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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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16/f--I have this friend whos mormon. She's really nice & everything, but she's always trying to get me to go to church with her. But the thing is, I'm a proud Christian. I love learning about new religions, cultures, lifestyles, etc. But going to church with her is something I don't really want to do. Also, I've talked to my mom about it, and she doesn't want me to go either. Part of my not wanting to go, is that I've talked with a few people who have gone to church with her (also friends of ours) and they've said that they take down your name, address, number and sometimes take your picture. And thats not something I feel comfortable with. My church on the other hand, won't do that. They'll treat you like a guest and they tell you, you aren't obligated to do anything. But for some reason, everyone has said that the mormons try to talk you into some things. And I'm not disagreeing and bashing on the mormon religion, but its not something I want to be a part of and I've pretty much kept my feelings to myself rather than spreading them or whatever. But I don't know what to tell my friend when she invites me places anymore. Usually I'll say "I'm doing something" or 'I can't wake up that early'. And I feel bad. And now, my other best friend just became mormon...so I'm not sure what to do. And I don't know if my friend's mom would want her to come to church with me, since she's really overprotective (I was thinking mabe we would both experience other churches, but it might be a bad idea).

By just making weekly excuses, she will think that at some point you will come, and therefore continues to ask.

Tell her you appreciate the invitation, but you are not interested. You enjoy the church you attend. If she keeps persisting, politely ask her to stop asking. Hopefully she'll get the idea.

I have a boyfriend and I love him and trust him with all my heart. The only problem is, I get really paranoid when he talks to other girls in case he decides he likes them better than me. I trust him and I know he wouldn't do anything behind my back I'm just so paranoid that he'll find someone else and leave me for them. How do I overcome this?

You say you trust him, yet your paranoid. Could this be because of low self esteam? Do you think you are not good enough? Well stop it, and start believing in yourself. He's lucky to have you!

I have been wondering if the person you like or you keep thinking who'll end up with you in marriage would usually be the person you'll really get married to. Because in my situation, I've always thought that he'll be the one and don't get it wrong, I have deep feelings for him. But there's this another guy who last time cares for me but now i think not anymore. i just think. But I'm afraid maybe the person i think would be the one for me, wouldn't really be? I know it sounds complicated but it's really giving me a problem. Pls. help me.

It is extreamly rare for the person(s) you date in high school to be the one you end up with. People change so much going into their 20s. Just have fun for now. Your not going to get married any time soon, so there is no need to worry about who you'll end up with.

Im 15 years old and me and my boyfriend are haveing sex with out a condom and the other night he went in my twice can i still get pregnet even if im on the pill????

It makes me so mad to know how dumb people are. You should know these things before you have sex!

No matter what form of contraceptive you use, there is always still a chance of getting pregnant. So if you can't handle the responsibility, don't do it.

if you color a heart on your stomach then lay out in the sun, will the part that is colored still get sun or not? i wanna color it so that ican see how much sun i got in that day.

A sticker would be much more effective.

... there's a man who's hittin' on me. I'm 20 he's 13 yrs my senior, married but no kids. I don't like him at all, but it seems that he CANNOT stop thinkin' 'bout/of me. I've been dealin' with this since Valentines, and i've ignored him (it been exam period so I don't see him as often in the halls), told him i wasn't interested and that he should stick to his wife. But Now that exams are over, He's back to haunt me. I'm not sure wat to do. I do not want to call the police because he's not stalkin' me, or callin' me or hurtin' me (except mentally and emotionally). Because of him, i'm shyin' away from all guys. And its not fair to the ones that are really interested in me. WHAT DO I DO?
signed,
NOM.

You can call the police! He is harassessing you. Next time he bothers you, threaten him with a restraining order. If that doesn't scare him off, actually get a restraining order will. Don't feel bad for trying to protect yourself (even emotionaly).

i have a friend and she cuts, does drugs, drinks everything you can think of that's bad she does it or has done it and i'm really worried about her she does it because her dad beats her and she doesn't really like to talk about her problems it's so hard for me to get her to talk to me she said i'm the only person she trusts and she doesn't want me to worry about her but i do. she says she doesn't need help and she's fine but sometimes it's so bad that she flinches when someone barely touches her or when she laughs and i've had to talk to her out of killing herself over 5 times. i really don't know what to do anymore how can i help her?

I don't think you can help her. She is suffering from abuse, low self esteam and depression. She needs professinal help! If she has been threatening to kill herself, and her dad is beating her why would you not tell someone! Tell you parents and school counsler about the problem. They can take steps to get her the help she needs. Being there for her is one thing, but keeping her problems a secret will only hurt her more.

A week ago today, I accidently poked myself in the eye with mascara in the morning. Since then, the bit which I poked has been red and blood shot. My Mum said it was like a bruise and would probably go soon but it's been a week now and it seems to be getting worse. What is wrong with it? What should I do?

Your eyes are the fastest healing part of your body. Because it has been over a week, and you eye is getting worse rather than better, you should deffiently see a docotor. You most likely have an infection and will need antibiotics.

i always try many different shampoos conditoners and liquid bodywashes and none of them seem to feel or smell good. does anybody know any of those three things that smell and feel sexy?

i rate high if you dont give me soap bars and 2 in 1 shampoo and conditioners!

What smells good is so different for everyone. My suggestion is to go to the store and smell the soaps before you buy it. Then you know what you are getting. And when you run out, buy something different so you don't get tired of the smell. I currently have 4 different body washes and 2 shampoos in my shower; I just use the one I am in the mood for.

my friend's dad is a graphic designer and i was wondering if you could explain the occupation for me. im interested in doing that when im older. thanks!

