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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice. I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.
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me + him both 16
theres this kid that i like and i think he likes me too because in the one class we have together he sits in the front and i sit in the back and every once in a while he looks back at me and smiles and always makes an effort to walk next to me in the halls when we're headed in the same direction. our class is a drawing class so we're always up moving around and chatting but besides talking in the halls and in class we dont really talk but i want to get to know him to see if he really likes me or not. oh by the way he's a friend of a friend so we did go trick-or-treating together and he came to my sweet 16 (uninvited but i didnt mind). ok so on to my question. i want to get to know him better without seeming like a creepy stalker. about a week ago we became myspace friends but i want to actually talk to him...more than the minute in the hallway. so i've known him for about 2 years now, talking to him since september and flirting for about a month...maybe 2 months. anyway is it too soon to ask for an AIM screen name??
One suggestion I can think of, is having a get together with all your friends at a local hang out spot. Then, tell him that you and a group of people are going to blank and see if wants to join you guys. If he goes, then you can get more face to face talking time with him and get more information that you want. You could always say something along the lines of, "hey, I know you have myspace, but do you have AIM?" If he does, write your name down and tell him to add you. Just do the flirting and friendly thing with him that night, and hopefully, things will only get better from there. Good Luck!!
Does anyone know the remedy that's in the book "Stop Sweating and Start Living"? I can't afford the book and my parents won't buy it for me. So does anyone know what the remedy is that has helped many people?
It's really embarressing and I hate sweating. x_x Please help.
I don't know about the book, but I have found a product that works wonders on keeping sweat down to a minimum and doesn't leave you smelling like sweat at the end of the day. You can use any of the clinical, prescription strength deodorant. Also, you can use deodorant in different places. I am assuming you are female, or at least I hope since I have made the assumption, but you could put it under your breasts, on the inside of your thighs, and under your arms of course. It helps. Good Luck!! *If you are a guy, I wouldn't suggest putting it under your breasts, since you probably don't sweat there. EEEKKK, please be a female!! lol
hey! ok, so i'm 15/f. Well, I've really been wanting to loose some weight latley. I don't even know why it's just been on my mind a lot lately. All I can think about during the day is how much I want to loose weight. I'm about 175 pounds. I know it sounds bad, but I'm not like huge. I am bigger though. My best friend is about the same size and a while ago I had brought up something about this summer maybe going to the YMCA and working out. She said that she probably would, but i would like to somewhat start now. I will wait for the Y for the summer because I'm so busy with school right now, but I would like to start eating healthier now. But the only thing is, I don't know about healthy foods. Like, I want healty foods but I would like them to be tasty. I don't like salads that much, but then again, I haven't tried them for a while. I think I would like them more if it had some grilled chicken or something in it. But another thing is, I haven't talked to my friend about this in a while, and I don't know what she would really think about it. I think it would be eaiser to do if I had a friend to do it with, but if she doesn't want to, then I'll deffintaly still do it. So give me ANY advice and ideas about me loosing weitght please!! About food, workouts, how to ask my friend, anything!! thanks!!
In most of the posts I answer about losing weight, I always suggest trying the exercise ball. It helps you use the muscles that you are not used to using. You have to stay balanced on the ball and do the exercises. It is great fun for me.
Also, it is a great idea to do this with a friend. It will be like a support system for each other. You could always say something like, hey I was thinking of ways we could start working out sooner together than this summer. Tell her that you would like to start doing a small workout routine about 3 times a week and see if she is willing to come over and do this with you.
