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has anyone ever heard of or experienced dizzyness or nausea as a sign of pms, and no im not possibly pregnant, im getting my period sometime to night i can feel it and i was dizzy and nauseas before and in the mornings i dont even want to think about food. could any of these be a sign of pms? (link)
It is a possible symptom of pms but it is very unlikely unless you are anemic. When you bleed heavily during your period it can make you nauseas or dizzy. Also with the muscle spasms in your lower abdomen before and during your period it could make you nauseas. Unless you could be pregnant, it could be pms or even the beginning of the flu.

Hope that helped!


this weekend i was with my brother and some of his friends and we were all driving around in my new car a 2007 escalade. I was driving adn it was raining and late at night and i have only had my license for about 3 months. we were coming around the corner and hit another car totaling mine and theirs. right away my brother took the blame for it and told me not to worry about it since he has been driving for a few eyars now and wouldnt get in as much trouble as i would. since the other car didnt see i was driving it worked out fine but now i feel awful that he took the blame for this but i know that if i came forward my parents would kill me. what should i do?

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If you feel this awful about your brother taking the blame for you, it's for a reason. Confessing will probably lighten your punishment a bit. Your parents will respect you for telling the truth about something that you know will get you into trouble. Since I don't know your parents, I don't know what they will do to you, but some kind of punishment is most definitely imminent. You should talk to your brother and see what he says about it though first. He could get in more trouble with your parents also for taking the blame for you. So if he asks you not to say anything, then you shouldn't feel guilty because he's okay with defending his younger sibling. But if you do really want to confess to your parents, ask him if it would be okay with him if you did so, so he can be ready to get chewed out for being irresponsible too.

Hope that helped!


im 13/f

i really like this guy who is one of my really good friends. however, i dont think he likes me more than a friend. how do i make him like me.
thanks! (link)
You can't necessarily make him like you as more than a friend but you can sway his mind into thinking of you as a girl instead of just a 'buddy'. When you're talking to him touch his arm or squeeze his knee to express your excitement when you're telling a story. Hug him and breathe on his neck. No, I'm not saying blow on his neck just put your head to where you're breathing on his neck normally. When you pull away he'll think of your lips being that close to his neck and he'll wonder what it would feel like to actually have them there. If something sad or upsetting happens go tell him about it. He'll feel that you have confidence in him and will try to be your hero. If you go to kiss his cheek, kiss the corner of his mouth instead.

Okay, when you're hanging out with him alone and just playing a game or shooting hoops or something 'guyish' like that, make sure he knows you're a girl. Make sure you don't let him win a game or anything. Guys respect a girl who can hold her own. But they also like to come to the rescue, so if you have a problem, ask for his opinion. He'll like that you trust his judgement, so he'll come to you if he needs help.

Tell him that one of your girlfriends remarked that you and him would make a great couple and see how he responds. If his response is positive, as in saying that maybe you would, say that maybe you should be. If he responds in a negative way, as in that you are just friends, he could either not be into you, or just doesn't want to feel like a jackass if you don't feel the same way.

So, take a risk and either tell him you like him in a romantic way, or ask him how he feels about you, girlfriend potential, or just a friend?

Hope it works out for you!!


Im 15 and never been kissed. ..or had a bf TO KISS, but thats besides the point.
Part of me wants to get it over with, and the other part wants to wait it out for someone good.

The longer i wait, the more ill remember it though right?
Is it even that big of a deal to wait?

...But what if i dont get my first kiss till im like..36...omg. (link)
Your first kiss will be more memorable if you have it with someone you actually care about, much like your first time making love to someone you actually LOVE. I'm not saying you have to love the guy to kiss him or anything. I'm just saying that kisses are better when the two of you have chemistry. When you kiss someone just to have someone to kiss, it's not usually as good. So, if you want a good first kiss, you should wait for someone worthy of it. Don't worry, I'm sure that you won't be 36. I'm sure you're no 'Josie'.

Hope that helped!



okay so I just broke up with my boyfrined and i feel horrible! i feel like such a bad person. he was crying and saying "why are you doing this to me?" and stuff like that and i started crying and i feel horrible that i broke his heart. i feel like dying. im such a bad person. (link)
You are not a bad person. If you had doubts about your relationship with your boyfriend, you owed it to him and yourself to end it. It wasn't fair to either of you for you to stay in the relationship if you didn't have the same feelings for him as you had before. Of course, you feel bad for hurting him because you had feelings for him and you still do, in a way. But it's better to let his heart heal and for him to find someone who wants to be with him and you to find someone you want to be with.

I really hope you believe that you did the right thing for both of you if you weren't feeling IT anymore.

I hope I helped you in some way.


