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friends bringing me down.. all the time.
i always have these couple of friends that are just basically.. fun suckers. like when i act like myself.. im not a pushover but im nice, and i hate when people try to take advantage of that.. like they'd just act in a way that wouldn't make me feel good. like they'd act like i wasnt worthy or something. like at lunch occasionally i'd ask for fries and like nobody gives me not even one except for one of my friends.. when 2 of the girls at that table always takes my fries at the end of the period without me even letting her do that! the girl who sits next to me she always gives that girl from before and another girl fries.. even when they have their own lunches.. and when i forgot my lunch she didnt give me any. i dont get it.. i mean im thinking that they just arent my friends.. cause the girl who'd give me fries also sometimes wasnt the ideal friend i'd want.. cause she'd just be in these mood swings and stuff sometimes and that really pisses me off because its not as much fun.. when i have problems i dont act all grumpy for a day.. and i hate when people do that! and like those 'friends' i see them alot.. and the year is over next thursday so its not that easy to make new friends. any advice? because then i forgot one of my friend's instrument that she played. i just really thought it was flute and forgot that it was the trumpet. and she was mad at me for like the rest of the day.. except for math when we were all in a group.. and im like "hello? you were just mad at me before and you didnt even apologize or anything" that happens sometimes.. like first we get in a small fight and then later they totally forget about it when i dont. then it starts again.. like that girl cause i've known her for 2 years now like considers me her friend but she doesnt act like it all the time. i hate when friends keep secrets from each other.. its stupid. sometimes i ask what happens if i dont know.. like something happened to this guy and he got suspended at school and she knew what happened but wouldnt tell me.. she told some other girl she said she doesnt like but she hangs around her alot. should i just act like i dont like them when i do like being around them occasionally? or am i just too nice that i wont do that.. also what if they dont want to be my friends back? i mean i have other friends but i dont see them during school often. ive even talked to that girl how i feel that she isnt very supportive at times.. she has alot of bad days.. and shes not the only one with problems but you dont see me all grumpy and stuff on some days.
UGH. and in home ec im only in one group because one of the girls there is my friend, and another is okay, and another girl just acts sooo fake like shes trying to be all preppy and popular when she isnt, and the other is bossy at times and you arent sure if she likes you or not. i hate friends like that but.. are these really my friends? they're just my cooking group.. and i hate being bossed around and stuff but sometimes i dont have comebacks and stuff.. so yeah. i dont hold grudges but i also dont forget things people have done in the past and it just always stays in my mind.
HELP PLEASE for like everything!
are these really my friends & what else can i do to help myself?
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Here's the bad news:
I think you're probably too nice and overly sensitive. If a friend not letting you have french fries is bothering you that much, you need to A) get some friends who better suit your personality (aka ones who aren't so selfish), B) take your own lunch to school, and C) get a life that has bigger problems in it, because this isn't worth being so stressed out about.
Here's the good news:
I bet a nice girl like you can make a ton of nice friends, especially when you get to college, where everyone is a lot more mature. Still, you can make friends in high school without compromising who you are. Just because you like these girls (even if they like you too) doesn't mean you have to be friends with them. Focus on hanging out with people who make you feel good about yourself - people who are thoughtful, lift you up, and make you smile.
Lastly, I think somewhere hidden deep within your kitten exterior is a lioness dying to get out. Let her out more often - stand up for yourself. It may not come out perfect, but once you practice being more assertive, you'll catch on quickly. Remember, life doesn't guarantee that anyone else is going to look out after you. You have to be able to look after yourself. So be strong, force yourself to be confident (fake it until you make it), and stick up for yourself. You'll be glad that you did.
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They're using you. Stand up for yourself & find yourself some new friends. They suck & no, they're not really your friends.
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Okay, first off, you sound really sweet!! Haha you are really nice, but many a little TOO nice, and I think thats your soft spot. What I would say to do, since I have been through this MANY of times, if to wait until the end of the year. Just put up with it and then, forget about them during the summer. When you get back into school next year, just make new friends. But you always have to be careful about "who" you choose friends with. You don't want to fall into the same type of friends, because then, you will be in the same situation!
Now, you really need to take a stand, and tell these people how you feel. The next time you feel that you are being "pushed", tell them.
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Hope I Helped!!
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