Also, about the food aspect, just cut out most of your carbs, sugars, and high fat intake. It takes some time, but mainly read labels on your foods to get an idea of what is more fattening than others. One thing to stay away from, is prepackaged foods, such as: T.V. dinners, preboxed dinners (hamburger helper and such), high sugary drinks, switch to diet, even packaged lunch meat is high in sodium and preservatives. Another thing that is high in sodium that you should stay away from is canned soups. Sodium causes you to retain water, and makes you not lose weight. Drink plenty of water. Good Luck!!
ok i am like 14 and i am not shy around boys at all ive kissed boys and stuff and i have had them sleep over and didnt do anything...and i am like nervous to make out cause i dont think i know how? so how do you? and i have a new bf! HELP
The good thing about making out, there is not a uniform set standard to do it. It is something that comes naturally. Your body will react when you start kissing him, and then you will just do the rest without even thinking. Women have a tendancy to become sexual being that ignite passion so easily, you don't even realize you are doing it. So, my suggestion is to just relax, enjoy, and go with the flow. You will know what's right and what is wrong. If that still doesn't help ease your mind, watch a few movies that you know have some steamy make out scenes, and take notes from there. At least you will have a demonstration instead of just getting notes and no visuals. I hope that makes sense. Good Luck!!
I'm not from the states. I don't know your systems and stuff. I want to apply for college in the US, but i have one basic question. What is credits? It's always by course listings? I don't understand...What do they measure? Please help!
Credits are points that you earn to get your degree. If you are going for an Associates Degree, you usually have to have 60 credits to graduate. For each course, you get anywhere from 2-4 credit points. It should show you how many credits you get for each class you attend. So, if you were to take 5 classes in one semester, and they were all 3 credit points each (which they normally are), then you have gained 15 credit hours for one semester. That leaves you 45 more credit hours to go. Usually, you have to be in school for 4 semesters to get a degree equaling 60 credit hours. I hope this makes sense. Good Luck!!
i live in ireland and im fifteen which means i am aloud work 8 hours a week while in school.i do have a job (8 hours a week) waitressing and i get €7 an hour.realy good pay and i also baby sit the odd weekend but im in school and this year we go on alot of trips which i will have to pay for with little help from parents.
so does anyone have a get rich quick scheme that im not already doing and doesnt break the law!
please help
Unfortunately there is no get rich scheme out there. If it is offered, it's probably a scam.
Here is what I would suggest, hold fundraisers. Different fundraising opportunities could be:
1. bake sales
2. offering services, i.e.- walking dogs, cleaning up yards, cleaning houses, etc..
3. garage sales
4. candy bar sales
5. car washes
You could also seek out the schools and churches for donations or help offerings. See if you can have others get involved to help. It could be a school wide activity to help all that needs to go on trips.
I hope I've helped. Good Luck!!
ok so we changed classes at the beginning of the semester. now i have spanish 3 [junior year] and i ended up with literally the HARDEST teacher for that class. i havent had spanish in over a year, and all he does is talk in spanish. seriously, no english. when he goes over things, he does it really really fast. im already SO confused and its only been two days, and its only review. im not the quickest person to catch on with a foreign language, and i know absolutely no one in the class so i cant get one of my friends to help me. i signed up to see the guidance counselor about a class change, but they're swamped so its taking awhile. im afraid that when i go in, they wont take me seriously because they think i just want a different teacher. which i do, but its honestly so i will pass the class. if i stay in this class, i seriously think i will fail or get a really bad grade, or else have to constantly stay after school for extra help, which i dont have time to do because i work and such. im an all A/B honors/AP student, and i dont want this class to screw up my GPA. what can i say to try to get them to put me in a different class? i seriously dont think ill pass if i dont =[
When I was in high school, I decided to take chemistry. That was the biggest mistake I had ever made. I couldn't understand a bit of it. So, for the first 9 weeks, I got a D. That was on my transcript. I went to my guidance counselor and told her exactly this "I am not very good at chemistry, it is too hard for me, and I'm afraid of what this is going to do to my transcript, plus I don't want to fail, I need to find a different class to attend." She arranged for me to start taking another class instead. In that class, I was making an A. So, here is what I suggest you tell your GC.
#1 You don't think you can successfully do this class.
#2 You don't want to have this on your permanent record.
#3 You don't want to fail.
#4 You need a different class.
Most guidance counselors have to try and fix the problems you are having, given that there is a way to fix it. In your case, there is. I wish you nothing but Good Luck!!
