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I'm a raw and living foodest. For those of you who are unfamiliar with what that is I only eat foods that have not been cooked. I do this because it maintains all of the nutrients and enzymes intact and is much healthier. I'm not here to try to convert anyone. I think you can reach maximum health by eating all kinds of foods fixed all kinds of ways. This is simply my life choice. What I'm here to do is help educate people as to what is happening to thier food. Did you know that the pharmaceutical companies have lobbied to have a law voted on called "Codex Aimentarius" that will take away our freedom to take suppliments? It has already been implemented in Europe. Of course it is still ok for them to put steroids, antiboitics and harmones in our foods. Have you wondered why there is a great influx of people acting aggressively and out of character? I'm here to help guide you through this mess. If you want to eat meat...eat meat...just get chemically free meat. I'm here to help you understand what is happening to you.
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last year i lost a rgoup of friends. i met other ppl and i loved my new friends. now they left me and i have no idea why. they tell me that i was bitchy and that i hurt them and that i needed to change and be nice and love them. i do love them and i know i was a bithc and i know i need to change but i cant do it without them helping me. i am hurt and i cant stop crying. i love them all so much but they left. i dont know what to do.
This is a toughie. You have to have known things were leading up to something like this. You felt the temperament of the group and yet you kept pushing. I understand your need to do this; the problem is your friends don’t have to understand. They just want to have fun. Depending on others to initiate change is setting you up for failure. Your actions and your behavior is your responsibility. Only you can make these changes. You have to search deep within yourself and try to figure out where this is coming from. What is motivating you to act this way with people you say that you love? What they are saying when they don’t believe you love them is that they feel no one would treat someone they love the way you have been treating them. I know how devastated you must be right now and I ‘m not trying to be mean. I just think you need to know these things in order to get what you say you want. I know you have a good and loving heart or you wouldn’t be so emotional about this. You do need some guidance and your friends are not equipped to do this for you. If you have a guidance councilor at school you could go to her/him and see what options are available to you. You need to take control of your own life. Then, you can send your friends a card (for example) and let them know how you feel about them and how sorry you are about how you behaved. Thank them for bringing this to your attention and let them know what you are doing to change. Change, by the way, does not come easy. You’ve developed some bad habits and habits are difficult to change. They pop up when we least expect it. But, the more you practice good habits the quicker they will replace the old bad habits. I care about what happens to you and your emotional state during all of this. I know it must be overwhelming for you. Please feel free to contact me if you should want to chat.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
Hi I'm a 27 year old woman but dress like I'm a lot younger. I was wearing a pair of tight track pants that showed off my figure. They were not slutty, but just the style right now and I also wore a black jacket. Anyways these two older men were sitting on a park bench when I walked by, one man said "that's a little tight".
Also two days ago me and my friend who is 33 (but looks 25) were at Tim Hortons having a coffee. We were sitting outside and these old men were sitting behind us. We were not talking to them but they were eavesdropping on our conversation ( which was about men). When we left they jeered at us and said BYE GIRLS.
Why do I always get this reaction from older men? I am not a slut and not a flirt.
I am an advocate of people being able to dress the way they wish. I think that if you have a great figure you should be able to show it off and be proud of it w/o crude remarks. There is nothing you can do about these people. Some people are just rude and feel they have the right to say or do whatever they want. Learn not to let it bother you. They just don’t get it and you or I can’t teach it to them.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
okay, there's this guy i've gone out with 3 times before and i still like him a lot..okay i'd say he's my first "true" love..and well after 7 months i still like him a lot and the other day he asked me to go to a football game in his town. (we live about 15 minutes away) and i told him i wasn't sure if i was gonna go and he's like "what why?!" and i'm like "do you want me to go?" and he said "YES!" and i ended up going and i had blast..but i really like him and he knows i still do but i don't know how he feels. i'm thinking he may have some feelings for me since he really wanted me to go to the game..but other girls in his town like him and stuff..and idk what to do..i've messed up so much with him but i love him a lot. what do i do? how do i find out if he likes me without actually asking him? i can't ask his friends because he doesn't tell them that stuff..i just have no idea what to do. i want him back..i miss him so much. he know's that i was happier with him. i really love him..how can i get him back? please help me! i'll rate you high!♥
