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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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i'm 14 and i haven't had a boyfriend yet. i know that's not to bad butmy best frienddoes and i get so jealous because she has one and it seems all nice and so cute. when it comes to getting a boyfriend (like if i hear someone is going to ask me to a dance or ask me out) i'm like no way and i just stop there. i don't know why because if i just randomly think about it i just want a boyfriend so bad i don't know anymore

You want to have a boyfriend, and you want to be liked -- so why stop doing certain things when you find out someone likes you?

Honestly, don't say you're jealous. You've had plenty of chances to get a boyfriend but you gave up right when you found out.

When someone likes you, don't stop what you've been doing. Give them a chance. If you don't give them a chance -- then you screwed up, so stop complaining.

I'm running out of patience. I don't understand why I worked so hard in order to get no where. And this goes for everything. I always try to do my best at something i'm passionate about. I work hard and I aim high. But look where it's gotten me.. Nowhere. I mean, seriously, do i just have to be a soul-less person to get anywhere in this life?
Or maybe I should be like some people and just sit around and have everything fall into my lap... I've never been that lucky. I've always had hope. If I lost anything this year it would be that... The one thing that has helped me get by.
I could try to be like everyone else and just not give two f*cks about the people around me. Maybe I should walk all over them and use them and abuse them, until I get my way. This is how the world works isn't it?
It seems like my whole life i've been getting screwed over. I try my best to comeout of eveything with the positive attitude, knowing i'd never like to be like them... But look how far it's gotten me.
The best years of my life. What a waste. All complaints. I hate who I am. I hate who i'm becoming.
I don't know what to do anymore.
Any advice?

The problem with you is that your attitude is too negative & you're giving up when shit doesn't go your way.

Yes, you could be like other people, but that really wouldn't do anything except make you another low-life. Is that really what you wanna be? Someone who doesn't work for what they want & someone who just expects shit to be handed to them?

If you work for it & it doesn't come to you -- then at least you can say you tried. If you just sit around & don't work for anything, then that's pathetic & you've got nothing to show for yourself.

Instead of giving up, keep going with your determination. You're bound to go somewhere in life but you'll never know that if you just give up. There's more to life than what you think there is but you need to make the decision to keep going along a good path.

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If you searched that site, you'd probably find the code you're looking for.

do i get a guy that says he likes me, admit that he actully doesn't but instead is just using me?

If someone is using you, they probably won't admit it.

ok so i'm 13/f and i like never go in my room i dont know why but i dont and i want to start going in my room more is there any fun things i can do to my room or put in my room like things to do or something??? also i'm thinking about reading more then i could read in my room is there any really good books i could start with keep in mind i'm 13

Check the library for books.

If at all possible, put your computer in your room or maybe a tv if there isn't one in there already. Maybe get some video games in there or something with a mini fridge.

long story short me and my best guy friend felt each other up the day after his girlfriend broke up with him. he was cheating on her with me but nobody knew it. i told one of my friends that we felt each other up because she had been teasing me about not getting any, but thats not why i felt up the guy, i felt him up because i liked him alot and he was finally single. ok so i told my friend because normally she's a down to earth person who can keep a good secret. my guy friend really didn't want anyone to find out because he was still in love with his ex and wanted to get back with her. now for some reason three months later this b***ch decides to tell all of our friends, including the guy's ex that I SAID we made out and that he cheated. first of all, we never made out, i never said that, i don't lie, and he did cheat on his girlfriend but absolutely nobody knows that except me and him. so everyone thinks im a liar because when they asked the guy about us making out he denies it because we didn't do it, therefor making me look like a liar because "i said we made out". the guy was PISSED at me for telling people because he believed this girl who said i said all that b.s. well after 2 months of this drama, the guy finally realized im right and apologized to me and now we're better friends than before. meanwhile this girl and his ex keep telling more and more people that im a liar, im not a liar, she's the F'n liar. i've walked in on them twice talking about me. im about ready to punch this lying rumor spreading bitch but she has 3times the muscle i have (im about 105lbs, she's about 150 pure muscle) and she's about 5 inches taller than me, and could deffinately kick my ass. im not friends with her or his ex anymore because of this yet i still see them all the time because my 2 other bff's didnt want to get involved in the drama, even though they were on my side, so they're still friends with them. i don't know what to do about this. part of me is just saying "fuck it, i got my guy back" and the other part is still furious with her because she just keeps continuing this bull shit drama. help me deal with this girl. this drama started in February!!!

As much as you deserve what's happening to you, I disagree with what they're doing.

Yeah, you helped him cheat on his girlfriend, that was bad. But spreading rumors & ruining someone's life is just as horrible.

Basically, you should forget about it. If you've been happy, who cares what they say? Shittalkers are going to talk shit. It's in their blood -- it's what they do.

