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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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Ok, I'm 15 (16 very soon) and i am on the pill. I messed it up loads ages ago because i forgot to take it and then i started again etc. In the end, i stopped taking it for a couple months, and then started again. when i messed it up i kept bleeding for like, 2 weeks, when i was talking it. And i rarely had periods on my breaks.
I havent had a period in 3 months. I always use a condom and i havent forgotton to take my pill once in the last 4 months. Do you think what happened ages ago messed up my body? I WANT KIDS WHEN IM OLDER! lol.
If it helps, i've been on the pill for 3 years and its called Microgynon 30. Thanks xx
Rule #1 when taking birth control pills- when you screw up and don't take for a few days, you need to call your doctor. They will likely want you to come in for a check up.
I strongly advise you do that asap if you haven't already. You need a professional opinion from a doctor on this.
OKay i have cingular and i have free nights and weekends ...i wanna know what their weekends are?? like is it Saturday and Sunday or Friday and Saturday???
Also what do they consider nights 9pm-???
THanks
Generally, weeknights free would be from 9pm - 6am.
Weekends are 9pm Friday - 6am Monday.
my room where i keep my parakeet gets cold, and i dont want my parakeet to get cold. is there any type of bird heating lamps that i could use to keep him warm? if so, where could i buy one?links? and what temperature should the cage stay at if i were to use a heating lamp?
I agree with younggrandma. Call the vet. I'm not sure that it is good for your birds to put them under heat lamps, they may get too warm, and in turn get sick.
Covering their cage with a blanket will help oodles and gobs with keeping them out of cold drafts. But do ask your vet for the best advice.
Yesterday I was searching for something on the internet and I accidently found something called colorfix. It's supposed to remove all of the dye from your hair without damaging it (I've been looking forever for something that can remove the color, but won't damage it). It does not have ammonia or any of things to damage your hair. I've had my hair highlighted, highlighted a second time (because my hair had grown out a few inches), then a semi-permanent dye, (when i attempted to go back my natural color) which turned my hair green and black, and i got it dyed again now i have red hair. My hair is not damaged at all and I have no clue how, but it's not. My natural color is brown, though, and i love it. I want it back so much. Has anyone ever heard of colorfix or tried it? If so, does it work good?
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but from my many hair coloring adventures in my life, I can guarantee there is no color removal system that will make your hair magically back to the natural color. Your natural hair color has been long gone since you started highlighting it out.
You can strip the color from your hair (supposed to make your hair bleached looking, but good luck with red hair, let's say.. orange...) but the products are only intended for removal of hair's color, period. Zero pigmentation to start over fresh. It is highly damaging to your hair. Don't let anyone try to convince you differently.
You want to color your hair as close to the natural shade as possible and let the real thing grow out. And yes, growing it out is the only way to bring back that lovely shade.
I will honestly tell you that red is the hardest color to get out of your hair. It is a long hard process. I strongly suggest you go to a professional to try to reach your natural shade, or you will end up with reddish brown hair instead of the close match to your natural.
hi i have to get a famous painting related to weddings and draw it for support studies in my art class.I have looked in my local library but it is rubbish so does any one no of any paintings???preferably quite famous or well known.i would be greatful for your help if their is any art fanatics out their!!!!!!!!!!!!!
thanks
http://www.classicartrepro.com/painting.iml?painting=4077
This one is quite nice.
http://croatiagifts.safeshopper.com/228/1162.htm?908
But this one is more unique.
:)
Hi, I'm having troubles with my BFF. Every time I make plans with my other friends, and then she calls and asks me if I can play. Then I say I already made Plans with (Friend). She gets all mad. Sometimes I have to lie to her! What should I do!
P.S Write as soon as possible because I already made plans with one of my friends, and she might call me later!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:) :)
First off, you need to think back as to how often you do things with her. You may be leaving her out of your life and don't even realize it. If you are, you need to make time for her. If you are, you are hurting her feelings. She is your best friend and deserves your attention and your respect. Just as you deserve from her.