17 f
Ok i previously asked these 2 questions.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=526033
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=526152
ok, i know the chances of getting pregnant from pre-cum are very slim, but i still have a few concerns.
Ill recap everything briefly..
- My period was due around December 23rd but didnt come
- December 28th.. Oral on BF, there was precum for sure. Im guessing the pre-cum would of gone though considering it was oral.
- We stopped for him to finish off elsewhere
- He touched himself, and went to touch me, not sure if he had anything on his fingers, but i stopped him before his fingers got in.
- I asked my first question on the 3rd of January.
Anyway..
- My period is still late now
- Over the past few days i have had an unusual stomache ache, it does not feel like period pain
- I have been feeling a little sick
- I have been discharging a little heavier and a little more than usual
Maybe my body is playing tricks on me with the nausea and the stomache ache because i've been stressing about the whole situation.. and i infact have nothing at all to worry about.. My friend said that i may be getting the stomache aches because of my late period, but im not to sure?
I know my previous answers were to get a pregnancy test to knowfor sure but at the moment thats not possible.
Anyway i just want a few more opinions, what do you make of this?
Still haven't started yet? I'm one of the ones that tried to help before. I'm sorry you haven't started yet. Can you get to your local Health Department? Maybe, even try and get a doctor's appointment for something else and don't have your parent go in there with you. Tell the nurse that you may think you are pregnant and get a test done by that. If this isn't available, the only other option I can think of is to wait and see, since you can't go and get a pregnancy test. If need to, try and call around to different health clinics that are available. That is going to be your best bet. If you tell your mom that you are sick to your stomach and feel like you need to go to the doctor, and go from there. Not letting her in the exam room with you for privacy. The doctor cannot talk to your mom about the pregnancy issue. It's against the law. I hope to some degree, I have helped. If you need help, I'm here. Good Luck!!
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Have you tried talking to the school nurse? They too can't say anything to your parents. I'm brainstorming now...
im a fifteen yr old girl and i know everyone gains that extra few pounds after christmas nd my belly is fellin a bit on the wobbly side but i was just wondering is there any toning techniques or special foods i could eat or not eat to get my tummy fighting fit and ready for a bikini by march?or any sports i could try to keep the flab away?
help would be greatly appreciated
Have you tried using the exercise ball? It is great at working your stomach muscle because you are using your core to balance the ball. Other things that may help: running, walking, jogging, sit ups, crunches, and drinking lots of water. Good Luck!!
I just created a second e-mail address using msn but my new emial address is @hotmail.com and my old one is @msn.com. What's the difference? and can I change my new one to msn.com too?
MSN and Hotmail are the same service with different domain names. Now, they have added a new one to their ever extending list: live. So, now you have the choice of being blank@hotmail.com, blank@msn.com, and blank@live.com. Boy, why do they need so many? Sheesh.
Unfortunately, once you have an e-mail address, it cannot be changed. There is an option though, if you are wanting to combine the two, mail out an email to all the ones you want to have your new e-mail address to and delete the other one. Although, you can still try and make the other one the same. Say you have blank@msn.com and now you have blank1@hotmail.com, you can create another e-mail account for blank1@msn.com. Did that make sense?
I do believe with all three, you can still use msn messenger. So, that may be a plus. Good Luck!!
hey
so this may seem like a dumb question but im wondering how to cuddle with guys. I feel like every time i lay on their sholder or chest or something im like cutting off the circulation to their arm. Im not a big girl at all, i just dont want him(or me) to feel uncomfortable.
help please! xoxo
Just ask, "Hey, are you uncomfortable? I'm not hurting you am I?" If he says no it's fine, then you have nothing to worry about. If he says yes, then think of a better solution.
