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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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me 16/ bf 17

well me and my boyfriend have been to dying to have sex for a while, but we don't know when we should. and i'm afraid to get pregnant and he's afraid of getting me that way.

we have protection, but does it really help? would we have nothing to worry about if we did use it?

and without protection, when would be the absolute best time to have sex without getting me pregnant?

thanks in advance.

note: i don't want ppl saying we shouldn't do it. i know we probably shouldn't, but it's our choice.

[1]Have sex when you're ready or you'll regret it. Trust me on that.
[2]Yeah, protection does help. It's better if you have double the protection [not two condoms], such as birth control & a condom.
[3]There is no time not to get pregnant without a condom. There's always a chance, so it's best you use protection. Especially because you're young & you don't want children.

Well, I'm definitely more of a girly girl than a tom boy. & everyone always compliments me on my clothes & such. Because I care a lot about my clothes/not wearing the same thing too often/matching. But I pretty much never wear makeup & keep my hair in a ponytail most of the time. Whenever people talk about makeup & such I'm just like yeah, I never wear makeup, & people say like well you look fine without it, etc. But I feel like it's kind of something every girl should do? I'm usually just too lazy in the morning. But I don't want to look like crap. But I also don't want to become one of those girls who looks like crap when they're not wearing makeup.

I just don't know if it's something all girls should do, & if I should try to wear it more & care about my hair & stuff.

If you like the way you look without makeup & don't feel a need for it -- don't wear it. Honestly, it's up to you to wear it & if you don't want to, then don't. If you do decide to, don't do anything major. Just some mascara, eyeliner & lipgloss should do.

Try putting your hair in a different style too. Maybe straighten it or get a haircut & try something new. It's always good to experiment with yourself & see what you're comfortable in.

i got a really big weekend coming up in a week and a half and i dont want my period then because that will just ruin everything. Is there a way to make your period come sooner or make it go away faster?

No.

okay so on myspace sometimes people have like a word that starts with the same letter as their name like...
SALLY;SWEETHEART orr
KAYLEE KALAMITY
can anyone think of some for bailey =]]

bailey bootylicious™
bailey babydoll™
bailey bombdiggity™

Does it hurt the first time you have sex? and what can you do to make it hurt less?

It depends on the person. Sex doesn't hurt for some, but hurts for others. If you're a person that isn't prone to pain & everything hurts -- do some foreplay before you have sex. It could ease the pain a lot & not make it so bad. =)

hey im a guy, 13. If you go onto this website theres a pic of me. Tell me if you like what i look like... www.advicepic1.piczo.com

For a 13 year old, you're pretty cute.

However, keep in mind I'm 16 & don't really care for younger guys. You could be a valid friend though. =)

Hi Tina,
my boyfriend told me last night that he would be going out for a drink with a "friend", when i asked more about this, it turns out to be a famale friend and an ex physical therapist of his college friend. he has never met her before. ....and she's just moved to oakland from LA. his college friend told her to contact him and now they are going for a "new to the area" drink. later i checked his calender, i saw he blocked out 2.5 hours tonight, and i bet that was for this. 2.5 hours for a drink?!?! with a stranger? and the fact that 1. he was trying not to mention it is a female friend, 2. possibility that this will be a dinner than drinks and he's trying to hide about it. 3. she's a physical therapist...and i was like...ask her about my neck problem, he gave me valid reasons that she may not be very helpful to me, that kinda makes me think he may not even mention me to her.
this is freaking me out...my boyfriend and i don't live in the same town, i am hour and half away from him and only see him on weekends; this girl lives in the area makes me feel threatend. Tina, please adivce!

First off -- stop freaking out. That puts unnecessary stress onto your shoulders & it freaks you out usually more than you should. Don't even freak out about this. He's your boyfriend; yeah, but if he didn't want to be with you -- he would've left you already. Doesn't the fact that he's stuck around show you something?

Anyways, talk to your boyfriend about it. Ask him what's been goinhg on & why he didn't mention he was a female. If he has a good answer -- trust him. You should trust him anyways. My reason for why he didn't tell you she was a girl: He either thought you'd be cool with it & wouldn't really care what gender he/she was, OR he wanted to hide it from you. I'm sure it was the first one though. Just talk to your boyfriend & remember that he's with you & he loves you. I'm sure there's nothing to worry about, so don't freak out so much.

Although this is long, I dont know where to turn and would appreciate any responses. Thanks.

Hi everyone. I'm 13/f and my best friend is 14/m.