I can feel ya! Boy have I ever been there. I don't know the two of you well enough to be able to tell you how to get him back. I do know something that I can suggest you not do anymore. When he asks you out simply say yes or no. It might start wearing on him if you keep fishing for how he feels about you. He wouldn’t ask you out if he didn’t like you. It sounds like he just needs some patience and space right now. If you give him that you could end up with exactly what you are looking for.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
ok so im 5 5....5 6 and im 124 pounds i think im overweight but alot of my friends say im skinny and some of my guy friends who mess round and pic me up say im light but when i look in the mirror i dont see skinny i see fat
am i fat or overweight/healthy
No, you are not overweight. A healthy woman your height should weigh from around 118-130 lbs. This depends on body structure like, big bone, little bone. If you feel that you look fat you might want to start a light workout program. This could be anything from walking three times a week or maybe riding your bike. You could join the Y; they have all kinds of programs like body-sculpting and aerobics classes that could help streamline you. Muscle weighs more than fat, so, you could end up weighing more but looking like you’re a lot skinnier. Limit fatty foods. Stop eating white bread and opt for whole wheat bread. Don’t drink those sugary sodas choose fruit juices or water instead. You should be drinking water in the amount of 50-66% of your body weight in ounces a day anyway. Add more fresh raw fruits and vegetables to your diet. Cut down on eating beef. Not only is it not healthy because of the hormones, steroids and antibiotics that they put in it, but it’s fat content is bad for your heart. If you start practicing good habits in eating and exercise now you will not have the problems that a lot of older people experience with weight gain and aging.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
I have a round, reddish-white bump on my inner labia. My labia that it is on is swelling up and it hurts A LOT. My mom said it might be a labial cyst but I'm so scared I might have an STD. I haven't had sex before, but haven't done anything sexual for like a month or so.
Please don't delete this.. I'm really scared and need to know what's going on.
There is a gland called the bartholin’s gland which is a tiny gland inside each of the labia near the opening of the vagina, one gland on each side. They produce fluid that lubricates the vagina. There are tiny ducts in the gland and if those get 'clogged' up by skin cells or secretions, it can form a cyst - (a fluid filled sac). The cyst can grow from the size of a dime to larger than a golf ball. They can be tender and very painful when they are infected. Sometimes they aren’t painful at all and you just wake up one morning with a swelling on one side of your vagina, don't panic, there is help. What caused this annoying cyst? Sometimes they are caused by an infection in the Bartholin’s gland, but not always. The painful ones tend to be infected. Usually the infection is from the normal bacteria that are found on your skin and in your vagina. Virgins get these annoying cysts too, it doesn't only happen to females that are sexually active, so don't be afraid to tell your parent that you need to see a gynecologist.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
this is more to add on the 2 questions i have bout my ex wantn to be friends..i dont understand what to do. last nite he called and said asked what we were going to do and i said i didnt care well we decide we would figure it oud later so i was getting ready and he txtd me and told me that he didnt want me to come over anymore cuz he had hmwk and it would be to wierd if i came over well i started crying and i calld him and asked him y he told me to come over and then change his mind. he said he didnt want to hurt my feelings by telling me so he did it in a txt. well i was balling b/c it hurt my feelings that he was going to do that and then he said that he would put hes hmwk aside and hang out so i went over there and we went to the college and playd basketball for about an hour or more then went to his house and watchd the texas game. he was falling asleep so i told him to go to bed and i went in his room with him and all my stuff is still on his walls and i tucked him in bed and gave him a hug and kissed his forehead. well i was driven home and i sent him a txt saying that i had a good time and he said he did to. i got home and i sent him another txt saying that i still cared about him and i wished that we could be together well this morning i told him want i wanted outta this relationship and he said sounds good. and i asked him to tell me what he wanted and he sent one back saying that he was doing his hmwk and that he couldnt talk now. i just dont understand him...HELP!
I don't want to hurt you anymore than you've already been hurt, but you must face facts. He has been trying to tell you that he doesn't want to be in a boyfriend/girlfriend situation with you. Believe me, I know how badly you feel. Tears are welling up in me know. Iâ??ve gone through this myself. He really is being sweet about it and he comes off as a nice person. I know this will be hard for you, but you must have nothing more to do with him until you can regain your strength. Being friends isn't possible for you right now. Invite some of your girlfriends over to be with you so you donâ??t feel so lonely. Get a group of people together to go to the movies, etc. Keep yourself busy until this passes, and it will pass. Then, before you know it, there will be someone else knocking at your door and you and he can be friends. I know it is hard to think about that right now, but itâ??s true.Also, he could simply need some space. You may have been coming on a little strong for him right now which is more of a reason to leave him alone for now.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
I was due for my period about 10 days ago and it sitll hasnt come...is this bad??and when will it come again?