Just ignore all of it. When there's no retaliation to what's being said, they get bored with it & decide to leave you alone. If that doesn't happen to be the case, then they're stupid immature bitches & that's something you've gotta live with.

Just don't deal with them, don't talk to them & don't think about them. Don't even try to hate them. When doing all the negative things, you're wasting positivity that could be happening. Just ignore what they're saying & live life.

i always have these couple of friends that are just basically.. fun suckers. like when i act like myself.. im not a pushover but im nice, and i hate when people try to take advantage of that.. like they'd just act in a way that wouldn't make me feel good. like they'd act like i wasnt worthy or something. like at lunch occasionally i'd ask for fries and like nobody gives me not even one except for one of my friends.. when 2 of the girls at that table always takes my fries at the end of the period without me even letting her do that! the girl who sits next to me she always gives that girl from before and another girl fries.. even when they have their own lunches.. and when i forgot my lunch she didnt give me any. i dont get it.. i mean im thinking that they just arent my friends.. cause the girl who'd give me fries also sometimes wasnt the ideal friend i'd want.. cause she'd just be in these mood swings and stuff sometimes and that really pisses me off because its not as much fun.. when i have problems i dont act all grumpy for a day.. and i hate when people do that! and like those 'friends' i see them alot.. and the year is over next thursday so its not that easy to make new friends. any advice? because then i forgot one of my friend's instrument that she played. i just really thought it was flute and forgot that it was the trumpet. and she was mad at me for like the rest of the day.. except for math when we were all in a group.. and im like "hello? you were just mad at me before and you didnt even apologize or anything" that happens sometimes.. like first we get in a small fight and then later they totally forget about it when i dont. then it starts again.. like that girl cause i've known her for 2 years now like considers me her friend but she doesnt act like it all the time. i hate when friends keep secrets from each other.. its stupid. sometimes i ask what happens if i dont know.. like something happened to this guy and he got suspended at school and she knew what happened but wouldnt tell me.. she told some other girl she said she doesnt like but she hangs around her alot. should i just act like i dont like them when i do like being around them occasionally? or am i just too nice that i wont do that.. also what if they dont want to be my friends back? i mean i have other friends but i dont see them during school often. ive even talked to that girl how i feel that she isnt very supportive at times.. she has alot of bad days.. and shes not the only one with problems but you dont see me all grumpy and stuff on some days.

UGH. and in home ec im only in one group because one of the girls there is my friend, and another is okay, and another girl just acts sooo fake like shes trying to be all preppy and popular when she isnt, and the other is bossy at times and you arent sure if she likes you or not. i hate friends like that but.. are these really my friends? they're just my cooking group.. and i hate being bossed around and stuff but sometimes i dont have comebacks and stuff.. so yeah. i dont hold grudges but i also dont forget things people have done in the past and it just always stays in my mind.

HELP PLEASE for like everything!
are these really my friends & what else can i do to help myself?

They're using you. Stand up for yourself & find yourself some new friends. They suck & no, they're not really your friends.

i'm a teenage girl.
So there's someone who I want to hook up with, and he can drive, i can't yet... I just don't know where is a good location to do it.

We might not go all the way, but definately at least to 3rd. (it depends on how it goes and how i feel then)

So please don't say anything like "oh don't do it".

I just need to know where. And it couldn't be in either of our houses b/c my parents would find out.

If his parents aren't home, you could try his house. Other than that, go to dark places & make sure this guy doesn't try taking advantage of you & only do what you're comfortable with. And if you do go all the way, use a condom.

My mom and i have not gotten to this topic yet.. so i was wondering.. why do guys get boners?

Because they're turned on, horny or they find a girl hot.

ok well this guy constantly flirts with me. does he like me?

If he's flirting with you, it could just be friendly or he might like you as more than a friend. The best way to find out what he's thinking is to just ask him.

this guy kissed me, but i'm not sure i love him. what should i do?

You don't have to be in love with someone or even like someone to kiss them. It's best you do like them though or that could be a little trashy.

If you don't like him, tell him that.

it's going to be long, but please read; i'm desperate!
i'm jackie. 14/f. i was best friends with this girl "jaime". then she just started being a bitch. i knew who she liked, so at this party, i started flirting with "joseph" and his friends. but, they turned me down! they just walked away! so i went and had some fondu and everything was better. but my question is: what's wrong with me? is it because i have kankles? a big nose? helpppp!!!!!!!

Nothing's wrong with you. Who cares if you're not what the world would consider perfect. Just love yourself & other people will too. If they're mean to you for no reason or they judged you based on your looks, fuck them. They're not worth your time.

on myspace,
is there anyway
that someone call see if you blocked them?