What is nice about this field is that there is a wide variety of things you could do. You could do anything from designing logos, packaging, ads, coupons, CDs and book covers, typography, or manipulating and restoring photos. Really most everything you see that has graphics and text has been touched by a graphic designer.

I work at a catolog company where I do page layout. It's a lot like putting together a puzzle, and making it look good at the same time. I have to be very detail oriented, especially while formatting copy. Everything has to be spaced and lined up just right. There is no room for mistake- although you would be suprized how often you see them in ads and newspapers if you actually look. I also scan, prepare and manipulate images.

You should talk with your friends dad about it.

I don't know what's wrong with me. All my life I NEVER shed any of hair on my head. Hardly any hairs were left in my combs and brushes. Now all the sudden my hair has been falling out. Not just pieces of damaged hair, I'm talking the ROOT and everything. there was tons of hairs on my school uniform today and all my friends had to pick them off. If I run my fingers thru my hair there's a whole bunch of full hairs in my hand. This is not normal, what could be wrong? (there's no change in my diet)

The average person looses 100 hairs a day. It is just more noticable with people with long hair. Try brushing your hair throughout the day to catch those loose strands.

I shed a lot! I wore a pink shirt today and i looked discusting!!! There was hair all over my shoulders. If anyone uses some kind of shampoo that eliminates this please tell me!! I don't want any expensive stuff that you have to go outside a supermarket for. Thanks a bunch!!!

The average person looses 100 hairs a day. It is just more noticable with people with long hair. Try brushing your hair throughout the day to catch those loose strands.

My cat has no cat fod and shes really really hungry..i loooked for some tuna at least for her but no, and teh pet store is closed, and i found some sardines..can i give my cat some sardines?? there was sardines in mustard, tomato sause, and soybean oil, should i give her the one in soybean oil or will it make her sick?? i need an answer quick cuz she needs her dinner!! thanks!

It would have been better to just not feed her for one day than give her junk that will make her sick. In the future, never give your cat tuna, fish or any human food. It is terrible for their digestive systems and can make them very sick.

well my eyes keep stinging latly around them.. there not red but they string like crazy and it makes me want to itch them more why is this and how can i stop the sting.. its like i been crying for ages .... and my eyes are stinging and also they keep feeling as if like an eyelash is in them and you just rub it and rub it till it goes away and when you open your eye it waters and hurts and feels as if something is in there, please help ima go put some water on them now xxx lush me please help

Don't put water in your eyes, it will just hurt them more. There are a lot of minnerals in water that could scratch your eye. Use a saline solution or eye drops instead to sooth them.

It could be eye strain, have you been in front of a tv or computer screen a lot lately? Take a break, and throw in some eyedrops.

If they are more itchy than anything, then it could be allergies - it is that season. They can suddenly develop at any point in your life.

I dont know what to do. My dad lives in Georgia, and I live in Mass., with my mom. Ive been thinking about how much i miss my dad, and how i want to live with him. But, I dont want to leave my mom and my friends here. How should i bring this up, and what should i do?! PLEASE HELP ME!

Before taking the extream and completely move, why don't you take an extended visit. Maybe spend the summer with your dad.

I met a wonderful man one month ago. We were dating happily for 2 weeks when all of a sudden his ex-girlfriend now wants him back. They have 2 children together. He is now not sure what to do, he doesn't think she will ever commit, but he thinks he needs to try for the kids. He phones me every night and at the moment we are just friends. Do you think I stand a chance at keeping this man, and any advice on how I can keep him. Do you think I should be bold and tell him that I want him and that I would be the best thing for him ? He does really like me.

Honestly, if you have been only going out for 2 weeks, I'd break it off before you get more attached. He has a lot of issues he has to deal with between his children and their mother. Until he figures things out, he is never going to be able to make a commitment to you. You can't tell him that you are the best thing for him because you don't know that. His children are his first priority, don't try to sway him otherwise.

I really don't know where to put this.

I was just downstairs doing my homework, and I yawned. It felt like something popped and then my tongue and the outside of my neck/jaw began to hurt. It is physically painful to move my head backwards (like to look up at the sky) because it pulls on my neck and tongue and I don't know what I did...

Maybe I just pulled a muscle? Please help...it is also painful to swallow, although bearable. It feels almost like the kind of cramp you get in your foot when you flex it and then it 'catches' and continues to flex by itself.

Yes, you may have just pulled a muscle, but you may also have popped your ear drum or have done something to your jaw. Sleep on it tonight, and if it still hurts tommarrow, go see your doctor.

ok their is theis guy on the internet whop thinks he is my dad i told him i had a bf and he said to dump that punk and i said he is not my dad and can not tell me what to do and he say he has called me daughter but he never has o some one plz help me

What do you need help with? Just stop talking to strangers online.

i take showers every day..i wash myself very good..im very clean and i have pimple/zit things on my butt..i dont kno wat they r and i dont kno how to get rid of them! IM ONLY 13 and im embarressed by themmm!! How do i get rid offf themmmmmmmmmm.THANK u so much

Use a lufa and a sugar or exfoliating scrub.

My eyelashes are really long meaning i cant wear Mascara becuase it makes them look even longer and weird. is there any mascara i can buy (that they sell in England) that will be ok for long eyelashes and wont make them look really long? thanks
xxxx

Do you need to wear it? That is the whole point of mascara, to make your eyelashes to appear longer. If they are long, then what is the point? If you must, wear a clear mascara.

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