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Getting over it
I spent the majority of last year head over heels for this guy. He claimed that he felt the same way. Long story short, he was warm one week and cold the next. I had no idea what was going on in his head. Around June I decided I didn't want to get hurt anymore so I tried ignoring him the whole summer. It worked until I saw him at a friends house. I couldn't help, I fell again.
We're now dating and have been for almost 4 months. He tells me that he had problems last year and didn't know what he wanted and was just confused. He says that he finally realized what was in front of him. I am happy to be with him because I've never felt this way about a guy before..I can't explain it.
The problem is he hurt me so much last year and I just can't seem to get over it. When something about him comes up from last year I honestly want to break down and cry, it still hurts that bad. I've expressed this to him before and he feels awful about it and I know he regrets it. BUt I just can't get over it. Any help?
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I can relate to you in a way. I have been with my boyfriend for a couple years on and off. In the past he has done some things to hurt me, and it still hurts a lot sometimes, especially if we have an arguement. The best i can tell you is to keep in mind he is your bf now and hopefully things will be great. As time goes on it will feel better, hopefully when you express your hurt, he listens to you and comforts you.
Time and support will help you get over it
-melissa-
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Unfortunately there is no quick fix for your feelings. All you can really do, is express them, learn from them, grow from them, and move on.
You are probably afraid that he is going to do the same thing to you again. That is why you keep holding on to the past. Everyone says "forgive and forget", but most of the time, people can forgive but never forget. That's why most people tend to hold grudges or keep walls up to protect ourselves.
If you try to think about the positive sides, when you start feeling upset about last years problem, maybe it will help you get through it.
Just remember, you are in this relationship again with new meaning. Don't worry about the past as much as work towards the future. Good Luck!!
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