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cuddling?
hey
so this may seem like a dumb question but im wondering how to cuddle with guys. I feel like every time i lay on their sholder or chest or something im like cutting off the circulation to their arm. Im not a big girl at all, i just dont want him(or me) to feel uncomfortable.
help please! xoxo
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If you were cutting off thier circulation or they weren't comfortable, they'd move or do something to let you know. Just relax. If you feel like you are making them uncoforable or if you are uncomfortable, just move so that you are and chances are that he'll get comfortable too. Try not to think about it when you're cuddling with someone. If you think about it, it will stick in your mind and you'll try too hard and it will get uncomfortable. Like I said before, relax. If you relax, it'll come naturally. Or even simply ask him "Are you comfortable?" or "Am I hurting you at all?". Whats the worst that could happen when you ask him that? It's not like he's going to get mad at you or anything. He'll plainly say yes or no. If he says no, move a little. Hope I helped. =]
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Just ask, "Hey, are you uncomfortable? I'm not hurting you am I?" If he says no it's fine, then you have nothing to worry about. If he says yes, then think of a better solution.
Cuddling is so easily compromised, there is no wrong way to do it. Just do what feels natural. It could be just sitting there close and holding hands, or laying down with your head on his chest. The possiblities are pretty much endless, but the only thing to remember is: communication is key in all relationships. If you want to know how he feels, it's best to ask him. He may adore that you are leaning on his shoulder or chest. Good Luck!!
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Im sure you arent hurting them at all. Im a bigger girl and my bf doesnt complain about it feeling uncomfortable. If this really concerns you , you can put a soft blanket or small pillow on his shoulder if you are laying down, or just ask him (once) if hes comfy..and then give a cute smile :)
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