Second off, when you do hang out with your other friends, you need to reassure her that you aren't leaving her in the dust. You are not bound to have only one friend in this life, and neither is she. People make new friends- that's how life goes. But she is still the best friend you have. She is your BFF, she needs to know that and feel that way. Just as you would expect from her.
Third, don't lie to her. She is your best friend, which means you should be honest with her. Just as you want her to be honest with you.
Have you talked with her about this? I don't mean at school between classes, either. I mean really sat down and had a heart to heart conversation with her? If not, do so. Get everything out on the table. Find out why she feels the way she does. Share your feelings with her in return. She deserves your respect in that way, as you hers.
can you get pregnent if the man doesnt have a orgasim in you?
Sexual intercourse always equals possible pregnancy. The 'pull out method' is not something to bet your chips on. You can reduce that chance with birth control methods, but NONE of them are 100% guarantees.
My friend was too embarassed to ask herself so she asked me to ask for her. She had unprotected sex a week or so ago and she's supposeed to get her period soon. how long does it take until you know you're pregnant? will you know by her next period (which is in like 4 days or so) or will she still get her period and miss the next one?
She shouldn't be worrying herself until she is about 2 weeks late. If she is pregnant, there will be no period.
If she is pregnant, I hope she isn't a teen, and If she is, I hope like hell she realizes what she is getting into. I always say, if you are too young to be a responsible adult and raise a child, you are too young to have sex.
Ok, enough with my preaching about it. The damage may have already been done. I'm not a jerk, I just care about, and always side the innocent child.
Here is a link to coolnurse.com and a list of pregnancy symptoms. Like I said, I wouldn't start to fret until her period is 2 weeks late.
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy_signs.htm
I have red hair...but I want to dye it brown. I dont know HOW it will look though but Ive been told Id look good with darker hair because Im not a normal redhead (aka im not pale..i have the skin pigment to be able to tan.) But, I dont want to go to a hairdresser and have them dye it because if I dont like it, Ill be STUCK WITH It. I heard something about rinses.. What are they and how do they work..? How long do they last and where can I get them?
I have dyed my hair for at least 15 years. My advice to you is:
If you dye your hair brown, you won't get rid of the red, fyi. Brown hair color contains red, so if you go with, say, dark brown, your hair will be dark reddish brown. But that's not saying it won't look good. It's only saying your hair won't be just brown. The same goes with pretty much any color you use. Take great care if you ever decide to go blonde.
Now, for a rinse, I assume you don't want something permanent.
AVOID any box that says on the top 'Number 3,' which means permanent. It should specify that it is a permanent hair color. Put that back on the shelf where you found it.
Try casting. You should be able to choose from a variety of brands. Just make sure before you put it in your shopping cart that it states on the box "rinses out." It will most likely have a rinse out range of 20 washes.
If you are inexperienced:
Always follow the instructions to a T.
Always read the entire instruction sheet before you even think about using a hair color product.
Always pay particular mind to warnings and precautions. Such as, do not use on facial/body hair, do preform an allergy test.
Always go to a professional if you mess up your hair. I promise, you won't be able to just fix it.
I grew up in an Episcopal Church and my husband of almost 2 years grew up in Church of Christ. We are both Christians, but why does there have to be many forms of baptism? I was poured upon as a small child and my husband was emerged when he was a young teenager. He accepts my beliefs but does not accept the way I was baptized. This is a big issue for me. Why would I want to be married to a man that does not accept fully me? Why would I want my children to grow up(when or if we have any) questioning me, "mommy why weren't you baptized?" Does this make sense to anyone? Has anyone went through this to know what I am talking about? If so, please give me advice or a way to show my husband that either way can be right.
Thanks!
I was raised Methodist. Methodist baptisms are just a little water poured on your head. But it is still a baptism.