Theres this guy, and he told my friend that hes gonna ask me out tomorrow. How do I accept? Thanks! (link)
Look him in the eye, smile and say "I'd really like that".

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okayy so there is this kid and i know he likes me and has for a while now, he is kinds weird but my best friend thinks i should go for him. i havent hadf a bf before but i have madeout so im not nervous about that but all my other friends think he is a loser and really weird. if i go out with him im afraid my reputation status will sink and ive worked 3 years on getting to where i am now. be honest what should i do. im me xoashx33 or email me omgitsashlee3@hotmail.com (link)
Shelli4013 is right about not using him to get a bf if you're not really interested in him. But if you actually do like him and would like to get to know him better, you shouldn't care what your friends think. If you think he's awesome then he's worth a chance. If they haggle you about it, just tell them that you like him and you don't care if they don't and they can just keep their opinions to themselves because they won't matter in the long run.

Hope that helped!


I want to shave my pubic hair. Last time I tried I used a regular razor but I got a buch of bumps down there and the skin was really irritated. Are there any special products or razors for shaving pubic hair? Also my pubic hair is really thick and coarse/curly. Any tips would also help. Thanx in Advance. (link)
They make special bikini line razors. They're really small so you can get the hard to reach spots. It takes longer but it's worth it. To help with the red bumps make sure it's a warm area so the skin is softer. Try rubbing aloe vera gel on the area first (for sunburns). Then use a really creamy shave gel and lather it really good and shave with the hair. You'll probably have to go over the area a couple of times to get all the hair, but there's less irritation.

Hope that helped!


what are some good games on the compter but nothing bad [because of my dad] (link)
runescape.net


I'm the one that asked about sending a question to somebody's inbox. Okay, I'm in 9th grade now, but let's go back to 7th grade. There's this boy named Andrew. We were like best friends in 7th grade. We walked to band class together, we sat together at lunch, we talked in band, he called me almost every afternoon, etc. He was dating my best friend. I didn't like him. But when they broke up, I started liking him. So I told him that I liked him. (Oh, I didn't mention- he never asked girls out, he's REALLY shy. All the girls he dated asked him out.) Okay, so I just told him that I liked him. I didn't ask him out, because I'm not like that. I thought that he would ask me out, since he wasn't shy around ME. But he didn't. I heard that he liked me, but you know rumors. We still talked the same and everything. But it was SEVENTH grade. Little kids... Okay, so now let's move on to Tyler. I met him at church camp in the summer of 8th grade. He goes to a different school than me.(one town away, just a few minutes away) He has been telling me that he's liked me since we met. At church camp we didn't talk. But then he dated my friend, so I talked to him on the phone when she spent the night, and I went to the mall with him and my friend (his girlfriend). He broke up with my friend after a few weeks. Well now, a year later, me and him are still talking. I tell him stuff that NOBODY knows and he tells me stuff that nobody knows. I mean like, woah. We talk on the phone some, not much. He says he likes me. He tells me I'm beautiful. He's pretty popular and bad, unlike Andrew. But the thing is, he has a girlfriend. He said the only reason that he's going out with her and not me is because he knows her better and because I'm kinda shy. One night, he said "I REALLY like you" and he says "If I break up with my girlfriend, will you go out with me?" He's asked me a billion times and I say yes everytime. I'm just waiting on him, I guess. But it's kinda getting old. Okay, so the third guy, Will. I really like him. I met him in 5th grade. I go to his church pretty often. We're... friends, I guess. He's HOTTT! AH. I've been liking him off and on since 7th grade. He found out that I liked him at the end of 8th grade. At the beginning of this school year, he told his church friends that he was thinking about hooking up with me. The word spread to me and I was like "Omg. Wow. This can't be true." So yeah, the church went to a football game together, and he sat with me. (I'm kinda shy around boys and at first, just to let you know) So I didn't really talk to him.. And he sat with me at pep rallies at school. He called me, we talked. He asked me to go to the mall, I said yes, but we didn't get to go. Then he just kinda stopped talking to me. Then like a week later I read his "about me" on his myspace and it said "My name is blah..asdf .. blah .. 'i can't get a girlfriend to save my life, as my cousin jessica says'...blah" So I messaged him and said "you COULD get a girlfriend to save your life if you wouldn't give up on her while she's trying to get to know you" and he said "i know that's true but you never said more than 3 words to me... it didn't seem like you wanted to get to know me" ... so yeah, that was the beginning of the year. He knows I still like him. But he's not doing anything about it. We talk on the internet alot. But in person, when me and my best friend are sitting together, he'll come up to us and say "hey carley!" and talk to her alot and barely talk to me" .... ah, help? (link)
Well, I'm not exactly sure why you told me about the first two guys if you just want the third one. There are a few possible reasons why he's being all weird acting all the time.
He said he liked you, so that means something.
When a guy says he likes you it either means he likes you as more than a friend going into girlfriend material or he just wants to get into your pants and saying he likes you is just the quickest way to get there. No offense.
He could be kind of ignoring you around your friend because he doesn't know how to act around someone he likes when other people are around. If he does, in fact, like you, he would want to get in good with your best friend so she'll put in a good word for him when he finally does ask you out.
But you should just ask him what the hell the problem is that he says he likes you but he won't ask you out.
If he's not a total dumb ass, he'll ask you out then.
Or you can just save yourself the trouble and ask him out yourself.
Hope I helped.


