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Relationships, I guess
I'm the one that asked about sending a question to somebody's inbox. Okay, I'm in 9th grade now, but let's go back to 7th grade. There's this boy named Andrew. We were like best friends in 7th grade. We walked to band class together, we sat together at lunch, we talked in band, he called me almost every afternoon, etc. He was dating my best friend. I didn't like him. But when they broke up, I started liking him. So I told him that I liked him. (Oh, I didn't mention- he never asked girls out, he's REALLY shy. All the girls he dated asked him out.) Okay, so I just told him that I liked him. I didn't ask him out, because I'm not like that. I thought that he would ask me out, since he wasn't shy around ME. But he didn't. I heard that he liked me, but you know rumors. We still talked the same and everything. But it was SEVENTH grade. Little kids... Okay, so now let's move on to Tyler. I met him at church camp in the summer of 8th grade. He goes to a different school than me.(one town away, just a few minutes away) He has been telling me that he's liked me since we met. At church camp we didn't talk. But then he dated my friend, so I talked to him on the phone when she spent the night, and I went to the mall with him and my friend (his girlfriend). He broke up with my friend after a few weeks. Well now, a year later, me and him are still talking. I tell him stuff that NOBODY knows and he tells me stuff that nobody knows. I mean like, woah. We talk on the phone some, not much. He says he likes me. He tells me I'm beautiful. He's pretty popular and bad, unlike Andrew. But the thing is, he has a girlfriend. He said the only reason that he's going out with her and not me is because he knows her better and because I'm kinda shy. One night, he said "I REALLY like you" and he says "If I break up with my girlfriend, will you go out with me?" He's asked me a billion times and I say yes everytime. I'm just waiting on him, I guess. But it's kinda getting old. Okay, so the third guy, Will. I really like him. I met him in 5th grade. I go to his church pretty often. We're... friends, I guess. He's HOTTT! AH. I've been liking him off and on since 7th grade. He found out that I liked him at the end of 8th grade. At the beginning of this school year, he told his church friends that he was thinking about hooking up with me. The word spread to me and I was like "Omg. Wow. This can't be true." So yeah, the church went to a football game together, and he sat with me. (I'm kinda shy around boys and at first, just to let you know) So I didn't really talk to him.. And he sat with me at pep rallies at school. He called me, we talked. He asked me to go to the mall, I said yes, but we didn't get to go. Then he just kinda stopped talking to me. Then like a week later I read his "about me" on his myspace and it said "My name is blah..asdf .. blah .. 'i can't get a girlfriend to save my life, as my cousin jessica says'...blah" So I messaged him and said "you COULD get a girlfriend to save your life if you wouldn't give up on her while she's trying to get to know you" and he said "i know that's true but you never said more than 3 words to me... it didn't seem like you wanted to get to know me" ... so yeah, that was the beginning of the year. He knows I still like him. But he's not doing anything about it. We talk on the internet alot. But in person, when me and my best friend are sitting together, he'll come up to us and say "hey carley!" and talk to her alot and barely talk to me" .... ah, help?
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Guys are very simple minded creatures. But they like to play hard to get. You want to impress a guy, be blunt with him. Forget about Andrew, lets talk about Tyler and Will. Tyler's excuse is crap. You two tell eachother everything, how can he say he knows her better? I would say he is keeping you on the side in case things between him and his gf go bad. Probably the type of guy that doesnt like being alone. There may be potential but i want to focus on Will. His excuse is ligit. Maybe he is one of those guys that NEEDS YOU to make a move. He comes up to you two and basically throws himself to you. Now i am a pretty blunt person. I hooked up with my fiance because I grabbed his face and kissed him at a bar. =) Pull him aside, and flat out ask him what his deal is. Tell him you are interested and you are sick of waiting around. Ask him if you two have a shot or not. I would word it like "We have been playing this game all year. I like you and you like me, so either stop pretending or hold my hand and lets try to do this." At first his jaw will hit the floor but when he sees you are serious he will tell you exactly what he wants. I know your shy, but when it comes to shy guys and relationships its better to just put it out there so they dont have to fear rejection. This guy seems to want proof that you are actaully interested in him. Write me back if you need more advice and let me know what happens ;) Good luck hun.
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Okay, you weren't kidding about it being long. Well i'm going to assume that you don't whether or not any of these guys count on a relationship. So, ummm...Andrew was like...I would say real close to a relationship, but not one because first off he never told you he liked you so if they don't say it back it's not a relationship. Secondly he had went with your friend, so you shouldn't have told him you like him. Never go with friends old boyfriends, trust i'm trying myself to heed does words, tough! Next, Tyler. Once again he went with your freiend DO NOT PERSUE HIM! He's a liar and he's wrong for doing so. If he really liked you he wouldn't have even gone with that other girl, he would have been with you first! That was lame excust to say I know her better, if you told each other things that nobody else knows then i would think he knows you more! So, don't EVER wait arond for a guy, just move on.
Will that was a possible relationship, cuz ya'll liked each other and ya'll dated. But, then he stopped calling you, which wasn't right. Maybe(Not to blame it on you) you should have tried to open up a little more. I know your shy, but don't let it hold you back, Okay break through the shyness. Im a shy person myself but i try to not let it hold me back. So, he's messing with your head by talking to your friend. Either he like's you and is trying to make you jelsous or he doen't like you but your friend.
I have a question is it the same friend that went with the other guys you liked? And here's my lesson for you Do not be shy, trust me its gonna hold you back from alot of things. Okay, so try not to let it show so much, and when a boy likes you he likes you and will tell you and if you like him, tell him. Do not date close friends ex-boyfriends. I hoped i help! If you need anymore help just hit me up. Wish you luck:)
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Well, I'm not exactly sure why you told me about the first two guys if you just want the third one. There are a few possible reasons why he's being all weird acting all the time.
He said he liked you, so that means something.
When a guy says he likes you it either means he likes you as more than a friend going into girlfriend material or he just wants to get into your pants and saying he likes you is just the quickest way to get there. No offense.
He could be kind of ignoring you around your friend because he doesn't know how to act around someone he likes when other people are around. If he does, in fact, like you, he would want to get in good with your best friend so she'll put in a good word for him when he finally does ask you out.
But you should just ask him what the hell the problem is that he says he likes you but he won't ask you out.
If he's not a total dumb ass, he'll ask you out then.
Or you can just save yourself the trouble and ask him out yourself.
Hope I helped.
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