Your husband needs to understand, it isn't the amount of water, it is the idea and the faith behind it that matters.
what is a best friend? is it a person who stabs you in the back? secretly talks about you? or even hookup with your crush behind your back? hm i dont think so. I thought i had a best friend....what do i do?
A best friend is someone who treats you with the utmost respect. They care about your feelings, they don't do things to hurt you.
Back stabber = not any kind of friend.
Does things to hurt you, weather behind your back or in front of it = not any kind of friend.
Talks smack on you = not any kind of friend.
Kicks ass and takes names for someone doing this to you and treating you in this
manner = your best friend.
You deserve to have someone who is honest with you and treats you in the same outstanding manner they treat themselves to call your new best friend.
Excuse my crudeness, but you need to tell this person to bite your ass. They are using you for a rug to wipe their feet on.
But, unlike the previous advisers, don't sink to your un-friend's level. Don't publicly humiliate them and don't resort to violence. Would that really make you the better person? Uh... HELL NO.
I really like this guy and have for going on 2 years now. We've known each other for a while but we didn't really get to be friends until 3 years ago. He was in the hospital and I and another friend of ours went to visit him, but he was in surgery so we just left a note and our present for him with the nurse. Today my friend Lisa told me that when she saw him this afternoon, he told her he was glad he was in surgery when we came. Am I wrong to be completely offended by that?
If he meant it in the rude manner you took it, then yes, I would be highly offended.
You have been his friend for 3 years, and you took the time and cared enough to go to the hospital to see if he was doing alright, brought him a get well gift, even.
What kind of friend doesn't appreciate that?
However, you could be taking it the wrong way. There is always that possibility.
Be sure and not assume he was rude, confront him about it. Being a friend means being able to share your true feelings.
I love to sing even though I'm flat and I need to control my breathing. (From what my thespian friends have told me)
So I'll love to get tips. Any songs to sing? I know there's musicals and such to sing from but please list songs for altos.
I've tried looking and I struggle to sing the songs from musicals. It seems to go too high or something.
The only song I can sing is Sunday Morning by Maroon 5 :\
Well, I am alto as well. In high school choir, we sang a song called "Poor Pilgrim of Sorrow." It was one of my favorites to sing, because it is an alto song more than anything.
It may not be your cup of tea, however, because it isn't Maroon 5 (whoever that is :D) and it is not from a musical.
http://www.acadisc.com/spirituals2.htm#pilgrim
This link is for the lyrics. If it's something you are interested in, you may be able to order the choir music at your local music store (the kind that sells instruments, not cd's). Or you may be able to search "pilgrim of sorrow music" on your internet search engine.
Tip: Don't sing what causes you to struggle too much. That takes the fun out of it. However, don't skip out on something that has a note or two that are hard to hit.
If you practice it, you will hit it eventually, most likely. I had a hard time with The Star Spangled Banner at "the rocket's red glare" because "glare" is at a note higher than my reach. But guess what? I can sing it to this day because of the practice.
Tip: To help control your breathing, take long deep breaths before starting. Be sure you are warming up your vocal chords after that. (sing that one song "doe a deer, a female deer.." it is a good one due to it goes up the scale then back down again.) These help you with your wind.
Be sure to breathe with your stomach muscles and not your chest/shoulder muscles. Meaning, when you pull in air, your stomach should puff out rather than raising your shoulders and puffing out your chest. As it flows out with sound, your stomach will gently sink back in, rather than dropping your shoulders and sinking your chest.
I have to add something... as for what dramaditz says, I'm sorry to say that, though the rest of her advice is good, she is wrong about how your stomach should move.
Your stomach pulls in when you breathe OUT. This is because it helps your diaphram to evenly force out the air to make nice, long, even sounding notes.