14/f


i usually, besides cheerleading, walk around. like just walk around town and stuff. when i do its like over a mile atleast depending on where i and friends go. will this burn calories (link)
Yes, everything you do burns calories. Even just sitting on your butt and typing that question burned calories, so yes you are burning tons of calories by just walking around your town.
Hope I helped.


hi im a 14/f and i really want to have sex, but im afraid of getting dieases and preganacy, the usual so what are other things i could do physically with my bf? thanks (link)
You could have oral sex, have mutual masturbation (where you masturbate in front of each other), masturbate each other.
Hope I helped.


how much is a pregnancy test (link)
It could range anywhere from six dollars to fifteen dollars, depending on where you live.


ok well i have this ''friend'' he is actually my ex boyfriend who is entirely my 1st true love him and i went out for 2 years on and off our relationship has always been really bumpy he just turned 19 yesterday and i turned 14 last week on thursday so as you can see him and i have always had some issues but we still love eachother.. well anyways i have a new boyfriend now who is my age and i like him alot but i promised travis my v-card [virginity] and he says next time we chill its gonna happen and rite now i dont really no whut to do bcuz i still love travis i just am not sure wheather he deserves that from me if hes not even still my man help me.. (link)
I can't tell you if you're ready to have sex, but if you even have to ask, I don't think you are. If you love him and want him to have your virginity, then it's not my right to tell you not to. So, just make sure if you do you consider the consequences. Not just about pregnancy and std's, but with your new boyfriend. What's going to happen with him and you when he finds out you cheated on him with your ex boyfriend?
Hope I helped.


i want to lighten my hair. but i dont want to use dyes.

i heard that you can go outside with lemon juice in your hair and it will lighten it. is it unhealthy for your hair?

if it is, is there a shampoo that i can use that wont dye my hair but lighten it? im dirty blonde and want to be a shade or two lighter. (link)
The lemon juice may dry out your hair a bit. It may also make it a little frizzy but if you leave conditioner in your hair for a couple minutes when you're in the shower it shouldn't harm it that bad. You can also use leave in conditioner.
Hope I helped.


I'm 15/f. I need to ask somebody a question. It's pretty long. I'll send it to your inbox, if you're interested in helping me. I don't want to put it on here, because someone that I know might figure out that it's me. It's about me and some guys. Thanks :) (link)
Ask away, my dear...


I'm moving this summer to a different city and i'll just be starting 9th grade.

I'm really nervous when it comes to meeting new people. I'm scared they won't like me or think i'm ugly or annoying. It's hard for me to make new friends since i'm so shy.

How can I make friends and overcome my shyness? (link)
You should join some clubs or a sports team. This way you'll be 'forced' to interact with your new classmates and you'll make friends with some of them in no time. If they don't have any clubs and you don't play a sport, go to the principal and talk to him about starting some sort of club. This way, you will actually know a lot about whatever it is that you want to start and you will feel more comfortable talking about it.
Hope I helped.


i met this guy and he told me that im beautiful.
but how do i get him to actually fall for me?

like, he likes the way i look, but how do i get him to like my personality?

i know i should just be me, but what else? (link)
You can't actually make a guy fall for you. If he's not into your personality, then he's just not. If you want him to fall for you so badly that you alter your personality to fit his wants, then you've defeated your purpose because he won't actually fall for YOU. He'll fall for the you that you made for him.
Hope I helped.


Well you know that sign people sometimes make ware they make a peice sign and stick their tounge out between their fingers?

We'll i'm pretty sure i know what that means but two people told me it meant something different.

what does it mean? (link)
Whenever I've seen that done it was a sign for 'eat me'. The two fingers represent the lips of a vagina. The peace sign is just two fingers held up in a V shape.
Hope I helped.


Ok ya know on your lower stomach right before your hit your pubic area (im a guy btw if that helps) how do you losse weight there or tone that? does sit ups do it? what? (link)
Situps tone your upper and lower belly area so you could start doing a few reps each day and build up. A little cardio will help too because it will help you lose fat and gain muscle on your entire body and not just your midsection. Overall, it shouldn't take you that long since guys build muscle much faster than girls do.
Hope I helped.




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