(i have had it for about 3 or 4 years now)
rate 5's for anything
ohh and im not pregnant
Missing a menstrual period is a lot more common than most people realize. This is often called amenorrhea, which is the technical word for absence of menstrual periods. Missed periods are often caused as a result of undergoing a lot of stress. Stress can upset the normal hormonal balance in your body, causing your period to come late, or skip for one month. Some other characteristic causes of missed periods include undergoing any major changes in your life, such as moving, starting a new job, or changed eating or exercise habits. Loss of significant amount of weight can also cause you to miss a menstrual period. If you find that this condition persists over a few months, you should make an appointment with a doctor.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
Hi . For spainish i have to make a visual-poster for the day of the dead. I have NO IDEA what to do. It has to look mexican .. im planning on using either white or black psterboard. Any ides what to put on it ? Something easy and inexpensive .. its due tomorrow ( no im not a procrastinator i just got it friday and i was gone all yesterday and friday night ! ) At the top il prbly put dia de los muertos in red letters .. and i have to write a paragrph describing the difference between halloween and day of the dead .. but im not worried about that . I think theres something with a bride and groom skeletons right ? so maybe i can draw them or something ? PLEASE give me some ideas !! thanks !
This celebration is traced to many Mesoamerican native traditions and ritually presided by the "Lady of the Dead", and dedicated to children and the dead. In the Aztec calendar, this ritual fell roughly at the end of the Gregorian month of July and the beginning of August, but after the Spanish conquest it was moved by Spanish priests so that it coincided with the Christian holiday of All Hallows Eve. This was one of many efforts to transform local pagan holidays into a Christian celebration. The result is that Mexicans now celebrate the day of the dead during the first two days of November, rather than at the beginning of summer. The modern festivity is characterized by the traditional Mexican blend of ancient aboriginal and introduced Christian features. The holiday's activities consist of families welcoming their dead back into their homes, and visiting the graves of their close kin. At the cemetery, family members engage in sprucing up the gravesite, decorating it with flowers, setting out and enjoying a picnic, and interacting socially with other family and community members who gather there. In both cases, celebrants believe that the souls of the dead return and are all around them. Families remember the departed by telling stories about them. The meals prepared for these picnics are sumptuous, usually featuring meat dishes in spicy sauces, chocolate beverages, cookies, sugary confections in a variety of animal or skull shapes. Gravesites and family altars are profusely decorated with flowers, and adorned with religious amulets and with offerings of food, cigarettes and alcoholic beverages. Because of this warm social environment, the colorful setting, and the abundance of food, drink and good company this is a highly revered holiday.
There is a celebration that is similar to this that is practiced right here in the United States. It is called All Saints Day. This is practiced in New Orleans and the people do much of the same things they do in Mexico. People go to the gravesites of their loved ones and wash their gravesites. This tradition may have started here because both the French and Spanish started New Orleans. Cajuns are the mix of French and Spanish.
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LULABELLE
What do you say when a guy asks you out. I'm only thirteen, so things don't come naturally. Do you just say "yes"? But that sounds like when someone asks you to marry them!! I think too much about simple things. CAn someone help mee?!?! Don't call me dumb please because you're just stating the obvious!
I'll rate honestly.
You’re not dumb. You are just feeling uncomfortable with a new experience. If someone you like asks you out say yes. Believe me he's not ready for that walk down the isle either. If someone you don't like asks you out say no. Under most circumstances you will have a miserable time with him. Every once in a while someone will turn out to be different than you thought they'd be and you'll have a great time. That is rare. If someone likes you that you aren't sure of, get to know them first.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
For a class in school, I have to do a debate against someone in front of the whole class. My topic is lowering the drinking age. I am AGAINST it..(con) I need to be able to talk for 2-5 minutes with GOOD facts, statistics, etc..about why I think that the drinking age should NOT be lowered. Then we are going to argue it out til one of us wins! I am doing this debate against my b/f! He is going to argue that it should be lowered. So I need some good facts that are reasons to be AGAINST lowering it! I am also afraid that I am not going to know what to say b/c I will get nervous and embarrassed! please help me out. If you need any more information please let me know!! I need help!!!!!!!! Any information you can give me will be great! (advice on how to not feel stupid/get embarrassed OR any facts about my topic..) thanx!
