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I won't really be shocked of nobody answers this, because it feels so unanswerable. But, my sister had a friend in my grade, and the friend talked really bad about my sister. So I told her it was bugging me, and she was really rude to me about it and used profanity in front of people at school. I ended up crying in the hall, and the next day my sister talks to her again when she knew I stuck up for her in a crowd of people. In other words, she doesn't care, I saw her talking to the girl today and I just wanted to scream and cry. Theres really no ending to her selfishness. I can't tell anyone, because it's a very long story, my mom doesn't care, my dad has no control. I'm just wondering how I can deal with my sister and mom treating me like crap without just screaming at them like always. It hurts to know that someone you stuck up for never even cared. What is the best way I can cope with this?
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I'm sorry for the trouble hunny,
Talk to your friends sweetie. That's the best thing you can do. As with your sister, don't bother telling her anymore. Sometimes, it takes more than just telling her. She might have to see on her own. Just let her do what she wants. She'll end up seeing it for herself. It may kill you to know all this, but don't worry about it. Just talk to your friends.
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Dear Unaswerable,
I agree with some of the other Advicenators when it comes to talking to your sister about her choice in friends. Beyond that I think you should keep your distance from her and her friends. The negativity is rubbing off onto you. Anyone who yells and uses profanity has serious anger issues, you were just a way to vent them. Let your sister learn the hard way. Don't try and stand up for her, she obviously doesn't need you to. Get out and make your own friends but keep your life separate from hers. She will soon learn that girl is a backstabber.
I feel for you with the whole mom thing, but "screaming at them like always" tells me that there is a lot of yelling. You feel like no one is listening to you, or treating you badly. Try this: instead of going off in a yelling fit, or arguing with them, keep your mouth shut. Say nothing. Grab your notebook, go to a place of peace for you. Your room, a park bench, the library or where ever it may be (some place where you can calm down without any of them disrupting you). Then write down on paper how they made you feel. Write a letter to each one of them that made you feel bad. Now this is going to be hard, but you can do it, break the pattern and be stronger than they are. It sounds to me like their lives are out of control. Choose your words wisely. Do not be rude or use profanity. (Any negativity will escalate to another fight) Do not put anyone down, just tell them how they make you feel. Make sure to remind them of how much you love them and you are tired of being treated like that. Above all be honest. Spend more time around people who do not make you feel badly. Keep up with your school work and focus on things that make you happy. Take up a hobby that requires a lot of your time, but stay in school and focus on your life, not your sister's, OK. Take care of yourself and if you ever need me I am here! GOOD LUCK
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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My heart goes out to you. I know you feel betrayed by all of this. I admire your convictions in sticking up for your sister. I’m saddened by your mother’s response in all of this. Because of how your mother is behaving I have to wonder if there are some factors concerning what this girl was doing that you are unaware of. What you might want to do is tell this girl that you don’t want to hear her talk about your sister in a derogatory manner in front of you. And, then, stay away from her as much as possible. She doesn’t sound like someone you’d want to be around. About your mother and sister. Things will eventually die down. They are just mad at you for some reason I can’t even begin to figure out. Don’t let it get you down.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
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ok well you should def. talk to your sister about it how she is friends with her and she talks about you. and if she was really your sisters friend she shouldnt be talkin about you anyway. so talk to your sister how you dont think its right that she does those things
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the best way is to talk to your sister about it and if that dosn't work then tell your sisters friend that if she really is her frined then why do you talk bad about her but i you shouldn't take crap from her if your sister dosn't care at all just forget about it and soon engough things will change
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