Well, he moved here last year and his old school was kind of bad, but we clicked right away, I helped him fit in, so to speak (even though I'm not the most popular), and now he's the most popular guy in our school, by most people's "standards."

I didn't think he'd done anything bad at his old school, and I still don't.

But, as I've been becoming "closer" to him I've been finding out things like, he seems to have a girlfriend just to "do things" (not bad, that I know of - just like kissing) with her. When I first found out he kissed his girlfriend I cried- I know it sounds pathetic, but he seems to go out with girls who have NO redeeming qualities, and now he's going out with a "sl**" (I hate to say that, but most people think so.)

But she's not the worst. One other girl in our school is really bad, does drugs (well, it's a rumor) and is the sl***iest. She's probably done really bad things with guys.

Well, I feel horrible about this - and I'm still guilty - but, I found out someone's email password from my grade, and happened to see an email that said "____(the girl) got down on her knees for ______ (my bff), just like i did with _____ (some other kid) and started sucking away. But no one's mad at her and they're mad at me."

I bawled for a half-hour, because I couldn't believe that he would do this with someone/let her do it! I just still can't believe it, and I don't know if it was someone else but it is a pretty uncommon name (my bff's) - and I can't ask/tell anyone, because then theyll ask how I knew and I can't tell them I was on someone else's email! (I feel horrible - never again.)

My best friend seemed so nice when I met him. He seemed like such a good boy, he does well in school and has an amazing family but I don't think they know he's like this! I didn't even know! although it's becoming more apparent recently.

I just don't know where to turn. I can't believe he would do that. It's so shallow and DISGUSTING for an 8th grader! (I know lots of people do now - but I really thought he was waaaaay above that. that's gross, and he doesn't even hang out with her.)

I'm having a really hard time dealing with this. I can't even look at him anymore. I don't want to even associate with him! But he's still my best friend, so I can't just leave him like that - esp. when I don't know details.

I just can't believe it. I'm in such a state of shock. You might not know how I feel, but thanks for any advice you give.

I'm really grateful because I don't know who else to ask about this - thank you sooo much for your responses.

-Disappointed

I personally think you're overreacting. Lots of teenagers today are sexually active. Although it may not be morally right, but to teens it's considered the "norm." It's a part of growing up [some kids rush it] & although that may be bad for some, it can be good for others. Some kids can handle this type of thing.

Honestly, just talk to him about it. Don't get pissed though. Disappointment is fine, but don't get so mad you stop talking. A friend becoming sexually active is no reason to stop talking to them. He's your best friend, you can't control the things he does.

does anyone know what whine coolers and brandy are?

Wine coolers are fruit drinks with alcohol in them.

Brandy is just a type of alcohol.

This could've been googled.

lately i've been gaining weight.
last year i was 108 pounds. this year i'm 117. did i gain too much weight? (i play soccer all year long)

also if im 13 and 5`3 and weigh 117 pounds, would you consider me chubby? just tell me the truth and dont judge it on BMI. i don't look chubby but damn, i used to be soo skinny.

what can i do besides running/jogging to lose weight? I want to have a flatter stomach if possible. and what are good foods to eat?

No. The weight you gained was either from gaining muscle [from soccer] or not watching your diet. Either way, 9 pounds isn't that much, so don't freak out. You're fine.

And...No. You're not chubby. Stick to foods that are low in fats. Eat fruits & veggies & stay away from sodas. Drink water & you should be fine.

my cousin is a good girl who has a lot of friends, is popular in school and gets great grades. Shes hanging out with this one girl Jenni who is a complete slut (but shes ugly as hell) and is getting Jackie(my cousin) to talk to these older boys on myspace. Shes talking to this one kid whos 17, dropped out of Highschool, does drugs, sells drugs, and has sex. Apparently he came to her house once with pot and a condom and was talking to her outside, but no one knew it ever happend. Me and her are really really close and i am always trying to protect her but now shes growing up and doesnt want me to protect her. shes lying to me about ahnging out with boys, even when they are boys in her own grade who i dont mind her haning out with. I dont get why she is doing this stuff. I try to talk to her and she tells me she is not going to talk to him anymore, but then i find out from her friends taht she STILL is talking to him after she PROMISED she wouldnt anymore. It really concerns me. Especially this weekend, becaue today is the year annivarsay since since her dad killed himself.....
im worried that shes going to make the wrong decisions. what should i do?

Unfortunately, you've got about 2 options.