Picture it like this: your stomach should work in the same fashion as your lungs while breathing (singing or not). Filling with air in a swelling motion, releasing air in a collapsing motion. When you do the opposite, you are in turn, allowing your chest/shoulder muscles to move, which also effects the quality of the sound you are making. :)
my fucking mom treats me like im still 7. my siter is 9 and every friday and saturday night they go out to eat. im fucking 14 years old so why the hell do they think i want to spend my friday and saturday nights EVERY weekend at a gay restaurant with my parents and my mom and sister dont get along so i end up having to listen to them fight.
im at the age where i can go out with my friends and i can stay home alone, i dont need to go everywhere with my parents. i scream at them and tell them how much i hate being with them and they never let me go anywhere with my friends. i dont have any fun
once again on a friday night my parents a sister are going out to eat, and they said i HAVE to go. but i went LAST week and the week before that and the week before that. its a fucking friday night i want my friend to come over but NOOOOO my mom has to be gay and say "o ur going out to eat you cant stay home alone with your friend"
how can they expect me to go everywhere with them????
i need major advice. i cant deal with this shit and watch all of my other friends have fun without me
First off, your grossly foul language proves your immaturity. Who would trust someone so childish to stay in THEIR house, alone, with friends? No parent in their right mind.
Let me put it into your own terms, my dear.
You are acting so fucking gay by telling your mother who loves and cares about you that you hate her. You are treating her like fucking shit, so who the fuck would give you what you want anyway?
What the hell are you thinking? You think life goes your way? Bull shit. You are sadly mistaken, child, because the world does NOT revolve around you and what you want.
Can you get a girl preggers by doing it up the batty?
Okay, I'm sorry, but I don't understand your question. However, I will try to answer it.
You can get pregnant if you have sex, weather it be in a car, in a bed, on top of the Leaning Tower of Pisa, upside down, sideways, frontwards, backwards, her on top, him on top, side by side, under water, in outer space, or any other place or position you can do it in.
Having sexual intercourse ALWAYS equals the possibility of pregnancy. And sexually transmitted diseases.
Does anyone know who directed Edward Scissorhands? Love that film!
Answer Edit in reply to your feedback: Yah, mine is a repeat. Should have given me a 2, because my answer was pointless. :)
Tim Burton.
Delete this question asap or you will have 150,000 people tell you the same exact thing in hopes of getting a good rating. Don't give good ratings for repeat answers.
-thanks, ygsgirl
my boyfriend and i have been going out for 4 months today. this weekend we are going to his cousins house and there will be no adults. i am a virgin but i think i am ready for sex. how do i know if i am or not? do i know at all? should i do it?
Ok, so I had a question from a 16 year old asking if she were too young for sex. I will paste here exactly what I told her, because I think you need the same answer.
"Well, to put it bluntly, you are too young to have sex if you are too young to be a responsible adult and raise a child the way it deserves to be raised.
Such as, working all the time, being broke all the time, never being able to do anything, and not having time for your friends.
Not being able to sleep, eat, bathe, or talk on the phone.
You no longer have a personal life. Your life revolves around a child. Period.
Not being able to keep on a clean shirt, because babies are messy when they eat, especially when they spit up on your shoulder, down your back and into your cleavage.
Then it really sucks when you think you are old enough, but lo and behold, baby's daddy decides he isn't, and you have to go it alone.
That means you may have to drop out of school to support your baby and scrape by to feed yourself because you have to pay daycare.
You are hungry. Supper is burning to a cinder, the baby is crying at top volume because it's starving and has the stinkiest diaper known to mankind, the phone is ringing (probably a bill collector), and someone is pounding on the door. And guess what? This is all happening at the exact same moment... what you going to do first?
This is on a normal day. Imagine what it's like when the baby is sick. Imagine what it's like when it cuts teeth. Scary, isn't it?
This takes a fully mature, fully ready, fully dedicated person. To be a mother is a full time job. You don't get paid for it, it gets VERY hectic and stressful. The hours are 24/7. And I will say it again with a BIG promise and guarantee that YOU WILL HAVE NO LIFE. Some one who isn't too young for said responsibilities will do them happily and lovingly and never resent their child for their lost life.
