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THIS IS ABOUT SEX..
my boyfriend and i have been going out for 4 months today. this weekend we are going to his cousins house and there will be no adults. i am a virgin but i think i am ready for sex. how do i know if i am or not? do i know at all? should i do it?
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You can't really answer those questions without knowing if youre ready first. but you know when youre ready, when you just are. like say if youre in the situation when you're about to have sez, if your'e not uncomfortable you will know you are ready. dont second guess yourself or ask questions, thats an obvious"dont do it". the first time's supposed to be the best right? so make sure you are 100% ready.
oh and i say just follow your instincts and go with your gut.
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Well congradulations, this will be one of the BIGGEST decisions you have to make on your own, I can give you my feed-back , but in the long-run, its totally up to you...If you decide to go thru with it, at least be safe...there are alot of diseases out there, and frankly, I'd rather live along life then a short one...There are alot of "protection" on the market, I wouldnt leave this burden totally up to him , seek your own out, because people forget...and I dont think your ready to raise a child and go to school...so think.....Hard.....15min..could be a life of re-grets!! and who knows it could be less time then that..
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if u were ready then you arent.
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Ok, so I had a question from a 16 year old asking if she were too young for sex. I will paste here exactly what I told her, because I think you need the same answer.
"Well, to put it bluntly, you are too young to have sex if you are too young to be a responsible adult and raise a child the way it deserves to be raised.
Such as, working all the time, being broke all the time, never being able to do anything, and not having time for your friends.
Not being able to sleep, eat, bathe, or talk on the phone.
You no longer have a personal life. Your life revolves around a child. Period.
Not being able to keep on a clean shirt, because babies are messy when they eat, especially when they spit up on your shoulder, down your back and into your cleavage.
Then it really sucks when you think you are old enough, but lo and behold, baby's daddy decides he isn't, and you have to go it alone.
That means you may have to drop out of school to support your baby and scrape by to feed yourself because you have to pay daycare.
You are hungry. Supper is burning to a cinder, the baby is crying at top volume because it's starving and has the stinkiest diaper known to mankind, the phone is ringing (probably a bill collector), and someone is pounding on the door. And guess what? This is all happening at the exact same moment... what you going to do first?
This is on a normal day. Imagine what it's like when the baby is sick. Imagine what it's like when it cuts teeth. Scary, isn't it?
This takes a fully mature, fully ready, fully dedicated person. To be a mother is a full time job. You don't get paid for it, it gets VERY hectic and stressful. The hours are 24/7. And I will say it again with a BIG promise and guarantee that YOU WILL HAVE NO LIFE. Some one who isn't too young for said responsibilities will do them happily and lovingly and never resent their child for their lost life.
Oh, how the list of horrors could go on and on and get scarier and scarier... But guess what, my dear? This is the truth. This is what is reality."
So... are you ready? Should you do it?
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Here is a quiz you should take. It will help you decide if you are ready or not. :)
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well, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 5 months now, just like your relationship. if you think he is respectful, will stick by your side, and ur not doubting anything, then i say go ahead. but please dont do anything if he forces you or is pressuring you. because i honestly think being a virgin is good. dont be ashamed and if u think this is the right guy, please think it thru ok ma? good luck!
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Don't do anything that you'll have second thoughts. You say your ready for sex, but are you really? Is he the right guy? You've only been going out for 4 months, if you don't want to, you dont have to. I heard people who say their ready, but usually arent, unless you are in your case.
Theres no way you know you are ready or not, but should be like in love witht he person you give your virginity too. It's something you can never get back.
Remember, don't do anything you dont want to do, and if you do, then use protection. But it the condom breaks or slips off, think of the life-changing consequences.
hope i helped :]
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people say that when you are ready for sex you know it. but honestly i dont believe u can be ready if you are inlove wit this guy and want him to take your virginity then you should go for it..if you think he is the right guy. but im gunna tell you it hurts like hell at first but when you do it whit someone you love its great .it feels so right . so0 dont be scared everything will be ok just make sure he raps his willy ...
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Im not going to give you the quiz the other person gave you ok? Im going to be real.
If in your head you feel ready, go for it. In my eyes there is no right time. Just dont force yourself to do it. Dont let him force you to do it. AND yes it will hurt a little so invest in sum lubrication ok? And the only thing i agree on with the person above is PLEASE please use protection.
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Im afraid, from what you have said you arnt ready.
I could be wrong.
Check these off and if you know all of them, then you are ready.
1) Do you know how too use protection?
2) Do you know what too do if the protection fails?
3) Are you ready to be a parent if you dont choose abortion?
4) Do you feel emotionally ready for it / excited
5) Do you know where too get protection?
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