Cuddling is so easily compromised, there is no wrong way to do it. Just do what feels natural. It could be just sitting there close and holding hands, or laying down with your head on his chest. The possiblities are pretty much endless, but the only thing to remember is: communication is key in all relationships. If you want to know how he feels, it's best to ask him. He may adore that you are leaning on his shoulder or chest. Good Luck!!
so my "best friend" of 3 years is amazing.
but when shes around anyone but me she sometimes ignores me.and its not like i need her all the time to be right there i mean.. its kinda hard to explain. and when she's around her boyfriend ooh man! she always flirts with our(yes our)ex and i do like him and i think she likes him too. but she says she doesnt and that she loves her new boyfriend and stuff; but idk. she just makes me so frustrated when she ignores me and stuff for guys. i mean ill always be here and they most likely wont. so how do i stay calm and not flipp out on her. i know its partly jealousy but still the other part of it is frustration.
Well, I am not sure if this may be the approach you want to take, but I can offer to different scenarios for you to think about.
#1- Tell her how you feel. Let her know that what and why it bothers you about her. See if you two can work together on a solution that serves hers and your needs.
#2- Another suggestion would be, find more people to hang around with. If you have a fair share of different friends, you will not be so lonely. Besides, variety is the spice of life ;).
About your ex, if you still like him, maybe you should think about rekindling your romance. If this is an option for you or him for that matter. This way, when she starts flirting with him, you can kindly tell her that he is your boyfriend again and you would appreciate it if she wouldn't hit on him anymore.
Alot of times, friends will leave their other friends behind when they start having a relationship. They think, well, I want to spend all my time with him right now and noone else. The problem with that is, everyone needs friends. They are there for you when they need you, they will listen and they will be there when and if the guy goes away.
Just remind your friend that your friendship should mean more to her than that, and you aren't a total control freak and understand that she wants to spend time with her bf, but not ignore her other friends.
Good Luck!!
Although intercourse did initially hurt when my boyfriend and I first became active, it is far less painful now and actually feels good. So I'm alright with the intercourse but when he tries to finger me, it's painful. I'm just perplexed as to why two fingers hurts more than intercourse. His package is wider than two fingers so I don't understand. He thought he needed to clip his fingernails but they are quite trimmed and neat when he does it. Plus, it isn't that kind of pain. Any thoughts?
I would guess it could be two things, or a combination of both. First, he could be inserting his digits incorrectly making it more uncomfortable than his penis. His penis doesn't have a bone in it *strangely enough, given one of it's "nicknames"*, so it doesn't have that working against it. When his finger bones hit your pelvic bone, it can be a painful experience. Work around at new positioning of his fingers to see if it works better one way than another.
Also, he could be doing it when it's not wet enough to work comfortably. Try using a lubricant or more foreplay first.
I hope I've helped. Good Luck!!
I spent the majority of last year head over heels for this guy. He claimed that he felt the same way. Long story short, he was warm one week and cold the next. I had no idea what was going on in his head. Around June I decided I didn't want to get hurt anymore so I tried ignoring him the whole summer. It worked until I saw him at a friends house. I couldn't help, I fell again.
We're now dating and have been for almost 4 months. He tells me that he had problems last year and didn't know what he wanted and was just confused. He says that he finally realized what was in front of him. I am happy to be with him because I've never felt this way about a guy before..I can't explain it.
The problem is he hurt me so much last year and I just can't seem to get over it. When something about him comes up from last year I honestly want to break down and cry, it still hurts that bad. I've expressed this to him before and he feels awful about it and I know he regrets it. BUt I just can't get over it. Any help?
Unfortunately there is no quick fix for your feelings. All you can really do, is express them, learn from them, grow from them, and move on.
You are probably afraid that he is going to do the same thing to you again. That is why you keep holding on to the past. Everyone says "forgive and forget", but most of the time, people can forgive but never forget. That's why most people tend to hold grudges or keep walls up to protect ourselves.
If you try to think about the positive sides, when you start feeling upset about last years problem, maybe it will help you get through it.