Option A: Tell her mother. Since her father is dead, I'm assuming her mother should be around. Her mother will care about the decisions her daughter is making & will try to get some input in. If that doesn't work, then you always have option B.

Option B: Talk to her some more. You need to get your point across without being mean or being controlling over her. Remember, you're her cousin; NOT her mother. If talking to her doesn't work anymore, then there's nothing else you can do.

Your cousin's 14 years old. These things are going to happen. Most teenagers have talked to drug users & people who have sex. I have -- but I'm just fine. Seriously, I know you're worried, but just continue to look out for her. Sometimes there are mistakes you have to let people make. If you just tell them it's bad & that they shouldn't do it -- it makes them want to do it more simply because you're telling them no. When they want to do it more, they'll do it & in turn, learn the mistake for themselves. They're never going to learn if you just hold their hand & guide them. Let her roam a little.

Eventually, your cousin will see that you were right & apologize for her behavior. Until then, consider the options & follow through with them. There's chances they might fail, but if so then there's further thinking you can do, or you can just let her make her mistakes. Good luck.

whats that song its sorta goes like "you should have been getting high?" it was on a rock radio station last night

It could be:

Because I Got High by Afroman.
Alfie by Lily Allen.

But this will help so much more:

I want to know if this will work. I'm gonna wear these really cute ae jeans and they do look cute but the problem is they look slightly baggy and baggy is really a big turnoff in fashion but they ARE cute. I don't know what to do

Who cares what "FASHION" says. Wear what you want -- baggy or not.

I'm a girl, and I dress like a guy sometimes. Is Fashion going to tell me that's a no no & try to put me in Fashion jail for it?

me and my best friend started a friends with benefits relationship about a month before he broke up with his girlfriend, which i felt bad about but we have this very strong sexual attraction that has lasted for years and we can't break the habbit. ok so thats bad enough that he cheated but are people who are involved in friends with benefits relationships considered whores? just because we can screw with 'just a friend'. it's not like i'd screw anyone, i trust my best friend very much. would you think i was a whore?

No, I'd think you were dumb.

Usually, the girl [sometimes the guy] falls for the guy [girl] & she doesn't feel the same causing heartbreak. Friends with benefits nonetheless is also a booty call. SO, not only is he getting ass, but not giving any emotion into it, and you're basically not good enough to be his girlfriend. Friends with benefits is boyfriend/girlfriend without the titles.

Just an opinion.

does anyone know what song this is?

(One minute you're on top)
The next you're not watch it drop
(Making your heart stop)
Just before you hit the floor
(One minute you're on top)
Next you're not missed your shot
(Making you're heart stop)
You think you've won
(And then its all gone)
(And then it’s all gone)
(And then its all gone)
(And then it’s all gone)
(Now it’s all gone)

I knew I recognized it! It's "Hit The Floor" by Linkin Park.

Here are the lyrics:

There are just too many
Times that people
Have tried to look inside of me
Wondering what I think of you
And I protect you out of courtesy
Too many times that I've
Held on when I needed to push away
Afraid to say what was on my mind
Afraid to say what I need to say
Too many
Things that you said about me
When I'm not around
You think havin the upper hand
Means you got to keep puttin me down
But I've had too many stand-offs with you
It's about as much as I can stand
Just wait until the upper hand
Is mine
One minute you're up top
[The next you're not]
[Watch it drop
Making your heart stop
(Just before you hit the floor)
One minute you're up top
[The next you're not]
[Missed your shot]
Making your heart stop
(You think you won)
And then it's all gone
So many people like me
Put so much trust in all your lies
So concerned with what you think
To just say what we feel inside
So many people like me
Walk on eggshells all day long
All I know is that all I want
Is to feel like I'm not stepped on
There are so many things you say
That make me feel like you've crossed the line
What goes up will surely fall
And I'm counting down the time
Cause I've had so many stand-offs with you
It's about as much as I can stand
So I'm waiting until the upper hand
Is mine
One minute you're up top
[The next you're not]
[Watch it drop
Making your heart stop
(Just before you hit the floor)
One minute you're up top
[The next you're not]
[Missed your shot]
Making your heart stop
(You think you won)
And then it's all gone
And then it's all gone
And then it's all gone
And then it's all gone
Now it's all gone
I know I'll never trust a single thing you say
You knew your lies would divide us
But you lied anyway
And all the lies have got you floating
Up above us all
But what goes up has got to fall
One minute you're up top
[The next you're not]
[Watch it drop
Making your heart stop
(Just before you hit the floor)
One minute you're up top
[The next you're not]
[Missed your shot]
Making your heart stop
(You think you won)
And then it's all gone
And then it's all gone
And then it's all gone
And then it's all gone
And then it's all gone
Now it's all gone

so i wanna know what gives you the right to call a person an idiot for helping someone else?.. i mean really, do you really have the low of self esteem to call other people idiots for trying to help someone?..