I'm not filled with facts and figures with regards to this issue. I don't know anyone who would be. I have included a couple of web sites I think will be helpful to you. The first one is against lowering. The second gives you both sides of the issue. This way you can see what possible arguments your boyfriend might come up with.
http://www.cspinet.org/booze/mlpafact.htm
http://inst.sfcc.edu/~hfl/speech/drinkage.htm
Good Luck on yur debate,
LULABELLE
Let me ask you all reading my post right now: What is it called when you take a piece of a living being to create another living being? 'Playing GOD' right? We all know it better as Cloning! So lets speculate that a higher life form manipulates the DNA of a primate by adding their own DNA, or "creating them in their own image". Then they take a piece of their creation, lets just say "a rib" for example and make another one just like it only the opposite gender, (so they can reproduce naturally). That's creation, and with creation comes a natural side effect, evolution. Evolution is adaptation to survive in your surroundings. Please do not comment on my question if you are going to tell me that this is absurd. I have read the bible many times and have been a Christian, a Catholic, a Protestant and a Mormon. I have studied many other religions and they all confirm that God created Adam in his own image, God took a rib from Adam to make Eve. Thousands of years of history prove that we are evolving with every generation. So what religion am I if I believe in creation and evolution?
You might want to check out Buddhism. They have a good combination of science and spirituality within their belief system. I believe as you do and I follow the teachings of Paramahansa Yogananda. I’ll include his web site for you. His ministry is called The Self Realization Fellowship. Start off by reading, “Autobiography of a Yogi”. It is an amazing book. He includes Jesus Christ in his teachings. What most people don’t know is that Jesus spent some time in India before he started his teachings. Also check out David Ike. I include his web site at the bottom of this answer. He’s a conspiracy theorist. I don’t believe everything he writes, but he does make some excellent points on many different levels starting with government to spirituality. Read him with an open mind. You will know in your heart what is true and what is not. In the Bible you can find evidence for your theory. Remember, the people of those times didn’t know necessarily what they were seeing, so, they had to explain it the best way they knew how. Look in the book of Genesis; I can’t remember the exact section. My bible is packed, I moved recently. Anyway, in Genesis it talks about how fallen angels came from the sky and were so enamored with earth women. They took them as wives and had children. These children were giants. Now think about it, wouldn’t we be considered giants to most primates? The first bipedal primate was very short. Anyway, there are other sacred writings that didn’t make it into the bible, which explains this, further. It was also these angels who taught us how to wear makeup. Which is why some religions ban makeup.In the book of Enoch, he writes that these giants have spread throughout the earth, where in Genesis they said they killed them. Remember, the world was not able to communicate as we do today. Their world could have been a few hundred miles maybe a thousand. In Columbus’ day they thought it was flat. All the giants within their known world could have been killed. That doesn’t mean others couldn’t have escaped. Let me take a moment to explain a few things about the bible. The bible is mixed with a lot of fiction and fact. It is difficult to discern what is real. For example the story of Noah’s Arch. It has been proven by scholars that Noah was actually an ancient Sumerian King who was the inspiration for the great epic Gilgimesh as will as Noah. To set this up I have to explain something. In ancient Samaria if you did not pay your debts on time you were thrown in prison, even if you were a king. So, this king had a customer that he was to deliver animals, in pairs, and fruits and vegetables along with wine. He and his family were sitting on deck of his ship having a picnic when a sudden storm came up and swept them down the Euphrates River into the Persian Gulf. It flooded the land and all they could see was water everywhere ("water, water everywhere, but not a drop to drink," the Gilgimesh epic). To them their world was flooded. They lived on the food they had on board and drank the wine as water because they had no fresh water. The water that surrounded them was salt water. Eventually a bird landed on the boat and they knew they were near land. Finally they got to land. The king knew he could never go back to his old kingdom because he was now passed his deadline (in those days they couldn’t be one day late no matter what the reason). He would be thrown in prison. So, they started a new kingdom (world). This would explain how his sons and daughters could marry other people outside of the family and where they came from. This could also answer the question of how Atom and Eve's children married outside the family. Anyway,two ancient Hebrew scribes were in Samaria and heard this flood story. They thought it would be a great story to teach a lesson by. They wrote the story of Noah. So, I guess what I’m saying is; the Bible is filled with parables and factual stories to teach a lesson. How do you tell the difference? The whole thing about getting to know God is truly getting to know yourself. Once you do that you will find God. You know in your heart what is true. Believe in yourself.
http://www.davidicke.com/
http://www.yogananda-srf.org/
welll this is kind-of like, comfusing.