Oh, how the list of horrors could go on and on and get scarier and scarier... But guess what, my dear? This is the truth. This is what is reality."
So... are you ready? Should you do it?
Ever sence the kid i liked called me fat ive been eating less which i didnt think a problem, i told my friends thatim eating less and lost 5 pound in 2 weeks which is nothing but they flipped and now i dont feel like eating at all.I do though, but not alot just like little things and last night we went out to dinner a an all you can eat chinese place and when i got home i threw up, not intentionaltly just happened and i didnt eat that much.
whats wrong with me cause i always eat alot-always!im known for my size cause my friends love it.I weigh 193 pounds im a fatty no question asked! thats horrible considering im 14.its all in my belly so i started doing situps and running around and up and down stairs but became lightheaded so stopped.I dont want to eat cause ill gain weight but eating a banana and cottage cheese makes me full and i only eat like a spoon full before im like ugh im full.Which i would usually eat the holl container along with a sandwhich!!
why am i not eating and how can i make myself eat more without worring m ganna get fatter.
ps.dont be like ur not fat cause i am i know.
Well, not eating is no healthier than being overweight.
If you don't hear from a columnist named MikeCFT, put this in his inbox. CFT stands for Certified Fitness Trainer. He knows what he's talking about, so I strongly suggest you take his advice.
Here is the link to his column:
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=MikeCFT
i might be prgenate and if iam im not to sure of how to tell my parents .. wat should i do
Don't have any mights or maybes. Take a test, find out for certain.
If you are, then you just have to tell them. Don't write them a note, or email them. I'm sorry, but that won't work. That is childish. It has to be face to face.
If you are adult enough to have sex, you should be adult enough to raise a child. If you are adult enough for these things, you are adult enough to face the music with your head high and your chin up, my dear.
Sure, they will be very upset with you. It is your responsibility to take it like a woman, not cower in fear like a child.
If you are pregnant, you have to grow up all quick. Telling your parents and taking their wrath is only step #1, and you have an eternal staircase to walk up.
This is a far cry from the last scary thing you have to face, considering you have pregnancy and childbirth(which isn't easy), and then actually raising a child (which the word easy is never involved).
I have a 2004 Volkswagen Jetta.
I know that oil needs to be changed no more than every 5,000 miles (it uses regular oil). However, the last company that changed the oil didn't give me a sticker telling me at what mileage the oil needs to be changed again and the company doesn't log the mileage. I asked the guy that changed the oil what the mileage it needs to be changed at (I asked about a month later). He gave me a rough estimate. My question is, how many miles does it take to start damaging a car (after the last oil change) and what are some common problems the car will experience? Nothing has happened that I'm aware of, but I'd just like to know.
I have this really annoying rubbing noise that happens when I start braking for red lights and such. One person told me it could be the brake hardware. Does that sound correct?
Also, I am at the 40,000 mile mark. What are some things that will need to be maintenanced (not the nitty gritty details, just the bigger things)?
Thanks
Something I have always lived by is change the oil every 3000 miles, though 5000 is good too. That is something my dad taught me. This is because when I drive a vehicle, I want to make sure that the car runs for a long, long time (200,000 + miles). If I loose track of the exact mileage, then 3 months after the last oil change.
Your best bet? Go ahead and get it changed, then write down the mileage and keep it in your glove box.
As for those who never change their oil? It would run quite some time before the engine just gums up from the oil being so dirty it no longer properly lubricates. However, I would place my wager on that engine never running to a 150,000 mile mark.
Your car has 40,000 miles. That is pretty low mileage, so you shouldn't need a tune up, but do get a professional opinion.
Take your car to a garage and have your brakes checked. If the pads are getting worn, change them asap. If you let it go, you will cause damage that is costly to repair.
If you ever question the safety of your car, take it to a mechanic with any questions.