Just remember, you are in this relationship again with new meaning. Don't worry about the past as much as work towards the future. Good Luck!!
ok I have a best friend who really likes this guy. She talks about him all the time. I think he likes her too because he flirts a lot with her. But he is kind of shy and I don't think he would ask her out. I really think she shuold ask him out but she says no and she doesn't think he will say yes. But I said give it a try because she is like obsessed with him. What should she do?
I would never say interfer in someone else's affairs, but at this point, maybe you could be the moderator in their hooking up. If you think he would be open with you, and she wouldn't get to upset, go up to him and ask him if he likes her. See if you can draw him out of his shell and start making some kind of move on her. Just a thought.
Also, if you don't want to do this, you could always just tell her "no guts, no glory" and see if she will take it from there.
Good Luck!!
ok so we just got back to school on wednesday because of winter break..and of course i hadnt talked to some ppl over break because well it was break..when i got back, i really wanted to talk to my friend kevin because i hadnt seen him in so long.well i actually really really like him and i missed him..anyway..on wednesday he smiled at me but that was really the only time he really acknowledged me..on thursday at lunch i looked over at his table and smiled and he kinda smiled back but then he like stared off into space and i could tell he was really thinking about something but idk what. then i was walking like right behind him and i know he saw me because he turned around and half glanced at me but didnt say anything.friday morning i was walking to 1st period with my 2 guys friends and we passed him but and he smiled at me but at lunch he didnt look at me once..[usually during lunch we smile at each other alot and he gives me alot of attention]..then when i passed him in the hall we made eye contact for like 3 seconds but then he kept looking straight foward and i could tell he was trying not to look in my direction.
i dont get why hes acting like this at all..i didnt do anything in the past 3 days to make him mad or not want to talk to me..i dont understand it even more because all of his friends would talk to me during the week.i cant stand it when he wont talk to me and it drives me crazy..i just get all upset and now i have to wait until monday to talk to him..that is if he even will talk.do you have any ideas as to why he wont talk to me?
any suggestions would be greatly appreciated
He may like you, and when you didn't try to contact him during the break, you hurt his feelings. Do you normally talk to him outside of school? Also, did you happen to say something about him around your mutual friends and it got back to him? If so, maybe that's what is wrong. If not, maybe he is really crushing on you and felt rejected over the break.
In any case, you should just go up to him and ask if everything is okay. Just be honest, direct, and don't let him get away until he answers you. You deserve at least that. If he tells you, work on making ammends, if you did something wrong. If he doesn't tell you, let him know that when he is ready to talk, you will be there, after all, you are friends.
Good Luck!!
14/f
im a freshman in highschool and my brother is a junior.i have a crush on his friend..lets call him chad =] one day at the ymca i was playing bball with my brother and his friends and chad showed up..we all played a few games and at the end my brother's friends were talking to me but chad wasnt..so i thought he didnt like me..but now i always pass him in the halls and he always says hey to me or he'll start talking to me lol.. so now i think we're friends.hes really cute and hes really nice..hes probably the nicest one of my brother's friends thats nice to me..i know thats probably why i like him..because sometimes i end up liking one of my brother's friends if hes nice to me or talks to me alot.me and chad are friends but how can i get him to see me as more than a friend??i dont want to ruin our friendship because we just started talking more and i dont want things to go wrong..but i feel like things could go really well if we went out..what should i do?
any advice would be appreciated :D
I have a brother that is 6 years older than me. I had the exact opposite problem. Every friend he had, liked me. It was flattering to say the least. In the end, I married one of his best friends. It was the best thing that has happened to me.
Funny thing is, he started coming on to me. I didn't have to do all the leg work. I will say this, IM's help alot. My brother was at his house and going through a lot at the time, and I was IMing him (my brother), when he just stopped talking to me. So, I started buzzing him (yahoo messenger) and the friend started talking to me from then on. It was over from there.
So, just try to intergrate yourself into your brothers activities with "Chad" and see what you can do. You can be a little flirty, but not obviously so, and see if he reciprocates. If he does, turn on more charm. If you do it in small steps, it may turn into something more. I wish you the best of luck!