Last night i went on a hayride with about 11 friends.. and my friend A brought her boyfriend.. and he brought a friend with him.. and he looked lonely so me and my friend D were always going over to talk to him.. and then they kept telling me to give him a hug but i kinda shyed away because i just met him.. so D gave him a hug and he looked at me while he was hugging her and then on the actual ride (that was all standing in line) i sat on the end and D was next to me, him next to her, and a girl next to him, and we gave him some of the blanket we brought.. and then we switched so i was sitting next to him and when i was scared D dared me to hide my face on his shoulder so i did and he smiled down at me and stuff and then he wouldnt laugh so I made him laugh by making a joke about something and stuff. and then while me and D were waiting to get picked up she was like "I think he liked you because in line he kept looking at you with the 'Oh she's cute' look. And he smiled at you when you dug her face into his shoulder."
what do you think?
That sounds like so much fun. I think your friend is right. I think he was attracted to you. Enjoy it!
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
ok. so i made out with him.
and it was unthinkable amazing.
he usually calls 2x a day just to say he's thinking about me, leaves notes in my locket, sweet stupid stuff. it's like a long weekend and he didnt call so
i had 2 call him the night after. fine.
its been 3 days since then.
he hasn't called. ouch.
why?
am i that bad at making out?
or is it something to do with him?
plz just tell me the truth...even if it sucks.
id rather know.
thanx.
No, it is not you. It could be that he is out of town or something and is unable to contact you. If he didn't go out of town, then, it could be that it wasn't as good for him as it was for you. Which could mean he is one of those guys who loves the thrill of the chase and once he's caught you he's done. That doesn't mean you aren't any good. It means he is looking for specifics, which makes him very rigid in what he is looking for. You wouldn’t want to be involved w/someone like that anyway. They would always be telling you how they want you to be and you would always be falling short. I know it hurts, but it doesn't hurt as much as it would if you got involved deeply with someone like this. These people are usually charismatic and very sweet while they pursue you, but life with them is forever filled with ups and mostly downs. You may be very lucky. Or, it could be that something else has happened to make it impossible for him to call you. Whatever the answer, don’t worry. You are a wonderful person. He would not have gone after you in the first place if you were not. Don’t call him again. If you don’t hear from him again within a week move on. There is definitely something better out there for you. This could simply be an experience that will show you how lucky you are when you meet that exceptional person.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
Problem- Last year, CA and CB were best friends. CA use to go out with BG, but BG dumped her in August, but CA is still very inlove with him. Now they both have gone put with a couple of other people, but ofcurse CA still loves him. Now, at the end of October, BG starts to like CB, and vise versa. CA is super mad at CB because she said that "best friends are not supose to go out with people that there friend likes." Well to make a long story short CB and BG go out for like a week, and CA is SUPER mad at CB for doing that. Now CA's new best friend is KM. Well KM has liked ZK for about a week now, and and had heard that he might ask her out. Well CA decides about a week after KM told her she liked ZK that CA likes him too, but she knows that KM liked him first. Well the next time CA and KM see ZK, ZK asks CA out, and CA says yes.
Now here is the question- Don't you think it is wrong of what Ca did to KM? CA got all mad at CB for "breaking the rule" and going out with BG, but then the next week she does the same thing to KM.
Yep, she shouldn’t hold people to rules that she is unwilling to follow herself. Actually this is one of those universal reactions that I challenge you to start noticing. Whenever people make heated inflexible statements of this nature notice how the universe (God if you will) responds. That person is given the same situation to make a decision upon. Notice that the majority of the time the person will do the exact same thing that they complained someone else did. When confronted they usually say something like, well so and so did it or everyone does it anyway. As though that makes it acceptable. They are rationalizing their behavior. A little piece of advice, don’t say, I’ll never do(say) something. What will happen then is that a situation that you said you would never do(say) will come up and that which you said you would never do (say) will be the best solution to a problem that you are experiencing. You won’t like it but you will have to choose it. Oh, how I dislike this one. But, your friend was not in this last situation.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
i have these little bumps on my nipples. my mom said they were just like pimples, but yeah, they're not going away. and they're gross. well, not really that bad, they're just little bumps, weird huh? anybody know anything about this? should i go 2 a doctor?