It doesn't let them message you, so if they try to, it'll tell them that they can't, so unless they're stupid, they should get the point.

Sometimes I have to hold my urine until I can go. During school, I never go during passing period only if the next class is close by. Otherwise, I go to the next class. Sometimes I have to go but I wait until I have lunch time. Once in a while I wait about 3 hours until I go use the restroom. Is this bad for my bladder? My counsin said it isn't good for me by holding it for that long.

-Confused

It's not good for you. When you have to pee, just go to the bathroom. Who cares if you're late? Just go before you give yourself some serious problems. And if a teacher doesn't let you go, tell them you're gonna piss on the floor.

i started growing "boobs" in 4th grade, so i thought i was gonna have freaken huge boobs by middle school, thats deff. not the case. haha i kinda still have the same size from 4th grade there just a bit bigger. A instead of AA. anyways, my cusins are all c's && boys pick on me alot because im flat. [im going to be in 9th grade soon] is their any way to till wheather or not im going to grow anymore without seeing a doctor? >:p you probably can't help me. eh

No, there isn't.

Wear a pushup bra. They make your boobs seem bigger even though they're not. Just wait for your boobs to grow. Big boobs are most in heredity. My aunt has huge boobs, so do I. However, no other girl in my family got this gene. You might not have it, so don't stress about it.

Big boobs aren't everything. I'd honestly rather be a B cup. It's better to have small, average boobs than huge ones. Trust me.

Is a 13-14 year olds sperm as effective as a 18+ sperm?
Or is one weaker than the other?

Uh, sperm is sperm. It doesn't change or make itself any different because of age.

can i hear your story? do you regret it? thoughts/feeling now? still in a relationship with that guy? or was it a one night stand? I'm just curiouss pleasee && thank you for readingg and respondingg =]

I lost mine at 15. There really is no story behind it, but yes, I regret it very much. Me & that guy are no longer together, and I was young and didn't really love him -- I just thought I did.

However, I've learned my lesson & will never have sex with someone I don't love that much & I will never be that stupid ever again.

Basically, wait forever to have sex. If you have it young with someone you "love" you'll probably regret it & that relationship probably will not last long. Wait until you're ready [make sure you're positive you're ready] & wait until it's with the right person.

13/f
ok well i met this kid who is my friend's friend and now hes my friend. we have so much in common and he is everything i look for in a guy. hes also my height. well actually like and inch taller than me but yeah same thing. but for the weeks I've known him I've really started to like him. i haven't told him. but i really want to. but i don't know how. he's the type that likes that cutesy stuff girls do. and he would never say anything perverted so whats a way i could tell him?
please help. =)

Just come out & tell him. Although he likes the cute stuff, I think he'd like it best if you were just straight forward with him & let him know. Hints won't do anything but confuse him, so just tell him.

If he doesn't like you back, then that's fine. Don't down yourself about it simply because you're 13 & guys are NOT everything -- although that's how it appears to be at your age. But if he does like you, then awesome -- go out. =)

Good luck.

13/f
my bf and i have been going out for over a year. during the school year we're both really busy, so we only see each other at lunch and on the weekends. but now that summer is here, we can see each other all the time (he lives on my street). the problem is, we can never agree on anything to do. he never wants to do anything i suggest (swimming, bike rides, bowling, etc). all he wants to do is hang with his friends and do stupid guy stuff, and he always wants me to sit there and watch them blow things up, do crazy stunts or play video games. i want to be with him, but its soooo boring! and whenever we're alone together, all he wants to do is make out, which i don't *always* feel like doing. so we've been getting in fights because we're bored and we can't find anything we both like doing. i dont want us to get bored of each other or fight all the time... so what can i do to keep things exciting?

Watching video games is boring. Playing them is not. Play video games with him. Not only will he be impressed, but you guys will be able to spend quality time together. I used to do that with my ex boyfriend. We played video games when he would come over sometimes & it'd be fun. =)

The only reason you're not having fun is because you're watching them do things. If you join in on it, you'll have more fun because you're actually doing more than just standing there.

I was having sex and the condom broke. I felt something weird and I pulled back and the condom was broken. I took the morning after pill just a couple hours after having sex. I really dont want to be pregnant or get an STD. I'm suppossed to get my period in about two weeks. I really hope I get it. should I be worried that I am pregnant. I am really scared and I cant tell anyone because I am so embaressed that this happened to me. After taking the morning after pill I felt a little nauseas all day but it was gone by the next day but I still dont feel my self maybe its because im nervous . What should I do. Thanks

Talk to your boyfriend about this and stay calm. If you freak yourself out & stress, your period won't come & then you'll freak out more which will delay it even more.

Just stay calm & try not to freak out. The pill should work, so you should be fine. And you'll only get STDs or AIDS if your boyfriend has them.

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