My self-esteem is actually pretty high, thanks. =)

But it's valid you learn what you're talking about before you answer someone's question.

ok
its beens a month since my last pd. well a month and 4 days
i'm hurtin bad (down south). and i'm only 16.
But i thought i started like 2 days ago but i didnt. but i can see blood when i pee. and i wipe myself i see blood but i put a pad on for 2 days and didnt have no blood on it what so ever.
I don't know what to do. i want a kid but ill get killed

am i preg.
or is it to short to tell

help!!

If you've been sexually active since your last period, there is a chance you're pregnant. Take a pregnancy test & find out so you can be sure.

its an older song sung by a guy and it goes something like "just turn up the beat..oh my god" anyone know what im talking about?

Using Google would be much better. We don't know what type of music that is, so it'd be good if you described that to us.

people on this site think they are so mature and know everything but they don't know shit. (some do, most dont.) first of all, alot of people on this site believe that if they live a simple life and dont care about electronics and huge houses that they are better than people who care about their appearence and want nice things. just because i have some designer stuff doesnt mean im not a good person right?!! i shop at all of the expensive stores but its because i LIKE the clothes. if you like walmart thats good for you but i dont. and i dont give a f*** what the "popular" kids think. i do what i want and just because i want nice stuff and care about my looks doesnt mean im immature. alot of people on this site are prejudice. and prejudice means PRE JUDGING. you guys are pre judging teenagers just because they give a care about how they look or what they buy. and usually its the adults who critisize teenagers. but if you havent noticed alot of teenagers are smart and they dont always follow the crowd... these uninformed people give us teenagers sterotypes when they havent even met all of us. i say i shop at abercrombie and fitch and suddenly i have all these people calling me a follower. i know how i am and i dont follow. i lead. wow, so i like the same stores as other people. BIG DEAL. i dont smoke and drink and im not a slut. i just CARE about my appearence. deal with it! stop judging the teens on this site wrong and calling them whiny bitches because its not us, it's YOU.

opinions please. =)

I have three words. GET OVER YOURSELF.

Not everyone here is like that, and if I am, SO BE IT. I don't care! Nobody said you weren't a good person, and nobody said you smoke, drink & nobody said you're a slut. Stop putting words into people's mouths & making them sound bad.

This doesn't even qualify as a question simply because you're whining about how society has been treating you. Wanting nice things doesn't make you a snob or immature, but letting those things get to your head & control you does. Don't ever call people on here prejudice. You're no better because here you are sitting behind some computer screen YELLING at US because what some people have done on this site. Not only are discriminating against them, but you're discriminating against ALL OF US. And that makes you JUST AS PREJUDICE.

And not a lot of teenagers are smart because if they were they wouldn't do the things they do. Adults are not hypocrites & for you to say they are IS WRONG. They tell us not to do things because they've made that mistake before & will try to achieve the goal of stopping us from making it.

Nobody said you were a follower but you need to stop calling us whiny & bitchy because we're not. We know what we're talking about [although some of us don't] & if you don't like our advice -- the solution is simple. DON'T ASK FOR IT.

That's my opinion. Rate me low, I don't care. But you asked for opinions & you got one. If it's not what you wanted to hear, OH WELL. =) Life goes on.

I used to be friends with everybody. & Everyone. No one hated me nothing. But then I had this party really big one, where people couldnt get in, and I hooked up with a guy. There were tons of people there 227 to be exact. Then all of a sudden after that no one has wanted to talk to me. I dont know what to do? I went from having to say sorry I've made plans already to...Hey do you wanan hang out? & I know that sounds conceited and bad. But I dont know what happenned. & I'm not very happy about it, I've gone into a deep depression and everyday I think about killing myself.

If people are that stupid to stop talking to you & never tell you why; then they were never your friends to begin with & they found a reason to dump you.

Fuck them, seriously. Just be nice to everyone, forget about the rumors & live life above them. They're lame, you're not. Live life & don't worry about what people say. Losing friends is not a reason to kill yourself. There'll be bummer times.

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