There are a couple of things it could be. It is quite possible that they are mammary glands. These naturally appear on the areola (the circular pigmented area surrounding the nipple) and look like small pimple-like bumps. The purpose of these glands is to help women deliver milk to babies when they are breastfeeding. Also, the nipple is surrounded by hair follicles, and the hair can be found around the outside of the areola. The amount of hair varies from woman to woman and usually begins growing around puberty. This hair growth increases as you grow. This is completely normal and not a medical problem. It couldn’t hurt to be checked out by a doctor, but, if your mother isn’t worried, I wouldn’t worry.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
I won't really be shocked of nobody answers this, because it feels so unanswerable. But, my sister had a friend in my grade, and the friend talked really bad about my sister. So I told her it was bugging me, and she was really rude to me about it and used profanity in front of people at school. I ended up crying in the hall, and the next day my sister talks to her again when she knew I stuck up for her in a crowd of people. In other words, she doesn't care, I saw her talking to the girl today and I just wanted to scream and cry. Theres really no ending to her selfishness. I can't tell anyone, because it's a very long story, my mom doesn't care, my dad has no control. I'm just wondering how I can deal with my sister and mom treating me like crap without just screaming at them like always. It hurts to know that someone you stuck up for never even cared. What is the best way I can cope with this?
My heart goes out to you. I know you feel betrayed by all of this. I admire your convictions in sticking up for your sister. I’m saddened by your mother’s response in all of this. Because of how your mother is behaving I have to wonder if there are some factors concerning what this girl was doing that you are unaware of. What you might want to do is tell this girl that you don’t want to hear her talk about your sister in a derogatory manner in front of you. And, then, stay away from her as much as possible. She doesn’t sound like someone you’d want to be around. About your mother and sister. Things will eventually die down. They are just mad at you for some reason I can’t even begin to figure out. Don’t let it get you down.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
My boyfriend's brother's funeral was today and after it was all over with he wanted to go to Astroworld (an amusment park). I thought it was totally unappropriate because I thought he should have been with his family. But, I went anyways, for him. His brother had committed suicide and my bf never had any room in his life for suicide. Still though, it was his brother, ya know? Do you guys think that it was weird that he wanted to go there after his brother's funeral?
I know this sounds weird to you but not everyone expresses grief in the same way. I have a friend who when bad things happen to him all he wants to do is tell jokes. He did that at his father’s funeral. Going to the amusement park is actually an excellent idea. It will relieve him of the anger he is experiencing because of his brothers suicide. It gave him a momentary reprieve. When he says he has no room for anyone who commits suicide; that is his anger talking. He is angry with his brother. He can’t believe he did it. Anger is a normal part of the grieving process. It’s not unusual for people to express anger at the dead even if it was an accident. So, you can imagine how angry he must be when his brother did it on purpose. If he doesn’t get involved with any type of grief counseling you can expect him to deny his grief for some years to come.
I wish you the best of luck here,
LULABELLE
what do you get a guy for his birthday and christmas when he says he doesn't want anything?
Does he play a sport? If so, does he need anything? Does he like going to the movies? You could buy him a gift certificate there. Does he like music? You could get him a gift certificate at a record store. He could pick out his own CDs. Does he like clothes? Again with the certificate especially if you don't feel comfortable picking something out for him. What is his favorite foods/restaurant? Certificate. Also, listen to his conversation. People are always saying I wish I had this or I wish I had that. If any of that falls within your price range just go and buy it for him. For Christmas you could do a stocking for him by going to the cosmetic counters and get some men’s cologne samples then the dollar store and round up a lot of fun things to fill up a stocking. Don’t forget to include a card with anything you decide to do.
I hope this helped you to get your creative juices going.
LULABELLE
f/14....is it normal to get "wet" when your boyfriend makes out with you? a little bit of touching below the neck but not past the stomach?
Yes, it is normal to get "wet" when your boyfriend makes out with you. That means he is turning you on. To protect you and be sure that nothing else happens, I wouldn't let him touch any further down past the neck. Touching any other part of the body past the neck is stimulating and you may end up doing something you may wish you hadn't done. I would keep touching to a minimum.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
I have questions about Congenital heart defects
Like how does it affects a child physically and mentally? And how is detected?
This is something that I am not that well versed in. I have know direct knowledge with regards to this particular condition. So, what I've done is I've located a few websites that you can go to that will have the answers you are seeking. Here they are:
http://www.americanheart.org/presenter.jhtml?identifier=4565
http://www.heartpoint.com/congheartdx.html
http://www.cincinnatichildrens.org/health/heart-encyclopedia/anomalies/
Good luck in your quest!
LULABELLE