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this is more to add on the 2 questions i have bout my ex wantn to be friends..i dont understand what to do. last nite he called and said asked what we were going to do and i said i didnt care well we decide we would figure it oud later so i was getting ready and he txtd me and told me that he didnt want me to come over anymore cuz he had hmwk and it would be to wierd if i came over well i started crying and i calld him and asked him y he told me to come over and then change his mind. he said he didnt want to hurt my feelings by telling me so he did it in a txt. well i was balling b/c it hurt my feelings that he was going to do that and then he said that he would put hes hmwk aside and hang out so i went over there and we went to the college and playd basketball for about an hour or more then went to his house and watchd the texas game. he was falling asleep so i told him to go to bed and i went in his room with him and all my stuff is still on his walls and i tucked him in bed and gave him a hug and kissed his forehead. well i was driven home and i sent him a txt saying that i had a good time and he said he did to. i got home and i sent him another txt saying that i still cared about him and i wished that we could be together well this morning i told him want i wanted outta this relationship and he said sounds good. and i asked him to tell me what he wanted and he sent one back saying that he was doing his hmwk and that he couldnt talk now. i just dont understand him...HELP!
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I don't want to hurt you anymore than you've already been hurt, but you must face facts. He has been trying to tell you that he doesn't want to be in a boyfriend/girlfriend situation with you. Believe me, I know how badly you feel. Tears are welling up in me know. Iâ??ve gone through this myself. He really is being sweet about it and he comes off as a nice person. I know this will be hard for you, but you must have nothing more to do with him until you can regain your strength. Being friends isn't possible for you right now. Invite some of your girlfriends over to be with you so you donâ??t feel so lonely. Get a group of people together to go to the movies, etc. Keep yourself busy until this passes, and it will pass. Then, before you know it, there will be someone else knocking at your door and you and he can be friends. I know it is hard to think about that right now, but itâ??s true.Also, he could simply need some space. You may have been coming on a little strong for him right now which is more of a reason to leave him alone for now.
Good Luck!
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This is where I think you should cut it off and stop telling him your feelings. Obviously he doesnt tell you exactly what he wants or what he feels. Thats not an even relationship (a friendship is a relationship). It's not fair for you to put it all on the line and get nothing back in return. He didnt really want to hang out with you, but didnt want to hurt your feelings. Maybe he doesnt want to be with you but doesnt want to hurt your feelings. I think you should continue the friendship without telling him how you really feel for a while. He may not be sure of what he wants. By telling him what you want you're just opening the door to being hurt.
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I think that he doesnt know what he wants right now and the only thing that makes sense to him is to just be friends. Then he thinks that he needs you so he wants to be with you. You should just wait and be patient and whatever he decides you have to support him. The best thing for you is to find someone else who wont hurt you like he did. I think that if you guys get back together he will do the same thing again. You deserve better in my opinion.
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boys are so confusingggg!!!! i think you should leave it up to him. obviously he's going back & forth about it so there's nothing else you can really do. unless he truly does have hw to do idk. talk to him about how you feel & then let him decide.
-hope that helped!♥
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