15/m
I'm in love with my stepsister and i love to be around her also. She is also 15. I wait for the weekends when she comes over. She's fun to be around. I have a severe feer of rejection.
When she comes over to see the family, how does she act towards you? Does she flirt with you? Or, does she act like it is just a brother/sister relationship?
If you truly do like your stepsister, in all reality, there is nothing wrong with that. You two do not share the same blood, or heritage. It is still a touchy situation.
I don't want you to think I am trying to discourage you, I'm not. However, I always tell people to think about the pros and cons of any situation before jumping. That's what gets most of us into trouble. Leaping before thinking. Lord knows, I've done that one to many times.
I would suggest, getting to know your stepsister and trying to develop a good relationship with her, friends first. This way, there won't be rejection in the sense of denial of unspoken love. Does that make sense? I hope so.
After that, just see where it goes. You never know, she could fall hopelessly in love with you as well. Just keep in mind, it may be a little weird for her thinking that you two could be a couple because of the stepbrother issue. If that happens, don't let it get you down. She may actually like you, but not the situation, so it's not a personal rejection just a situational rejection.
I hope I have helped some, if not, or if you need more advice, then don't hesitate to write back. Sometimes, all we need is someone to listen to us and provide us positive feedback. Good Luck!!
this story is kinda complicated, but i dont know what to do.
the guy that i like, who is one of my best frenz, said that he has an issue wit alot of my close girl frenz, and that they get on his nerves.
bt i neva had a clue, until he told me to my face. i was rilli upset, and the thing is...
i think he likes me....
and i like him too....
but i dont want there to be an issue between him and my friends if we go out...
i love my girl frenz nd him too. i mean they are my best frenz.
ugh...wat do i do??????
This is a tough situation. You have to ask yourself a few questions, before you can make a decision about dating this guy.
#1- If you two do hit it off, and become a couple, would he want you to give up your friends for him? If he does, is that someone you want to be in your life?
#2- Would you be terribly upset if you lost your friends for a guy?
Guys come and go, we will either connect well with them or we don't. It's up to us to choose someone that compliments us as a whole. If he likes you, he has to like everything about you, friends included. If he can't handle it, then he may not be the right guy for you.
However, if your feelings are really strong for this guy, then maybe you can talk to him and make a compromise. Tell him that you enjoy being with him, but you also like to hang out with your friends. Let him know, that you have to have your friends as well. Maybe, you two can work on having a relationship, and seperate friendships as well.
In any case, go with your heart, and do what is right for you. You know better than anyone about how you feel. Good Luck!!
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You are most welcome, thanks for the 5, I appreciate that. Just remember you deserve both a guy and your friends, at the same time. ;) Good Luck!! If you ever need any more advice, I'm here. Just message me!!!
Sorry but this is going to be long!
Okay so everyone has their little crushes but yeah! I'm crushing on this guy and I just like him so much. He's tall and hot and i dont know... there's just something about him that really makes me happy. I never get to see him. We go to different schools. Plus he's 3 years older than me which is kind of a lot. Anyways like he came all the way out of his town to see me. He drove all the way to where my cousin lives to see me. I guess... but I don't think he likes me because he didn't talk to me when he came over there he just checked me out a little bit and kind of followed me. Is he shy or what? I don't really know. And he always gets off myspace when I get on. So he doesnt really even attempt to flirt. He's driving me crazy. I mean he always tells my cousin to come get me but I think he doesnt really like me that much. Any advice on what I can do about this? thanks soo much in advance!
It is possible that he is shy. If he keeps asking about you and trying to find ways to see you, then he probably likes you. He may just tend to freeze when he gets around you. I would try seeing him when you can and want to, and bring him out of his turtle shell. If you try to bring out the personality in him, maybe it won't be so awkward anymore. You said that he gets off myspace when you come on? Maybe, he just is scared to make the first move on you. Or, scared to talk to you because he is shy. Hopefully, when he gets more acquainted with you, he will be more pleasant to be around. Good Luck!!