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meeting a "friend" for drinks
Hi Tina,
my boyfriend told me last night that he would be going out for a drink with a "friend", when i asked more about this, it turns out to be a famale friend and an ex physical therapist of his college friend. he has never met her before. ....and she's just moved to oakland from LA. his college friend told her to contact him and now they are going for a "new to the area" drink. later i checked his calender, i saw he blocked out 2.5 hours tonight, and i bet that was for this. 2.5 hours for a drink?!?! with a stranger? and the fact that 1. he was trying not to mention it is a female friend, 2. possibility that this will be a dinner than drinks and he's trying to hide about it. 3. she's a physical therapist...and i was like...ask her about my neck problem, he gave me valid reasons that she may not be very helpful to me, that kinda makes me think he may not even mention me to her.
this is freaking me out...my boyfriend and i don't live in the same town, i am hour and half away from him and only see him on weekends; this girl lives in the area makes me feel threatend. Tina, please adivce!
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First off -- stop freaking out. That puts unnecessary stress onto your shoulders & it freaks you out usually more than you should. Don't even freak out about this. He's your boyfriend; yeah, but if he didn't want to be with you -- he would've left you already. Doesn't the fact that he's stuck around show you something?
Anyways, talk to your boyfriend about it. Ask him what's been goinhg on & why he didn't mention he was a female. If he has a good answer -- trust him. You should trust him anyways. My reason for why he didn't tell you she was a girl: He either thought you'd be cool with it & wouldn't really care what gender he/she was, OR he wanted to hide it from you. I'm sure it was the first one though. Just talk to your boyfriend & remember that he's with you & he loves you. I'm sure there's nothing to worry about, so don't freak out so much.
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