.
And if it makes her uncomfortable when you talk about guys, then just don't talk about them around her. Surely you have other friends you can talk to about that stuff. But when you're with this friend, stick to topics that interest you both.
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If you know shes fat and everything, then why don't you help her change that? I mean, if you say your as pretty as you say you are, why don't you use some of your beauty tips or whatever to help her. If she acts stupid, like as in 'ditzy' have her change that. Guys think thats annoying. I think shes jealous that you're making friends, and she maybe isn't? I somewhat agree with the girl below me. Shes too insecure, and you're too confident for her.
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Shes too insecure and youre too superficial for the two of you to have a relationship. She is not your friend. She is someone you use to feel better about yourself.
Its probably going to end badly.
Try not to fuck her up emotionally or use her insecurities to hurt her when it does.
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Wow! You kinda seem mean. I know what she's going through. No, I'm not fat I weigh 100 lbs which is little or so everyone says and I'm not ugly. Guys like me but not a lot. Anyways I have a cousin that is tall,skinny,and beautiful. Guys always talk to her and pay no attention what so ever to me. And her friends always talk to her and they act like I'm not even there. Your friend is jealous but she also feels like wallpaper. She probably wants to really be like you a lot more than you think. She feels like nobody likes her because she's stupid and fat. You should just talk to her and ask her why she act like that. Since you already know you should just tell her that you're jealous of some girls and that you have problems too. Because she feels like everyone likes you and nobody likes her. It probably makes her cry when she sees that guys talk to you and pay no attention to her. I wouldn
t be mean to her cause then she really won't like you. It's hard to explain she just feel singled out and less than you. Be nice to her and maybe she'll stop walking away and insulting your friends. I really hope this helps!!!
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Way to contradic yourself.
You seem like a sucky friend.
Might as well tell her what you said to us, then you won't have a problem with her anymore.
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Wow.. calling your friend fat AND annoying doesn't make you a very good friend at all. She's obviously a good friend since she's sticking with you even though you do talk behind her back, assuming you don't call her fat to her face.
Try to act mature and talk to her about everything. Maybe she's insecure and needs a FRIEND to help her feel good about herself. Maybe give her compliments every once in a while like "*name* your shirt is really cute! You look so good in it!" Don't ignore her when you're talking with people she doesn't know, introduce her and maybe she wont act like that.
I used to have a friend like that and instead of being a jerk, I talked to her about everything. Try being a friend to her instead of complaining about her faults. A little bit of positive can go a lot further than a lot of negative. You really need to re-evaluate your actions because, being a freshman and all, people are already going to look down on you since you're new to the school and acting like that towards a friend is just goinog to make you look worse. You're going to need your friend one of these days and if you act like that they might not be there for you.
Thank you for the crappy rating, I can really see what kind of person you are. I gave you the advice you asked for, but I also showed you what kind of person you come off as. Good luck freshman year, you're probably going to get stuffed in a locker if you keep acting this way.
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Hint: next time you insult someone, try to think of something more intelligent and mature.
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I don't think you're being that conceited. Some people ARE overweight and unattractive, and unfortunately a lot of boy care about that.
Try thinking of a guy friend you have, that's less outgoing/a good match for your friend. Introduce her to him, and eventually she'll start to feel more comfortable walking with you, and might join in on your conversations.
When you're talking to the boys, say something like "How'd you do on that math test? I'm not sure if I got the best grade. But (Insert friend's name here) did really good!" Obviously only say this if she actually did really good ;)
Good luck!
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Maybe since she is your friend you should ask her why she is doing that. It could be because she is jealous, but it could be possible that you are throwing guys in her face, too. You could try to help her find a guy she can connect with.
I mean, come on. You say the girl is fat and guys don't go for her. She probably feels pretty down on herself. If you are really her friend you would try to help her out, here.
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you should introduce her to the people that say hi to you and then maybe they will start talking to her and say hi to her.
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start by not being conceited and calling ur friends fat and ugly. i would NEVER want you as my friend.
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