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my mom treats me like im 6
my fucking mom treats me like im still 7. my siter is 9 and every friday and saturday night they go out to eat. im fucking 14 years old so why the hell do they think i want to spend my friday and saturday nights EVERY weekend at a gay restaurant with my parents and my mom and sister dont get along so i end up having to listen to them fight.
im at the age where i can go out with my friends and i can stay home alone, i dont need to go everywhere with my parents. i scream at them and tell them how much i hate being with them and they never let me go anywhere with my friends. i dont have any fun
once again on a friday night my parents a sister are going out to eat, and they said i HAVE to go. but i went LAST week and the week before that and the week before that. its a fucking friday night i want my friend to come over but NOOOOO my mom has to be gay and say "o ur going out to eat you cant stay home alone with your friend"
how can they expect me to go everywhere with them????
i need major advice. i cant deal with this shit and watch all of my other friends have fun without me
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Take this for granted. Seriously, I would give anything for my parents to do that with me. @least you have parents who care enough every week or so to go out with you 2 and eat. My mom, she doesnt. Ever since my dad died. Be greatful for what you have and who you have. I know you may want to be going out. take the time to tell her that, not yell at her because it wont get you anywhere. it'll just make her think that you're not mature enough because you seem to want to get your way through arguing. good luck.
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They just miss being with you probably. Spending a little time with them won't hurt. Try talking about something that wont start any arguments.
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K first off, screaming doesn't get you very far. So stop that. If you wanna do stuff then you're gonnah haveta act maturer. Like, sit your mom down.. or somethingg.. & be like, "Mom why can't I go out with my friends? I need a social life. I like hanging out with you & all, but usually all you do is fight with my little sister. & so therefore, its pretty pointless to do stuff togethber because all i do is listen to you guys fight in public & its embarrassing & stuff." I think that I should be able to go out with my friends on Fridays & saturdays.. why can't we make family night, sunday?" or something similar to that. Stay calm & stuff. If you are mature.. by like little stuff, like cleaning your room..do your homework when your suppose too.. & stuff like that, you can also add that into ur arguement.
I hope that helped, kbye (:
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Hey - Just a word of advice on how parents think...
Well, parents are AFRAID of losing you. So understand their fears and respect it. They still want you to be their "baby" even though you are much older physically and mentally to BE babied by them. Instead of being so harsh about it saying "I hate being with you." to them, be nice about it. After all, they LOVE you and they are nice to you..because they dont want to lose you and thats a sign of a good, loving parent. Just think how many kids want what you have, but dont. Think about your parents and how you would feel if they were gone tomorrow. (I guarantee you'd miss those dinners!)
Also, Im not totally on their side, here - Im on yours too. Youre 14. You should most definitely be allowed to stay home alone for a few hours and go out with your friends! The dinners are fine but maybe they could change dinners to a weeknight if thats possible. Or move family time to sunday when its still the weekend..but people arent socializing as much as FRIDAY and saturday. No matter how gay you think it is, family time is important..so make sure they prioritize and let you go out, but dont totally drop them.
Trust me when I say if you put up less of a fight with them and show them you can have both (go out with your friends and still be totally loving towards them) the more they will see how mature you are and they will become less afraid of letting you go. So, be respectful and drop the language. I know parents are annoying and its hard but try not to get frustrated. And TALK TO THEM. Be honest with how you feel. Tell them you need time to bea teenager and you feel like youre missing out on that part of your life. Also, explain youre always going to be their daughter and that you still want time with them.
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First off, your grossly foul language proves your immaturity. Who would trust someone so childish to stay in THEIR house, alone, with friends? No parent in their right mind.
Let me put it into your own terms, my dear.
You are acting so fucking gay by telling your mother who loves and cares about you that you hate her. You are treating her like fucking shit, so who the fuck would give you what you want anyway?
What the hell are you thinking? You think life goes your way? Bull shit. You are sadly mistaken, child, because the world does NOT revolve around you and what you want.
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Well, by going to the resteraunt on Fridays and Saturdays, your parents are trying to get your family quality time in while you've still got the options open. You'll probably get this more once you're older, and realize you're kids are going to be very busy soon.
YOu have to try to be mature when approaching your parents on this problem. Try being CALM about it, along with being rational, and looking at things from their point of view. Understand what they're thinking, and this will show you're not only thinking about you (aka, you're mature. =P)
Maybe try taking small steps at being able to hang out with your friends? Try asking if your friend can come to dinner with you guys, it really shouldn't be that bad with a friend there. If you two really behave, ect, your mom will see you can handle being home alone.
Best of luck
Kat<3
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Well you need to grow up. Just because you are 14 doesn't mean you act it. Don't scream and yell at them its childish. Talk to them calmly, and ask them if you can go out on Friday nights once and awhile like every other week.
It sounds like you guys have a family night going and its a great thing, I wish my family did that once and awhile. You may not hold that dear now but when you grow up and move out you will miss it, no matter how messed up it is.
But calmly talk to your mom about being able to go out with friends once and awhile, remind her you will still go to dinner's with them.
Hope I helped
Good luck!
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